My GF of 4 years recently moved into the sharehouse I'm living in and I'm not really sure what to do with her. She wants to hang out quite a lot and I'm a very solitary person, I find it exhausting to be around people much at all. I feel like because I'm fun during the weekends people think I must be fun all the time but in reality I spend 80% of my non-work time in quiet solitude doing solitary hobbies (computer, reading, gardening, working on my car, listening to music, cooking etc). I would happily not talk to anyone all week long outside of texting and then just see the people I like on the weekend.. The obvious suggestion is to incorporate the GF into my hobbies which I do a little but half the appeal of them is they're solo activities, I rarely play multiplayer games for instance.Has anyone had experience navigating this kind of situation? It's a bit retarded "boo hoo my gf loves me and wants to hang out" but I really am having a weird time navigating this change and finding a good balance where we're both happy. I've lived with a GF once before like 10 years ago and didn't so much have this problem but I had generally MUCH more free time and she was out of the house a fair bit for work.
>>34537517It is a retarded thing, but it is retarded if you break up because of it. We are social beings anon. When we invite others into our social space, then it is implicit that we are also willing to share our time as well.You can go ahead and break up for the sake of your hobby. But you still got a girlfriend that means that social, human, natural she is within you and nothing wrong with that.There are so many YouTubers who seem to take up long ass solo projects yet are in loving relationships. You are scared that your fake persona(that everyone has) got you into a relationship and now it's making you choose between your gf(that you got from being social) and yourself(defined by your hobbies)You have to realise its not a battle, there's no choice to be made, both things are valid and can happen together. You have got to stop treating it like its a life ending choice, a be all or nothing. You have a great thing going anon. Everyone thinks that the point of moment they're in is the most mature phase of themselves and nothing in the future will change this. But we're all so wrong to think this way. You'll find time to do both, cherish your woman and your hobbies. You just will anon. And when you have your first born, think of all the fun projects both of you could do together. You have this in the bag anon. You just need to open up and be willing to learn
>>34537517maybe you should try something akin to parallel play and do seperate things in peace while in the presence of one another.
>>34537517Have her do a terraria playthrough with you and make her do the tedious shit like fishing grind and making NPC houses. ez
