My wife was feeling shitty for about two weeks, which led her to take a pregnancy test. Of course not just one but two of the fuckers came back positive. I don't really like kids in general - I don't hate them per se but I'm not really comfortable hanging around or taking care of them. We're in our 30s (30 and 31) and were not expecting this at all. When she told me, she was very clearly upset (she is/was in the middle of trying to join the air force) and definitely gave off the vibe that this isn't something she wants. She won't consider an abortion because she loves children and is deeply religious - aside from the fact that she had a rough upbringing and has really bad self-esteem issues which makes.me feel like pushing the issue would ruin her mentally. I've been going through it thinking I ruined her life and that in our current situation we can't support a kid - I was laid off from my well paying job and had to take a job that pays less than half of what I was getting previously.I feel like we're in way over our heads and I legitimately don't see how to make raising a child work right now. What the fuck do I do? I haven't been able to sleep or eat since she told me since every time I look at her, despite her saying we'll figure it out, I keep seeing the moment of pure heartbreak when she told me and said that people/jobs won't look at her the same any more because she has a child.
Having kids is challenging but it's not the end of the world. I really believe it did me a lot of good and gave me something important to do. It gave me a purpose. I'm sorry to say but a lot of anti baby stuff online reads like propaganda. My most important memories are of my kid sitting up and smiling for the first time. Her giggling. Or how having a kid completely changed how I thought about my own parents. That change, of going from being a child to an adult with your own children, is a vastly under discussed aspect of growing up. And yeah it wasn't easy. I missed a lot of sleep and had to be a stay at home dad for a while until we could move closer to family. But I loved it and would do it again. I wish we had kids sooner. Honestly. Life is precious. It's not guaranteed. And it's not infinite. One day we will all pass. Make the decisions you'll be proud of one day, when you're elderly.
hi anons, can you pray that ill have a kid to me? please i need it
>>34536823It's easy to fall into a negative rut when things aren't going wellYou can look up the the experiences and mistakes of other parents to see what you would do differentAnd anon, if you do have kids, remember, they're only your children, when they're young they don't know any better
>>34536842Yes anon I will pray for you
>>34536715You gid damn nigger faggot no one is really ready for kids, yet there are decent parents with decent kids out there. Listen you are worried if you can take care of the kid, that already shows that you are willing to somewhat take care of it, that is already doing way then some assholes in the world. If you can look if your extended family can help you.
>>34536715>What the fuck do I do?Abortion would be the sane, logical choice. If she won't go for that, then suggest she might want to put the kid up for adoption.
