It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is openLast week’s thread >>76518118
Yesterday, I was locked in and got more done in one day than in the past week. I know it's become a meme but leaving this place and social media is a vital component of making it. I didn't realize how addicted I was to the internet and how big of a gain goblin it is. I spent less than an hour on my phone and spent the other 5 hours that would go to waste doing something fulfilling and meaningful.
>>76574615Goals for the week are hitting the gym *3 but efficiently. It sounds dumb, but so far the big advantage to me for doing higher reps fewer sets is that means fewer tests between sets, so less time spent overall in the gym. I’m enjoying it. Currently at working weight of 195 on DL, goal 275. Over the last year every time I start to make real progress something forces me to take a break (injury, time crunch, gym closure) but I’m gonna make this happen.Goals outside the gym are mundane, but discipline is what moves the ball down the field. Daily prayer and contemplation, two hours of language study for the week, keep reading, do my chores. It’s the first of the month so tallying up the budget. I’ve been budgeting for years now, and last month hit a point of change. We looked at it and I said, “It’s time to buy a house. Rent is the biggest item every month. I’m tired of negotiating over what kind of bread to buy when the rent is eating me alive. I at least want to get some equity for what I’m paying. We have enough for a down payment and good jobs.” So this week we begin the process of pre-approval for a mortgage.
>>76574615Self imposed week off due to tight muscles, another pulled lower back from sloppy deadlift form, poor compound performance last week, shitty sleep, and no boners in like 10 daysGo on without me bros
>>76574615I need to finish some paperwork, get the new website of my gym ready, handle the shipment of cardio Equipment that is about to arriveYet the most daunting task is that i want to start dating again... dam x.x
>>76574615Time to study more to get a job I don't want to work with people I hate in the hopes of making money to take out a loan on a house I can't afford. At least my lifts are going up...
I WILL MEET ALL MY DEADLINES IN WORK I WILL STUDY HARD I WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM THIS JANUARY I WILL MAKE IT OVER THE MOUNTAIN Somehow I succeeded in meeting all of my quarterly deadlines. I made more mistakes than I’d like to admit, but I met my deadlines. If I repeat the process again, I’m confident that I can do it even better. Now I need to pray that the new regulations are either cancelled or delayed significantly. I’m going to survive this job. Studying has its ebbs and flows. The process is incredibly difficult but I believe it’s going better than last time. I try to celebrate my victories, no matter how small. If I add them all together by January, I will pass. This time I’m ready to finish what I started. Best of luck on your goals frens! The goal may give us direction but the process is what defines us. WAGMI
I am away from home and will now walk 20 minutes to the next gym here.Not sitting around just idling after work just because I am not at home.LET'S GOOOOOOOOO2 random /sig/ pictures and 5 random motivational pics from the archive and we goooOOOOO!I LOVE AND BELIEVE IN ALL OF YOU ANONS!sigAnon files 01.2025Main folder:https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGAfor_my_anonshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBCMotivational picshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/DmokwDhJsig topicshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/7nQyyRaSother fileshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/CnRA1T5S
>>76574697You’re a smart man. Social media is truly awful for growth. I know the final step to making it is to quit 4chan but I’m not that strong yet
>>76574721Those are all great goals, good luck!
