>Sat: anon I need 50 bucks for (insert bunch of chores)Gave her 80 because I wanted to be generous. Asked her if she can come over to parents house today for my birthday, she says yes.>Sun: anon I need money to shop with stepmom>also friends are coming over to my house>also sorry, house's a mess, I can't come I gotta cleanI can clean the house up>no, noYes, I can. Just mop the floor and clean kitchen nigger>no no.Flashforward to car ride>honey, can we talk about spending/communication?>I FORGOT OK!>No sad from me, please?As a linux autistic, I am getting so sick of my girl's shit. I don't know 1. When she wants money2. Needs a ride to see her parents3. What her fucking schedule is.And I have no idea of communicating it. Because if I were in her shoes, I would have kept the extra 30 and used that for today's party. Instead, she doesn't, she ended up spending it all (tl;dr her mom's dead and she donated the money for it.) and then asking for it again the next day. Not only is she asking for it again, she didn't bother to tell me on Saturday about it.Don't get me started on my parents, they hate her because of shit like this.>inb4 divorceEven if I do divorce, the fact of the matter is I'll become an incel. There's no way I will find love again, precisely from lack of trying.
>>34541046>give her 30 bucks as a gift>expect her to use it in a certain way without communicating it>get mad when she spends it on something elsedo you not trust her with a joint account? I am unmarried, but marriage like this sounds exhausting. especially if they don't have their own income.
>>34541105>>expect her to use it in a certain way without communicating itYes, technically you are 100%. Technically, I "shouldn't" be.Also, I feel I should know about a party, her needing money for shopping with stepmom, and a bunch of other stuff a week in advance, and I shouldn't have to be a retard saying yes one day and no the yes.>>get mad when she spends it on something elseIf she spends it on gatcha I wouldn't be upset. It's her asking me again on the very next day with zero awareness that she is doing something wrong that gets me. Because again, I wouldn't do this>do you not trust her with a joint account?Tangent. One of the things I hate about 4chan is that people just assume they got the full story. If you want to play a game, write down what you think about our relationship/my wife, then read on.Ready? Go:>last month: she lost 250 dollars due to a tiktok scam>this month: she lost her wallet, another 200 bucksYou can see why I don't trust her with a joint account? I don't even think I should trust her with an allowance anymore, since I feel I'm gonna be called upon anyways for money.>I am unmarried, but marriage like this sounds exhausting. especially if they don't have their own income.It's more a model of thinking. I would advice you that if you ever find a girl you wanna settle down with, look at her operational thinking. She might genuinely be great at heart, but her mind is simply ill-equipped. I know I'm not: I really, really want to put my foot down and say no, but I don't like doing that, especially to her. But right now I feel we are at a breaking point where we're going to be stuck renting the same piece of shit house until death unless I can get her to think with me, not at me.
>>34541118>Tangent. One of the things I hate about 4chan is that people just assume they got the full story.what? I asked for clarification rather than make an assumption, because the op didn't have enough details. but it sounds like you would prefer if I assumed your wife was retarded? anyway, if I were you I would set up a joint account that's separate from your main personal account and only deposit whichever amount you're okay with disappearing every month. you can probably set up a recurring scheduled transaction for this. and you need to learn to say no. I know that's easier said than done, but that's what it really comes down to. if your wife wants more money then she'll have to learn to stretch her budget or get a job. either way she would hopefully learn some financial literacy. if she acts like you're being cruel or something then remind her of your plans to buy a house and how you're just thinking of how to provide for her because you love her so much. God I'm so lonely, I wish I had a financially illiterate wife I couldn't say no to.
