Finally have a date tomorrow after 10 years. She seems to want everything I want, really good girl. Didn't fuck around. My question is: I'm taking her on a walk, just an hour and a half. What do I ask her to continue doing this? Like do I say hey let's do this again sometimes, or I go more specific with it and try to set the appointment during the date? Most likely she'll say that she'll "let me know" or "discuss it with me later"How do I navigate this? I have a feeling we're going to get along really well because we've already exchanged calls + voice notes of about 3 hours total. Don't get me wrong I'm super happy that I'm getting a date, especially with someone so similar (she and I are into game dev, both play d&d, both into fantasy festivals) but if it doesn't work out I'm going to be extremely sad, please, some words of wisdom. Thank you.
>>34545200>I'm taking her on a walkIt's over.
>>34545200Yes, you say, "I had a great time with you, let's do it again". And then either you work out a time for the next date or you text to set up a time after the date
>>34545200Have a good time and be in the moment. Don’t engineer the future too much. Let it happen. If everything goes well ask her at the end of the”when can I see you again?”This makes it clear you want to move forward and it puts it on her to say what she wants or doesn’t in specific ways. Having fun is going to make for the best event. Hope it goes well.
>>34545222Not if she likes that. Can’t force chemistry If bonds or it doesn’t. Be yourself anon
>>34545236My comment received a 222, it's better than yours HAHA.You're telling that an autist going on a walk is good. There won't be chemistry, buddy.
>>34545250>I got the better numbers therefore my comment is more right than yours>Hurr DurrAnd OP is the autist, riiiight
>I'm gonna make you exhaust yourself with exercise, totally free of cost>Why is it IMPOSSIBLE to ever get these modern western WHORES to agree to a second date?
>>34545200> Both play D&D> Both into fantasy fairs> Takes her on a walkCould have been better but salvageable. Offer to take her to a festival or some kind of one shot RPG game next.Also, sounds like you've got this in the bag, now's the time to act confident and take what belongs to you.
>>34546196American take. He doesn't know what walking is > picrel
>>34545224>>34545233>>34545236>>34546259Thank you bros, dates in a mere 4 hours, I'll do my best <3To the anti walk fags - she's into hiking and having whimsical nature walks where you pick flowers or you pick a color and point out or collect things of that color, she's cute like that. Whimsical was her own wording btw. So I trust that she actually genuinely enjoys walking. Will she genuinely enjoy my company and me? That's a different question. But I guess we'll see today. Keep you updated if it's a dud or a bud or a big fat flood, if it's bad it'll be a short update
OP here , with an update for the boys :I went on the date. This is my third date ever, with the second being 2 months ago, and the first being 10 years ago. We had a short walk, through the rain, she absolutely loved it. A canopy of trees protected us from above, we sat on a bench exchanging stories, I offered her biscuits. We were walking really close the whole time. In the end I called her adorable and hugged her, then on the tram again hugged her, and put my head on her shoulder, and in the end when we said bye, she gave me the biggest hug there is. For like a good 15 seconds and held me very tight and I could feel, that she wanted to hug me so bad the entire time and the first time I hugged her she did a little jiggle dance with the most adorable expression on her face. She said that she wants to see me again, and I said that too, and she said send me your availabilities and let's work it out. So I sent it. I still haven't received a reply from her since I left the date 4 hours ago, but it's okayMaybe she's taking a breather, she's taking care of her mom after all. Maybe she's thinking or processing. I don't know what she's up to but we had a good time and IRL I asked her honestly and she answered honestly that she wants to do it again. Personal feelings - I feel like if we meet again, there's going to be, a LOT of hugging, and possibly a lot of kissing.But for that we have to meet again. I hope that she's not having second thoughts, given that I'm 30 and still in school, and have a chronic (but invisible to others) medical condition. I hope she continues with me. She's so awesome. If it happens I promise I'll come back and make a thread telling you all that I found my gf from bumbleSee you friends, and thanks for tuning in <3
>>34547504>She said that she wants to see me againI'm so sorry OP. I warned you, but instead of replying another guy did, and mocked me for being autist. I'm really sorry.
>>34545200>but if it doesn't work out I'm going to be extremely sadOh damn sounds like you already got emotionally attached before even the first date? That's not good man. I'd try and correct that as best you can.
>>34546196>this lard ass thinks walking is some sort of exhausting exerciseNo, actually, that's something you as a human are supposed to do. If this is some sort of daunting task then you need to take a realistic look at yourself and try and become healthier.
>>34547535We are both like that. Both very loving people. I am not surprised because she wrote on her profile that she's looking for a husband, and she doesn't want kids which is perfect for me. She wants the one partner and to give him all of her attention and love and get all the attention and love from him.I'm not child cucked, I have one life and I want the one partner, so we're so so so aligned in this regard, me and her. I wrote my availability to her the same way she did to me yesterday, very detailed and clear. So that we can plan the next date.She hasn't replied yet, thoughts are of course running through my mind, that she won't reply, or that she'll block me, or that I will wake up with (((insert 3 paragraphs))) of text that will boil down to "I'm not interested anymore".I'm really trying to push through this and be positive, that's why I locked down her true feelings that she truly wants to see me again in real life. By asking in real life. I'm really bad with anxiety when I'm texting a girl from home, which is why I did my best to lock it down IRL. I'm risky online. At risk of getting anxious and writing something that will mess it up. But I will do my best I promise that I will do my best to myself and to you guys, that I won't write some dumb shit to her and just let her have the ball. All I want is to just see her again. I feel like one more meeting, and it'll be THE meeting. That is, if she didn't cross me out already for being old and still a student. Bros.... I'm so hopeful. At every step of the way I expected a rejection - and at every step of the way so far I got impeccably positive results. Please. Please let it continue this way. It's so good. Too good, that's why my learned helplessness is pushing on this so hard. Give me the strength my brothers. She is legit a wifey. I just want her and no one else for life if she would have me.
>>34547504You have a weak psychology you had her isolated and ready to be taken and you didnt go in for the kill. Fuck that hurt to read
>>34547775Take a person I met 1 hour ago right there on the muddy rainy forest floor with people walking their dogs around. Riiiiight
>>34547810You didnt really create a situation where intimacy could happen, broad daylight and rainy is a death sentence. You could have watched a horror movie together then you could have drove her to some secluded place try to kiss maybe bang her in your car.>Put my head on her shoulder Dont ever do that shit again
