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> Even if /sig/ helps only one anon out of dozens that visit these threads, it's reason enough to keep posting.
>thanks /sig/ for turning my life, nearly 10 years ago, around for the better.

> lol faggot oyu are still here
yes, posting when something good can be done
and lurking for the 1% of good posts every now and then here


My fellow anons, take here the best of the best, the /sig/ archive

sigAnon files 01.2025
Main folder:
https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA

for_my_anons
https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBC

Motivational pics
https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/DmokwDhJ

sig topics
https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/7nQyyRaS

How do I stop being a cowardly little bitch and gain the courage to tell my fianceé that I find her a weight gain unattractive?

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>>77164580
OP? even posted the /sig/ archive before I could to it.
thank you

>>77164583
I think it doesn't matter HOW you tell it to her
no matter how good your arguments are, most women will respond the same way

but for me, I want a wife I can carry, a wive I can rescue if every happens something to her
how can she get happily fatter and fatter, making it hard for me to care for her if needed?
What if I would get the male equivalent of her? Would she still love me?
Well she loves me for all my muscles, why can't I have a wife who cares for herself at least a little?
Why should I care for her if even she herself doesn't care?

good luck my dear friend

Can you upload it somewhere else than fucking MEGA?
Those greedy assholes and their 3GB Downloadlimit bs.
Thank U

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>>77164643
It’s 4chan, if you see something needing done, diy - saw that we hit 300 with no new thread, I’m not just gonna let /sig/ die. The only good thread on the entire site right now.

Besides, ever since quitting porn I’ve developed a fetish for sniping shills, especially demoralization shills of the pathetic foreign infomercenary kind. I can smell them a mile away and it feels so good to ruin their tactics and psyop them back. And /sig/ threads draw them like flies to honey.

Good luck gents.

>>77164659
/sig/ will remain. I did a /sig/ search through the site a few weeks ago and was sad that there was not one here. These are the life blood of this site. Nice work and keep it up.

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>>77164659
While I commend your proactivity, and your basedness, /fit/ has a bump limit of 500 posts.

>>77164717
Everything is cope. But my copes are more powerful than yours, boyo

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>>77164717
>living, laughing, and leaving
Sounds like the gayest self help book you've ever read. Shut the fuck up.

>>77164717
he posted it again!

>>77164573
All my attempts at self-improvement turned out to be fruitless against the sheer weight of my inadequacies. To name a few: no discipline, no social life at 23, overindulgence in escapism (food, porn, 4chan, etc.). It's like I can't trust myself to be consistent enough to make all the necessary changes in my life, since I'm always trying to numb myself to avoid the negative thoughs that cloud my mind 24/7. Other info that may or may not be relevant:
>Divorced parents. Raised by single mom
>Perfectionistic,procrastinator and low attention span.
>Former "gifted kid"(=midwit). Getting stupider by the day, since I stopped learning new things entirely
>Working odd-job where I'll probably be fired soon
>Prone to mood swings(rage fits, crying mysef to sleep or just apathy towards everything)
>Probably obvious but I'm a khhv

Any tips/recommendations? Though I'd like to be courageous enough to just off myself.

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>>77164706
2 good threads amongst the garbage then. Thought it was 300. Ah well, no ragrets.

>>77164717
How you doing today, faggot, welcome back, keep the metadata trail hot.

I have achieved a lot and I'm proud of myself for that, but I can't for the life me control my food cravings and I keep eating shit and gaining weight.

>>77164792
You either need to go to church, or at least start reading Chesterton.

>>77164801
Just say you're bulking

>>77164706
>>77164797
309

You guys wanna read something cool, you should check out old pulp novels from the 30s. Really fun reads. Doc Savage is overpowered, but he is definitely /sig/ approved.

>>77164583
From a woman's perspective i would recomend you to make collective changes, and give her soft encouragement. Tell her how good she looks in gym clothes or how she glows after a good workout. Stock up on healthy foods, and make it hard to eat bad. Other than that you have to be soft with her and make it seem like losing weight is her idea. Not thay she was pressured to do so.

>>77164583
Take her out to physical activities she likes doing like dancing, hiking or walking around. Or just marry her and get her extremely pregnant.

