Girl I was courting has gone cold after confessing to me that she is into me, said she wants to take this slow so no kissing just yet. Anyway it's been almost a month since she confessed, ever since then she doesn't wanna look me in the eye, doesn't wanna greet me, smiles at other guys and greets them, but avoids me, doesn't reply for hours, we barely talk, I asked her out, etc, but she cancels dates or conveniently forgets them.I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie, she said yeah, just that she has to go somewhere a bit and she'll let me know when she comes back, then she proceeded to be somewhere for 5 hours. I went to sleep, but she didn't even acknowledge we had planned something and didn't let me know when she came back, left me hanging basically, she only replied after I accidentally sent her a message that was meant for someone else the other day, and had to delete and explain.I brought it up, said if she's not interested it's fine, she got annoyed, said I should stop asking things she doesn't have an answer for, started bitching about how some women have great men and take it for granted (twice she mentioned how some dude she knows is buff after I flirted with her and she didn't acknowledge my flirt), said a woman needs this and that, from a man, but while going over her head that this shit is a two way street and that all I wanted was to spend time with someone I've been really close to for 8 months of talking almost every day for hours.I asked her out the first month we've met, took us 7 months to actually go out btw.I wrote this all up and realized yeah I should jump ship but it would be good to hear from someone else.
yeah, sounds like you're not even on the ship also
>>34543641Truly a waste of my fucking time.
>>34543716I'm 43 and you sound like what I remember being when I was younger in my twenty's. Not sure if that's your age, but I assume a lot of males have a hard time getting past that stage in life (if they ever get past that stage).I have a couple questions.Do you really see it as a waste? If so I think that's a part of the problem here. As an adult male I firmly believe that I shouldn't be doing anything I feel may be a waste if it doesn't develop. Leads to regret and shit like that and I really can't blame anyone but myself so I stopped doing it.I would suggest you try to do the same.Would you have had someone better to try getting with even if she wasn't around? If so why didn't you try someone better because this girl seems like a waste for you. If not then oh well, you had nothing better to do with that time as far as women go.No guarantee other women wouldn't have done the same.Realistically what do you have to offer? Women are looking for men just like men are looking for women and they have a lot of options like we do. How do you compare among men? Was it a good match?.I don't know, stuff for you to think about I guess. Sometimes you end up realizing women aren't all you hoped they'd be but you still need one so I get that. It's probably better you never got with this one to begin with. Probably would have ended up more hurt if you had.
>>34543731Yeah I'm in my 20s, and yes I think it's a waste of time, at around the third month or so I had given up on going after her, but we were good friends, I offered her sense of safety, I'm her type, a good time, she always reminded me how good I made her feel, how we could talk all day long, kept asking me out just to spend more time with me, I went on the date without thinking much of it, it was a friendly thing to me, had stopped flirting with her after all, the day after I felt like I had lifted this huge weight off my chest, and I could move on from the crush I had, she said I was a gentleman, then started saying all these sexual things, and said she wanted to be with me, just that it would take time, then she went from hot to cold in a few days, I brushed it off as hormone changes, then she started avoiding me irl, avoiding dates, avoiding time together, avoiding looking me in the eyes, not wanting to talk for days and days, I tried to reach out but nothing worked.She's got a lot of dudes after her, but no one in years has interested her cuz her past bf was shit so she's scared, she only tried to go after me lately.Our humor, personality, values, what we want out of a life in a serious relationship are all matches, but I guess we're not a match on what we actually expect from the other, I expect to at the very least be able to spend time and talk when we're both available, I'm not clingy and I'm able to wait for replies, etc, what bothered me lately is that she's literally always on her phone, 3 days without replying but double and triple texts me when I don't in a few hours, what she expects is me to always be available there for her when it's convenient, but she's clearly not willing to put the effort to keep me around, basically what I got from what she told me she needed from a man, and I can offer being there when she needs too.Anyway, I guess it's not a real match on what matters, so I'm gonna let this one go.
