-its been 2 decades-Should I tell this girl that was so bpd she didn't realize she broke off a relationship with a long term relationship guy, to go out with some dick who already had told her; after thinking about it for 2 days - that he didnt want to go out with her? He got the call and called her back 3 days later and changed his mind, and she broke off a near 2 year long relationship with another guy.>I realized this a 2 decades later, got reasons (good buddy involved died not long after this), read this jpg and realized she was bpd when i had the same feelings. makes a lot of sense.Reason for letting her know, she will wake up one day and realize she is with a guy who never wanted to go out with her in the first place and will not be able to answer why he called back. -For her happiness. And its eating me when I try to sleep.Image is what I read and felt the same way as the OPMaybe im just procrastinating, idk. I need somebody to tell me to do it, or give me a good reason to not to.
>>34542528>pichappened to me too kek. I have good friends though so I was in the right mind long before she came back.Just forget her anon, she isn't your responsibility.
>>34542869Im just saying for her own happiness. She's letting the other NPD girl fill her with strokes of her ego, also getting back at me by being with this other guy, while still in a "dating" relationship with me just not talking. This is what I think is going thru her mind, not mine.
Let me just clear this up in case anyone comes along. Go out with this girl. 6 months in(important) were just sneaking around (high school) to go out. Backseat of car basically. I broke up with her (cant have a relationshp like that) said we need room & privacy but we can't. Sort of dated but broke off completely. little over month later she comes back, being crazy. I reminded her, room & privacy. said u can do this with anyone else with a car, go do it. She whined, then promised -things would get better. I go back out with her..about almost a year later, She's standing me up during a week. (other stuff happening before this a bunch but keep short). Shes running around with a guy at school. So stop going out over this. Called back a couple times 2 weeks later, go out again, with apologies- used me, nothing happened, etc. 2 times..Get sick of her shit tho, cause like we'll date. go out with others too. ok. (as i said we dated and i told her if someone else wanted to go out with me only could on a date we made, id break it off but remake it and keep the remake). but she wanted to do that but on the remake she was still saying- but what if i want to go out with someone else? I put my foot down, going out go out or wtf we doing? 9 months later, called her. talked. Asked her out that weekend on date. shed been with 2 girls (lezbos) at fair, one (bitch) asked so and so- to go out with her. said he'd call back. 2 days later calls says -no. (it was the next day when i called.) We make a date. (she was whining, like we were broke up going back out said -you never buy me shit. (reminder we snuck out .. nothing open- and i did the usuals)wtv. 2 days later, she said, he called back and cahnged his mind. wouldnt give me time of day.Said that was weird, he called back like 5 days later. but always said, well, why wouldnt she go out with me? repeat for the next 20 years. say to myself, i dont give a shit. but i did. shortest TLDR
>>34543042Bro you type like you're brown, like thanks for the effort posting and I hope you get the advice you need but also holy shit my eyes and brain - who cares??? WHY care about some bullshit from TWENTY years ago?? This alone tells me you have NOTHING substantial going on in YOUR life and you're living for others if you're thinking about some BPD girl and what she did TWENTY (((20))) YEARS AGO. It just sounds asinine, there's no reason that you should have vested interest in this, you MUST be Indian or at least very low IQ (aka Indian)
>>34542528Stay out of it. NOTHING you do can be of help to anyone.
>>34543297im gonna get the message to her anyway. I think the sooner the better. if im wrong somehow, then whats it hurt? And if Im not.. >>34543379suffer glowbro
>>34542528BPD girls are not very fun. I dated a BPD girl during high school, she did not like me she just wanted to get back with her old friend group. On again off again, she dated other guys in the meantime with the "approval" of her new-new group (she had been going in and out of groups, and in and out of her old group too). Another girl in high school, got too flirtatious on bad advice to try make me jealous, got gangraped by rapefugees and other classmates and trafficked as prostitute in the high school after-years. She got married by arranged married to a very abusive husband that even hits her in public and she has three kids with him.The first girl tried to rekindle sentiment among our former classmates even after she got divorced with one kid. Very emphatically, I refused two and a half years ago through a classmate trying to set us up. He also brought up the other girl out of nowhere saying not to go after her when I have not spoken to her since high school. Said she was not happy in her marriage and that I was "asleep" (?). I remembered most if not all of the story of the former one which was the focus of our year. As for the other girl we forgot, most likely due to PTSD and my friend giving me something.I remembered her, she was very nice and happy. She was quite anxious to keep me around, she wronged by entertaining the arranged suitor and asking that ex-girlfriend I mentioned for ill-intentioned advice. People did try to get us to talk and "make her happy", I did not remember anything and refused. I felt very very agitated and hostile. My dad felt sorry for her and even he tried. You sending a message in your situation may rouse a response similar to what the other anon just said. Nevertheless, she may have you as a backup utility and does not really like you. Those with BPD may avoid and at times resent intimate emotions. They have been regarded as being constantly on survival mode.