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>>77164706
>>77164797
it's not 500, that was fine

>>77164573
I have zero energy most days and take forever to recover from working out. I'm desperate bros. Starting with that NoFap thing I keep hearing about,

>>77164955
What's your cardio like?

>>77164955
Might be training to much. It happens with me as well, and I find halving my workout for a while works fairly well. Reduces fatigue while not really effecting gains. And whats your sleep schedule like?

>>77164792
I was pretty similar at 23, former gifted kid, underemployed, addicted to a million bad habbits, fat. I'm a few years older, and far from perfect, but I've improved a lot to the point where I can look myself in the mirror and be happy with the man I see despite his flaws.

Consistency and willpower are almost exactly like a muscle. Shockingly close. Using it improves it. It has a current limit of what it can do. It can be exhausted in the short term and have to recuperate.

Treat it exactly like a muscle. Find a good work out for it, something difficult, but not impossible and likely to fail. Pick a single good habit to make a major focus and target it. Keep your computer desk clean, for instance. Pick the bad habit you're the least attached to, and start tracking it. Not even trying to get rid of it, just become aware of how much you're doing it. Then, only when you get good at that, start to try and reduce it. Not eliminate it, reduce it. If you're in this state, trying to cold turkey porn or internet surfing, or whatever is like walking into a gym and trying to bench 225 on day one. Just going to end in failure and possibly injury. You also shouldn't be ashamed you can't bench 225 right away. It's just the result of being untrained. If you have a failure, don't freak out and decide you're a filthy flawed freak for gooning to furry inflation porn again after being clean for a week or whatever, just realize you basically did a set to failure, and start the next "set" with the intention to do better next time.

Find a will training method that works for you to start with and build from there.

We have a society that breeds people with weak will at an industrial level, so don't beat yourself up too much. It's your responsibility to fix yourself, but you're not uniquely fucked up for ending up like this. At 23 you're perfectly fixable if you decide to do the work.

I can't stop eating cinnamon toast crunch.

>>77164955
Jerking off isn't the problem if you're feeling that wasted unless you're doing 4 hour goonsesh type shit. Fix your diet, sunlight, and sleep before doing anything else, and get bloodwork.

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Fruitless copium thread. The fact that you will reply passive aggressively to my post says everything i need to know ; you yourself know deep down that making it is for no one but those who started out great. Meanwhile you'll be the same sad sack in 5 years spinning your wheels chugging synthetic powder drinks and lifting manmade metal up and down or running like a maniac.

>>77165027
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>>77165027
I like the me of today much better than the me of 3 years ago, and I bet I'll like the me of 2029 as much more :)

>>77165027
>you'll be the same sad sack in 5 years
I'll actually be a much buffer sad sack

>>77165099
If you also engage in high culture, you can become a sophisticated sad sack

i started smoking cigars for a meditative and masculine ritual

>>77164643
>>77164913
>>77164928
I just went the blunt retard route and directly asked her when she’s going to lose weight instead of going the nice diplomatic route. Went as well as you’d expect though it was a productive conversation ultimately. I was scared at first to ask, but I realized that I should have hard convos more often instead. It feels like flexing a muscle desu

>>77165599
>shapes his world
based

>>77164899
I unironically prefer my stories to have pictures

>>77164913
kind advice
>>77165599
super glad it worked out for you two anon
wish you both the best health and future together
be in it together for a long time ( ᐛ )b

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down to 184 this week from being stuck at 186 last 2 or 3 weeks, hopefully next month i can get below 180

Love that /SIG/ is back. Keep at it guys. WAGMI.

>>77164573
Who is it that's speaking in this video? I was trying to find it a while ago but couldn't.

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>>77166210
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pedro_Varela_Geiss

>>77166332
Thanks

>>77164659
Pic is actually true, you should not view everything as something to learn and understand but to conquer.
Every major skill and accomplishment I did in my life I feel like a place or a discipline I conquered and now it's mine, not as in property (apart from the things I build) but as in "Nobody can stop me in this place as I know it better than them" sort of feeling, at least for athletics and nature, in work and studies you need to be more humble.

