how can i break up with my gf without ruining her life, we are both miserable and fighting all the time, but legit i do almost everything for her, she was living in literal piles of dogshit before i moved in, we started redecorating the whole bedroom, i have a room in the house dedicated to be my office if she ever gets her shit out of there. literally all she does around the house is cook dinner and once in a blue moon do a load of laundry and she says i dont put enough effort in, that its always my job to make any dates happen, initiate any sex, my job to drive her everywhere and clean the house and walk the dogs and change my attitude to suit her at any given moment and im just fucking done. i want to get some experience under my belt at work and move far away but shit im worried she will attempt suicide or just go back to being so irresponsible with her money or her house, i cant fucking babysit her anymore, least of all while she has nothing but complaints for me, god damnit
>>34541356I wouldn't know. I've never had a girlfriend.
>>34541360dont bother shit sucks
>>34541356Ever heard of "don't marry someone out of pity"? Start moving on from her, if you can't bring yourself to break up at least resist her manipulation
>>34541356nice picrel btw
break up with her and gtfo her house then
>>34541381yeah dipshit, thats the question, how do i do it with the least amount of damage
You just say all these things you said here...? The truth? She's an adult, she has to be able to handle this. Suicide is not your responsibility, it's her life. You need to be strong about this. Is she maybe a legit autist, if she can not even be responsible woth money as an adult? Autists can be very egoistical and immature of course. You can't help an autist, professionals can. Or whatever. Just leave.
>>34541420shes autistically certain of how mature she is and fuck im not exactly on steady ground myself where the tism is concerned, so any complaint of her immaturity is doubled back on shit i did wrong, and blamed on me for making her negative and i still love her so its going to be so easy for her to get out of it and convince me its my problem and that if i just had a better outlook we would be happy again, which is what i desperately want. desu im a little afraid i might try to kms too if we break up
Leave.
>>34541356I understand anon. I've been there. The truth is there is no special trick, you just have to rip the bandage off and do it. We've all got only one life, and it doesn't last forever. You can either choose to continue to live yours to appease a girl you don't even really like, or decide to change and start living your life how you want to. You cannot control what your gf will do when you two break up. She might go back to living in filth, she might kill herself, but she also might not. Who knows. It's not to say that it's not your problem or something, because it kind of is, but a relationship built on pity and fear isn't one that you should be spending your valuable time on.
