I knew her for years and we spoke every day, I genuinely loved and cared about her more than anyone else. Things had been amazing between us lately and our connection was getting stronger, although we were not ‘official’ yet because of the distance between us.I recently asked her how she was doing after she had been somewhat distant that day, and she responded with a snap of her winking with a guy in the background. She eventually admitted sleeping with him on a trip and said she’s probably going to enter a relationship with him.I’m beyond shocked and feel physically ill as if my whole world has turned upside down. This came totally out of the blue - we had no conflict whatsoever beforehand. The worst part is she showed no remorse and when I mentioned that it was painful for me, she just responded with a smirk saying ‘I can imagine’ (I didn’t respond).How do I even start recovering from this? My mind is racing trying to figure out why she would do this to me. She was the only girl I liked and was always foremost in my mind first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
>>34543714She likely knew you felt something toward her and she decided to send you a pic of her winking while with another dude. She knows that would hurt you. You are entertainment to her. That is all. You were her emotional punching bag and her therapist. Now she rides the cock train and you get to watch from the side lines.Move on, bro. She is using you. She's just another modern woman. Cut her off because she gets off on torturing you.
>>34543714>although we were not ‘official’ yet because of the distance between us.She's probably mad you didn't claim her. Maybe she felt hurt you wouldn't commit and wanted to hurt you back. I don't think it's productive to villainize her. She's immature and not worth your heartache obviously, but learn from this. The next time you want a woman be aware that if you don't stake your claim, someone else will.
>>34543733>please tolerate used good whores mind games where someone else will clai-Nope
>>34543714Did you and her fully and openly express romantic feelings for each other? I mean absolutely no ambiguity. If your answer is anything other than a hard 'yes', then most women would consider it just a friendship.
First, I commiserate with you. It is valid that you're hurt. Do not blame yourself for it. Secondly, it is her fault. She knows what she is doing. Do not be deluded by her. Thirdly, you have to end it. Say "goodbye" and end it. She is going to try to keep you. Do not be manipulated by it. Be aware of that. Hope you'll recover.
>>34543744There are no friendships between men and women.
>>34543733If a woman wants you, she is going to claim you. And she should be villainized.
>>34543714>we were not ‘official’Evidently you were a whole lot less official in her eyes. It is VERY easy, particularly in a long-distance mainly online situation, for one of you to think there's a romance going on when the other is just being friends. Think back over what was actually SAID between you two, and see if you were imagining more than was actually there.
>>34543714Long distance relationships are fake gay larp.You didn't even get "cucked", she was never yours to lose.Cut that bitch off and go rail a club girl, you'll feel better.
>>34543714Do the same thing back to her.
>>34543733Kill yourself. Hope your underage female relatives get raped and filmed.
Live and learn. You were never in a relationship because you didn't go meet her in person and ask her to be official.
>>34544040He was smart that he did not do that.
>>34544040I had wanted to do this, and she seemed interested, but when it came to actual planning she was more hesitant because she said she was too nervous/scared about meeting me and felt she was unlovable or wouldn’t match my expectations
Desire is sustained by distance, incompleteness, uncertainty, fantasy, the sense that something remains unattained. Talking every day and being so comfortable and familiar for years leads to a flattened desire, she has you she knows she has you so what is there to even desire? Try to desire a game you used to want so bad, the enjoyment of the fantasy collapses because you have the object and the object can never live up to the fantasy version in your head. There is no sexual tension nothing. Now getting with a guy and sending you the picture, that will make a bitch feel something. Basically you need to just ask chat gpt to explain to you lacan because he structures out desire like a map and its a truth nuclear Holocaust.
>>34544067Notice how women are like the special enjoyers in your fantasy of completeness, the women get to prance around and secretly enjoy everything and are the arbiters of validation they are your guranteeors of meaning. This is a fantasy in your head because you secretly worship women whatever you worship is what validates you and whatever you shake your fist at has the power to validate you the thing that gazes at you structures your world whether u hate it or love it you are sending messages to your god. U can change how you relate to it by recognizing it as a function of being human and act around it or u can take up a serious meditation practice and melt the ideological fences around you
>>34544067You are either trolling or very misguided. The God you pretend to worship would not want you to suffer from this mentality and as long as you harbor this much hate within you you are not going to heaven and you will not know peace. You are of course also never becoming a monk either, because you are LARPing and a slave to your appetites. Very sad