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>>77164717
>The truth? Nothing’s coming. No savior, no reckoning, no mass awakening, no shift in opinions. It’s just endless cope for people too powerless to face reality. The only thing in their future is more disappointment.
So that means I can do whatever I want? As nothing is gonna happen anyhow then what's the point of bedrotting and gooning? I think I will save up money and go to Serbia and join a street fight gang.
Live fast, die young, and leave behind a beautiful corpse.

>Move on from knee push ups to full ones after weeks
>After three sets where I can kind of reach ten each time my arms feel utterly shattered for the rest of the day
>Can't even do a sneaky fourth set of reps hours after this before bed
Damn, at least I'm giving it my all.

>>77164706
That’s great advice. I need to remember it whenever I belittle myself or feel suicidal

>>77165599
Anything short of honesty is weakness and cowardice
>I'm just worried about bla bla bla would you still love me if ......
Just tell her that you want to find her more attractive and that improving her health will make that happen, women want to be wanted

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Any anons here use a CPAP for sleep apnea? Got results of mild sleep apnea but my brain fog and mental tiredness is unreal, what was your timeline like?

>>77166666

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>>77166871
You can make even the tiniest changes in the tiniest moments, it ain't over til it's over

>>77166928
I'm so fucking glad I broke free from this mindset.
Who gives a fuck if the world is going to hell? You're one man, focus on the (you) problems and stop watching the news, the emdia wants you to be afraid and feeling alone.
Play some vidya, read some books, go for a nice long walk, work out - not for others but so you can feel healthy and happy. Stop letting those pieces of shit grind you down.

>>77166989
It's just a copy pasta spam he does

>>77164899
Got any specific recommendations? I should return to reading this year

>>77165599
It is like a muscle. If you don't use it, you don't develop it. People that navigate conflict well have practiced. Of course a lot of the time that's because they're assholes, but I digress.

Lately I've made a point of trying to initiate some of the hard conversations with my wife, or at least fight back harder. Stressful as hell, haven't always come out on top, but I'm getting better at it.

>>77167243
I realized way too late in this life that social skills are a muscle - you need to put yourself out there, in weird situations, in order to grow

I'm out of cinnamon toast crunch and im not buying more.

Do you guys have any experience joining a church for community? I've gotten interested in religion as an adult as I seek meaning. I'm thinking about joining a knights of columbus

I don’t see a point in improving myself. I’ve already made it to my mid 30s as a complete loser which in itself shows how worthless I am. Then you look at how bleak the future appears it is going to be, I truly don’t see a point for someone like myself. I’m never going to have a family or even have sex or a relationship. I’m never going to have a worthwhile career. There’s nothing I really want to achieve in the future because even having the most basic life possible seems completely unattainable for me. I just don’t see a point.

>>77167253
Good job the small steps are what matters

Anons I've taken upon my self to self improoove and I wouldnt mind some advice moving forward. Between my jobs and my own temperament ive been pretty much a stay at home shut in for the last 3ish years. I've decided enough is enough and in January I shaved my depression beard off and started getting my body in better shape and lost 42 lbs since, another 20-30 to go, goal bodyweight of 215ish, depending on how I look. I predict by summer I'll be in pretty decent shape again. I dont look like a fat slob anymore but now I have to tackle the experience that all autists fear; talking to women.

I am not a KHV, had a long term relationship before but I honestly haven't even interacted with a woman with that intent in at least 2 years, havent had a GF in almost 6 and I have no idea how to get back into it. Any skill I might have had has definately degraded to nothing. I was never very good at it in the first place as i get full on freeze up anxiety about approaching women while sober. I quit drinking about 3 years ago as well so I haven't been to a bar or any real social events since, I have absolutely zero self control when I drink and I wanted to stop before my blackouts ended up with legal consequences instead of funny stories the next day.

I have tickets to a festival this summer and I want to have a shot at at least talking with people and not being unbelievably rusty. Once I finish losing the weight should I fire up the old dating profiles and start trying again with better pictures? Im also god awful at taking dating profile pictures. Should i delete the profiles entirely and just start over? I've got some plans to go get a tan(my state wont see the sun regularly until at least may so I'm very pasty) and a good haircut this month as well, I still dont know what I should do with it. Sorry for the blogpost, I just dont know what I should do here.

