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This is an outfit I tried on. I like this style but need to make everything even cuter.. I don't know. I just really want help with looking better.

ywnbaw

>>18699719
Damn, I get it yall think all girls are trans but like can I get help on it aside of like the whole ywnbaw thing?

>>18699720
nta but even if you're female, you have that very distinct discord tranny aesthetic
I take it, thats what you're going for, so thats fine with me
rn your whole look screams insecure and "seeking validation", which is also fine, it is what it is, it's just that thats why you feel like your aura is weak and why you try to figure out what's missing
whats missing is soul and your spark, you feel like you're not really here, like you'd rather be anything but whatever it is you are rn
you can work on that, ofc, and you can even keep the aesthetic because thats not the issue, the issue is that you lack grounding, you're floating somewhere in the aether rn, existing basically only online and hiding behind screens
if you want to feel ensouled again and you'd have to start pulling yourself back into the right frequency
you can absolutely do that with the clothes you wear, the wax you do your hair etc
first of, you should start to really focus on the quality of the garments you invest in and put on your body, they should have substance
how you know a piece of clothing has substance is to ask yourself how much care and effort went into making this, a polyester dress from temu will just make you feel even less really or worthy, what you'd need is some hand made cotton velvet embroidered dress or something like that, a fairy coded lavender beaded silk dress, you need something that makes you feel like it's too precious to even wear
as for your hair, you need to start to be in charge of your hair again instead of letting it wear you, you need to start wearing it again
instead of being a slave to it, making yourself small to ensure every hair looks exactly like your anime inspiration makes you subordinate to whats on your head, it should be the other way around, your hair should serve you, it should confidently be an extension and expression of you
rn I'd want to wash it twice, blow dry it head over for wild volume, then give it a dramatic blowout, try that

>>18699723
Thank you for the advice,

I am currently trying to actually make some clothes myself so maybe I'll make something with this vibe and wear it instead of some random dress I thought was pretty in a random shop.

About the hair, it's the first day after the haircut so I actually didn't have much to do with it, I would totally wash it twice and blow dry it but if I do wash it twice the color will be gone inmediately. I washed it once since yesterday with cold water and it stayed on but I don't want to take a chance for it to wear off in the first 2 days.

Should I maybe add some handmade accessories? I enjoy making earrings and charms. I can also do some 'decent' crochet, so I can totally try to get better at it and make cuter clothes.


Thank you really for the advice, I will try my best to not have my hair be what decides for me but me deciding over my hair. I honestly usually wear some pigtails, but I hadn't today so that's why it's like that.

I am in fact insecure and honestly yeah... I do seek validation. I will try my best to find validation in myself, meanwhile I'll follow your advice!

>>18699726
yes absolutely, anything you made yourself or someone else made by investing time and effort into it instead of mass produced empty material is a wonderful start, be it accessories, jewelry or clothes!
I get that you don't want to wash out the color and that it's stylist done, thats probably why it feels off and so "not you", like it's a wig that was plopped on to your head
I feel like even just roughing it up with your hands and flip it over would do it good, it needs to feel alive again and like it's actually coming out of your head, something you grew yourself, lol
I think the goal will always be that you look into the mirror and think "hell yeah" and how you inch closer to that is by only putting things in and on your body that make you think "hell yeah" whenever you see or interact with it and thats usually the unique and effort intense pieces made from top notch materials and not some flimsy mass produces crap
good luck and have fun <3

>>18699727
Thank you so much <3

The dye is actually done at home... So it'd feel even like more extra effort wasted if it washed off inmediately. But I will try to rough up my hair a bit and see if I can get it to look more 'me'

Do you think some strawberry earrings would look cute with the dress right now? I don't really have many clothes that I can actually wear. I have some strawberry charms and can make some cute bow and strawberry earrings myself.

I have some other earrings that might fit the color more but... they're not really that 'me'

I will be getting into crochet again and make myself some cute top for summer.

>>18699717
can we get another outfit? This isn't enough for us to actually give you advice
Btw are you a tranny? Because you give off discord tranny vibes

>>18699730
yes absolutely, the strawberry earrings sound very cute, you're on the right track, anything that feels like "very you" is exactly what you should be doing
I hope you find the energy to complete many pretty DIY projects you get a lot of joy from

>>18699731
I honestly started wearing clothes I felt happier with recently, so I don't really have many outfit pictures, but let me search for one!

