Been in a relationship for about 10 years, been married for a little longer than not. The exact same happened to me.
I've had two relationships prior to this one, and my partner has had none prior to this one.

This kind of thing just... Happens when you're not mentally fucked up from the beginning.

If you are communicative, if you are emotionally vulnerable, if you listen to your partner,
If you aren't reliant on your partner to give you what you refuse to give to yourself,
You and your partner will continue to grow, together.
Your boyfriend sounds mentally healthier than 99.9% of 4chan users. I'm happy for the two of you.

>>34546484
>what would cause a man to pursue a woman like that?
do you have a peg leg or something? why do you find it hard to believe that he's particlarly into you?

>>34546484
Im too afraid to approach women but I'm actually really good at talking to people and get along with most people. Girls also.
Ive got a feeling i would have had many girlfriends if I wasn't so afraid to talk to them. Your bf might be the same way.

>>34546484
BARE = naked
BEAR = put up with (also a big hairy animal)

>>34546492
Reading this made me hopeful

>>34546484
If one is introverted or shy it may take a very long time until you actually get in the right situation for the pursuing to happen.

>>34546484
>>34546492
>>34546789
Same. I got in my head the other day about how few committed relationships I’ve been in before since I’ve recently fallen in love with a woman, and it’s a love I’ve never felt for anyone else before.
Gave myself a little FOMO or just worried I might be jumping the gun, I guess.

>>34546484
> My relationship is wholesome and harmonious, this makes me feel uncomfortable because I lack self-worth, so I'm passive-aggressively searching for a reason to destroy it.
Seriously though, your relationship doesn't sound that great, and it is going to crash and burn because you are two too insecure unselfware people. He's going to get bored with you and then emotionally cheat on you with the BPDdemon girl at work. Or you're going to get bored and then be irritated with him all the time, nag him about chores, start arguments just to get a rise out of him, subconsciously you wanting him grow up from being a passive boring beta male.
> i can’t wrap my head around why a man would suddenly fall for a woman after never really pursuing one.
You honestly think he's never been interested in a female before he met you? Kek. You ask him stereotypical neurotic-gf "trap" questions ("Have you ever been attracted to women who aren't me? Would you love me if I were turned into a worm?"), and then he gives you "gray rock" answers. "Duh.. no... of course." You expect him to dig into his memory and tell you about his cringest awkwardest moments of being ignored or rejected by girls he was infatuated with in the past? Just so you can get jealous and nitpick what he said and create pointless arguments about it?
You sound young, I shouldn't be so harsh on you. But, you're asking the wrong questions. You sound like two passive beta people. You find comfort in each other, but comfort turns into stagnation and boredom eventually. Eventually one of you is going to get new friends, get excited about a new career or hobby, and then that is going to cause conflict with the other person in some way.
You feel uneasy because you sense your relationship is missing something, and you're right. But the answer is in looking at the bigger picture, not drilling into the details.

>>34546484
>we took each others virginity.

This.

>>34546484
He's a covert narcissist. He just says what you want to hear because he's a people-pleaser and conflict-avoidant. Eventually the mask will slip off.

>Hm my relationship is a little TOO good, what should I do
>I know, I'll ask angry bitter people on the internet for reasons why my happiness is actually fake so I have a reason to cause drama and blow it up
For fuck's sake

>>34546949
Fuck off, incel.

>>34547408
der ewige foide

>>34546484
Do the world a favor and kill yourself, you degenerate foid.

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I guess he just liked your personality. Men who aren't complete slaves to the pussy and actually have standards won't mind waiting for a woman that is mentally and emotionally stimulating to them.

>>34546484
you hit the jackpot and you're questioning it? calm down and stop thinking about it so hard. also make him a sandwich.

>>34546484
well in my case everyone feels retarded except for my gf, i can actually talk with her without having to dumb things down to normie level, but there's more to that and i just can't put it on words. I'm really similar to your bf, never had a gf before her and never really tried.
Maybe we (men) are just bad with words and can't fully explain it, anyways i hope everything goes well with your bf

Basically you just want to fuck other guys and are trying to blame him for imaginary problem so you can be "justified" in your head for doing so. Get raped by a pack of niggers.

>>34547501
Female infants get raped on the daily, yum yum

>>34546484
I didn't see Chad until it was too late.

>>34546751
Woman who can't spell at a 3rd grade level + ungroomed manwolf. A match made in heaven I think.

>>34547701
true, I am 34 and am going to marry this 18 year old I began talking with recently.. God brought us together, I am sure of it :)

unironically though I dont think I've ever mentally connected with a girl this well before

>>34548203
dangit, i knew i misspelled that. i even went through the mental process of it. sorry.

>>34548160
big jump but okay think what u want to i wont try to change ur mind and im not sure why u included ur fetish content in here

>>34547408
what..? i did not in any world think there was a bad reason. i just said i didnt understand men, and i was curious what the thought process was since he wouldn’t give me an in depth explanation :( that’s legitimately all i love him so much and i hope we’re together forever

>>34546913
not even going to read this

>>34546735
that’s good to know. thank you.

