Last night, I visited a gym that my girlfriend has been training at recently. She has been telling about how friendly everyone is and how fun it is to train there. For the record I am a blue belt.First round I go against a purple belt same weight as me, he did at least 3 belly down flying armbars, landing with all his weight on my arm - I tapped to two of them from my memory, but they were all scary to have happen to me even if I didn’t tap to all of them. Second round, I go against another purple belt around 20-30kg heavier than me, we were rolling fine but he caught me with a toe hold and cranked it very fast and hard giving me no time to tap, it hurt quite badly - I ended up verbally tapping by swearing quite loudly due to the pain. After those two rounds, I ended up just leaving even though it was only the beginning of the sparring session. I did not feel welcome as a visitor to the gym. The coach ended up coming to check on me as I was leaving and he was clearly apologetic about the way I felt, which I appreciated.I feel like I do not want to return to this gym, but my girlfriend is training here regularly and has no problems, and she is going to want me to come back. Am I being soft or was my reaction justified? I have trained at quite a few different gyms recently and upper belts are normally very chill so this experience has surprised me.
Wrestling isn't gay. No, we don't get boners wrestling. When someone has been training all season to kill you, it's not very sensual at all.
>>76739135>Letting your girlfriend roll around with other peopleYou're gay and are getting cucked, unironically. Of course she's being treated well, she's a woman giving access to her body in some capacity
>>76739135what is wrong with people on this site. how has your sexual fantasies gotten so specific that you imagine that you have a girlfriend who does bjj, and that the people at her gym physically dominate you, on top of that you come to post it on fit so people say something like>after you left they all gang banged your girlfriendgo to therapy dude. this didn't happen. I understand you are lonely, but go talk to someone or at least just talk to chat got about this cuck shit.also bjj does not work
Anon please be larping I can't accept that fitizens are down this bad
>>76739135Just play out this scenario in some role play jerk off AI brother, no need to shit up the board like a pajeet in the streets.
I got caught in this sport and got to purple before realized that it's absolutely retarded.Literally every single person doing this sport in any serious manner is constantly injured. Not necessarily catastrophic injuries but still running around taped up like mummies. ACL tears are ridiculously common too. And the people fucking joke about it unironically. Like it's the most normal thing ever that some part of your body is in pain all the time.And don't even get me started how it attracts the batshit craziest of all people, which is partially why this sport is so dangerous for your body I presume.Anyway I quit because I realized there are sports where you get the same rush as you get during rolling but in a much safer environment with much nicer and sane people.
>>76739167>after you left they all gang banged your girlfriendThis. But they didn't wait for OP to leave.
>>76739135OP, y u no smesh in session. I'm a blue belt and purples would hate to roll with me because I preferred slow, painful jiu jitsu like I was taught. (First coach was old school, said if you're doing it right, passing and whatnot should all be painful to opponent.) Anyway, that's not your girlfriend anymore.
>>76740460I mean it's a martial art. If it works on a real person then it has to be hellish and uncomfortable. But there are ways of approaching it like with berimbolos where you don't cause much discomfort during training, which is nice.
>>76739135Sounds like you were spazzing around. If someone is giving flowrolling vibes I'm just gonna fuck around and try stuff very lightly, but if there's a new guy who's actually trying i kinda have to try myself to protect myself. That said I'm not cranking toeholds or anything of flying variation.
>>76739135Okay maybe you're stupid or something, so I'll explain it to you. Of course she likes it there you retard. She's a woman and gets to practice fucking a million different men with clothes on, bathe in infinite male attention, and call it jewjitsu. You're a man. You are competition/obstacle to other men. They want to dominate you. They want to impress the women there. All of this should be obvious to you. Are you a child or something?
>>76739533>I realized there are sports where you get the same rush as you get during rolling but in a much safer environment with much nicer and sane people.What sports are these? I might be getting into BJJ, I think doing it at least for a little while could be helpful to me but I'm hesitant about the long term sustainability of it as a habit for me reading stuff like this.
>>76741318Boxing if you want to hang around poor people of color. Often gyms offer "manager boxing" classes or the like, with safer training environments specifically geared towards older white office workers.Olympic Fencing if you want to hang around rich white people. Barrier of entry is higher because you need to buy a lot of gear, but once you start sparring it's an amazing sport and from the feel of it the closest to Jiu Jitsu in my opinion, because you also get to do round after round of full-contact sparring.
>>76741613Or just go to a good boxing gym and do light sparring
>>76739533You can have this with any martial art, it just depends on the gym and the people you train with.Generally you could categorize all gyms as either "hobbyist gym" or "competitor gym". The former will likely have the stereotypical BJJ crowd: hippies, stoners and middle aged accountants and dentists, the atmosphere will be generally pretty chill and you can get pretty decent there, but the overall level will probably be a bit lower.The latter will most likely be full of juiced up 20-somethings dreaming about being the next Gordon Ryan, and you can expect many of your sparring rounds to be 110% death matches.The latter will get you really good at grappling -iron sharpens iron- but you can expects a lot of injuries and general unpleasantness, and these kinds of places are where most of the "BJJ destroyed my body" stories come from. It's basically homoerotic Cobra Kai
>>76739167Based sane anonPretty sure purple belts are not going to spar with some random guy off the streets.
>>76741921>Pretty sure purple belts are not going to spar with some random guy off the streets.lol wut. happens all the timet. purple belt
>>76739135>BJJ girlfriendBro...there's no such thing as a BJJ wife. BJJ girls get passed around like candy. Of the dozens of women at my gym there are 0 with a body count under 100. Just take the sex while you have it and wave goodbye. If you're a blue belt no one should EVER be landing a flying armbar on you. Your belt is fraudulent, if your story is even real.
>>76739533Once you get to the point where competition training involves leg lock spam (late blue to mid purple) you're at the point where you should quit. No one in polite society respects anything except a black belt so there's no point in training dangerously unless you can get your black belt from competition results. A BJJ black belt becomes more worthless by the year as more and more schools hand them out for time served rather than ability. Just not worth it once you reach a basic level of competence.
Just don't roll with someone unless you've done uchikomi together and gotten to know each-other.
>>76741687no such thing as light sparring in boxing. it doesn't exist. also analytically, boxing is focused towards head hunting. vs MT/KB/MMA where the strikes are more spread around.>>76741613bjj is bad long term health. every man should do it for like a year to get the basics, blue belt if you can get it. but as a long term sport it is a bad idea, you will sustain 1-2 major life long injuries that require surgery if you do it long enough.>>76741788this anon is coping. bjj attracts mentally stunted people who want to hurt people whether they admit it or not. bjj inherently causes significant injuries from training alone.>>76742407leg locks also only work in sport jiu jitsu. they fail in MMA. irl if you try to leg lock someone you are far more likely to get your head stomped on, stabbed, or shot. additionally you will get sued into oblivion.
>>76742532I did BJJ for 2 years and the only serious injuries I had were my fault. Didn't need surgery though.You could blame BJJ but having physical awareness, strength, flexibility and general athleticism, plus the ability to tap when you know you're fucked. Then you don't have to worry much about injuries.