>>77167360
Knights of Columbus is a strictly Catholic group. So on the plus side, you're picking the correct religion, downside they're going to look at your extremely suspiciously if you just show up and dont attend that parish. they honestly may not even let you attend a meeting.
however, i definitely encourage both things.

>>77165027
It’s not just about “making it,” but also about living up to one’s own expectations, or at least breaking the endless cycle of self-disappointment. Many bad habits are like addictions (or are actually full-blown addictions), and you feel pathetic when you can’t shake them off. It’s almost like you’re failing every single day. Just changing this situation alone makes a big difference, even if it doesn’t turn you into some ideal version of yourself.

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>>77167528
Sometimes all it takes is one guy. Maybe you don't change the world. Maybe you unknowingly inspire someone else. We leave positives or negatives no matter how small, how hopeless. Stay right by yourself, fuck the rest, pretend you're a video game character. So what if everyone else wants to spamroll gatcha, you want to swing the heavy ass sword. There's millions of "one guys" out there. We fight together, you'll find us.

>>77167889
Then I’ll research both

>>77168217
Masstimes.org to find closest parish and times.

To be good is a moral requirement I make of myself, not because I expect a reward of any kind (indeed then it would not be good at all), or because I am told to do so, but because my being revolts at the feeling of not being good. I have been not good, even bad or outright evil, in my life, and I detest all of it with the fiercest hate. So I devote my life to being good as good as I can be.

For me that means spreading love, and most specifically to sacrifice for others for their benefit. This is what good is, the care and love we give to each other, and there is nothing more holy.

I hope everyone who can chooses to try and live good. It will make your life better, beyond any doubt.

>>77168729
You feel that way now, but it will not last. There is nothing wrong with you that wont get better.

WAGMI status?

>>77168843
WAGMI = True

>>77168710
>knowing that all their fitness struggles and accomplishments are meaningless in the great scheme of things.

Maybe if you train strictly for looks and cut corners using substances/exogenous hormones for vanity reasons. If however you train for physical health/performance, one could very well argue that that it is worth infinitely more than virtual stats in your bank's/municipality's database, or even currently marketable and highly sought after skills that can easily be performed at a fraction of the cost by LLMs in the near future. ;)

(You) are your health and it pays to be /fit/.

>>77164573
>Thinking about how gross and fat I'm getting
>Make plans last night to start taking things more serious, even manage to fall asleep earlier (2am instead of 4am)
>Wake up earlier (11am)
>Manage to not immediately scroll, still go to self help discord server, tell them my issue, leave
>Sit and think about what to do
>"I've gotta shower stretch vitamin dog food outside uhh wow, water... Coffee eat, teeth"
>"Let's try that again"
>"I should stretch right now... No, pills, my meds, no but I can stretch right now"
>Settle on stretching on my floor
>Sit down and grab my toes
>"This is fucking boring"
>Go take my pills
>Sit down on couch and immediately start scrolling
>Nagging thought in the back of my head that leads to me watching the first 10 seconds of about 20 different self help videos
>After 3 (THREE) hours, finally take the dog out

Its now 2 pm. Do I just be glad I did something, even if it was one single sitting stretch?

Unable to be prescribed ADHD meds because of schizoaffective bipolar, but I do have ADHD.

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Alright boys I have realized a lot of things about myself. Its time for me to move on. My only talents are

>flirting with girls
>drinking and making friends easily
>lifting weights
>bringing great enthusiasm to the table in any endeavor, though I am lazy and have poor work ethic over the long term
>pressuring or convincing other people into doing things, but this only works when I see the other person as being of lower value than myself I would get too nervous to be salesman

given these talents and my many constraints I think I naturally should be some kind of scammer or pimp or gold digger or something. Any ideas of a way to make a living that won't involve me going to prison? I could also just do a good job as a bar tender or something but having a boss is pretty intolerable for me.

>>77168894
I hope I develop these skills that you have, minus drinking

>>77168900
hey dude nta but if nothing matters?
Why not have fun?
Why be a crab in a bucket?

>>77165027
>Do nothing
>Die
>Do something
>Still die?
>Be born something
>Also still die?
>Be born in a rotting hole in the ground
>Still fucking die??

You can be a pessimist if that brings you joy... Somehow, but eventually you gotta wake up and realize that life is whatever you make of it.