And I'm AFAB. But I do spend too much time on discord and playing vidya... so maybe that's where the vibe came from

>>18699734
wtf is an AFAB? English please...

>>18699735
Assigned Female at Birth

>>18699731
>>18699734


I looked through my phone and can't really find any pics, I just used to wear the same... sweater... all the time. Because I didn't have clothes that felt like 'me' and I was trying to not make myself too visible by others because of anxiety.


I would really like to stay on the aesthetic of the outfit I posted though, it feels more like myself than the other... styles... I tried so far.

I just want to look cute, kind of pink coquette with a lot of bows and pink and white... I also really love jewelery but rarely wear it because it never fits my outfit (it's too 'basic' to fit anything).

I have some clothes but most of them are from my teens and they don't even feel like myself anymore. I am willing to spend time getting new clothes and making new clothes though, so any recommendations following this style/aesthetic are welcome

>>18699715
>>18699717
Strawberry shortcake core
that being said, be my gf pl0x

>>18699733
Should I also try some light/natural makeup? I'm actually quite pale, even if it's barely visible because of the light in my room.

I'd love to try some new makeup styles but I never practiced until recently so I'm learning how to do makeup.

I have like... 4 strawberry charms. Should I make the earrings and add a matching necklace or is that too much?

>>18699741
you could try shower makeup, where you do your makeup right before taking a shower so there's no pressure to want to be seen in it since it's going to be washed off again right after anyways, that way you can be more experimental and bold with it, play around to see if anything sticks and makes you feel more like you

sure, whatever makes you feel excited about your outfit is a great idea
you probably already do that but a good method is to look at inspo pics and save them to a folder just to get a feel for what vibe it is you're going for, that can help you pin down your next move because you might observe that you keep saving pics of a specific color or cut or theme, and then you only have to find ways to incorporate that aspect into your current look by using what you already have or maybe going to a thrift store with a vision in mind, thats also a great way to source decent clothes for less money so it doesn't feel too daunting to spend so much money on an experiment you're not sure yet you have the confidence to pull off
also, another good thing to do when you're trying to come out of your shell and find your style is to just wear the outfits around the house to get used to them and still put on your "don't look at me" hoodie when going outside
feeling perceived can be uncomfortable but don't let that keep you from being playful with your style in the safety of your room, it also takes a while for things to truly feel like "you" and it helps to just put that dress and makeup on and do that new hairstyle even if all you do is play vidja for three hours straight
actually wearing the things (also the jewelry!) helps tremendously with starting to feel like they align with you

>>18699742
Thank you! I honestly sometimes just get all dolled up just to stay at home and it honestly makes me feel cute. So I will try doing it more often!

I often use pink shades for makeup too, if there's anything I should know for it to not stand out too much and just keep it simple and there so I just feel like I actually put in effort on myself I'd apreciate it.

I don't really like wearing makeup thats too flashy yet, because it's not what I'm looking for and draws in too much attention.

>>18699745
yes, as with the hair, the trick with makeup is that it shouldn't wear you, it shouldn't look painted on, it should look almost like that just appeared on your face randomly because it's a manifestation of how you feel inside, so good methods are subtle colors that match your overall color palette of your body (for example, a good way to find a well suited lip shade is to match it to the color of your nipples, lol), and to keep the layers thin, blended snd well worked in
exe shadow will look much more like it's just the way you are if you build it up in barely there sheer layers on top of each other instead of slapping on some paint, thats a look too but I don't think it fits your aesthetic, thats more bold geometric runway energy
experiment with translucent, shimmery, pastel things that feel fairy coded and remind you of flower petals and mother of pearl

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>>18699746
I have this eyeshadow palette I really like, I usually only use the softer shades, I also have another one similar to it but with more pastel tones.

I usually just add a bit of pink to the eyeshadow and then a bit of blush. Rarely use lipstick and when I do it's usually similar to my lip color with some gloss on top

>>18699748
that sounds about right, yes
I also feel like you'd profit from trying out brown eye liner and mascara instead of black, that might be too harsh and contrast-y for the dreamy color palette you're going for

>>18699749
Ohhhh I didn't actually think of that! Black eyeliner and mascara do make my eyes look.. aggressive.

I will try out some of my mother's eyeliner, she has a brown one, and if it looks better I'll get myself one!

