Went to a concert alone because to try a new band because I like their sound. At the waiting line there's nothing but people that came in groups talking about their boring daily lives, it feels wrong to interrupt. There's interesting looking people in the other leg of the winding line, cutting in feels wrong. By luck there was an ugly woman I tried to vibe it up with to pass the time, she was waiting for her friend, her friend found her and took her to the front of the line so I was left hanging (dunno how to invite myself in). I kept staring at what looked like a hot milf showing cleavage, along with her teen daughter. I couldn't bring myself to cut line and talk to her, and wouldn't know what to say but stare at her tits, i really don't want to wife a single mother.I decided to bail and go for food, then return once the concert's started, there's seating anyway. It feels hard to stay positive, but I will try to enkoy the music.Help me know what I could have done better and how to handle myself in future situations like this.
Sorry you're retarded OP. Concerts are the easiest places to make new friends because you're all there for the same reason. You talk about your favorite albums, have you seen them before? Your fav song? etc. You need to practice your small talk and insert yourself into convos because most people default to staying in their circle. Inside the venue you can try the same and share how your friend bailed and had to come alone. If they like you they'll invite you to hang with them otherwise try with another group. If you can get in the pit, if there's one, you can find a pair of girls to protect and hover over so they don't get crushed and they will cling to you and make small talk during pauses. Also, if you're terrified of talking to them just look at them like you would a close friend and give them a friendly nod, this is usually enough for them to reciprocate. If they do, go ahead and talk to them.In my experience, only a few will talk to you in short replies and the ones who are receptive are really rare so don't get dissapointed when nothing comes of your attempts.
>>34536296The band was great. The audience was lively, my luck was shit and my skills to counteract it are still null. By the time I got to the seating, at the extreme was an empty space and a very beautiful girl, beyond her 3 empty spaces to the I asked her to sit by next to her. I was already in a bad mood from being left hanging like that, she was texting the whole time. My headspace was stressed already so I couldn't process anything to smalltalk. Some middle aged dudes sat in the remaining 2 spaces, she used this chance to switch to the farther seat at the extreme. Despite the concert being great she wasn't having fun by herself and kept texting, until the very last songs where everyone stood up. I assume she was left hanging by her boyfriend or something. I wish I could have said something, but I was feeling too stressed thinking ways she could reject me, instead of wondering and figuring how she felt. At the end of the concert, when the dudes went their way I followed them by inertia, but didn't really care about making friends with them.Anyways, that's life. It's all walls of pride and hurt. No idea how to start tackling them.Lmao, this is what happens when you are yourself and you put yourself out there.
>>34536296>i really don't want to wife a single motherAnon waifing someone isn't the purpose of your first conversation with someone. Just talk for the purpose of talking. Don't think 3559 steps ahead.
>>34536894>beyond her 3 empty spaces to the I asked 3 spaces to the last person in the row. I asked her if I could sit next to her (smooth, I know).
>>34536896>Just talk for the purpose of talking. Dunno how to do just that, I've avoided talking to not give bullies ammo through school, and was trained to shut up and never make stupid questions in med school.
do you have like a condition or something?meeting new people at gigs is hard for normies, you should try a more controlled environment
>>34536928No. Life has just been outlier bullshit to me. I don't want to keep blaming things beyond my control anymore, but mostly it had to do with overprotection, an early sense of filial loyalty and a unique family culture to make everything consistent. If I'm allowed to name it, I would call it "Adult social development arrest". I am only learning what you were supposed to learn as a teenager, only being an adult with shit on his plate like everyone else.And I'm doing an effort to fix it because I reject the idea of coping and conforming to a mediocre life full of other mediocre ugly people. I don't want my children to inherit my complexes, I want to know every answer for when they need it, so they can bang the hottest chick in highschool like I wish I could have in my time.
>>34536296You should stop worrying about other people so much and try to interrupt if you really want to
>>34536936Your children will inherit your complexes because they are genetic. You were never conditioned, you were always like that and acted accordingly to survive. ''Putting yourself out there'' and pushing yourself'' does not improve your base level inhibitions, but just postpones the embarrassment to later, same like when you're drunk and more courageous at the moment, but ruminate when you sober up.
>>34536936right,forget all that shit - you can barely walk but you're looking at the horizoninstead of trying to socialize your way to a hot girlfriend, make yourself valuable and let them come to you, worrying about looks is low class
>>34536963Well what's the next step, should I get a journalism job? youtube videos? some interviewing course?
Anyone else got advice other than "Sorry you're retarded and autistic"?Would anything change getting diagnosed as autistic and disclosing people I am autistic?
Sorry OP, no real advice but I'm in the exact same sinking boat except I'm too stupid for med school or any education further than high school, good luck!
>>34537545Just do it
