>for good reasons
Which are...?

>>34543624
Not relevant. I need to know how to get over the guilt. I cheated because he stopped having sex with me

>>34543665
why did he stop having sex with you

>>34543665
>Not relevant
It is very much relevant. Why would you cheat on him?

>>34543665
Did you get fat?

>>34543554
Realize that you are not a man's property, and that by wielding your sexual energies with an independent fierceness, you connect with the divine feminine.

>>34543665
>>34543554
Multiple guys, or one guy multiple times?

>>34543674
He doesn’t communicate at all
>>34543676
Why is it relevant to guilt? I just wanted to feel wanted again. My confidence was down the drain
>>34543677
No, same weight
>>34543681
Full blown romantic sexual intercourse with two guys at different times. A bunch of emotional cheating on top of that

Go to church to confess, I guess. Or take drugs. I recommend the latter, because I do not believe in God and I want you to kill yourself.

>>34543704
Reddit moralfaggotry

You stop larping on 4chan

>>34543690
>Full blown romantic sexual intercourse with two guys at different times. A bunch of emotional cheating on top of that
What's the point in sticking around if you're in love with other guys? How does the sex compare to past experiences with your boyfriend?

>>34543554
>I can’t shake the guilt
Yes you can. Break up with the bf. Its not working and it will never work.

>>34543690
>>34543665
how long did he stop for? did you ever argue about things?

>>34543722
I’m not in love at all with other guys and the sex was just okay. It was romantic in the sense that we would have a bit of a date, a drink, and fuck elaborately for hours on end.
I really miss sex with my boyfriend and how he would treat me in bed. That was probably the biggest revelation of this all
>>34543723
You don’t know my situation lol. Stop saying this to every cheating story. Maybe out communication will improve and our sex life can come back online. I just need to know how to get rid of the guilt.
>>34543728
About six months now. But he’s been more absent for 9 months. It’s like he lost all passion for me

>>34543784
>Maybe our communication will improve
He doesn't talk and no one can change that. Not you not the next one or the next one. You are wasting your time, engaging in behavior even you are ashamed of to cope, so its time to cut your losses and move on. Point is you need to do this for you.

>>34543715
this
imagine falling for such bait

>>34543803
Lol stop being retarded, people improve all the time. I just felt the need to cheat to sustain for a little. It was wrong and now I need to deal with the guilt. So give advice or gtfo my thread

>>34543808
Ok. You aren't female. Females compartmentalize tryst. Guilt is not possible since there is no cause and effect connection. You are male.

>>34543665
>Not relevant.
No, no that's pretty damb relevant. If you can't give specific reasons for your guilt nobody can give you specific advice to overcome it either.

Tbh your whole "I want help" "what are we helping with" "Not telling" dialogue there sold that this is just shitty ragebait.

>>34543869
OP is a male and already knows the only way a male can squelch guilt is to confess to the person they wronged. Problem for OP is his bf may throw him out of the house with nowhere else to go.

Here's how I cope
men are stupid animals and he's done some worse shit and regularly shittalks you horribly with his friends and keeps 99% of the putrid shit he thinks to himself just to keep getting access to your vagina. Fuck him. I don't regret cheating on my bf at all hell I even took him back to the same location and fucked him where I fucked the other guy as a power play. Men are evil be worse

>>34543860
>>34543883
I never said I was female. Anyway compartmentalisation is done by both men and women. I’m not very good at it. I tried:
>compartmentalisation
>just not thinking about it
>trying to give myself a cheating kink
>shittalking/devaluing him in my head
>>34543909
This is what I mean by devaluing. Idk he’s a good guy who wouldn’t do such a thing. I can only devalue him by thinking of him as an asexual

>>34543869
>If you can't give specific reasons for your guilt nobody can give you specific advice to overcome it
Oh okay sorry, yes thank you. That makes sense. The full story is that we used to be very sexual together, he would message me throughout the day how hot I was and how much he wanted me. I felt very loved, I felt like we were such a perfect fit.
Then suddenly it all stopped, he seemed to have a lot of shame around the topic that just got too much. He stopped initiating entirely but he would sometimes at the flick of a switch want sex anyway, usually after a couple drinks. That became less and less to the point we stopped having sex entirely. He gets annoyed every time I make a sexual comment and actively pushes his shame unto me.

