It is my first year of university. I am just an average guy, not ugly, not the most handsome either. At first, I didn't even bother to make friends because I didn't really care.Then, I noticed a pretty emo girl. She has a few physical traits that might make her unappealing to most (long chin, small teeths), but I actually like them.Throughout the year, I noticed she has absolutely zero (0) social interactions. She always arrives late or leaves early. Always dresses in black with oversized clothes, high shoes, petite, with short red hair long enough to cover her eyes. She is so adorable. I started to develop feelings for her, and I can't even describe why. I don't know if this is love, because if it is, it is the first time I have ever actually loved someone. Finally, I decided to do something, can't even explain why (Memento audere semper). When the lesson ended, I followed her to the vending machines and talked to her. Fortunately, we were alone, because she was very shy and embarrassed. I told her that I find her beautiful (and I truly mean it) and that I love her style. She replied that no one had ever told her that before (so adorable!). We chitchatted for a bit. I wasn't the only one leading the conversation. She asked some questions about me too, until I had to go home for lunch. In the following days, we smiled at each other, but nothing more happened. There are only two lessons left until the end of the year. I can't stand the thought that I might not see her next year, since she takes different courses. I want to ask for her number. Do you think she might be interested? Or am I just overreacting? Is this unmotivated limerence? Please help, I have never talked to a girl before...Btw she is literally like Ralts
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>>34562748you mean I'm gay if i don't do that? I'm not sure she's interested
>>34562825>I'm not sure she's interestedNo one is ever sure if she's interested.
>>34562740Do it. You have nothing to lose.
>>34562740By now your should not only have gotten her number but asked her out.
>>34562740agree with anon >>34562949OP. The two of you are perfect for each other do not miss this opportunity.
>>34562740I had so many opportunities to make friends in university that I took for granted and never followed through on. The only way you get at good at something is by doing it over and over. If you hold back thinking about all the ways it can end badly, you'll live life never doing anything.
>>34562740You did everything right, just ask her
Update: I did everything I wanted, and I'm so happy about it but: is 19M and 22F a good age gap?
>>34565344So she gave you her number? How did you ask her?>is 19M and 22F a good age gap?It's nor good or bad, it's just how it is, it's not a big gap to think about.
>>34565355She did, after a long convo i simply asked her number to stay in touch. At some point her entire face was red... adorable
>>34565427What do you guys talk about... You both sound a bit autistic.
>>34565438> "i like girls with autism, it gives women a human side that they don't often have"btw shit like music, books and series tastes, our carrer, school etc...
Update on what we texted so far:> Heyy> :)> :3
>>34565640What is she like now that you talked more?
>>34565751Wdym?
>>34565767Well... What's her personality? She seemed like someone not very sociable from your OP. Do you feel like she's like that?
>>34562740Ask for her number. U can't guarantee an outcome and when u try to guarantee an outcome u start to ruminate and fall into ritual, prayer, pleading, protecting the fantasy (avoidence). So just do it but when u do it know that it may bring you temporary satisfaction but it doesn't make or break you whatsoever. The more u have a special attachment or you make like an anime about it in your hhead the more u are just trying to guarantee an outcome instead of accepting the limitations and distance between yourself and your goal. you did a great job talking to her. Know that what I am discussing here is very real and concrete structural triggers that are fundamental to how our psyche is organized around our shared symbolic world aka language lacan and psychoanalysis is dead clinically but practically it's alive as fuck and just true as fuck
>>34565640Ur doing really good just keep going and remember pussy is never owned only borrowed and treated hopefully with respect and love before sending her back out to the streets aka not your life
>>34565772She is educated and well versed. Dedicated and explorative. Passionate. Desires greater good for all and values love, mortality and trust. Timid and quiet but inquisitive.
>>34565784>Timid and quiet but inquisitive.she will leave the second even a second class Chadlite shows attention for a couple weeks
>>34566034i think the same but probably none will do that since, as I said, she is kinda ugly. I don't even know why but i fucking love her
>>34566077Didn't you say she's beautiful?
>>34566208-to me- is the most beautiful
>>34562740>Hey guys, I met a beautiful, sincere, pure and wonderful girl the other day. I've fallen madly in love with her, and she seems to love me too. There is literally nobody else talking to her and I am almost guaranteed a relationship if I try even a little. Should I sit on my ass and do nothing, letting this beautiful and ethereal once-in-a-lifetime opportunity slip through my hands, or should I take a minor risk to potentially set up a deeply-fulfilling lifelong relationship?Damn anon, I don't know. What should you do?
>>34566275This, you don't understand how these stuff won't happen anymore once you're out of college. shoot your shot, be confident and straightforward.
"I'm trying, but I'm still not sure if she's interested. We sit near each other (away from most people), but we still don't really talk. I've also noticed she tends to sit on the edge of her seat. When I text her, she replies, but she never starts the conversation. Is she just really shy, or is she politely trying to get me to back off? This is my first time interacting with a woman, so I really don't know.
>>34568850What kind of replies does she give you when you talk? Does she talk more or is it just few words answers? When you text her does she start asking questions about you too or are you the only one doing the asking and she's just responding?
>>34568889Mostly short replies, in case of a generic question she ask me too but nothing more than that.
>>34568927She's either not that interested or super shy. But try to talk to her more for now, it's not a situation where you should give up yet. Try asking her to hang out irl after a while. If she rejects that it's over.
>>3456903980% 20%Yeah another wasted year, will probably die virgin
>>34562740Worked out for me. If there’s structured lessons where you’re required to team up, I used that opportunity.
