We were best friends for about 20 years but had an argument over some girl (who neither of us ended up with) and haven't spoke since. Its been 5 years and I wanna get my buddy back. Seems a waste to let them go. The only contact info I have for them is an email address but I dont know what to say.
>>944857628like you've changed your attitude towards the situation in these last 5 years, he has as well and might be at the same conclusion as you. Just hit him up saying hey that was stupid what's up yada yada you figure it out
>>944857818I guess you're right but im not sure if I should be formal or just be like "hey whats up". The argument was pretty intense so wanna get the wording right
>>944858566then just be straight up with how you feel, yo man i miss you, that wasnt worth it
>>944858637Because I've only got an email to message them on i have to put a subject matter. What do I put for that?
>>944858694just put your name like the anime
>>944858694hows it coming along? i'm still here, ready and willing to help
>>944859186I've written a decent bit but stumped for the subject. Don't wanna put "yo" in case it comes across as making light of the argument.
>>944859373oh yeah of course, tell me a little about this argument how did it start, was there physical contact, what were the last words you two exchanged?
>>944859422Basically both liked the same girl and she was fucking both of us with either of us knowing. Then we found out and it erupted. Basically the last words between us were "dont talk to me ever again".
>>944860346i'm going to assume you mean 'without' either of you knowing, if that's the case why hate each other? you both got played your beef is with the hoe and the hoe alone, it's not like either of you intentionally meant to hurt each other
>>944860409Yeah but we were 20 years old and in the moment it felt like a betrayal to both of us.
>>944860499a lot can change mentally in 5 years especially going from 20 to 25, just lay it all out sincerely and i'm sure you'll be friends again
>>944857628>them>not he or shegoing to say this is an obvious "fake-thread"a thread made just to take up space and cause annoyances
>>944860544Yeah I hope so. Thanks dude.
>>944860544Not the guy you're replying to but I have a similar situation if you'd like to offer yoir thoughts?
>>944860761ok what's the situation?
>>944858566> not sure if I should be formalyes, hire a lawyer to craft a formal letter of conciliation to an old friend. i can already sense how your autism is going to fuck this up
>>944857628Life's too short and it's tough to make decent friends. Hit him up and say How's it Going? Worst that can happen is he says Fuck you asshole, you cock-blocked me and then you move on. But maybe you get a good friend back.
>>944860939Quick info to get started. Me >was 21 at start>26 nowGirl>was 21>now 26Me and this girl met at uni and we talked everyday on socials. Told each other intimate details about our lifes. To me it felt like we were dating and I gained feelings for her. I asked her out and thats when the problems started. She got upset and said that I was only friends with her because I wanted to have sex with her. So we stopped talking for a few weeks. Then we talked again and I mentioned it again and she said she "didnt feel a spark" between us. Now bare in mind I was 21 because when she said this I got mad as I thought we already acted like bf and gf. She got upset and after I went home I noticed I was blocked on everything by her. We haven't spoken since. I want to reach out to her because she was genuinely a good friend and I realise now at 26 that how I acted was wrong. I would like her back as a friend. Similarly to OP I can only contact through email. What should I say?
>>944861493kiss his ass
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>>944857628Everyone who replied to this thread is a woman. You wanna know how to reach out?>Yo faggot. Haven't talked in a while. Let's do something, catch up, it's been way too long.If he doesn't respond positively, he was never your close friend.
>>944862365Just say you have no irl friends bro
>>944862365>Everyone who replied to this thread is a woman.you just replied to this thread
>>944861493>she said she "didnt feel a spark" between usStatistically, it's over. I'm not trying to be a crab. Unless you've had a DRASTIC improvement in your circumstances (you got super rich, became a chad, etc) it's not gonna work the way you want. That's just not how women work. Rekindling an old spark is already extremely improbable; rekindling a spark that was never there is near impossible (again, unless you've drastically improved your circumstances).Here's the thing: if you reach out to her and she responds positively, it's still over because it means she's desperate and willing to settle for you.I hate to be the guy that discourages you from taking that shot, so do it if you want but be very prepared to move on.
