So about 2 years ago, I was fat and looked like shit. I did a 180 and started working out, dress better and have better hair, etc. Before no girl would ever look at me in public and was basically invisible. Lately I've been in weird or awkward situations and I don't know how to properly act. I don't even think I'm that good looking so my social anxiety is still there.Examples:>Guys with girlfriends try to "shield" their vision from looking at me or put an arm around her and pull her closer when I walk by.>When working out, there are like 5 benches next to each other empty, and they always pick the one next to me even when there are empty ones.>I've noticed other guys in the weight room staring at me, not in a curious way, but more like a size-up or a challengeIt's like I've gone from being invisible to being seen as some kind of competition. I'm not used to this and it makes me feel just as awkward as before, just for a different reason.Anyone else deal with this shit after getting in shape?
>>76673476I got more paranoid, not sure why
>>76673476>Guys with girlfriends try to "shield" their vision from looking at me or put an arm around her and pull her closer when I walk by.this happened to me just today riding my bike back from the gym lmao. It really always makes me laugh because I'm a 35 y/o virgin.
>>76673496same here (except a deacde younger)makes me think I am just imagining thingsbut idk ... a couple people told me that I look "big" (they are all people who don't work out at all doughbit)
>>76673476yeah everything you've mentioned has started happening to me as well since i've gone full skellington. it's normal. women hate that 'mate guarding' behavior and the guys staring at you in the gym are probably just mirin' but you will get some guys that will act aggressively toward you. congratulations, you've made it. this is your life now.
>>76673476anon unless you are 6ft+ with a high tier normie face (or 5’7”+ with a chadlite face) i think that you are just being paranoid. if you dont notice girls giving you IOIs on a daily basis then its just your mind playing tricks on you because of fear of conflict or sth like that but i aint a fucking psychologist so idk
>>76673496>>76673502>>76673503if you receive IOIs from women then you understand the situation correctly. if you don’t receive IOIs then its either that its in your head or the dudes act like that for other reasons (for example if they black they could be thinking “this nigga looks weird af better act protective around my bihh and shieeet”
>>76673476If you're human niggers will instinctively see you as prey
>>76673476>>76673496>>76673502>>76673503>breaking news: anon discovers tards are insecure>more at 11>ta da da da da na
>>76673508>>76673516the hell is a IOI? Ffs I hate acronym niggers smdh
>>76673639i had to look it up. indicator of interest
>>76673652so mires, that newfag better learn /fit/ speak pronto
>>76673639>>76673678jfl IOIs has been used on this board since always u are the newfag here + u werent even able to infer what IOIs meant from the context of the text. mirin’ isn’t used in the context of heigh/face
>>76673735>redditbobnot fooling me
>>76673476Post body
>>76673476never happened
>>76673755not fooling me saar>>76673766if what he is describing is accurate it happened because of face & height not because of body. only thing gymcelling had to do with this was that he got lean
>>76673735>been used on this board since alwaysNot very common
>>76673784not very common saarits IOIs not IOI, siddhartha. it is has been used in this board since the rise and fall of the manosphere/redpill autists
>Female acquaintances and friends started becoming touchy-feely even though they have boyfriends and husbands>The single friends act like I just want to pump and dump>Male friends got more aggressive like I wasn't allowed to better myself>All of them treat me way differently as if they didn't even see me as a person when I was fat>I'd rather meet new people, who didn't know my old self, than experiencing this new side of my friends>People have an entirely different expectation of how I should act and behave, compared to my old fatty self, and I feel like I'm letting them down when I don't behave that wayI just became jaded as fuck, and I still haven't figured out how to navigate in it.
>>76673795You sure about that?
>>76673799>>76673795Meanwhile
>>76673799oh fuck off u sneaky indian autist, your archive is probably post-2020 or sth, and idc anyway >>76673798anon discovers the halo effect
>>76673805saar the word that refers to aesthetics has more results than the word that refers to attraction due to face&height in a fitness board. you would have made a phenomenal academic researcher siddharta, econometrics professors would have particularly loved you.
>>76673807Nope, back until at least 2013.>everyone who disagrees with me is a pajeetYou and Vishnu are both shiteating retards unwilling to admit you're a fucking idiot trying to force a term.
>>76673834siddhartha you are the worst nightmare of every econometrics professor on earth, which is quite remarkable taking your short stature into consideration. siddhartha, the frequency of usage of the word is not a necessary correlation to its duration of existence in this board. the term mirin has an extreme semantic relevance to a board about fitness while IOIs has low contextual relevance, taking this factor into account the difference is frequency is irrelevant, IOIs has always been used here and it is -taking into account its relevance- frequently used
>>76673807>anon discovers the halo effectDiscovering it in the ripe age of 33 was fucking traumatizing.