>>18699717
Cute socks. Post more pics

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>>18699750
perfect :)
idk how experienced you are with makeup so excuse me if I say too obvious things but for this look you probably should also only go for one costing of mascare and make it look just like "your lashes but slightly better", so what I personally do is I take the wand and wipe off any excess product on a cosmetic towel and then only do one thin coating and after that I use a little metal brush to separate the lashes so they don't look heavy and clumpy but light, airy, natural and soft
if you don't have one like that you can just use an old mascara want you washed out
another thing that often makes people feel like a clown instead of pretty when trying on makeup is to overline the corners of their mouth when applying lip color
if you look closely at your lips you probably can see that there's a line where the face skin turns into lip skin and it's tempting to orient yourself on the outer area of that but in the mouth corners you should always end the application on the inner rim of that boundary or you'll look like you have a frog mouth and will want to wipe it off again

>>18699754
THANK YOU SO MUCH <3

Genuine life saver. I'm really bad at makeup and not really experienced, genuinely had a 'I hate pink and makeup' phase for a LONG time...So I never worked on it. I'm going to ss the post so I can actually follow the advice. The very detailed tutorial actually helps a lot.

>>18699756
never too late, lol and the fact you're interested in it again now seems like a good sign that you're starting to overcome that "don't look at me" phase, so thats good for you
just don't turn it into something that makes you feel bad by attaching too much pressure and expectations on it, thats why I emphasize the "be playful and experimental with it and don't worry about being seen in your new look for now. just get used to it in the privacy of your own company until it feels right" so much
basically, if you feel the nee to go wash your face and put on your sweater before someone sees you, thats not a bad sign, it just means you need a little more time still and thats ok

>>18699759
Thank you <3

I'm getting off 4chan for a bit. I genuinely appreciate all the help.

I'm gonna get working on the earrings!

>>18699761
good luck, I hope you have lots of fun with figuring out this newly awoken side of you <3

>>18699736
>Assigned Female at Birth
Female isn't homework you were assigned.

If you're female it is because you don't have an active SRY gene.

>ooh woe is me, I don't like using 4chan
>Posts here anyway, looking for attention.
Holes man, holes.

>>18699772
Who doesn't like 4chan....? lol

>>18699772
white people crazy

>>18699739
You want to look cute for who? What would you say if some random guy approached you one the street, said you are cute and gave you his number?
Despite your insecurity did you ever had bf who had sex with you? Was you bf chad or at least "bad boy"?

>>18699795
I want to look cute for myself.

I don't know why sex is related to anything here but I'm not a virgin LOL.

I just want to look cute for myself and while I learn how to love myself receive compliments from family and friends.

>>18699796
You conveniently ignored question on who was man you had sex with.
It's related because you was able to had sex despite being insecure. But I bet you would be disgusted and never want anything to do with similarly insecure man

>>18699715
>>18699717
get a better hairdresser
get rid of the fringe
go for a middle part
and you did not ask about your weight but you should lose some, it will slim your face down and you won't have to hide if behind that puffy fringe or use the sides of your hair to pull of the face slimming trick.

>>18699812
I... don't like men? LOL. I never had a confident partner tho.

>>18699817
>pull of
pull off

>>18699817
I'm trying to lose weight, sadly I have meds that make it extremely hard to and just keep on making me gain.

Reddit thread started by a discord tranny and you eat it up

>>18699822
I thought you would finally drop the discord tranny allegations LMAO they're kinda stupid and have been proven to be fake.

>>18699823
Buy yourself a scarf you snowman

>>18699825
What is that supposed to mean?

You are too fat to be conventionally hot.
You're attractive to men because men will fuck anything, and you're cute and thighs look soft etc.

But you're not going to be really aesthetically pleasing OR making men reconsider life choices with that kind of body.

So yes, losing weight before ANY other advice.

>>18699829
Okay, do you have any advice because I genuinely can't lose weight because of meds.

>>18699830
>I genuinely can't lose weight because of meds.

Oh okay you're stupid. No, no advice to stupid people, they can't follow it.

>>18699831
No like, I'm on heavy doses of psych meds that make me gain weight. I genuinely want to lose weight.

>>18699832
>I'm on heavy doses of psych meds that make me gain weight

Okay now it dawned on me you're a troll. I'll stop engaging I suggest the rest of the retards do the same.

>>18699833
I'm not a troll. Sadly for me. I genuinely need advice. Sorry if my words seem weird or something.

>>18699717
Hey chubs, hit the treadmill, youre too damn fat.