Even if you know you won't be the top 1% human on earth, it's better than being the 99th percentile, or 98th, or 50th, and if you're already the 99th or 50th, it's perfectly achievable to up yourself 1 percent.

In that same vein, my disabled mother with a blind eye and barely functioning right arm has improved her life and physicality and is now suffering much less in daily life and her constant pain from liver necrosis (alcoholism). She doesn't even take pain meds other than weed anymore. Would you rather turn out like her at 52 or avoid that altogether?

>>77168912
drinking is a pretty neccissary part of it for me. I can only unleash my fun guy personality with some help from alcohol. If I was just like that all the time I would not be on 4chan asking random fags what I should do with my life, I would already be somebody.

But as far as devloping these skills go, I think that the most you can do is learn how to get into a care free and playful state around other people. You can't fundamentally change your personality so you need some of that spark to already be inside of you. But you can do some sketch comedy practice and learn a few things that will be useful. "Agree and amplify" is something that I have always used. Any time someone says something negative or judgemental about you, agree with them and amplify it and people almost always find that disarming and endearing. Thats a big sketch comedy rule that translates directly to social skills.

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Second day of going to the gym today

>>77168926
>drinking is a pretty neccissary part of it for me. I can only unleash my fun guy personality with some help from alcohol.
got it, I tried drinking one time, but I really hate the taste of alcohol
>But as far as devloping these skills go, I think that the most you can do is learn how to get into a care free and playful state around other people. You can't fundamentally change your personality so you need some of that spark to already be inside of you
well, I'm actually pretty cheerful when I get to know the person, my major problem is shyness, I need to work that
thanks for your input, hope you find your answers

I'm not sure if anyone here would know but for the slim chance that someone will.
What's the most probable cause for extreme exhaustion, weakness, mood swings and lethargy?
I eat quite healthy, sleep 6-7 hours (the iranians don't allow more).
This started around two months ago and I don't recall anything new then. I work fairly hard but I used to enjoy it and nowadays all I want is to sleep, all of the time.
Got my blood tested yesterday because I was absolutely sure it's thyroid, b12 or iron but they're all fine. The only thing slightly out the norm is high bilirubin but it doesn't seem to mean much.
Anyone ever had this?

>>77168953
Probably the knowledge of your country killing 150+ defenseless children in a school

>>77168967
Nah, this I had since 2023 and I functioned pretty well then.

>>77168967
Those children deserved it they were going to be suicide bombers. Thank god for Donald trump. MAGA. Stay mad libtard

>>77168976
no not really
but i try

>>77168971
My brother does the same type of humor when he's on opioids. I have a feeling your drug of choice is meth though.

>>77168900
>>77168976
Posting the same "le dark and twisted" basedjak is doing wonders for taking you seriously

>>77168987
What kind of fucked up person allows his brother to be a junkie? Kill yourself.

>>77169050
ignore the doomer faggots. they will be purged

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>>77169058
I'm an Aquarius :0 It's my fucking age, bros!

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I ate too much today
Its over
Leave me behind bros
I cannot be saved anymore

>>77168935
How was it?

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Anyone else have issues with weed?
I did edibles 10-20mg once a week usally weekends for about 2 years. I didn't think it was that bad but I feel it's catching up
Evenutally became depressed not intertesed in anything, not motivation even my libdo is gone (which made me get lab work that show'd it was fine) but apperently it's also correlated to dopamine. I quit for 3 months but my mood never really improved so I relapsed thinking it wasn't the cause. Mood got a little shittier but im quiting for real this time. Just hope this is whats causing all of this

>>77169246
getting high once a week isnt going to have some huge effect on your mood. I was taking edibles every night for years to fall asleep. You probably have low t or sleep apnea or some other shit.

>>77169155
If you still care about your goals it is not over

>>77169246
I stopped weed and just do mushrooms once a month and goon with my wife for 7 hours. Much better

>>77169307
>goon with my wife for 7 hours
Like...you don't fuck her, you just masturbate together?

>>77169312
>goon means masturbate

>>77169330
Yeah????

