My bf said I'm nosey, because I always ask a lot of questions about what he's doing and why he's doing it and stuff like that.I didn't ask him so many questions like that in the past, but I'd found out a few times about things he'd told me were "gonna be fine" that he actually struggled to handle on his own secretly that I could've helped him with if he'd told me.Now I'm always kind of worried he's got something bothering him or making his life difficult that I could help with that he's trying to be too macho to talk about or whatever.It hurts more too because it makes me feel like he doesn't trust me to help, or that he doesn't think I'm capable of helping. I want to help him, and I'm tougher than he gives me credit for. But I know he won't tell me the truth about his problems, if he ever has them, so now I have to ask questions all the time to try to figure out if he's okay.He's looked miserable every day he's gotten home from work this week, and he won't tell me anything no matter what I ask. He just grabs me when he walks in and after a minute or two of that he acts like nothing's wrong and says "I was just tired, I'm better now after a little while home". But I feel like there's more to it than that.How can I get him to open up?
>>34536918Get naked in bed, caress his chest as you're hugging him from the side. Tell him you worry. Want to know what's bothering him, she'd a few tears saying how much you want to be with him/ love himIf that doesn't work I don't know what willBut he's a good man from what I can read
>>34536918>How can I get him to open up?You can't, and you just need to accept that, I'm afraid.
>>34536934I've tried basically that already, and he still says "everything is fine". I can tell I get on his nerves a little bit with how much I check, but it just feels like he's not telling me something.
>>34536918give him a footjob
>>34537086Well you probably seem combative or like you're ready to correct him or chastise him for not opening up to you soonerWhy don't you back the fuck off and give him some space... with all due respectI agree he needs to open up to you and share what's going on, but you are not going to get someone to open up by basically nagging and demanding that they speak up
>>34537086then maybe everything is fine? lol
>>34537090>>34537086This. It seems its just grinding the 9-5. And when he sees you it's worth it. That's a good thing. Maybe he doesn't want to nag what's happening.So just love him with all your heart. Be intimate during the naked times, nursing kind, he'll open up to you when he feels the situation is right. He doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable. So take him out to green parks, couple activities, make his time with you enjoyable and lovable. Love and faith go hand in hand. All of these things take time. We do our best and hope for the best
>>34536918How often do you interact with him by asking a question? How often do you answer questions or talk about yourself?
>>34536918>How can I get him to open up?JUST WAIT AND HE WILL DO IT. HE ALREADY WANTS TO DO IT. JUST WAIT. JUST WAIT.If there's one SUREFIRE WAY to get him to open up, it's to leave him SPACE to do it. DON'T ask. DON'T ask. GIVE HIM SPACE AND HE WILL OPEN UP NATURALLY, LIKE A FLOWER BLOOMING IN THE SUN.
>>34536918there's a difference in how we perceive our girlfriends wanting to learn about us/learn about our lives/wanting to find out what's going on and outright interrogating us. I don't like being interrogated.