>>18699844
Will do. I just need to find a gym or something, don't have one at home and don't really have money to pay for a gym. I try to go on walks a lot tho.

>>18699715
The hair in the right picture looks styled properly, if you want a different look just copy a hairstyle you liked and you saw on someone else.
You have pretty light skin and imo the bright pink makes it look duller, so I recommend you either use a lot of makeup to make up for it, go for the whole e-girl look with a blush, heavy eyeliner, big fake lashes etc. or you go back to the bleached blond color.
"Look better" is largely a matter of taste, if you want to change something up you should first know what you're going for, otherwise it'll always be a shot in the dark.
If you want to look cutesy you can easily look up "lolita/tradwife/e-girl/alt-girl aesthetic" and such, and then buy some pieces in those styles.
All those styles are associated with skinny frames, so you may want to lose weight.
>>18699717
Is that the specific way you usually dress or just an outfit you tried on?
Anyway, the dress being more pink than your skin has the same effect as the hair, it makes your skin look duller.
If you want to go for pink outfits at least try to create more contrast with your skin, try a much darker pink for example.
>>18699832
Psych meds might change your mood and energy expenditure, which may lead to increased appetite or increased weight while consuming the same amount of food, but they don't make you gain weight, and you can indeed lose weight while taking them.
Your (mental) health is more important than your weight and it should be your priority, and if that's being taken care of you can go on a diet and exercise regime that will make you lose weight; if you're unable or unwilling to find what works by yourself, your primary care physician should be open to talking about it and helping you out.

>>18699847


The pink will be gone in like 2 or 3 washes, I can actually try my best to get it removed with warm water and go for the blonde look.

I understand what you mean with being able to lose weight, I will try my best to go on a diet (that isn't too strict and is medically supervised because of a history of past ED) and do more physical activity so I can lose weight.

I tried this outfit, usually dress very... hoodie/sweater and oversized pants. Because I'm not used to liking being seen. But I really want to be more femenine because I really like the way it looks and I love pink.

I'm misinformed about the meds making you gain weight because I gained 30kg in half a year because of Olanzapine changing everything. I used to be around 50kg and now I'm around 90kg. The first 30kg were quick to gain and then I gained the rest slowly.

I also have a problem with going on diets because of ARFID. I can't really eat foods out of my comfort ones, I can try my best but it might be useless.


Sorry for the unorganized post, I will try to see how I can get my skin to look less dull while wearing soft pinks, because I don't really like hot pinks or darker pinks on me, except if they are a pale or dull color.


Thank you for taking your time to reply.

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>>18699717
I feel like you need lots of layering because it feels very heavy, especially the bangs. Like the other anons said, losing weight is detrimental. You've got a nice body shape; losing 15-20 pounds will do you so much good.

>>18699852
Okok! How fast should I aim to lose it though,,,

>>18699733
u make me wanna vomit nigga chill out a bit man

>>18699715
iunno have you looked into wolfcuts

>>18699715
>got told to come here
Stop heeding the advice of whoever told you that, they were trolling you.

>>18699880
ok! ^_^

>>18699726
You look like a fat clown in a wig bro
Grow up

>>18699878
I haven’t because I wear a wig :(

>>18699889
Came looking for constructive criticism not straight up insults lmao.

>>18699891
Can't even copy me properly.

>>18699717
Bro you have linebacker shoulders huge man hands and are wearing a hat made out of synthetic pink nylon strands
You are literally Visibly Transgender
Maybe try the gay board or the cosplay board because this isnt the place for this kind of shit
Also delete your thread thanks

>>18699892
Prove it isn’t a wig you dumbass crossdresser

>>18699893
LMAO would delete the thread but it wont let me. Sucks I guess. Anyways thanks for telling me I look like a guy, really a nice way to talk to someone.

I'm not even trans and it's not a wig. I just don't get why yall are so fucking retarded to not notice I'm not lying LMAO.

Yall are fucking idiotic.

Reply logic:

> you seem insecure.

Also reply logic:

> Let's call you a discord tranny and also call you fucking ugly and fat.


Yall are real mature.

>>18699846
Just going for walks is a good start.

>>18699832
Alright I will give you the benefit of the doubt because I'm bored at work waiting to clock out.

Weight gain from psych meds isn't caused by any significant changes in metabolism, at least not to a meaningful degree, the primary driver or weight gain is simply increased appetite, which will typically result in weight gain if you're not following any structured diet plan and just eating whenever you're hungry, which will obviously be more often. It's still down to what and how much you're eating and how active you are.

