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I met a girl in July at a language exchange
club near the place I live. I found her attractive and then I asked her out to watch a movie. After that, we hanged out several times and she invited me to come over her apartment, although no romantic physical contact or innuendos were present. After a couple of dates, I told her I liked her and she told me she's not interested in me, and she doesn't see me as a potential partner. Hell, even once I went to her apartment after watching a movie and by mistake, I turned off the lights with my backpack and she got scared, she thought I was gonna do something bad to her. We settled up the issue and she agreed it was a misunderstanding. I just moved on and stopped texting her, I even left her unseen / unread. Today she reaches out to me and asks me if we could go for a walk. What to do? The thing I don't understand is that, if she sees me as a friend, why is she telling me that she enjoys my company? why is she telling me I'm a good guy? why is she holding my hand in the street and lock arms
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>>35003181
>After a couple of dates, I told her I liked her and she told me she's not interested in me, and she doesn't see me as a potential partner.
Why are you wasting your time?
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>>35003182
I feel lonely and I'm stupid
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>>35003181
>if she sees me as a friend, why is she telling me that she enjoys my company? why is she telling me I'm a good guy? why is she holding my hand in the street and lock arms
>this implies that OP went for the walk today
You're giving her all the appearance and physical platonic gratification of a relationship without her having to give up anything of her own! Retard
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>>35003194
Well, there is no chance. So, you're better off ghosting her and playing some video games.
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>>35003198
I know that, but that wouldn't it mean that she likes my physique? I'm taller than her and lean
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>>35003181
>why is she holding my hand in the street and lock arms
That would be a good question to ask her.
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>>35003181
Go to a cafe and pretend like she's your gf in public. Then, when she goes to the bathroom, ask for the waitress's number. It will be way easier than if you were there alone.
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>>35003698
kek. I'm gonna try this out
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>>35003698
gold
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>>35003181
Worst case scenario: you get a friend-who-is-a-girl.

What's wrong with that?
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>>35003181
You fucked when you didn't go for it after she invited you to her apartment and gave you all the signs that its high time to initiate sex. Said sign is a woman inviting you to her apartment. And apparently you didn't even kiss her?
She likes you as a person, but as a man you have irrevocably fucked up and are nto seen as one by her anymore.
Next girl, make a move.
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You failed this one (permanently) by not smashing on date one or two. Completely cut her off and smash another girl.
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>>35005171
Girls are generally boring and stupid and the only reason to waste time interacting with them is for access to their holes. If no access, why bother?
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OP here. In the last three months, I dated four girls. The first girl is the one I have already mentioned, the second had a pizza date with me and after that we haven't made much progress, although we kissed. I invited the third girl to hang out and have some beers and she agreed. We kissed and everything went fine, but after that she started taking too long to reply and I got ghosted (I don't text her anymore). With the fourth girl I maganed to have sex twice but then I realized I really wasn't into her and I moved on. All that happened because I wanted to get over my previous couple and I don't know how to cope with loneliness. I know I do things wrong most o the times, but I'm not obese and taller than most girls, I'm not intense and if the girl is not interested I don't text her anymore
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>>35003181
>Today she reaches out to me and asks me if we could go for a walk.
Go, but don't let her depart without defining the relationship. If it's just friends, then you can ignore her forever.



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