>>77164583
Like.the second comment said. Don't tell her she's fat or unattractive, there's no way to deliver that that won't sound like an insult. Focus on the positives and frame it as an US problem, not a HER problem.
>I've signed us up for some exercise classes, I thought we could both do with a new year detox, right?
>I want to eat healthier. Let's try to cook healthier meals at home and hold each other accountable, OK?
>I wish we could spend more quality time together outdoors, and I always wanted to get into hiking
That, and only praise her for doing things right, never criticise for failure or things she hasn't done yet.

If she has even half a brain she'll suspect you're trying to get her to lose weight, but delivered in an encouraging and charming way, it'll be less easy for her to object.

>>77169330
it does.

>>77169331
>>77169360
Nta
I thought him and his with where just acting as hired muscle for a mob boss

>>77164792
Hey, you sound like me.

Like you I suffered a lot from procrastination and a mindset of "if its not perfect, its bad". I was holding myself to the impossible standards of being a natural at everything, getting things right first time, and definitely not failing at anything simply because I had no game plan for dealing with setbacks. "Gifted kid" syndrome is a bitch, huh? You go through childhood with a lot of well-meaning adults telling you how clever and promising you are, to the point it becomes an identity, and then one day the academic hoops to jump through end, and you're left wondering how the hell you're going to get attention, respect, and self esteem now.

What you have to do is de-romanticise the concept of perfectionism. It's not noble, it serves no purpose, and your self inflicted suffering doesn't make you a good person. If it helps, reframe it as a sense of shame at your tendancy to waste time and wallow in inaction. Ultimately its a form of fragile narcissism: your procrastination is a defence mechanism. You avoid situations with a risk of failure (no matter the odds, or the reward for success) because despite what self-deprecating excuses you might make, your biggest fear is disappointing yourself or thinking less of yourself. And in so doing you become risk averse to the point of robbing yourself of both easy successes and opportunities for growth in adversity.

There's a good book I read that covers this, called What's Stopping You.

>>77169330
Correct

>>77169382
>There's a good book I read that covers this, called What's Stopping You.
NTA, but would you know where I can snag a pdf of it?

>>77167881
Gotta do the reps, just like working out. Go to a bar (if you don't want to drink, order tonic water with lime and pass it off as Gin and Tonic) and talk with strangers. The biggest thing to keep in your mind is "don't be tied to any particular outcome". See a hot girl, talk to her with no intention of getting with her, just try to get to know her. You'll be awkward at first but if you do it regularly enough you'll become good enough at conversation with time. At least that's my $0.02.

>>77168894
Why not become a trainer at a gym?

>>77169409
No idea pal, sorry. Author is Robert Kelsey if that helps.

>>77169409
libgen might have it, among many others

>>77167524
I broke, but I only got two boxes of cinnamon toast crunch. There's a cutie goth chick that works at the store, she has big tits too.

>>77170223
>voting
agreed
>education
as in going to college? mostly agreed unless you have a full ride and are studying something important
>dating
disagree. you can't let the culture war prevent you from finding love. that's what they want.
>entertainment
you can still watch and listen to old shit and also make your own shit
>self-improvement
not everybody is crippled by trauma or dead end genetics tho
>saving money etc
bc of what you read online? most people who actually put effort into those things are rewarded. vs those who dismiss it outright without ever trying which is its own cope

>>77169155
It was just a single day. You’ll face a lot of disappointment in the process of improvement. But focus on the overall long-term trend

>>77169612
I probably will bro. I figure the manager at my gym would give me a job just because he sees me there all the time and so my dedication is kind of already proven.

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Physically, I'm in the best shape of my life. Mentally, I feel like I'm slowly losing the ability to derive pleasure from life. Maybe I just need new hobbies, idk.