>>76575071>https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGAYou met all your quarterly deadlines. If you've been able to do it so far, you can keep going. What are your strategies for studying? What do you think could make your studying more effective?>>76574857Dating, love, sex, and friendship are all important. Make sure you've got yourself in a reasonable place, and be prepared to play the game. If your romantic goal is something long term, remember tha the first time you went to the gym you didn't immediately lift substantial weights with good form. There will be failures, and pain, but that doesn't mean everything is over. Good luck Anon.>>76574806It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. I'm sorry about the injuries. Muscle growth occurs while rebuilding. What's going on with your sleep?Recommending some books for my Anons:>>on habits, learningHow To Read A Book - Dr. Mortimer AdlerThe Science of Self-Control - Dr. Howard Rachlan.Teaching and Learning STEM, a Practical Guide - R. Felder and R. BrentBuddhism Plain and Simple - Steve Hagen>>on work, moneyThe Toyota Way - Jeffrey LikerYour Money Or Your Life - J. Dominguez and V. RobinI Will Teach You To Be Rich - Ramit SethiThe Simple Path to Wealth - JL Collins>>on romance, relationshipsPassionate Marriage - Dr. David Schnarch. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Dr. J Gottman and N. Silver
>>76574903Focus on what you can change for the better. You're improving in one part of your life, you'll eventually improve in other parts. good luck
>>76574857What’s it like running a gym? I wish /fit/ could create a gym and frat
>>76575698Thanks for the links sigAnon :) staying active is one of the best things you can do for yourself
>>76574615my boss had a mental breakdown so I've been forced to take a couple weeks off. gonna go visit my LDR GF for a few days then get back and try and get a comprehensive driving course booked. lats are growing finally, I've unlocked the ability to do chin ups and the neutral grip pulldown handle I ordered is a godsend. Started doing RDLs and more intense cardio for my gf as well lol. thank you for reading my blogpost. WAGMI.pic related is that guy from a /fit/ thread the other day that I really enjoyed.
Been suffering from depression from a breakup a month ago. Lost 20 pounds in the processIts been so bad, bros... Working out has been one of the moments my head stops thinking aboutWorst of it are the feeling of shame, of failure, of being a lesser being, now that I'm single. Of not being able to make it work. God damn it...Any lifts for these feels? Can I still make it?>>76576824Nice! Keep at it. Cardio is important so you don't tire doing the thrusty-thrustyTo this day Ill never forget my first pull up. First day I felt like a man.
>>76576894Who was the dumper? I was dumped like 10 days ago. It’s hard.
>>76576934Its complicatedI initiated the break-up, but then regretted it, and she didn't want me anymore.To put it shortly:>Almost 3 years together>She really wanted to live together, but my gut told me to not do it>She gives me an ultimatum>I stand my ground>After all is done, I realize that this was another point in my life where I walked away from something I enjoyed due to my "gut" telling me it wouldn't work>Try to get back, but she was mad as hell, didn't want it>A month passes, I'm doing therapy, realize why I felt the way I did>I'm an avoidant person, and she routinely treated me badly about the small things, humiliated me when I made myself vulnerable to her>When I think I'm finally over her, she calls me, wants to talk>Get anxious as fuck>We talk, she just wanted to end things properly. It all happened too fast and she wanted to give me the opportunity to talk>Apologize for the things I messed up, tell her of her mistreating of me>She apologizes to me>Now Im left with the feeling that it could have worked out, but we kinda fucked it all up>Therapist tells me my self esteem is absolutely shit, and I have a tendency to blame myself for everything>As of right now, keep ruminating on all of it, getting real fucking tired mentallySorry for the wall of the text.How about you? What happened? How are you feeling right now?
>>76576376Thanks for the encouragement. A big regulatory change might occur, which will make my job significantly harder. I’m praying it’s either delayed or cancelled so I can hone my current skills. My strategies for studying are to work efficiently since I have less time and to focus on reviewing concepts more. I think I need to emphasize major ideas and not get lost in the details
Another week and we're all still alive, Anons.This week I have a few University assignments to do - also got a job and I start on Friday. Hooray!>WAGMI
>>76576824So that's the trick to lats? I also need bigger lats so I stop looking like a fridge. In any case, congrats on your accomplishments! WAGMI
>>76574697Social media is a huge time sink. This thread is one of the few worthwhile spots on the webs. Good for you anon
>>76576894I'm really sorry you feel this way, but the past is in the past. Keep yourself focused and determined, you will create a better future. I'd recommend doing a lot of quick accessory works. You're gonna make it even if it doesn't feel that way right now
>>76574615Did an in-person skills test last week at a place I'd really like to work for. My goal for this week is to hear back that I'm being invited for interview.
