It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is openLast week’s thread >>76574615
>>76601058>finally getting mires and interest from some girls at the gym>almost all of them are high schoolers>fuckmylife.jpeg16 is legal around here but I still feel scared shitless of trying to chat up and then hit on any of them. Had a friendly talk with one I thought was 19 and she turned out to be 17.
>>76601080Where the fuck are the 20s girls at?
>everything men do is for pussyThere are so many people on the on self improvement train the past two decades it's unreal, and I'm not talking about gym because many of them don't even hit the gym but instead do other activities, I'm talking about making money, being social, doing activities, hobbies, just keeping busy in general and making their life as interesting as possible to attract pussy. They are doing all that for pussy, constantly chasing a better looking pussy, younger, fresher, etc. until eventually they find one they are satisfied with so they can fertilize it but even then many of them continue to chase pussy on the side. Some of these boomers are 70+ and still chase pussy, that's right many divorced boomers have girlfriends, just look at that tremendous Eastwood faggot who found a new pussy at 70 or 80 and married for the 6th time. Not to mention famous chads like Julio Iglesias who had thousands of pussies throughout his life.All that self-improvement, customs, social mores, hobbies, cultural events and other activities people do is to attract pussy so they can breed the next generation of goyim cattle and feel desired, loved and appreciated by their pussy and progeny.
Gonna lift extra hard the coming week, big binge drinking saturday through sunday evening already planned in so gotta work hard to earn it.
booked myself to get a blood test, I suspect I’ve got incredibly low testosterone
>>76601147When are you transitioning?
>>76601058I finally worked up the courage to ask out my crush last week but she rejected me because she said she liked someone else. She was sweet about it though, said I was "brave" (not in a backhanded way). This girl was on my mind for weeks and I still find myself imagining scenarios where we somehow end up together anyway. I don't know how much more of this I can take bros. I really thought that maybe she liked me as well sometimes, just by the way she acted. It's so painful that my feelings are never reciprocated. Do anons know any lifts to cope with this feel...?
>>76601270Be thankful for a girl that honest and polite. What’s the backstory?
>>76601270Is reciprocated a hip word for ejaculation?
>>76601287We met at a tennis course, at the start of each lesson we had to pair off and warm up. She often asked me to warm up with her. We also played tennis together outside the course lessons. That's why I thought maybe I had a chance.You're right, I'm glad she was honest. It doesn't make it any less difficult though, or any easier to get her out of my head.>>76601323Midwit detected, forgot I'm on /fit/ and not /lit/ so have to dumb down the vocab a bit.
Today's lifts>Bench 225x5 235x5 245x3>DB Incline Bench 4x6 (80s) + DB row 4x12 (105) superset>lateral raises 3x12I overdid the weight on the rows desu and as a result in retrospect I feel I didn't quite do enough today. I wanted to do decline pushups after but I was simply out of gas, actually had to close my eyes after the last set and fight off the urge to puke while huffing and puffingAt least 4x12 @ 105 is far and away a PR for db rows, I've only ever done 105 for a top set before and I don't know if I ever took it to 12
>>76601270went through something very similar very recently inlcuding the wishing that she'll come around some day, you have to take some distance from her for a while and find ways to distract yourself, that can be other women or literally anything else like starting a new hobby or whatever
>>76601058Today is front squat/C&J day, pretty excited to go to the gym
>>76601083the boomer chasers are honestly the worst, but the women that fuck them are the worst of the worst. women need to be branded.
>>76601270>I really thought that maybe she liked me as well sometimes, just by the way she acted.There was this girl who seems interested in me.I didn't believe it at first until a mutual female friend told me to go for it. She ended up ignoring me asking her out.
>Work made life miserable>Came home>Worked out and meditated >Is happy nowI start to wonder if a lot of people are miserable because they don't bother with working out at all after their corporate jobs.
have been eating like shit the past 2-.3ish weeksive lost too much strenght on the cut, that mightve lasted too long dunnobut im back at it
>>76601599>She ended up ignoring me asking her out.You asked her out over text or she just ignored you in person? You can't ask these things through a phone, gotta ask her to her face (not that it would change the outcome). In any case I feel for you bro.
>>76601631I tried to ask her out in person, but she avoided me.The mutual friend probably picked up the wrong signal I guess.
