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I am 31, he is 34.

95% of the times we have sex he cannot finish.

My body is a little bit undesirable, not because I am overweight but because I am flat, I have a small butt and small hips (shitty body), I suspect that is a factor but he says that's not the reason, that he finds me attractive, he loves me, etc.

He has told me many things: That he doesn't feel as much with penetration, that for him the orgasm is more psychological, that he needs me to talk dirty (but my dirty talk does not always work), that it also depends on his masturbation events in the previous days (I see it's sistematic. He almost never finishes)

I try to be good at bed despite my body, I dress sexy, I try to take iniciative, etc. Nothing works. Maybe because of my body I am doomed?

He doesn't complain about our sexual life but I know it's unsufficient

Give advice anons
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he whacked off too much and now his penis is desensitized, he's probably cut which also doesn't help. He's been mutilated by juice.
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>>34542858
He isn't cut
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>>34542865
Okay then he masturbates way more than I thought
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He gay
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Find out what turns him on and try to simulate that? What's he into?
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>>34542847
Are you using a rubber?
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>>34542992
No, I am not.

I am thinking maybe I should try to get butt implants and see if this changes. The problem is that I will still have narrow hips and wide ribs and fixing that is a lot harder, riskier and more expensive
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>>34542847
Are you guys doing it in the morning right after waking up? That should be the best time for sex.
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Reference of my body here. The OP

>>>/soc/35027005

Maybe it's relevant to understand the problem, but I want advice of how to overcome this.
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>>34543098
Being short and pale is attractive. Body shape maybe not the best, but nit horrible. Not being obese is ehat really matters.
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>>34543004
have you done bottom surgery already?
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>>34542847
>>34543098
You are asians i suppose, by looking at your body skin and the books on the pic?
while its indeed a mediocre female body, its very teenager-looking, and quite few men usually digs it because its youthfull

How would you rate your face? Anyway, most men would fuck any vaguely feminine body, as long as its not fat (i would fuck you for example, if your face is at least decen). So you are not at the bottom of the barrel
If you BF is struggling fucking you, probably he have issues with too much porn and masturbation. Stimulation by hand is quite different than stimulation by contact with holes, and his cock may had become too much dependant on the First type of stimulation
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>>34543157
I have a natural pussy, unfortunately. But I know my body is not the body of a normal woman This is affecting my romantic life and I should accept that I am a biological failure
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>>34543158
Do you think butt implants could make it less mediocre? Could it help my boyfriend too?
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>>34543098
i think you are very attractve
very impregnable
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>>34542858
im circumcised and i ejaculate quicker than id like...
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>>34543178
As i said, the vast majority of men would fuck the vast majority of women, outside the bottom tier ones, usually by weight. Even the ones with a ugly face can have sex by doing doggy/anal, so the face dosent turn off the man that much

The issues in your case is more in your BF. Try to ask him to not masturbate or watching porn for a while and see if he gets better in fucking you. Help him surpass his addiction by being as slutty and sexy as possible, and try to fullfill his favorite kinks as a reward for not fapping
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>>34543178
>>34543194
And for the breast operation dont waste your money on it just to please someone else, unless its something you will want to do for yourself to boost your own self confidence (that i can smell its very low, regardless of your BF issues)
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why is it your problem?
measure his prolactin, and male hormones level, if it's outside normal range then it's his problem
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>>34542847
google "ejaculatory dysfunction" It is 99% certain it is his problem and not yours, either physical or psyvhological
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I feel like a biological failure. Every female in every species can do this and I can because my body is mishapen
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>>34543403
can't
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>>34543403
>>34543409
If you are so depressed and whiny IRL too, this wouldnt help your BF get hard for sure. Imagine thinking of remain horny when mounting a woman that keep telling you how shes ugly, unfuckable. Eventually he would agree with you and thus lose desire.
You should fix your confidence issues as much as he should fix his erection issues. Both issues are boosting each others
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peg him
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>>34543403
It sounds like your incessant fucking whining is the root cause.
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Do you suck his dick often?
Learn to give really good head. You can finish him off in your mouth when he has trouble.
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>>34542847
maybe it isnt a "you" problem, perhaps it is that in his mind he is somewhere else during it. maybe he is to caught up in his mind that it dont "work" this is the most likely reason. It can be from stress, or pressure. Doenst need to be sexual pressure, it can come from somewhere else. Maybe there are issues weighing down him that are external, jobb, family etc. I would recommend starting a tantric practies together, new fetishes or any other way to re exoticiness(eroticise) your sex life,
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With your disgustingly bland body, it's not a surprise he can't cum, desu. Having to put his penis inside you and pretend to enjoy it is probably doing him a lot of harm. What even is wrong with you? Do you have a medical condition? A lack of hormones?
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>>34542847
He isn’t good at sex yet. By the time he’s 45, it won’t take more than a couple minutes.
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>>34544106
>By the time he’s 45, it won’t take more than a couple minutes.
By the time he's 45 he has ED. You're very optimistic about OP's situation.
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>>34544094
Just terrible genetics. I see no solution to this. I should probably kms