The solution is simply to eat more filling foods, especially whole foods with fiber, count calories, choose one of many solutions to alleviate hunger without eating a caloric meal that works for you (water, low kcal snacks like carrot, being focused on whatever task to the point of not noticing hunger, etc.) and increase activity levels.

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Have you considered some form of partial parting and being fluffy?

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You know, we had a solution for people not believing someone is a girl for decades now, it's an honored tradition that should have never stopped. As far as everyone is concerned, people on the internet are male unless proven otherwise.

>>18699896
But you DO look like a tranny, and you ARE, in fact, ugly and fat. It's the objective truth; you can't deny it. If you came here for self-validation, you're in the wrong place. Try Reddit or something. But if you want some actual advice: stop dressing in pastel colors. Try something darker instead. Either grow your hair out, straighten it, and dye it a natural color, or better yet, cut it much shorter, wait for your real color to show, then cut the dyed parts again, and then start growing it out. And for the love of God, lose some weight. I wouldn't want to date a fat chick like you.

>>18699907
ITS A FUCKING WIG BRO
WHY NOT GET ONE THAT LOOKS LIKE BARBIE
OR GODZILLA
OR MAYBE ONE THAT HAS THE
STRANGER THINGS LOGO ON IT
THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER WHEN YOU WEAR WIGS BRO
NO LIMIT
NO LIMIT ON STYLE WITH THE WEARING OF WIGS

>>18699717
>>18699715

This is a man.

OP would unironically get better fashion advice from ChatGPT and the likes than from all the /fa/ggots itt.

>>18699940
Thats not even a wig in what i posted.

>>18699917
Top surgery exists yknow

>>18699975
>>18699993
>>18699969
trans rights fags

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>>18699853
Generally, the slower the better because people tend to look like shit if they MANAGE to lose a shit ton of weight very fast. Start by calculating your BMI and body fat. Then you can estimate how much deficit you should be in daily/weekly. If you drink anything besides water, you need to cut it out gradually until you are drinking only water. You have to start counting calories, like for real. Get a cheap kitchen scale, and if you can't be bothered to check macros on the back label of each product, get an app for counting calories. They are pretty good. You scan the barcode for most of the time, and it shows you the macros, for meats, well, you just gotta weigh them. Start by going on a small deficit like ~200kcal. As you get accustomed to feeling a little bit hungry, I would recommend OMAD and fasting every once in a while. Personally, I've been doing OMAD for over 2 years, and it's great for your overall health imo, same goes for fasting. Incorporating cardio is a must; simply walking for 30-60 minutes will do you a world of good. Idk what your starting point is, but you can incorporate any kind of cardio to not get bored, swimming, jogging, etc. If you do decide to start running or something, remember to start slow and progress gradually, just to save yourself from joint/knee pain. This calculator is all you gonna need for estimating how many calories you should be consuming to lose weight. Good luck bitch.

https://www.sailrabbit.com/bmr/

cringe: the thread

>>18700015
Thank you.

>>18699715
Who told you that?

>>18699717
I'd have to see it from the back to give better advice

>>18699993
We've been spotting differences between natural and fake tits for decades too, you think i can't spot an entirely aritficial tit with ease at this point?

>>18699986
Bro it’s 100% a fucking wig
Grow the fuck up and do better
Throw away your camo cargo shorts dumbass

>>18700019
Yeah dude bro right on
Get shredded and come on back when you find some men’s clothes
You can probably sue your therapist for the gender shit you have suffered btw

>>18699993
Only ogre hon trannies call BREAST AUGMENTATION “top” “surgery”.
Everybody else calls them fake tits.
Your words are even visibly transgender
Seriously prove your fake pink nylon hair isn’t a wig
Your fashion is so out of fashion it isn’t even a joke
People legit feel bad for transgender victims these days

>>18699849
Do you throw your wig in the washing machine or do you have to do it by hand in the kitchen sink

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>>18699717
>>18699852
Personally, I don't think she needs to lose much weight.

Being active is its own benefit though.

>>18700082
touched a nerve did I?

>>18700179
Yeah most people either feel revulsion or actual sadness when they see a trans
But oddly not when they see a girl trying to be a guy it’s weird but females actual females get a free pass on everything I mean females can actually crossdress and literally no one even notices
But yeah a guy in a dress should 100% be illegal just in terms of fashion crimes