depends on my wifes mood. I usually dress pretty well but sometimes i have to 'dumb it down' because I don't need her in a bitchy mood because Im better dressed than she is. And she will match what I wear, which I don't like because I feel I'm being rude, if that makes sense. Like she's the one that is taking an hour plus to get ready and then she'll see what I'm wearing and want to change her entire outfit to 'match' it. Usually I end up just changing into something that matches hers to avoid this.

Occasionally matching (denim on denim or jorts and ringer shirt) but she dresses more fancy than I usually do.

>>18689016
Sounds hellish. I hope the pussy is worth it, at least.

>>18689016
My man you need to change your perspective on this and help your woman. It will make both your lives easier. This is rooted in female psychology/politics. Though your wife may not understand why she's doing what she's doing.

TL;DR your wife caring about matching your fits is a massive compliment/show that she is attracted to you and thinks you are high status.

First understand that it in current year, is not common for the man to out dress the woman. When a man is well dressed, it signals status to all women.

So, when your wife sees you well dressed, she likes it a lot and she knows other women will like it too. She's afraid of being seen in public not matching you, because that would signal to other women that she is not worthy of you and that you are potentially available/steal-able. Women gain status amongst themselves through their husbands.

When other women see a couple dressed in matching fits like in OP (not matchy-matchy but aesthetically similar), they get intimidated. They instinctively know the man is the one who is putting the fits together and that he is dressing her, which means he values her and they are a good "match". The woman in that relationship instantly gains status among her peers by virtue of her high status man displaying that he values her.

>>18689016
>>18689650 (continued)
Now considering all that
>I don't need her in a bitchy mood because Im better dressed than she is
this makes sense, she is literally feeling a loss of status and the stress of judgment from other women.

>And she will match what I wear, which I don't like because I feel I'm being rude, if that makes sense
No it does not make sense for you to feel rude. She wants to match you because she finds you very attractive and high status. It's a compliment that she wants to match you. If she didn't care about losing you, she wouldn't care about matching you.

>Like she's the one that is taking an hour plus to get ready and then she'll see what I'm wearing and want to change her entire outfit to 'match' it.
So help her out. Show her what you will be wearing BEFORE she starts getting ready.

>Usually I end up just changing into something that matches hers to avoid this.
Do not do this, it will hurt you in the long run. You are the man, you set the tone, do not teach your wife that she can control you. Wear what YOU want and help her adapt to you, she will be happier in the long run. Your independent drive is likely what an aspect that attracted her to you in the first place.

Note -- not all women do this to this degree, though all do it to SOME degree. You just happened to bag a very status conscious woman, territorial woman. Consider it cute/endearing, you'll be happier for it.

>>18689650
>>18689652
/r9k/ armchair psychologists are a riot