Should I invest in restoring my relationship with my father after falling out?I am thinking it may affect future inheritance. But with boomers you never know how much they will screw you in the end. He may leave it all to my sisters.
>>61565915Suck your father's cock and he will give you all the inheritance you desire
>>61565915If he really is a boomer, then you are already in your forties. A man in his forties scheming about his potential inheritance is a failure in life and you were probably disowned for good reason.
>>61565940Not likely, he seems like a deceiver and a user plus now that my sisters (all fucking 5 of them) all have children and I am left childless so far, the situation seems dire
>>61565946You are very judgmental and mean
>>61565946>If he really is a boomer, then you are already in your fortiesNo.>https://www.investopedia.com/terms/b/baby_boomer.asp>A baby boomer is an individual born between 1946 and 1964
>>61565915Why did you fall out?
>>61565915In my country all "children" inherit equal parts of a property no matter what. Suppose you want to leave inheritance to one son/daughter only but you have 4 children. All of them must legally agree by signing a paper in front of a lawyer. You can't leave inheritance to third parties. You can be a dick as you want to your parents here lolt. Argie faggot
>>61565947>I am left childless so far, the situation seems direEasy. Take out a loan and buy a bunch of surrogates and top tier donors to merge with your sperm. When he sees your army of genetically elite progeny compared to your sisters' inferior kids that are more likely to be genetic dead ends, he will see you as the more promising option for his inheritance to sustain his bloodline into the future and the assets will will be yours. You can take some of it as a forward payment before he dies to pay the loan back.
>>61565976In the country I live in, you have the option of giving a larger proportion to certain children and less to others. They are all legally entitled to a specific minimum share.So for years, he told me that he was going to give me the lion share, supposedly wrote it down in a hand written will.Recently claimed that he had been burglarized and will was stolen. I doubt that at this time he has a will that stipulates something like that, if he even had one before Overall I feel he was manipulating me, maybe it was true maybe it wasn't. But I am quite sure I am going to get the short end of the stick
>>61565915I'm in the same boat OP, though I am in my 40s. Our falling out was over covid and my decision to remain pure. Boomer has major NPD and TDS, he religiously watches Stephen Colbert. Unlike your situation, there was nothing two-way about mine. It was all the fault of the broken minded boomer unable to process reality and every member of my family is on my side, no one is on his side. I reached out earlier this year and while he did respond, it's clear his TDS is terminal. He took zero responsibility for a situation that is entirely his fault. I'm not going to lie and tell him what he wants to hear (that I took the vaxx and Fauci is a Saint), the $500k or so I would be set to inherit isn't worth my dignity. I'm not a whore. Are you a whore OP?
>>61565915It’s a good idea Anon. Eventually his health will fail and he will need help. Your sisters - being women - likely will not be willing or available. I reconciled with my father. Ended up taking care of him in his final years. I got power of attorney and am the executor of his estate. I saved our family home from being reverse mortgaged and also saved all his investments from vanishing in smoke. Without that I would not have inherited a thing - likewise neither would my siblings who now will be provided for. Boomers are retarded and completely out of touch with the modern world. On top of that, said world has become a series of predatory traps intending to milk wealth from Boomers on their way out the door. You have a responsibility to protect your father, your family, and your inheritance from that. Anyone who says differently is a jew, upset that one of their schemes won’t bear fruit by robbing your family.
>>61566058Similar situation for me. But the reality is it doesn’t need to define your relationship. Literally all of my family got multiple shots. Now they are all dead or dying, and wondering why I’m not. Just don’t bring it up, or politics. There’s a lot more to our loved ones than how they navigate the fucked up clown world we are all in. What flavour of propaganda lies they subscribe to. Put it aside. Focus on good common ground and shared interest. The shots have done their work now it’s just watching it all unravel.
>>61566058>Our falling out was over covid and my decision to remain pureBro! Same!I already forgot that was at the root of it all, but that was actually the spark that blew the fuse
>>61566058>Boomer has major NPDYeah my father is a major league narcissist. This was diagnosed by a psychiatrist. He would be very distant when I was a child and when I performed badly in school he would should at me furiously calling me names such as >failure>donkey>retard
>>61566073Good ideas
>>61566058>the $500k or so I would be set to inherit isn't worth my dignity. I'm not a whore. Are you a whore OP?You can call it any dirty name in the book but I would go to great lengths to acquire 500k. Money is life.
>>61566012Be happy with the minimum share, anon. I've read you have 5 sisters, each with children, while you're childless. It's over, my friend. Deal with the pain of being manipulated and lied to. Maybe your father knows you know you won't get shit already, considering the circumstances, but he doesn't know if you understand/accept why. Be happy with the bare minimum, I think everyone here would leave the minimum to their neet childless son. Suppose your father changes his mind and leaves you the biggest possible share of his properties. Your sisters will hate you forever and cut all sort of communication with you. Maybe you are a nice uncle to your nephews/nieces and you love them, you'll never see them again. That would be a tragedy.