>>76574615I need help, brothers. I am 33 and living at home. I've a job but no career to speak of. I've done a few different things, white collar, blue collar. Worked in marketing for a couple years pre covid (& a couple marketing adjacent jobs during covid but was laid off) and picked up a labor job post covid to make money. Currently working for my dad doing basic admin shit (he does financial services, insurance etc.) I feel like I have negative charisma at the office, the people there despise me for walking into a job that I only get because my dad is part owner. I don't have a university degree but I do have a 2 year diploma. Statistically the best way to increase your long term earning power is further education. Should I go back for a degree? I'm desperate so I'm even considering fuckin' WGU at this point.Any advice would be immensely helpful from some of the non-doomers that inhibit these threads. Life sucks and yet we persevere anons.
>>76577186Our hearts are beating, so we still have the ability to make it. Congrats on getting a job, you'll do excellent! >WAGMI
>started chatting with AI>have to get over the sadness of it all
>>76577509I’m also a loser at 33 with shit job and living at homes Are you successful in the other parts of your life?
>>76577549Imagine, if you will, a young man, in the prime of his life, so starved of attention and affection he has resorted to a pseudorelationship with a computer chatbot.
>>76574615im depressed man. I lost my fiancee, friends, family, career path, and livelihood in 2020. have had health issues from the stress. stated getting back to my D1 athletic tier body in 2023 (im in late 20s), and am fitter now than I was then, but it feels empty. I would have done anything for this body, but I have absolutely nothing external in my life and cant even seem to care.like building a monument no one will ever see. oh well it's just weird. still, omw to the gym, sorry for blogposting but it's the indomitable spirit that even if it's only for yourself, get the fuck to the gym or homegym or whatever and do it for you, even if just for you. fuck everyone else.have a good week.
I am still a 24 year old virgin schizoid doomer. I am no longer a wagie.Failures and setbacks abound and I contemplate throwing in the towel so I can resign myself to a lonely fate without having to blog post here anymore. I went out drinking at a bar for the first time and socialized with random strangers though. I also zipped around the mountain roads on a rental scooter and took in the scenic views, though lots of people say it's super dangerous and I'm gonna crash and become a paraplegic which doesn't inspire confidence. Plus I'm a new first time rider.
>>76577551Not really. Which parts specifically? I don't have a wife/gf (obviously). Tough to have much else going on when you live at home and don't make much money, lol.
>>76577491Good luck bro! You did your best, now you just need to hope for the best. Even if you fail, you can reflect on what you need to improve upon. YGMI
>>76577461Thanks, man.I was planning a Mike Mentzer style workout, a bit on the minimalist side, but I feel like I should do something with higher frequency, to fill out my day
>>76577579Wasn’t trying to dig into your life, but yeah, when you’re 33 with nothing in your life, it’s tough to get the motivation do anything because wit all seems hopeless, or at least for me
>>76577509Unless you're making a liveable wage working for your dad, I'd recommend going back to school part time. If you have a degree and experience, you can get a decent job. Life sucks and yet we persevere fren
Oh boy I’m still tryin’. Gym progress is slow and steady. I’ve cut way back on my drinking which is good. But quitting weed has been the biggest motherfucker of all. The stuff has its hooks in me but I know I need to do it. I currently have none left in the house so I think I will make it.