>>77169094
>I'm personally effected by your drug use
>"OH YEAH, YOURE AN ANNOYING DRUNK AND I HATE YOU BUT I PRETEND NOT TO AND YOU'RE A MAN CHILD"
>I'm scared when you OD
>"OH YEAH, YOURE AN ANNOYING DRUNK AND I HATE YOU BUT I PRETEND NOT TO AND YOU'RE A MAN CHILD"
>I've decided to quit drinking and I want you to try too
>"OH YEAH, YOURE AN ANNOYING DRUNK AND I HATE YOU BUT I PRETEND NOT TO AND YOU'RE A MAN CHILD"
>I'm working on the basics, I want to try to do things without being told, and I've started looking inward on why I react to things others do, and I want you to try looking for rehabs
>"OH YEAH, YOURE AN ANNOYING DRUNK AND I HATE YOU BUT I PRETEND NOT TO AND YOU'RE A MAN CHILD"
>I think you struggle with projection, I think you're afraid to confront yourself, but I know you can get better
>"OH YEAH, YOURE AN ANNOYING DRUNK AND I HATE YOU BUT I PRETEND NOT TO AND YOU'RE A MAN CHILD"

>>77167379
You don't have to see a point, anon; ya just gotta do it. I felt the same way at the end of last year as a 38 year old guy, but rather than wallow in it, I thought, "What have I got to lose?"
All I've lost so far is fat, while I've gained muscle, health, hobbies, a sense for fashion and hygiene, a social life, good memories, and happiness. No girl yet, and still a KHHV, but like everything else about my life over these past few months, that'll change soon enough if I keep putting in honest, consistent effort.
You can do it, my guy. You just gotta put your mind to it.

So why do you think you are struggling to keep this whole thing going?
Why it all seems to be forcing, struggling and suffering for you, while it's a good thing you want to do?

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>>77170540
It doesn't really feel like emptiness or depression. I've done my journaling since that first post and I'm thinking it may bebecause I haven't engaged in any of my creative endeavors in some time. I'm going to make an effort to work a little bit on my writing and my drawing later tonight to see if that helps. The only thing besides that I could think of is that, with having the lower levels of my hierarchy of needs satisfied, my subconscious is now prioritizing things on higher tiers, possibly the one regarding socializing and relationships.

Just started 5x5. I'm 6ft, 89kg and just failed 82.5 squat on the last set because my lower back was hurting. Please someone tell me they had worse starting stats and that it gets better.
>squat 82.5kg
>OHP 40kg
>bench 52.5kg
>deadlift 110kg (bad form, I will drop weight next time)
>barbell row 52.5kg
I honestly worry what my coworkers would think if they knew I was so weak, I workout at home so nobody in the gym can see me. Those weights are my heaviest ever and it's not even my bodyweight.

>>77171156
>I workout at home so nobody in the gym can see me
Beginner mistake. You're supposed to be weak with your fellow weak bros in the weightroom as you all progress together and embrace each other's success as the years go on until you are strong bros.

>>77171162
All the people I work with are on juice and massive, and to be fair they were massive before the juice.

>>77171167
But can they still have kids?

>pins and needles feeling in my left foot
Is this diabetes?
Am I too late?

>>77170248
Why do faggots delete their posts after getting replies

>>77171380
>he doesn't know

>>77171316
Could be sciatica, or a trapped nerve. Are you obese?

>>77171382
>it's true. I don't

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>>77171386
i guess he was spamming the thread with it

>>77171383
Don't have a scale near me but last I checked I was 180 lbs and I'm 5'10

>>77164573
I need to change my life fast
I believe I just had an episode
>2 months of preparation for a solo trip
>mom has been on my ass continuously for the entirety of it
>no encouragement whatsoever by anyone just negative opinions
>work has been hell for the last two weeks had to endure an combined hour of verbal vomit from my parents last night
>comes today, I come home to pack and I’m greeted as if I was stepping to the gallows

I genuinely snapped, took out issues I never even dared to talk about with them in the past, after 3 hours between shouting crying and bitching all exhausted we reschedule seems fine for now but shitty because it will be a week less than planned

Now the guilt is coming back
I fucking hate it here but I have no money to move out the hell am I supposed to do?
I talked about this trip so much I was really looking forward to it that now I feel shame even stepping out of my home because I don’t wanna tell people I needed to posticipate the departure

>>77170352
That sounds like a good idea to me. Would tap into your skill set and be something you already enjoy. Could help you loosen up and get to be your funside more too w/o having to rely on alcohol.
Good luck! Wish u the best.
>>77171380
It's a common copypasta, anon.

Today I feel like working out to date and marry a crazy diva rich older than me girl. Oh man and dealing with her being entitled towards me would turn me on so much. I gotta get to 500lbs bench pressing.