>>76601636yeah as much as women say that we are bad at picking up signals I've often seeing them also get the wrong idea from how other chicks acted
>>76601599thought this same thing with a bartender at a place i was a regular at. we ended up passing by each other a lot in the neighborhood. someone mentioned offhand that she seemed interested (wasn't excessive but seemed plausible enough) ended up getting her number when we ran into each other, asked if she wanted to grab a drink sometime and then she was never able to find a good time. still not sure if she was actually interested or not, whatever i'm married now.
>>76601270LOL sit faggot>>76601083>if the women come to youcongrats you have sex>if the women don't come to youcongrats you can enjoy life and vibethere's literally no downside, I don't know why retards stress so much about it. let it happen, it's literally not worth spending active mental energy processing lmfao
>>76601058My girlfriend came from Mexico to my western European country to be an au pair and to be closer to me. She really likes me but gets very emotional, homesick, angry from time to time. She kinda soft choked me twice when she was mad on seperate occasions, she threatened to kill herself on multiple occasions. She broke up with me about 4 times in 4 months, only to immediately regret it and beg for forgiveness within 24hrs.Usually she's nice, although very unreliable in her actions. She's my first relationship and she's here in europe mostly for me, wasting a year of her life babysitting stupid kids. I do like her but the random bouts of emotional happenings is beyond annoying and makes me dislike her. For example, i had morning shifts and she was with me those days. Usually I'm very tired those shifts and i told her several times i can't do much those days. She proceeds to want to do a lot, go there and there and my energy levels are 0 so I'm moody and just want to be left alone. She's somehow too autistic to realize I'm actually tired and don't want to do stuff. She flies into a rage and says i make her feel unwelcome and she wants to go back home and then goes on top of me and chokes me a bit. I remain calm but i have to sleep cus of my next morning shift and then she gets vengeful and says she's gonna keep me awake all night etc etc etc.What shall i do? Is this repairable or waste of time? As it has been going i can't imagine marrying her lol, but i don't want to break up either cus I'm lonely as fuck. Why can't women just fucking behave?
>>76601058Had a busy but fun weekend, doing some work around the house. Note to self that I gotta stop doing WFH. It’s like fast food in that it always seems very attractive before-hand (less energy spent, comfy) but it always ends up with me being unproductive, behind on deadlines and working through the evenings to make up for it.Very unhealthy week coming up with drinks, eating out, cake etc. lots of fun things to celebrate, though, looking forward to it. I’ve been in a sizeable calorie deficit over the weekend and I’m going to train a tad harder this week too, both to enjoy the good stuff guilt-free. Going to the gym after posting this, gonna try for a bench PR (which is so low that I’m still too embarassed about it to post here).>>76601609yea, first two years out of college and into a job I didn’t go to the gym at all. Glad to have made the decision to get back at it a couple weeks ago. I’ve noticed how it’s improved my sleep, alertness, discipline etc. Lifting really has a sort of ‘uphill avalanche’ effect that makes many many aspects of your life better, I feel.Thanks for reading, anons
>>76601762It's not repairable, girl has issues far beyond what a relationship, even with the best guy in the world, could fix. Threatening suicide and breaking up with you for what seems to be attention from you is enough to warrant ending things.If she can't even take your feelings into consideration when you communicate something to her honestly, like that you're tired after work and don't have the energy to do stuff, she's not worth the effort. A good woman will genuinely listen to you when you speak. It's jarring when you meet a girl like that for the first time. Otherwise you get the resentment building up that you're talking about. Seriously man there are other women out there.Anyway you're right to say she's not marriage material.Do what you want in short term, IMO staying with a girl just to use her for sex/company is bad for the soul and will make you see women as objects but if it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But break it off sooner rather than later, you already got everything you can out of that relationship.
All roads lead to hammerhand.
Unofficially weighed in at 205 for the start of my "don't get fat during the Eagles season" challenge. getting a bodyscan Wednesday so I'll have the bf% numbers to make it official. Realistically there's no reason for me to stay at 205 but on the off chance i do, i want the numbers to back it up. 8km boardwalk run on Saturday was nice and my knee wasn't acting up afterwards. Followed that up with a quick gym session to hit arms. Goals for this week. >9km interval run on Saturday. >remove one rest period from my 5k runs >try a CPAPless night to see if snoring persists>finish reading this book for cert and register for testtrying hard not to jack it but now on top of being backed up for two weeks i started taking a fertility supplement. that was bad enough and then this sidney sweeney ad with the boots comes out and of course its controversial so its all over my fucking feed which just turns every other ad into women wearing boots. trying to wait out the wife recovery/let her initiate other options for my relief because i'm not begging for a fucking handjob.