>>76577568You're still young. You still have time to recover from those setbacks. The fact that you're disciplined enough to get the body of your dreams proves that you're a hard worker man. You've reached brand new heights. You can definitely apply that strength to new ventures, like getting a better job or finding a new gf. Don't give up yet
>>76577658You just need two weeks broham. After that it's incredibly easy to not go back. I've been THC-free for a few months and it's honestly hard to think about it. Such a good decision. Weed just makes you feel okay with mediocrity and boredom. Those two things are what drives you to do better.Good on ya for quitting drinking, if anything to let you get good rest. I drank for the first time in three years on Friday after playing some Bingo at a bar. Had my two beers there paid for and well decided to pick up a six pack and keep the party going at home.Played Heroes of the Storm with friends, won matches that should not have been won, went to bed at 2:30AM and got the shittiest sleep I've had in ages. Real easy deterrent to not do that too often but it was good fun. But yeah just having none in the house works best. I had a big oz jar of budder I paid $80 for and I blew through it to get rid of it because I could not stand the thought of throwing it away. I've quite smoking a few times though. Two weeks the the magic number. Good news is when you do smoke again, it'll smack the absolute piss out of you.Bad news is, damn that's gonna be nice and then you'll have it again and you can fall into the same trap. WAGMI
>>76577571But you're having an adventure. I envy you, I've never done anything that cool and spontaneous in my life. Appreciate what you're experiencing right now
>>76576969>>she routinely treated me badly about the small things, humiliated me when I made myself vulnerable to herCare to elaborate? I mean people tend to get better after the break up when they start to lament everything they did wrong. I bet you thought about being a best version of yourself during your relationship but were too comfortable to actually do something. The fact you’re going to therapy is great and I congratulate you for that. Not many men take that necessary step. Keep going. When you get better and start to develop a healthy self esteem you will not want your ex back anymore. >How about you? I’m better by now. We broke up and got back so this was our second chance but it was so forced because we didn’t heal our major internal issues. I loved this person with my soul but the relationship wear and tear was too damaging. We traumatized each other and we weren’t compatible after all. It sucks but I don’t want to go back there. Not a secure happy place for me. One thing that works for me is>I already feel like shit because my brain and body misses this person, so I’m just gonna accept that I’m sad/angry/empty/lonely and not add more burden (ruminating thoughts) to my already unbalanced system It’s temporary after all. Emotions come and go in waves. Don’t push yourself too hard, you’re living one day at a time and at some point you will be satisfied with just being alone by yourself. Keep the good habits.
>>76577688Thanks dawg. It’s good to know I will feel better in a few weeks. I could see myself enjoying an edible again in the future or whatever. It’s the daily shit I need to kill. It was the vapes that got me. It’s way too easy to just get high constantly. So I’m committed to quitting that shit.
Life is completely meaningless when you have no one to share or experience it with. Doesn’t matter what my job would be or how much money I have, the house or things I own, the body I have, the hobbies I have. If you don’t have friends or a family, life is completely and utterly meaningless, worthless, and miserable. I wish there was a button I could press that would allow me to die in my sleep tonight because I’m too afraid to do it myself. I wish I could die in my sleep if it means one fewer child dies unfairly of cancer in a hospital bed somewhere. I hate being alive.
>>76574615I WILL KEEP ON LIVING.I WILL LOVE MY FAMILY.I WILL KEEP MY FAITH GOD.I WILL NOT BE A WAGIE ALL MY LIFE.Frens, any advice on how to avoid being a wagie all my life? I was thinking about la business like a laundromat or learning AI or something. I WANT TO BE FREE.
>>76577775You can make friends at your job or get a gf. When a woman loves you she will follow you anywhere.
>>76577642Thanks, that's kind of what I've been leaning to as well but there's so much doom & gloom around AI taking everyone's fuckin job it's hard to tell if anything besides nursing is worth pursuing, lol. What do you do anon?>>76577633All good, dig in if you want. It does often feel hopeless, I feel you on that. I think fighting through the hopelessness will make the eventual deep breathe after finding a "right path" that much sweeter, you know? hopefully anyways. Idk the only thing keeping me sane at this point is lifting, running, climbing, and very VERY occasionally getting laid. Still trying to be optimistic about building a life I can be excited about. Do you have a degree? What do you do for work?
well, I make $100 an hour. But Bill Gates makes $12k a second. I am trying to step it up.
>>76577800Try researching ETFs/passive index funds. If you're smart with your money and don't spend too much, you can create a pretty significant source of income. Otherwise, try running a business everyone will use
>>76577835Must be nice being rich
>>76577868You sound well off yourself. I read online about people throwing 500 million around and im like uhhh
>>76577865yeah i want to be free asap, but i do not want to do something too dumb and end up broke.
>>76577888Income and networth and zip code? Those things will determine everything pretty much.