>>34546651
haha, i don’t think so. at least last time i checked. according to him im a dime and drop dead gorgeous but nobody is going to believe that if i say it, obviously so you can just take that as u will.

>>34546492
thank you for the in depth response! i really appreciate it. it all makes a lot of sense to me and that’s really all i wanted. it makes a lot of sense now that this could happen, i just guess ive seen so much stuff about guys chasing women i couldn’t really put two and two together. thanks again :)

to everyone else: u all get way too worked up about this. it’s just a question, from a girl who’s curious. it’s not that deep.

>>34546484
>what would cause a man to pursue a woman like that?
Reciprocal interest.
Most women think they're better and so show less interest, requiring the man to put in most of the effort. It a tiresome game usually by jaded people.

>>34548250
It's because your gender is genetically predisposed to never mentally mature past the equivalent of our 18 year olds.
>Posts that don't suck my clit and endlessly vindicate me and all my feminine traits? Surely I cannot grow as a person by only engaging in depth with opinions with which I already concur but oh well IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE LALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!! MY DIRTY ASS SHAGGY UNCOUTH BOYFRIEND LOVES ME AND CALLS ME BOOTIFUL EVERY DAY MAYBE YOU'RE JUST GAY LMAO!!! THIS POST EXISTS SOLELY TO WASTE YOUR TIME
I'm sorry you had to learn this way. Most women never find out and stay trapped inside the tiktok goychamber matrix so consider yourself lucky. Please for the love of all that remains holy on this Earth just keep your head down and pop out babies okay?

>>34548284
dude what is ur major malfunction, are u okay, do u wanna talk about it

>>34548276
ohhhhhhhhh. this really makes sense, we were both very VERY reciprocal in the talking stage, it was basically back and forth sharing our interests and indulging in the others. it never really felt one sided. i’m putting the dots together now, idk why it was so hard for me to wrap my head around this. thanks!!

>>34548302
>Disregards and continues femcel behavior
You are worthless Dog.

>>34548312
bark bark

>>34548323
Now you will laugh it off but once this toothpick and marshmallow "relationship" crumbles you will remember me and how much better of a partner I would have made.

>>34548338
ur absolutely right, i’ll come crying back for u, posting every day on this advice board, begging, please, please come back to me mysterious anon. u treated me the way women were meant to be treated i just didn’t realize it yet

and years will pass, and ill never find you again, and i weep, clutching my pillow and tears running down my eyes, wondering where u went.

>>34548356
Good.

>>34546484
>Be (((you)))
>Find someone you like
>You are happy
>You cant compare your relationship to your (((((female friends))))
>You cant compare your relationship to your (((((female colleagues))))
>You think you have a problem
>Tell ((((female friends)))) and (((female colleagues))))
>They tell you to "see what else is out there"
>Break up happy relationship
>You "see what is out there"
>durr hurr "Now I know what I lost"
>You try to reconnect and he ignores you
The internet is littered with retarded millennial chicks owning themselves, are you alright?

>>34549247
what the fuck are you even talking about dude. i don’t even talk to my friends about this. i’m a zoomer too.

what is this fictional scenario in your head. did this happen to u and ur lashing out thinking ill do it? i’m so sorry sweetheart </3 you’ll find a man again.

>>34546484
Negative reinforcement, presumably.
Men internalise the notion that their desires are dirty and predatory, because that is how heterosexual male desire is framed in media.
Thus a lot of men never make the first move or even permit themselves to fall for someone, lest they be branded a raper for saying hello whilst being sub-9.
It is an enormous risk to a man's reputation and livelihood to even greet the wrong woman, not to mention all the legal risks if she regrets it and decides you raped her, etc

>>34549254
Watch yourself, girly. Its the retarded millennial chick trope. Their advice is trash and say "I did not force you to take my advice". Be different.

>>34549260
that sounds horrible jesus christ… i couldn’t imagine. i am happy to show him the bright side i guess, if that’s true. kinda hurts me that i’ve never even known about that side of it.

>>34549264
will do. i keep my shit to myself. at worst we have an argument and it gets resolved within the day bc we both can’t stand being upset at the other. so i suppose ive never really had a need to even ask about advice on it.

with this thread i was really just curious on the inner thoughts of men, less so my bf.

thanks :)

>>34549267
Godspeed, girly

>>34546789
>>34546817
I'm very happy to have given you hope, anons. Remember to keep yourselves healthy, physically and psychologically, because when a relationship comes to you, being happy before you even meet someone will make your relationship a hundred times better.

>>34548250
You're welcome, OP!

>>34548356
kek

>>34548250
>>>>34546913
>not even going to read this
Not that anon, OP but this is part of the problem
That post is one of the best in the thread and you ignore it in favor of plush, feel good answers and the response you're replying to isn't even condemning in anyway, it's pointing out how silly yet common it is for neurotic people to nitpick at something for not being their idea of perfect.

>>34550004
okay samefag sure thing buddy i believe you wink wink haha