>>76601858It sucks man. I do feel she really likes me and my emotional distance is also to blame. She sometimes has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old or something like that. Kinda like a dog that can't be left alone. Yea she got some issues and her dad spoiled her terribly, like most latinas I've found out. Last time she broke up with me, one day later she was begging me not to leave her and sucked my cock in the car to make up for it (i didn't ask). It's such a shame cus all she had to do was behave, and I'd have married her but it's just too much to ask i guess.
>>76601781find a coworking space if you can, that keeps me disciplined
>>76601884I know the feeling man, I've been there. My ex was like this, albeit maybe less overtly mentally ill than your girl but I also had the exact same feeling like I was dealing with a 12 year old sometimes. Or like an anxious dog like you said. Made the thought of fucking her really uncomfortable because I often acted more like a father figure or therapist for her than an actual boyfriend. Also felt like I was doing the emotional labor for 2 people and felt totally suffocated. But you're actually pretty close on the mark, she technically does have the emotional maturity of a 12 year old roughly.I'm not a psych but sounds like she's codependent (and so are you to an extent) and has an anxious attachment style and maybe at a stretch some kind of mental illness like BPD on top, or could just be trauma. You probably do have some issues you need to work on regarding emotional distance, that said don't kick the shit out of yourself for her problems. You're not responsible for her. You should read up on attachment styles in general, it'll give you a better idea of what's probably happening. Give yourself some time to process things and keep in mind it won't be easy even if you know it's the right thing to do, trust me I speak from experience. It gets much better though.A non-retarded therapist (lol) might be a good idea too, the problem is most will basically just have you vent then say what they think you want to hear so you keep coming back. A good one will try and actually dig through things that bother you and make real progress.Anyway best of luck anon-san. If you have friends to talk to about it that'll also help.
>>76601888Luckily I can just go to my employer’s office, it’s actually quite a short commute. It’s just me telling myself “let’s work from home today, it’ll be efficient and less of an energy drain”, while my lived experience clearly tells me WFH is actually a net negative for me when it comes to mood, energy etc.I feel like this is the most ‘controversial’ opinion I have compared to my peer group. Whenever I say that I kinda like going to the office, friends look at me like I’m crazy. If they’d get the offer to work from home 5d/week, they’d all take it.
>>76602098Yeah if you're that close just keep going in. I snuck into my last company's office during COVID because I couldn't stand it. Your peers are just fucking lazy and fuck off during working hours. My wife does this and its annoying because you can tell she only thinks its work if its a meeting. Which is fine for her but I have actual shit to do. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to have the flexibility but I almost always abuse it unless I'm in a coworking space. The fact that we let our Indians WFH in a third world country is fucking suicide. also i need to have grok put that sweeney pic as her in an ss uniform
>>76602098>WFH is actually a net negative for me when it comes to mood, energy etc.same
>>76602098Don't worry, same here.I am at the office in 15 minute by bike or bus but I still don't want to do WFH.Home is home, peace from everything else.I don't want work associate with home. Stupid shit making me mad or angry while being at home."Clocking out" in the same chair and then be at peace? No.I work in the office and then fuck off home in peace.
>>76601884Be kind and compassionate *while* putting in some firm boundaries to teach her to behave. It's like training a dog.If she doesn't submit, the good thing is she's not your child nor your pet, so she's free to take time off, get her "revenge" by getting a few STDs and being used as a fucktoy by some random opportunist and DQ herself from long term prospects with you or anyone with self-respect and options.Spoiled children need the right environment to learn how to be real humans.
>>76601493Congrats! You worked hard and made good gains
bought enough hydrocodones to last me 6 weeks : )im thinking im going to have a great month buds : )
>>76601058Repost>got called a bitchass nigga by female associates at work the other day(I'm security at a warehouse) >I write it up and send it to my manager instead of saying shit back in the moment >get regularly ignored or cussed at by people >keep to myself, just doing my job, but no one gives a shit if they think you're some mute autist How fucked am I at nearly 30? It's like getting bullied in middle school all over again, but way worse since we're all "adults"/fit/ and life wise, I've stagnated on weight loss, looking to lose at least 15lbs before end of the year. Also spent most of my day off job hunting and car shopping
Stomach getting smaller. Hoping to be comfortable enough to be shirtless when I travel this winter.