>>61566058Holy brainrotted MAGA faggot
>>61566154I think that even when I get children and smooth things out, the damage is done and the getting the lionshare idea is off the table for goodHe has reconciled with one of my 5 sisters, meeting her, her husband and her children regularly now. On top of that she is his first child so she is naturally more valuable to him.Best case scenario at this time seems to be: >he does not reconcile with the other 4>he reconciles with meBoth me and my big sister get somewhat more than the other 4
>>61566174But, if all goes well, I expect my father to live 17 more years. A lot can change in that time.Nevertheless, if his financial situation is good, he may give some money already in 5-7 years. This reduces tax and his parents did the same for him. But he said recently he will not do that because after his death its not his problem. He probably meant that. But may have a change of heartNot sure. There are a lot of layers of misdirection and deception at play here. Nobody knows anything at this point
>>61566137>You can call it any dirty name in the book but I would go to great lengths to acquire 500k. Money is life.I hear you. The way I phrased it is how I frame it for myself now to feel good about it. In reality, the $500k would help me for sure, I mean holy shit, it would be like winning the lottery. It's certainly worth your exploring to see if reconciliation is possible. That's why I reached out to mine earlier. But mine is so far gone. I'd have to basically prostrate myself to him and his delusions. There's zero room for negotiation or discussion, it's his way or the highway at this point (he's mentally very fragile). I've wasted a lot of mental capital over the last few years trying to make sense of the situation and I realized the blind spot I had to his NPD my entire life. He lies a lot, and not just about big things, but little things too. He's just not someone I respect at all. In a sense, if there is someone who deserves to be lied to it's him. So perhaps I should just smile and lie and play his game. I thought about it for sure. But I just can't. It wasn't an easy decision. Having a nice PM stack of my own has helped. If I was struggling I'd probably go the whore route.>>61566112Ya "never forget, never forgive" has special meaning for me for the people responsible for the propaganda that absolutely broke the mind of my father.
You guys really lifted my spirit and replenished my will to fight for my inheritance. Going to meet up with my father this week for new year. Like visit him on January 1st with my wife
>>61566237500k is just what the doctor ordered to make me whole again after losing 200-300k in cryptoNever give up anon, wagmi
>>61566237Having read the details of your post I'll just leave you with this:Don't go all in but dca small bits regularly. It may pay off bigly but if it wont, no big deal. Don't overextend and get rest. I paid 200-300k to learn this lesson, I give it to you for free.Peace be with you
>>61566265* get rekt Damn auto correct
I just realized the true purpose of the covid scamdemic It was to jew millennials out of their inheritance
>>61566237Those who don't forgive others only punish themselves.Get over your political bullshit. If you can't set your opinions aside and talk about something else, then you are a massive egotist and brainlet.
>>61566865>Get over your political bullshit. If you can't set your opinions aside and talk about something else, then you are a massive egotist and brainlet.that's all fine and good and nice to say, but these people won't let you not be political. i've been telling my parents since long before trump that i think its all fake and gay and they mostly agreed, then 2016 happened and now if i dont have TDS i am a lunatic to them. ive gone out of my way to avoid talking about any type of politics and they still try to drag me into it. maybe your experience with boomers is different but trump mind broke them. the pro trump ones are almost as bad but it's easier to pretend with them that you give a shit. the anti trump ones need more than just verbal assurance, they want to see you get as angry as they are.
>>61565915Make your own money loser.
My sister was disowned recently and now I get the entire estate, which is quite substantial.
>>61565915He already knows what a POS you are.
>>61568205>>61568410Haters gonna hate
>>61565915Whether your father remembers you as a problem son is up to you. The rest of the time after that you have to question whether you're ok with how it all turned out.
>>61568450I don't get what you are saying
>>61568452Whether you respect him when he's gone is up to him. Whether you respect yourself when he's gone is up to you.
>>61568481Still not quite sure what this means. Are you saying that I shouldn't bow down for promises of riches? But we do that every day of our lives pretty much. Yes sir thank you sir etc
>>61565954It is mean what he said. Everyone on this board is trying to be the snarky unironic shitbag, but he’s right. You’re a failure as a man anon. I know it’s not easy but try to fix it before you begin to repair your relationship with your dad
>>61568498How am I a failure for caring about inheritance? Are you insane?
>>61568223Why? I gotta ask
>>61568507Let’s just say she did a bad thing.
>>61568490You sound like a prostitute which complicates any conversation about fatherhood.
>>61568516Grow up
>>61566058Take cock to get 500k? sign me up for the whore house.
>>61566172Did you forget about Trump championing "Operation Warp Speed?"
>>61565915You sound like a mid-tier Disney villain.
>>61568507She had a mulatto baby probably
Damn, anon's asking relationship advise in biz.. So... how long is your Dad gonna live? 10 years? May be 20? Don't need to be his slave but nothing wrong in making up with him.
>>61571881I'm thinking he will live 12-17 years more
sounds like he was right in disowning you, you sociopathic faggot.
98% chance he will write you out of his will even if you personally provide him with 24/7 elder care.99% chance he will reverse mortgage his home and spend everything before he dies leaving you homeless. 100% chance probate court will award you your legal fair share of the inheritance (if there's anything left).
>>61566122My friends dad was like this. I remember hanging with him when we were 13 and we were doing homework together and neither of us were understanding this one problem, so he went to his dad, and his dad was doing a shitty job at explaining it, and the dad started to get frustrated and was saying shit like "WHAT IS X OVER X??", and my friend would be silent because he didn't know, and the dad would say "ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID? WHAT IS X OVER X???". I remember thinking "holy shit this guy is a fucking asshole".He's 22 now and while they do talk...it's very cordial. Like a stranger talking to another stranger and just being polite. Having a narcissist parent must really fucking suck, they essentially don't care about your feelings at all as a baseline, and God forbid if you make them angry, it's never their fault that they get angry, it's your fault for causing them to lose their temper. IMO these kinds of people should be tied down to a chair and berated and slapped around for days on end until they lose all of their ego.
>>61572171yeah he is the is the most narcissistic prick ever. Also has been ripping on me like hell for going bald. Him and his boomer friends would rip on me together about it in myearly 20s it destroyed my self confidence for years. He even asked my wife several times why she would marry a bald guy
>>61572171>they essentially don't care about your feelings at all as a baseline, and God forbid if you make them angryThey go completely off the rails, from 0 to 100 in a blink. It's very unsettling
