I’m a married 37 year old man with kids, a house, and a career and I am miserable. I followed the “correct path” as instructed and I absolutely hate it. I hate my job, I hate the career I’ve chosen, I hate being married. I hate having kids/being a father. I hate my mortgage, my car payments, insurance. I hate having no free time; that all of my time is either dedicated to the career I hate or to the family that I didn’t want. I hate that my weekends include yard work and going grocery shopping. I feel like I have no real freedom and that I’ve thrown away any possibility of a good life and that it’s too late. I haven’t seen any friends who aren’t just colleagues in years at this point. I don’t even have the time to play vidya without being made aware that there’s something else I should be doing instead. Every night when I’m in bed I think about being 21 and having nothing to worry about, just me working the line at a seafood restaurant, smoking pot with my friends and trying to score with chicks. Life was so simple and everything was so much better. I would have never done any of this if I had known how awful I would have turned out. Genuinely how do I cope? Can I make my life better or al I just doomed to be miserable and suffer for others? I hate that I feel this way because it absolutely isn’t my wife and children’s fault. I do love them but I’m just not happy. Is this just a midlife crisis I’ll get over?
Can't you negotiate to work less?Working 4 days a week is a game changer
I'm early 30s but still the same stuff. One of my best mates blew up his life to trave the worldl with a pretty free-spirited young woman. I'm too ambitious to escape my life, but he seems genuinely happy tbf. Not that I'm saying you should, but there are always ways to get out, depening on how much damage you want to cause to your environment of course
>>34540308I work 50 hours a week. If I could get it lowered I could, I just work in a high intensity field.
I'm 43 and alone in an apartment, working 12 hour shifts. I would kill to bent you.