That’s when I started to cheat. I missed him for who he used to be, I wanted to feel wanted again, I wanted someone who liked me for who I am instead of shaming me. The first guy I cheated with was a very excited guy, cooked a nice vegan pasta and we fucked for hours while stoned. This felt like revenge for the most part. I compartmentalised it as something that happened before we gotten together. The second guy I cheated with was very similar. Once again a very excited guy who was very into me. He developed a crush on me as well that I now have to deal with. There was 0 chemistry with either guys and I genuinely and truthfully just want sex with my actual boyfriend. I think that’s a major part of the regret. I didn’t even want sex, I wasn’t that horny. I just couldn’t deal with not having him anymore. I have a harder time compartmentalising the second guy. Our relationship and sex life had a glimmer of hope and the new guy is messaging me a lot. it has bled through my normal life.

I want to scream at him and tell him just how big our sex problems really are and that he should have taken it serious. Sadly, he will never understand the extend of it. I will take this to my grave

>>34544038
Break up with him he is a weirdo

>>34544051
You don’t know him. This is ridiculous advice

>>34544058
You should break up with him. You broke the trust of the relationship; if there is no trust there can't be a relationship. You feel guilt because you know you did something that would deeply hurt someone you claim to care for, the only way to begin to absolve that guilt is by being honest and asking for forgiveness.

Tell him, apologize, and leave. He deserves better than someone who cheats on him and lies.

>>34543665
Lose weight

>>34543690
>>34543784
I’m changing my answer. You need to become a western Vtuber. You’ve got the entire origin story

>>34544038
im the guy.

you showed too many red flags and he picked up on it and hes smarter than you realize. he knows youre cheating and have cheated and have that tendacy, he did all that work trying to woo you and get you but still you wandered elsewhere. you ruined it. its your fault. im literally the guy right now in a relatshion where i dont want to fuck my gf anymore, its not even psyhical its that fact i knew she cheated lol

>>34544038
What unique things did your boyfriend do in bed that really set him apart from the others, and that you still miss? Or was it more about the way he talked to you beforehand?

>>34544033
Are you trans or gay?

>>34543909
Why are you with your bf if you hate him?
Is he bad at sex?

>>34543665
Do the both of you a favor and dump him. I hope this is just creative writing.

>>34544097
>you broke the trust
He doesn’t know
>be honest and ask for forgiveness
This isn’t a Disney Movie. People get hurt and he shouldn’t get hurt just so I can absolve myself of guilt. I’d rather take this to the grave than hurt him like that. It genuinely meant nothing. The better my techniques to absolve the guilt the better off he will be
>>34544159
Nice headcanon but the cheating started way after we stopped having sex. It was gradual, not instantly.
>>34544226
It’s literally just everything, I don’t wanna make this post more despicable than it already is but he is the guy I was hoping for all my life. I have dated around a lot and it was just never a match. With him I just feel understood. He used to make me so goddamn happy. To this day do we bring good comfort to each others lives
I might just be evil. It is what it is. All I can hope for is that I won’t damage him. He would be absolutely destroyed. I just don’t think the people insisting on me confessing it to him even remotely know what they’re talking about. I would much much much rather break up instead, have him go in relatively good spirits, and for me to carry the guilt for the rest of my life, than to completely break and traumatise him just so I can have it easier.
>>34544302
I would do a whole lot less writing if people just gave direct advice

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>>34545746
Shit ragebait, sage and move on anons nothing to see here.

>>34545847
Man what kind of proof do you even need

>>34543554
how long have you been together total, and when did the infidelity start in that timeline (also when did the sex stop so there is a reference for how long between the two things existed)

>>34544105
>I’m changing my answer. You need to become a western Vtuber. You’ve got the entire origin story
NTA. Literally no vtubers have a background like that.

>>34543909
Why are you like this?

>>34543554
this is such a bad bait thread, and look how many replies it got, lol

>>34546234
What proof do you want
My story isn’t even interesting. I’m leaving out all the details for opsec. Is it really that weird to ask something on /adv/ about something that is universal yet taboo

>>34543665
If you're not satisfied with your relationship then break up. There's no point in remaining in a relationship that you're unhappy enough in that you feel like it is necessary to cheat.

>>34546238
Post hand to prove you're a woman

>>34546287
>22 mins ago
Yep. Its a gay dude pretending. Everybody pack it up.

>>34546123
canan8181

>>34543554
Disgusting whore

>>34546287
>>34546308
I never claimed any gender whatsoever
Thank you for reading my thread

>>34546446
I just don’t think it’s relevant for my case. And cheating is so universal idk why that’s hard to believe either. Just give me the fucking advice instead of debating all day