>>34543766Well, I mean it does sound like there was (is?) potential there. She may have an excuse you aren't aware of for acting like she's acting.If you like(d?) her as much as you say then truth is it might not be a bad idea to be there for her and maybe she will come back to you IF you can manage to do that in such a way that you aren't jaded or bitter if she does not.If you have nothing better to go for then wait for her. I don't see anything wrong with that. You don't have to look at it like you're a "just in case".You're in control of your life. If time is the only issue then a bit of practice being more patient isn't necessarily a bad thing and you should be proud you're developing that skill.It's another thing if the issue is that she actually already is committed to another guy or fucking someone else that you can't get past or will never accept, but the next girl may have already done that also. I hate to be backtrack on advice but with the last post, I just feel like maybe there's more to the story that might mean there's potential I didn't see before.Either way you're probably still going to be torn on what to do. I'm telling you to look at it from both angles I guess and pick the one that's least crappy.We're talking about girls and you may possibly be giving up the one girl you were mean to be with? Don't risk it if you don't have to.
>>34543486>I should jump ship shouldn't I?Yes. You should. I'm surprised you lost 8 months of your life for fucking nothing, this is not going anywhere mate.
>>34543731>I'm 43Times have changed old man, move on.
>>34543731>they have a lot of options like we do
>>34543777>Just be a simp and wait around bro!Terrible advice, he's been doing that and it clearly hasn't worked.
>>34543794>>34543798>>34543799This is the type of male that women don't waste their time on.OP, don't lower yourself to this guys level or you will end up on /pol/ forever.
>>34543766>She's got a lot of dudes after her, but no one in years has interested her cuz her past bf was shit so she's scared, she only tried to go after me lately.>then started saying all these sexual things
>>34543805>This is the type of male that women don't waste their time on.yea I'll not be a cringe beta buxxer like you boomie
>>34543777I'm really patient, just been in a horrible spot lately, away from family, without being able to do a lot of things I love, without a vehicle at the moment, and I know she can't afford to be going out frequently, that's fine, we have watched movies together... Except not together, each in our own homes just talking through the phone lol, so it's free.There's a lot more to the story, it gets more complex the more I think about it, monetary issues, trauma, it just felt so shitty and pathetic to be almost begging for a crumb of attention from someone that only seems to contact you to vent and when you wanna do something with them, suddenly she ignores. I've been able to deal with her talking about horrible shit like suicide when she knows I care, or how she wants to move out to another city and never see this place again.I don't know if that's patient enough, all I can do is wait I guess, but I can't wait forever, in hopes of maybe.But yeah this is making me think about the whole thing better. She doesn't seem to be committed to another guy, she has a bunch of male friends and she kept making sure I'd understand she didn't wanna be with any of them.
>>34543805This is a textbook simp, don't follow what this moron says, he never even held a woman's hand
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>>34543819OP never mentioned virginity in his post, I guess this is all you can think off 24/7, lol
>>34543819I will always be alone and I accepted my fate. Better than beta-buxxing and lying to yourself.
>>34543786>>34543799Yeah I'm torn, part of me still hopes something happens, part of me know it won't bear any fruit.I got matches on tinder, hit it off with another woman some days ago, got flirted with, complimented by some other one, I'm a white guy with a medium (long for a guy hair) and some chicks love that shit, I'm pretty funny and charming/gentlemen I've been told, so yeah I can go after someone else if I want.
>>34543834Height?
>>345438385,9, I'm way taller than the average women in my shit hole country
>>34543841You have to be taller than the young men in your country on average. Because a woman is going to compare you to them, not to herself. Even if they always say that. But 5'9 is not the end of the world, if you make up with your face / hair / race and your money. Give up on the hope, man. This hope is an evil. Move on from her. You'll be fine.
>>34543848I shall move on, height has never been an issue for me tho, so I don't know what to tell ya.My brother is tiny and has a cute girl.
>>34543805>"male">"women" It seems like you are already at the bottom there, redditorPretty interesting that foids waste time with abusers and molesters that target their children, often with their implicit consent.
>>34543850Good luck, man.