>>76577868I always have to mention Bill Gates too lol
>>76577725>Care to elaborate? I like to tell it by comparison.One day I invited her to see the sunset on a place I never went. She was late, by the time we arrived it was already night.What I said to her was>Dont sweat it, we will have the rest of our lives to catch a sunset hereAnother day, we were going to a concert. I was waiting for her at home, hadn't put my shoes yetWhen she saw me without my shoes, she went APESHIT. Kept nagging and calling me stupid and just bringing it up the rest of the night.Another: We were going to a concert, and she was driving. She was telling me a story, and ended up taking the wrong route. I thought perhaps she knew a better route, kept quiet. When she noticed she was on the wrong way, she panicked a bit. What I said in the moment was>Oh damn. Let me open up google maps and find us a routeNow, a week before our breakup, we were going to a presentation, but she was so late that we had already missed it. I thought it was in one place, it was actually another. When she noticed I went the wrong way, she questioned me, and I realized my mistake. What she said was>God damn it, you should have know. I'm not gonna let you drive again. Why didn't you tell me you didn't know where it was? You're so slow in the head. I can't believe thisThat was our usual interactions. One day I was thinking about a George Carlin bit on how people have dumbed down words in recent times. I used that to start a conversation, and I don't know why, but she got mad at the topic. Her response?>You better stop talking about that, or I'll brake your faceThreats of violence all the time. Now, obviously, I didn't actually think she was going to hit me, but my man, that is NOT how you talk to someone you love. I was always tense around her, fearing saying the wrong thing that would make her mood swing. Hoping nothing external happened that would send her into a rage. By the end, I shuddered just by her announcing that she was coming to my home.
>>76577725>>76577923Sorry for the wall of text, had to get it off my chest.>We traumatized each other and we weren’t compatible after all.How I feel about mine. Shit sucks. But I'm glad you're doing better. I think a second chance helps with closure when it ends again. Hey, you tried.Keep fighting, dude. Sometimes the bad feels hit, gotta work not to give in. Some days I'm chill about it all, some I can't stop ruminating. Therapy has done wonders for me, it has been the moment of my week I wait for the most. Wish I had started it sooner, years ago, maybe things could have been different... But that's just how the cookie crumbles. I only learn through suffering.
>>76577900Income: a little bit above average? At least i have a "decent" job.Networth: not so much to be honest. At least enough to live i guess.Zip: Third world
>>76577934If you live in the 3rd world, it'll be way easier for you to find a way to escape the wagie grind
>>76577987Dear Fren, could you give me an example of how to do it?
>>76574615I weigh myself on the 1st of every month. Last month I posted I lost weight and some shitter said it was just water weight. Today the weight continued its downward trend. Almost 15 lbs in two months.
>>76578014If you're attempting to lose weight, congrats! That's insane progress
It's fucking crazy how much better life would be with one extra day offAnyway, I completed my first week back at the gym for the first time in like 2 years, felt good
>>76578035Outstanding, welcome back Anon.
Lately I’ve been reconnecting with my old man. We haven’t seen each other in a while since I felt that I wasn’t worthy of seeing him. I’m so glad he’s back in my life. He’s really impressed that I can bench 2.5pl8. I could only do it once but I want to get stronger so I can brag to him
Hit 275 x 1 on bench today. God bless larsen presses for boosting my bench up. 405 DL hit last week, and Going for 315+ squat to finally get over the 1k SBD threshold.
>>76576376>It sounds like you are under a lot of stressno new life stress I just have a bad habit of constantly adding more sets/reps and new lifts (and weight but that should be done) to any given workout day - sometimes additional days outright - until I start dragging my way out of the gym afterward like I just got hit by a car and it starts to affect sleep, libido, thinking ability etc until I'm forced to take a week off to try and reset thingsfear of not doing enough I suppose, body dysmorphia and strength insecurity is a bitch
Happy to report that, after a few irregular weeks due to vacations, far-away family visits etcetera, I’ve been to the from for the first time in 3 weeks again. I went very hard on triceps and chest, felt good to struggle pushing open the gym door after a grueling workout again.I’ve also started to track calories again. I know I was eating a bit too many carbs but darn, it’s worse than I thought. Gotta get these breakfast cereals/breads out of my diet.
>>76577282heavy DB cheat rows as well, focusing on properly pulling to my hip. took me 6 months to work to a chin up doing supinated lat pulldowns. 6,0 215-219lbs
Back to gym after a 2 month break. Gonna get a rain coat later because it's starting to rain heavy again this past week. I intend to go regardless.
