(I do not know where or who else to ask this to, so I am asking the adv board).It has recently hit me like a train that I, who was trying to figure out if my father has it, most likely have undiagnosed ADHD. It feels as if the wool has been lifted from my eyes. All those weekends wasted slowly and ineffectively working through my easy homework, all those times zoning out and / or going to the dreamworld while life was happening around me, the occasional days I'd spend sitting in one spot, tired and unable to focus or irritated and restless, and of course the reason why I have always being prone to sleepiness after consuming anything with caffeine. I even remember being 12 years old and putting things off or never quite finishing those things, and a decade later I still haven't done those things and they continue to bug me.
I suspect that no one ever caught on since I was actually good at school and was considered 'gifted', had some friends, and did a lot of sports; that and the fact that I was not a very hyperactive child, at most I would zone out or occasionally twirl a pen, but would never fidget like the peers I had whose condition was more severe.I have been upset and withdrawn these past few weeks thinking about all of the times I sabotaged myself (you could even say that I cucked myself), by passing on good opportunities and good habits, passing on dates with girls due to being burnt out, not being consistent with developing skills, dropping the hobbies I enjoy, not hanging out with friends, not establishing networks - all of this could have been avoided and my life improved for the better if someone had caught on to my condition and I had been given a diagnosis and maybe even medication. My life could have gone very differently and I could've been the best and most efficient version of myself.In short, I am mourning the fact that my (potential?) ADHD/ADD was never identified and I could have been more successful if I had been diagnosed at an earlier stage.
>>34537616I'd say that "moving on" entails not thinking about your self perceived inadequacies 24/7(as you probably do) and your wasted hypothetical potential on an online forum. Work around your problems. Pick goals that may bring you fulfillment, work to acheive them, rinse and repeat. If you feel like, seek out tools to to influence your chances of achieving the aforementioned goals(maybe meds, therapy,friends,etc.).
>>34537937Should I just block off the negative thoughts that plague me?