>>76601270Become better than the man she picked over you in ever conceivable way
>>76601610What exactly do you want? If you know what you want to accomplish, stick to that goal
>>76601058I WILL make it to waterpolo twice a weekI WILL heal my minor rotator cuff injury I WILL lift twice a weekI WILL run 10-12k once per weekWAGMI
>>76601882and yes i am excited for boot season but i better bust a nut before the ladies start busting them out
>>76601143Don't work out the day before your drinking, you need that recovery period. Drinking deletes your gains.
>>76601270For starters, she respects you. If she didn't she'd have just dismissed you.How old are you anon?You can still keep talking to her and have her as a trusted friend.If you guys are college or younger, she's actually going to go places in life with that one move. That's a person worth keeping in your social circle because she can help you out in the future. Now it's going to suck and it's going to take time, but you need to accept that it's not going to work out right now romantically, but you have a really good platonic friendship going. Soon you're going to get out of school and you want to avoid winding up like most people realizing they spent so much time chasing romance that they have no real friends.Romance is temporary and fickle.Friends are better.What humans really thrive on is trust and connection. It generates oxytocin in the brain which makes you feel more trust and connection and you get a much healthier mind from that. If you can master that, she's going to see an insanely mature and experience man in you. Maybe she'll look at whatever guys he's currently ogling and realize that he's still a child. Then maybe by that point, you'll be the one rejecting her. Dunno. But I would not let a good social connection go to waste. But also compound lifts.
>>76602946>How fucked am I at nearly 30?>Also spent most of my day off job hunting Doing better than most who start job hunting at 45 good on ya anon I'm on that stage now and I'm 35. WAGMI
>>76601882Good luck on your goals vegeta! You're being considerate by not pestering your wife, but make sure she doesn't catch you ogling
>>76601058Gains are coming back from being crippled. 7 months of no upper body, due to a broken humerus. Arms are finally getting symmetrical after a month back.
I WILL MEET ALL MY DEADLINES IN WORKI WILL STUDY HARD I WILL MAKE IT OVER THIS MOUNTAINNew challenges are piling up at work. But I must remain steadfast and commit to solving them. I’ve been at this job for 7 months and am starting to understand it. I’ll continue to apply myself and improve. But I still dream of moving to a better job after I’ve put in a year. I’m starting to see massive progress in my studies. I’m only in the first third, but I’m growing more confident. I’ll move forward with optimism. I’m still at the beginning, so I have a lot more to learn. I need to continue studying carefully and consistently. This time I will pass. Keep pushing forward frens! The summit awaits us but we must inch forward day by day. WAGMI!
>>76601781Who cares how weak your bench is? What matters is that you keep on going to the gym and keep improving regularly. Good luck
>>76601781>Going to the gym after posting this, gonna try for a bench PR (which is so low that I’m still too embarassed about it to post here).I moved up to 3x10 bench of 80lbs sunday for my best.don't know what my one rep max is, it's pretty useless when you think about it.
I'm doing a retard cycle no matter what, i.e. no test base. Something like 8-12 weeks.Anavar or Rad-140?Enclo or HCG?Doses?Fine with a lil liver fuckery.
>>76603082Inshallah I shall try to.>>76603351We're in uni yeah. This is actually a very good perspective that I hadn't thought of before. Thank you for this anon.
>>76604279don't listen to this guy. been there, done that. treat her like anyone else from now on but do not expect women to do anything beneficial for you.
>>76602836Based I hope you get better :)
Today's lifts>Squat 335x3, 345x2, 345x4>Front squat 4x5>Decline situps 3x12>Weighted back extensions 5x10Another squat PR although I can feel the wall approaching, maybe I'll start belting if/when it stalls but belt messed up my dl form so idkDecline situps were kind of a bust today, don't think I felt my abs working once, wtf did I even accomplish then
Went on my first date ever, went well. Going out with a different girl this weekend as well. Grinding social reps and getting in shape helped a lot.
>>76602986Congrats on your progress! You’ve worked hard and can see their results! What’s your biggest tip for cutting?