How do you cope with suddenly realising that you're in your 30s and that you should have a wife and children by now? I swear I was 21 only last week
>>76578687By dating inappropriately younger women.
Was a fool and listened to the little monster and edged for like an hour.I know these are fall forwards and I've already gone from having to master masterbate once a day to maybe once or twice a week but I want to be done with it all.Part of me is trying to stay positive and the other part wants to rip my skin off slowly
>>76578687Just fine. I don't want children, I value being in charge of my own life and money, and can go see a whore if I need to get my nuts offt. 35
>>76578119Congrats on your strength! Do you have any tips on getting there from 2pl8? I’ll research Larsen presses
>>76578687For me: By realizing that I didn't settle for the first woman that gave me enough attention. I have a friend who just got married. He is crypto rich (Challenger, Cybertruck, home) and makes good money in IT. He is also a massive simp that I guarantee gets divorced raped later in life.>no bro, it's totally ok that i want to fly a girl out to see me that lives 2 states way/vice versa. i can afford it.>no bro it's cool to get a happy ending at an asian massage parlor>no bro i totally don't wanna fuck the land whale that is the town bike. bro, don't tell anyone, but i fucked the whale... multiple timesHis wife is a fucking hair dresser FFS and posts on social media about all the shit he is doing for her. Again, I don't see a future where he isn't divorced.
>>76579204As expected from an autistic well paid IT nerd, always the same story. Only value is being used as an ATM
I need to get out of this small town but my plan is risky and on the edge between ballsy and retarded. I may just end up wasting 300-600 (local currency), which is a lot for a poorfag like me. Basically I'll just give myself two weeks to find a min wage job in my country's capital city while living in the cheapest youth hostel I can find, then find a place to live. If the first goal is done the second will be a tall order since it's a place notorious for high rents and difficult owners. I "know" a few people over there so I'll start there first and openly try to ask for a job. If that fails I'll grab a suit and shirt and do door-to-door at cafes, restaurants and hotels all day long. The scary part is really finding a room after that.
ran a 5 mile race on the beach yesterday, it sucked but felt good to negate some of the damage from all the shore food. Also ran it in 43.5 minutes, which isn't a bad time at all for me, especially since my 5km intervals take me about 40 minutes. Got my vo2 max reading to 49.9, so its nice to see the cardio gains working. Might even do my saturday long run on the beach, it should be a bit more enjoyable. Testing confirmed there was an extra chromosome and that led to the miscarriage. also learned that it was a girl. so there's that. similar vein, sperm test came back and I have better numbers than I did three years ago. DNA fragmentation test showed a bit high but kind of in range (bit of cope) but this part of the test seemed less reliable than the rest and is an add-on. i'm going to put extra focus on that and take some vitamins since my lifestyle is pretty much in line with what i should be doing otherwise. just dont want to feel that way again.interviewed last week and then heard back yesterday that they won't be moving forward with me. seemed like a longshot. Did a prerecorded interview for another company for a role that should fit me like a glove. Really hoping for that one to pan out and it looks like it might at least go to the next round. getting absolutely sick of this current job though. this guy that's clearly trying to turn his life around asked me to spot him last week, that was pretty cool and i was grateful to do that. Goals this week - 8 km long interval run, track every calorie going in my body (using AI because why not), lose at least another pound, continue not jacking off, try to finish reading for a cert, and get my workouts in despite these fucking shore weekends. trying to do a bodyscan but the Y is dragging their asses.
>>76578155Welcome back bro! I’m the same way, I also need to reduce my calorie intake, especially breakfast
>>76579230It's weird because it's like women immediately knew he was an ATM and would start flirting. Like 1 or 2 months later after they got what they wanted, usually free tech upgrades/software installs (put the new Office on my college laptop for free) they'd drop him. I remember him waiting, not crying, wailing/sobbing/weeping over 1 girl we told him multiple times was using him. Fucker accepted all that and still wanted to be friends.Cucks have no hope.
I discovered the secret to happiness is being ignorant and retarded. Trying to be smart leads you to misery. Embrace the chaos of this world.