>>944861493sorry bro i got really high and cant think, watching some restoration vids now but basically just be honest and lay it out like i told op all you can do is be real
>>944862453I would say the same to you. If you need to be formal with your close friends, they're not your close friends. Only women do this. You don't need to write an essay or resume to link up with an old best friend.
>>944862538I just wanna be friends. I DID become a lot more attractive but that shouldn't matter for just being friends?
>>944862740>I just wanna be friends
>>944862858Why is that a bad thing
>>944862549I'll try but I dont know how to start
>>944862913For your own sake, I hope you're just telling yourself you want to be friends but are actually just hoping for an opportunity for something more. Otherwise, you are the gayest, most homosexual man in your zip code, possibly in your continent.If you're secretly hoping for an opportunity, then I'm telling you again: it's almost certainly not going to happen, and even less likely if you're being passive and waiting for it.If you sincerely just "want to be friends", then lol idk what to tell you cuz that's a very, very strange position to be in. Like you both know you had a crush on her, but now you "just want" to do what? Play vidya together? Get high and discuss philosophy? Watch movies while she's texting other dudes? Can you see how strange this would be?
>>944863152Bro people are friends with someone after getting divorced. Why would this be any worse
>>944863483>people are friends with someone after getting divorced
>>944857628I actually have somewhat the same problem but it was never an argument or anything, I got expelled from our hs during my sophomore and his freshman yr and I stopped talking to him as the next school yr began, by this point we were both at different public schools at different parts of the city (we went to a private school tg) this was in August of 2023. We always send each other TikTok’s we even have a 300 day streak going, I plan on hitting him up to play some fortnite like next week after this legal thingy in my life finishes up, but I’ve spent so much time self isolating I’m scared I won’t know how to converse anymore. He’s told me multiple times he and our other mutual friend misses me and I miss them too, he’s one of the only people I see as my brother. Hopefully we can all reunite with our bros
>>944863712>avoids question>posts gifZoomer nigger
>>944863871Easy for you then because they've already said they wanna hear from you
>>944863881Ok friend, I'll be practical with you since it seems you actually don't understand how absurd your intentions are.>I'm still friends with my ex wife.Say this out loud without sounding like the gayest person in recorded history. Now ask yourself: what exactly do you want from this friendship? Do you wanna snuggle in bed with her while never having sex? Do you wanna sit beside her on the couch and watch movies while she texts her boyfriend? If so, why?Or do you wanna do casual hangouts, like going to yoga together? If so, why not just go do these things and find new friends? Why cling to the past?Or do you just want someone to chat with every now and then? If so, why her? What specifically about her is so valuable that you need her and not literally anyone else for this purpose?If despite all this consideration you still want HER, you're still in love and I will once again repeat: it's almost certainly not gonna happen.Next ask yourself: how would I even express my intentions in a way that's not weird as fuck? If you sincerely only want nothing more than to be friends, how do you explicitly tell her you want nothing more while asking her to be your friend? Do you see how weird this is? But if you don't tell her you don't want anything more than to be friends, she will absolutely think you're trying to get with her (because why the fuck else would you be doing this). And if you actually do want something more than to be friends, I will once again repeat: it's almost certainly not gonna happen.
>>944864530You can like someone as a friend but not a lover.
>>944864530Dont you have any female friends?
>>944865258Why her?
>>944865425I do, but for the ones I previously dated I'm only "friends" with as they're in my social circle. This is a far, far different situation than being outright rejected by a girl, not speaking for years after, then calling her up and wanting to just be friends one on one.
>>944865438We were good friends before the problem and have a lot in common hobby wise.
>>944857628write what you just wrote to us. Just reword it so it's addressed towards him, retard. Maybe flesh it a tiny bit up and leave your number in the mail at the end.
>>944864530Good post.