>saw dad slowly lose all of his friends because he went from riches to rags with no bright future ahead>mfw experienced the same shit even though I never become rich in the first placeLifting is the only thing keep me going nowadays. That and I don't want my parents to kill themselves. They seem to be holding on to help support their children, but they don't look forward to living that much either.
>>76605278shit, this was supposed to be posted on sunday bar thread
>>76603198All of those are great goals, but make sure to prioritize recovery. There’s no point in breaking yourself even further. WAGMI
>>76605278Sorry anon, hang in there
>took a week off>gained 1kg (after shedding water weight again)>Hit PRs for row and pull up todayGod it feels good, I feel like I didn't lose any momentum and got to rest and enjoy, gotta crush these 4 months before the holidays and enjoy rest then again.
>>76603555Welcome back fren! Your digits prove that you’ll be stronger before you know it :)
Hello my frens <3 I gove you one important tool everyone should at least somehow master:>self-reflectionself-reflection, sitting by yourself with only your thoughts, thinking about what you did, what you do, what you will do, why and howdebating with yourself, being honest with yourself, no lying, the honest truth, there is no one else except you, so there is no need to bullshityou know what this needs? an inner monologueYou may not have it, yet, but start sitting by yourself and critically think about yourself and what you dowrite down your thoughtseven if it is just in some notebook and you will see it the next time in 1-2 months by chancethis is enough to bring your thoughts and behavior back on track, at least a little bit, hopefullylove you guysyou will all make it if you believe it <3sigAnon files 01.2025Main folder:https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGAfor_my_anonshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBCMotivational picshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/DmokwDhJsig topicshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/7nQyyRaSother fileshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/CnRA1T5S
>>76605036That’s some good lifting. Keep on pushing do you can hit a pr :)
>>76605278Retarded nigger some of us were born in rags and will die in rags at least you had a taste of good life
>>76605050Congrats on going on your first date! I bet she was impressed with you! What did you learn from the experience?
>>76605217>What’s your biggest tip for cutting?Cold turkey didn't work for me. If anything it made relapsing so much worse. I instead cut out things one at a time. Soda to diet soda, whole milk to skimmed milk etc. It made it easier without being too extreme and makes me feel like I am accomplishing more every time I do it.
>>76605459You’re so back and stronger than ever! Retain the momentum and you’ll reach new heights!
>>76605459The trick is you can take up to two weeks off without any muscle loss at all if you keep your protein up. And even then, it's going to be minor muscle loss that rebounds really quickly. You spent that entire week properly recovering and building muscle to be quite honest with you senpai.
>>76601058In last weeks thread my goal was to hear back that I'm being invited to interview. I got invited to interview next Tuesday!
>>76601080I think if you're under 25 and not predatory most people will be fine with you dating a 17 year old. Just treat her nice and don't force her to do anything she's not ready for. No hookups!
>>76606659A guy i knew in his 60s hooked up with teenage girls and he told me stories like >so i'm balls deep in this girl who's the same age as my granddaugther and then she calls me "mister" followed by guttural laugh
>>76605700Thanks so much for the files, sigAnon. I’ll try reflecting on my life more often. I already journal daily, but I can include that task in my routine. I need to reform myself
>be me>salesfag, answering the 24/7 line because >could be a client>old voice on the other end>opens with "my disabled brother…">we sell medical equipment so I think it's legit>nope, dude just wants a job>doesn’t have the certs, doesn’t have the experience>instead tells me his whole life story>72 years old>divorced for years but still lives with his ex-wife>trying to get any work at all>nice guy but I can’t do anything for him except >point him elsewhere>hang up phone>mfwAnons, it is brutal out there.It only gets colder and darker as you age. Do something now.Lift. Save. Learn. Build.Insulate your twilight years from that misery.You are not too old. You can still be strong, useful, and good.Don’t end up a broke 70yo living with your ex-wife begging strangers for work.
>>76607231>sells medical equipmentfaggot scum
>>76606626Good luck on your interview! Make sure to research questions and give specific examples
>>76607324first and last time I'm doing it, money isn't worth dealing with my peers
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>>76607231Maybe those tribes where the old guy would suddenly get up and walk off never to be seen again had the right idea.
I’m struggling but I need to lock in and stay strong
>>76607388tomorrow night before bed come back to this thread and spill anonthat way you get good rest and can recover better and do well
>>76606114Nigga, I was born in rag.He only had me when his life went down to shit and became an alcoholic.
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