>>76577549you are a subhuman
>>76578563That's the attitude. Keep pushing forward no matter what the world throws at you
>>76577923she sounds like a retard
>>76578942Remember this Shane whenever you want to relapse. You’re stronger than you can ever imagine
>>76574615The conversation with the mirror has changed from>You're disgusting. I hate you.To>I know you can do better than this.
>>76579305That sounds like a good plan, but I'd work in your hometown for a little longer to save money and build experience
>>76574615had a weeks worth of fun in a few hours at a thrash show monday. Lots of good old fashioned male bonding and slam dancing. They are my tribe. Job is going well since I moved back to my old dept, very comfy and quiet desk job but also has variety. I am the best in the area. I have many friends in the building because I listen to people and support them. I have enough money to do whatever I want. I had nothing three months ago, I was neet for longer than you or anyone else. Didnt think just getting a good job would change everything. Now I just have to keep all the crazy bitches off my dick, but the more I ignore them, the more they bother me.
>>76579511I'm sorry that you're still recovering from your wife's miscarriage, but it seems like you're putting in a lot of effort. Your chance to be a father will come soon, so keep preparing for it. The fact that you're getting interviews proves that you're capable. If you keep applying, you'll get one eventually
>>76579937I even paid for it.
>>76581337grim
>>76579927No longer getting the newspaper has greatly benefited my mental health. I only need to know about the world in front of me
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Already wednesday for me but thanks for the motivation
>>76579086I know powerbuilding is a meme but I do 5/3/1 and replaced OHP with Larsen Press. Since it's 4 days it fits perfectly with an upper/lower split. Larsen, pause bench press, and fixing my technique got me over 2pl8. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xceZw3n1w4c&t=309s This video was life changing for bench pressing.
>Start of a new week>Start of a new month>Start of a new seasonThis resonates with my autism in ways that'll make it more difficult to fail since I put way too much stock in my grand "getting my shit together, version 432
>>76577775>>76577817Echoing this.You can get a lot of social fulfillment by making friends. Or even just regularly attending some activity where you speak with people.It's not so much you have to love someone.But being able to trust in them and feel vulnerable.That's usually much easier AND BETTER than convincing some broad to stick with you and only you.
>>76578014I weigh myself every day, it's pretty easy to notice water weight.Water weight goes up when your carb intake goes up, water weight goes down as your activity spikes and you shed water weight because you're burning carbs. You don't have a "store" of water weight that you lose first, your hydration fluctuates day to day. People who say "it's just water weight" don't understand how it works.You actually really WANT that water weight. A hydrated body is a happy body.
>>76578132>fear of not doing enough I supposenigga you are on /fit/ so you KNOW you gotta rest.There's only so much you can get out of lifting. You've sold yourself on this idea of being stronger than the buff looking guy.You should take an honest look inside.What does strength actually do for you?Honestly, it just lets you lift heavier things.That's, well, it.Lower the weight by 15%, increase the volume to 8-12 sets, and enjoy the many actual benefits of muscle mass/hypertrophy.You WILL look better because big muscles are sexyYou WILL feel better because big muscles absorb more sugar to stabilize your blood sugar and moodYou WILL feel better because big muscles regular hormonal shiftsYou WILL feel better because big muscles prevent injury which will keep you lifting longer and experiencing all the good stuff.You WILL get stronger because you still progressive overload on hypertrophy trainingYou WILL feel better because now you can eat more. EAT BIG TO GET BIG. How many days are you going to the gym a week?
>>76580990So you’ve realized that you have potential inside of you. Now focus on transforming yourself into the man you can be
>>76582496Don’t be too hung up on ‘starting version 432 of “getting shit together”’. You could’ve chosen to just not even try this time, but you didn’t.
>>76581229Sounds like you’re doing everything right, you’ve really turned your life around for the better! Got any advice on making friends as an adult wagie in a new area?
I fucking hate myself too much to try anymore. Good news is I've lost a lot of the bitch weight I put on over the past couple of months. 183lbs at 5'9 from about 210lbs, only 20 more to go. I'm just focusing on calisthenics until I feel normal again.