I feel like a sub-woman. A non-woman.
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>>34544094
Why doesn't he just leave me? Why doesn't he suggest to see porn? Why can't just he close his eyes and imagine I am more attractive? How come there are men out there fucking animals or babies and I, at least human, cannot have normal relationships?
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>>34542847
>My body is a little bit undesirable, not because I am overweight but because I am flat, I have a small butt and small hips (shitty body), I suspect that is a factor but he says that's not the reason, that he finds me attractive, he loves me, etc.
>He has told me many things: That he doesn't feel as much with penetration, that for him the orgasm is more psychological, that he needs me to talk dirty (but my dirty talk does not always work), that it also depends on his masturbation events in the previous days (I see it's sistematic. He almost never finishes)
>I try to be good at bed despite my body, I dress sexy, I try to take iniciative, etc. Nothing works. Maybe because of my body I am doomed?
no man lol, i can tell you when you masturbate a lot as a dude, vagina penetration feels like nearly nothing.. dont worry its not you
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>>34542847
until some 5 years ago, I had never cum from sex, not even once
and I was already in my 30s by then.
as he says, even if it feels good and you're fucking someone made for you (the type of body you describe is my kind of body, most of the girls I've been with have your body and I love it), a lot of things have to happen, in my mind, during sex, even the power dynamics between us two
Lately I talk to myself (in my mind) and keep repeating dirty things to achieve orgasm
so that's it. It's his thing, I'm pretty sure he feels bad
and even pressured
if you insist on him cumming.
I felt bad for an ex who wanted me to creampie her a lot and could only do it once, most other times I masturbated and when I was cumming she sat over me.
This was after an hour fucking and giving her multiple orgasms.
I felt terrible and that didn't help me achieving orgasms at all
AT ALL.
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>>34544182
bro i am this:>>34544192
i can tell you i once fucked a 9/10 near 10/10 super hot girl, massive ass, super great tits, legs everything
and i was feeling nearly nothing penetrating her pussy lol, if anything its embarassing for the dude to have a non working dick. it was not related to her at all that i didnt cum, it was 100% me. she was hot asf
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>>34544094
>>34544188
samefag
this is a larp thread
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>>34544198
Just proving this is very serious
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>>34544207
well i already answered your thread, you should just believe your bf that its his own fault and not you, he literally told you that
see >>34544192
>>34544197
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>>34544262
have sex, incel
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>>34542847
>My body is a little bit undesirable, not because I am overweight but because I am flat, I have a small butt and small hips (shitty body), I suspect that is a factor but he says that's not the reason, that he finds me attractive, he loves me, etc.
can he finish with his other women?
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>>34543098
hit the gym. You are 'skinnyfat'
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Who cares lol. If you are both having fun and having fun with each other then why is it an issue? I don't remember the last time my gfs pussy made me came but we still love each other.
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>>34543098
your body is fine, as I said here
>>34544194
it's his problem and you insisting are only making it worse
when I feel pressured to cum it's even worse.
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>>34543098
You just need to build some muscle mass, there is no quick fix but if you learn to eat right and integrate 2-3x resistance training (not jogging!) into your weekly schedule, you'll feel much better already in a couple months
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Maybe he watches too much porn. Get him on a porn diet and he'll be fixed in a couple of months.
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I have the same problem. For me it's combination of ADHD and death grip. Tell your bf to ho no gap, it helps immensely.
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>>34542847
>That he doesn't feel as much with penetration
Small dick, large vagina. Probably feels like stirring custard.
You could try kegels, and there are some positions that tighten it up.
> his masturbation events
Yeah if it doesn't feel like anything then what else is he going to do?
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>>34542858
Is there a way to regain sensitivity in your penis?
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>>34544194
>>34544301
>>34544388
To add to what some anons are saying, I know a friend that couldn't cum at all during sex because he started getting anxious from the fact that he wasn't cumming. He then went to stop watching porn but it did nothing, just amplified his anxiety and now he started getting nervous from the possibility of it being the porn, making him worse. Stop putting pressure on him to cum, let the dude enjoy it, if he's in fact enjoying it. Also stop beating yourself, you're not some horrible monster, just not an instagram model...which no one is but they're not complaining like you are. Find some lingerie that compliment your form and enjoy the sex without thinking too much about it.
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>>34544463
your friend has a severe anxiety problem
if OPs bf is porn addicted and isn't an anxious retard like your friend then a good potential solution is for him to quit porn and stop fapping
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>>34542865
uncut but with no feeling? thats an extreme shame, I wonder how that happened to him. I'm cut and I absolutely know why I can't feel a damn thing
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>>34544182
>I should probably kms
Please do. What's stopping you?

Why are you still alive, doing everyone a disservice, begging for everybody's attention, acting all self-important even though you're a sub-human? Neck yourself, you unimportant loser. Desperate for attention, only to pollute people's peripheries with your ugly, dreary existence. Either own your disgusting, ugly body or fuck off and die. Stop looking for some sort of remedy one-way ticket to Stacy heaven or some dumb fantasy shit.
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>>34542847
>Maybe because of my body I am doomed?
with him, maybe. sounds like a him problem though, maybe you need to get with somebody who actually finds you hot (they do exist)
>>34543004
>I am thinking maybe I should try to get butt implants
fuck no don't do that. risky and don't be getting cut for some guy who you seem to be treating as blameless in this situation>>34543178
>Do you think butt implants could make it less mediocre? Could it help my boyfriend too?
yes get your boyfriend butt implants. sorry I know that's not what you meant but it made me giggle. Anyway good luck anon.
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>>34543098
I am the anon that asked if you used a rubber. You look fine, does your bf have peyronie's or is on antidepressants or something? Also how would he feel if he knew you posted nude pics on 4chan? (no judging) just asking.
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>>34543098
whore



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