with how many people do you talk per day?
>>2382806120-30Excluding online ~10Excluding relatives ~6Only real proper conversations 1, on a good day 2
>>23828061Not including forced interactions IRL, but I only talk to maybe 3 or 4 people I really enjoy a day, the rest I ignore.But the people I talk to aren't enough to satisfy my neediness so I always feel lonely
>>23828075>my neediness so I always feel lonelyAre you atleast a cute girl or boy or a grown ass nigger
>>238280617 non-family members irl
>>23828069most of these people are from work or school i assume? What is a proper conversation to you and why are the other not one if i might ask?>>23828075why do you ignore some people?>>23828091are you satisfied with that?
>>23828239>are you satisfied with that?I like to be alone but I also don't like losing ties, so I try to keep contact with everyone to a minimum (sending messages and stuff) and go out with them from time to time, I'm satisfied with this.
>>23828239I talk to a lot of people online (a lot compared to online at least)Yeah I have a little study group. Very rough but mostly accurate definition for a proper conversation is the one that ends up being more than 2-3 i guess. Anything that is more than the typical "Hey, how are you? How's your family?" stuff that we have where I live that only exists due to manners that people have. Still matters tho, I shouldn't be ungrateful about it.Its sometimes 2 because idk sometimes I just initiate or they do. I got like 2 close friends and I actually enjoy talking to them.
>>23828250has there ever been a moment when there were too many to keep contact? what did or would you do?>>23828262>I just initiate or they do. I got like 2 close friends and I actually enjoy talking to them.Keep them close and good luck with that.
>>23828281Thanks. Though I'm not trying anymore I just happen to be friends with them. I used to have a lot more until I realized they're only respond when I talk to them first, like I'm the dependent part. I'll be honest I prefer it this way because its better to have no friends than have ones where priority is low and there's only one-sided effort.
>>23828281>has there ever been a moment when there were too many to keep contact? what did or would you do?I'm not sure if it fits the question perfectly, but one of my friends sends me really long audio messages and because of me trying to answer each point of the discussed matters, sometimes we end up with a time difference of like 100 messages between him and me. Usually, whoever is running late says they'll answer everything later, we forget about it, and we go back to talking as if nothing happened. Every now and then I also lose track of time and go a long time without talking to person X or Y, so I try to make plans or start a conversation about a random topic/news item.
>>23828061outside of whats required for work?mostly no one....but i do sometimes and family will hit me up tooi like and prefer being alone most days and have no friendsanons are the only people i really talk to/with>>23828075interaction is needed but solitude is where you find your true self>>23828091damn..social butterfly hah
>>23828304>damn..social butterflyI'm not good at making friendships, I just try to keep the ones I make over time. I also generally prefer being alone.
>>23828297>I used to have a lot more until I realized they're only respond when I talk to them first, like I'm the dependent part.tell me about it... its so fucking terrible. I also feel like not having friends and just being alone is better than that but you inevitably want to have friends again. its sad and viscous cycle >>23828302so you kinda shut down if i understand? what if you somehow end up with too many friends or other connections to manage, what would you do then was the question but i guess the answer is the same>>23828304>anons are the only people i really talk to/withsame. thanks for being here with the rest of us. thanks everyone.
>>23828061irl or even hearing their voice? On average its either 0 or 1. Talking to people online? Usually 1-3
>>23828317>so you kinda shut down if i understand?In the case I mentioned, yes (but he does it too). It's the closest thing to something that makes me a little tired sometimes in this context.>what if you somehow end up with too many friendsI would simply reduce the frequency of interactions with people I'm less close to.
>irl: 1 (my mom)>randos online: several
>>23828309glad you're able to maintain those friendships, i'm really quite terrible at it which is part of the reason im alonei fill my seasons with education and intellectual stimulation these days.....quit video games almost 3 years ago toowill have to come out of retirement when the new Horizon drops though, the last two were great>>23828317>same. thanks for being here with the rest of us. thanks everyone.anons are the realistsad i thought bant was just a trash board for so long but we're here now hah>>23828325we need to get that (you) count up :)>>23828333trips o:
>>23828325>irl or even hearing their voice?i mean kinda every interaction. Irl and online but nobody needs to estimate how many anons they talk to. with numbered online interaction i imagine something regular and not completely anon. should have put this in the op... >>23828333 (checked)are you having fun?>>23828331>I would simply reduce the frequency of interactions with people I'm less close to.>simplydo your abilities come naturally to you or did you need to put in "outside effort" into being this way?>>23828338>anons are the realistueah they are too often the only people that get it. too bad that getting too close makes them not anon anymore damn.