>>76673476you're just a narcissist
>>76673784>>76673799>>76673805wiped his ass
>>76673476Anon did you just discover real life?No shit, you are either competition or you're not.
>>76673678to get a definition i did have to specify "IOI definition, pickup" as in pickup artist b/c I figured that's what it was.
>>76673476>>76673496>>76673496Holy paranoid batman
>>76674486holy poorcel. its a finance term
>>76674508primarily, which is why I had to further specify linguistic context to get after the definition which was actually used here, the definition which is obviously not the financial term...
>>76674529Indications of Interest have the exact same meaning whether you’re talking about stocks or women.
>>76674536you're only able to know that after you look up the term
>>76674556no senpai the meaning is literally the same whether you’re talking about the stock market or gender dynamics. Its not a PUA term its a finance term that PUAs also used
>>76674565>the meaning is literally the same whether you’re talking about the stock market or gender dynamicsyes but you can't verify that until after you look it up for the first time. IOI could stand for anything.
>>76674565>finance>PUAthis is a fitness forum
>>76674588Shut up we're talking lots of fitness in this high-value thread.
When you were fat, you were less confident and happy about yourself, and that affected how you interpreted people reacting to you. Now that you've achieved weight loss, fitness, you are more proud of what you've achieved, you view yourself as a better human, and you project that new self confidence to the world as well, you interpret their tiny reactions or movements as if YOU are the cause of that. That is not the case though, they don't feel anything towards you at all. Your perception of yourself has changed how you view reality. People are just going about their day, they don't care about you or feel threatened by you. The same way people didn't disrespect you or view you as a lesser person when you were fat. It's all in your head. This may not apply to you specifically, but it's a common change of viewing reality people find themselves when changing something. Their ego tells them they are now better humans, so of course people will be in awe of them in one way or another. Whether you THINK people perceive you as a giga chad, or a complete loser, always stop for a minute "Is this really what's happening? Do I know these people and what they are feeling?". The answer is this - it doesn't matter and you shouldn't base your choices on what other people think. Do things for yourself and the people you love. I believe this is what this board should be about - self improvement removed from the ego.
>>76673735You sound incredibly Indian, please stop that.
>>76673516>>76673735God im so fucking sick of jeets everywhere. I think im in a fun little motivational thread until the stark reminder that im reading shit typed by brown stinky teenagers. INDUKATOR OF INTEREST SAR
>>76674832Probably learned the term in his "marketing" (scam 101) online course
>>76673476I also hated the new attention but you get used to it. Just keep a positive attitude and dont hold a grudge for them ignoring you later. People forgive social autism for the good looking. I promise. With time and exposure it gets easier
>>76674853>scam 101scam IOIlol
I get mired a lot and I mean like a LOT, but I realized it’s just meaningless if you don’t act on it. Like what do you gain after the initial 20mins of confidence after the mire?
>>76674853>>76674875>scam IOILoL
>>76673795> since the rise and fall of the manosphere/redpill autistsnot that long ago
>>76674616Not the OP but good point
>>76673476yeah it's normal. some guy literally gave me the evil eye for simply talking to his girl. that has never happened before. nowadays I'm more careful because I'm not into cheating.
>>76674616No, you get skinnier and you look better.There is a chance that the end result is someone genuinely attractive so going from fat, ugly and invisible because of fat distribution to thin, maybe athletic because of hidden muscle mass and revealing an attractive face you end up living and being treated as a totally different person.More confidence comes after being treated better by everyone and is the cherry on top that enables you to live as that new person comfortably.
>>76673815Lmao y got outed as a newfag buddy, stop writhing faggit
>>76674886The trick is to act on it, validation is good but it will only make you sad when you keep receiving it and don't do anything about it even though you want to.Probably used to being passive or think there's something specific that is wrong with you that stops you from doing what you actually want, you don't even know that you want something because you have put in that root cause as a hard stop to your actual desires and it is masking everything.
>>76677100> Probably used to being passive or think there's something specific that is wrong with you that stops you from doing what you actually want, you don't even know that you want something because you have put in that root cause as a hard stop to your actual desires and it is masking everything.How do I escape this? I think a part of it is that I don’t want to engage in premarital sex and find an actual wife and I dismiss a girl I see very easily, kinda picky if you know what I mean