>>34543574At least you may be calm sending that message and you may realise something about her. I implore you to be careful.If you and her had some kind of special bond whereby you were meant to find each other, heal her and she to enlighten you in someway; chances are she rejected that special bond and is suffering for it.
>>34542905>her happinessAgain, not your responsibility. Forget. Move on.
Bipolar or Borderline? I'm always so confused when I read BPD. They're not the same thing even if they both cause mood swings
>>34542528In precisely what way is this any of your business?
>>34542905>I'm saying this for her happinessLol okayYou're saying this as an "i told you so you should have stayed with me nanananaboo boo stick your head in doo doo."Firstly, she won't care.Secondly, she has heard it before. All BPD bitches hear this shit. You aren't special or original for pointing out the obvious.Thirdly, grow up. It's been 20 years and you still think about this bitch? She hasn't thought about you in 19 years, 364 days, 23 hours, 59 minutes and 59 seconds. You wanna reopen old wounds just to get some catharsis. That's what women do. Be a man and move on.
>>34543640I was rethinking about this, I couldn't make up my mind if what she said when confronted if she wanted to go out with me or not if she looked up at me after saying no, or looked at me then down after telling me no. had to confront her if she wanted to go out with me or not after finding her running around with other guys by word of mouth. Had me coming to sneak her out 4 times too and was standing me up each time. Hell every time Ive seen her (2x) since, that fair we were going to go to she ended up there alone with Tina bitch eyes closed direct look. Maybe if shed opened her eyes when she looking directly at me after this (lyin' eyes by the Eagles), I would be able to recall if she told me (y/n) looking at me or not when she said no. And no im not including me, it just fit. (same 10year ago 2nd time this hap).OK so now im looking at it different but my memory is still fuzzy. But so lets drop that, its not about me. Her.>>34543918>fucks you business?Because, 2 times I seen this jackass, he threatened me. But it was bull. LM explain.Saw him 5 weeks after i last talked to her. says, you Cletus I said Cletus who? He thinks hard gets exicted to tell me, Goldberg(made up names). -my first name is very unique btw. says leave her f/l name alone. i just give him the shake head and shrug my shoulders and like a silent im done with this shit im out. walk away, start cross road, left/right, look over at him. He begs me, "Please man. I freak out. look away quickly. check left/r/l cross to center of road. turn back, hes looking at me, puppy dog eyes. literal tear streaming down his face. Im fking blown. his friend comes up beside him leans forward looks at him, looks away quickly and starts scannig the road side to side, motioning him. He takes a minute to realize, double takes at friend, freaks out. panics. thinks up a plan looks up at me. looks around again, buliiding up courage, looks at me and says , "Uh, or I'll kick your ass"
>>34542528Idk about your horribly written wall of text (it seems ridiculous to armchair diagnose someone who is now effectively a stranger to you two decades later) but regarding your pic:It's a great pic which helps men realise when they're getting domestically abused. But it's fucked up that it has to be dressed up as BPD. It's not. It's abuse, and there's plenty of women out there who act this way without having BPD. And there's plenty of women out there with BPD who don't act like this at all (there's many different kinds of BPD, some of them act like in the OP and some turn it on themselves and keep it internalised).
>>34544111It seems important to you get the whole "scoop"/story from her to confirm a few things. Be honest with yourself on the story.As for her, she has been with other guys and has stood you up. She has not told you her part of the story and is with another guy or guys for 20 years. From the posts, it does not seem that she has contacted you, yet. Like I said before if it was some kind of special connection between you she did not care much for it. Having said that, I do not know her like you do. Still, she had gone with another guy while you knew her. If he is abusive/violent she probably cant do without out getting slapped.You message her and it may calm you despite her replyYou do not message her and its the way it has beenShe may come to you in another 10 years like she did 10 years ago