I talk to like 5 or 6 people per day. 2 of them are discord friends who I talk to every evening.
>>23828338>glad you're able to maintain those friendshipsThanks. So far I've been handling it well, but to be honest, I'm prepared in case I have to ghost everyone someday. I feel like I'm slowly falling behind, and when the time comes when everyone but me is married, I might just abruptly stop keeping in touch. If I get the financial means, that applies to my family as well.>i fill my seasons with education and intellectual stimulation these days.....quit video games almost 3 years ago tooI've thought about putting all the goyslop aside and trying to be productive in all my free time, but I never had the willpower to make it happen.>>23828354>or did you need to put in "outside effort" into being this way?Yes, I still remember that in the midst of the pandemic I had basically forgotten how to interact with other human beings. I had to adapt over time and gradually change to seem less neurodivergent than I really am. Many things changed in me during that period that still affect me today, such as compulsively swearing in social settings and using repeatable slangs as a way to try to improve my diction.
>>23828576>I feel like I'm slowly falling behind, and when the time comes when everyone but me is married, I might just abruptly stop keeping in touch. If I get the financial means, that applies to my family as well.if it helps you know that you are not the only one thinking or planning these things. it just makes sense if you ask me.>I had to adapt over time and gradually change to seem less neurodivergent than I really am.do you feel like you could describe those a bit? i also do the same but i don't know what exactly changes. dunno where I and the learned stuff begins. its all so confusing always. im happy you manage somehow
>>23828061visit mum once a week and talk to her then, otherwise nobody irl or online
>>23828697>you are not the only one thinking or planning these thingsDo you plan to do something similar? >it just makes sense if you ask meIt depends on the individual. I simply consider myself someone who won't achieve what's necessary in life to be well-regarded by those around me. If I were normal, I probably wouldn't think like this.>do you feel like you could describe those a bit?Sure. Some examples of basic skills I had to learn were how to greet people. I didn't know what to say when I saw someone during the pandemic, but over time I started noticing some patterns which people commonly use, for example, saying someone's name excitedly upon seeing them. Like>hey, anon!>anoooon (I can't explain the correct intonation in text, so you'll have to use your imagination for now)Another example of something I didn't do back then was to greet people when arriving at places. Nowadays I always say good morning/afternoon/evening when I arrive somewhere. Another issue I had a lot of trouble with was not knowing whether or not I should look people in the eye, and for how long I should do it (yeah, maintaining eye contact for too long can be weird to the other person), but I only need to remember that when I'm nervous, since when I'm comfortable it's like my brain does that analysis for me.>but i don't know what exactly changesI don't know if it actually happens, but I feel like it gives more weight to my words. It's as if, between two sentences saying the same thing, the one with the swear word manages to convey the feeling of the speak better. As for the use of slangs, if I can't think of something I want to say right away, I say something to buy time like "u know what I'm sayin'" and such.
>>23828868>Do you plan to do something similar?yeah. I'm still conflicted and stuff but i feel like im just going to die if i stay here. sometimes they make me feel ok and i depend on their mercy for now (money) but shit they just don't get it do they?>If I were normal, I probably wouldn't think like this.tell me of one person like us that is, anon>Sure. Some examples of basic skills I had to learn were how to greet people[...]and that comes just by observation? or where there any existing resources or advice you followed?>I say something to buy time like "u know what I'm sayin'" and such.i always say these things especially online buy not because im buying time but i don't know how to explain lel
>>238280614chan: I receive around 4-5 (you)s per dayImaginary people: 3 active tulpas atmSpirit/demons: I have 1 or 2 appearing at night sometimes
>>23828061~3in a regular basis
>>23828061a zillion
>>23828971>I'm still conflicted and stuff but i feel like im just going to dieI know how you feel.>they just don't get it do they?What do they do that makes you feel so uncomfortable like that?>and that comes just by observation?From what I can consciously remember, yes. It was from observing how people around me acted in their simple actions.>but i don't know how to explain Sometimes it just becomes a habit, there doesn't need to be a reason. But well, when I'm here I really speak very differently from how I talk in real life, although I still swear quite a bit here.