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>2 weeks back
>only went in the gym 2 times during the week due to timing issues
>last week
>only went in twice again because i had a shitty flu
>this week
>strength levels are the same, if not better on some exercises
Maybe Mentzer was right...

No more cinnamon toast crunch. Even if there is a short skinny goth chick with big tits at the store 2/3's of the time.

I'm too autistic to pick up on signals from women and too pussy to just go for making a move. Now I'm ultra paranoid and insecure about having a second woman get bored and lose interest in me

>>77171316
>in my left foot
plantar fasciitis?
look up stretches and do that rolling thing with a lacrosse ball/glass bottle under your foot

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>>77167379

>>77171638
How much can you bench right now? You must be crazy strong

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>>77168894

I knew a lad who basically worked as a party boy on cruise ships. MC/hype man type of job. Try cruise ship entertain ment jobs. Bonus; free housing, guaranteed to fuck female crew, drunk passengers

I stopped watching porn 50–55 days ago, but now I spend much more time scrolling X. How tiresome

>>77171990
I'd rather watch the porn

>>77171402
fuck those crab-bucket cunts. Go on your trip and enjoy it. I cannot stand seeing parents sabotage their kids. Go do it. I guarantee you will be the better man for it.

What do you have planned for your trip? Tell me about it.

>>77172141
What was planned was
3 days in Fukuoka
3 days in Nagasaki
4 days in Kumamoto
8 days in Miyazaki
All tourism oriented but the last one because I will train kendo there as much as I can with a master I know

There’s good and the bad, on one hand it sucks for a week to being flushed in the toilet but on the other there’s much that was left unsaid that I managed to throw out, asked a friend of mine maybe we can move out together.

how much do tits weigh?

>>77172602
your chink cartoons aren't real little buddy

>>77169368
LMFAO

>>77172602

Sick. I backpacked Japan and China in my 20s. You'll have a great time.

If your parents are treating a trip
like a betrayal, get out ASAP.

>>77172613
Wet bags of sand

>>77172732
standard bag of sand? saturated?

>>77172642
nta, you go backpacking? im in my 20s myself, and i definitely want to pick up backpacking as a hobby. do you have any advice as my first trip? i have no camping experience, so i know i need to start there first.

Need help with a woman problem bros...
>start dating qt autist at work
>have a bunch of stuff in common
>very open about sex
>fuck on the first date
>but always ghosts me after a few messages
>always needs alcohol to sex
>start being tired of her shit, ignore her a while
>attempt a date, get refused
>next day she tells everyone at work how she fucked someone else
>i'm now the workplace cuck (just fuck my shit up)
>she gets visibly angry when i start fully ignoring her on the premises
>now getting regretful
I miss her bros but im still not sure if i want to become a cuck, it feels disgusting just thinking about it
Did I mess up by not showing enough intent or did she just play me? Do I send her some flowers or try to forget about her?

>>77173045
yucky. don't date sluts at work shit gets messy BRAH

I want to start exercising, getting in shape and all that jazz. I'd like some help getting pointed in the right direction.

I have a few clear fitness goals in mind. Mainly:
Building up a good aerobic base for when I start training for 3 races in LA. A 10k, Half, and full marathon.
Build up a good leg strength foundation for the same reason.
Build up the muscle to specifically princess carry about 160lbs easily.

How do I go about setting a fitness plan? Are there any apps I can look out for to streamline the process? Are there services where I can talk to a pro trainer and just hash out a training program and then do it on my own?

>>77173045
>wanting to date someone who fucks on the first date AND fucked someone else
lmao

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>>77173045
you...miss her? she's a whore bro. i know you can't see clearly but you need to fuck someone else in the office pronto to redeem yourself

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>>77170425
Pick up gunpla. Building and painting models in general fixed that for me.

>>77173086
if you want to build your aerobic base, zone 2 is your friend. it'll build your slow twitch muscle fibers (needed for marathons), and lactate threshold.

check out /roon/, they have resources to get you started for 5k, 10k, half-marathons, and full marathons. im working out for marathons too.

My god I have to quit nicotine or find a way to get it without killing myself. Smoked cigarettes for 20 plus years and switched to vape after I started having problems. Vape worked great until it didn't and then had a very weird health scare/panic attack/am I dying moment that I attribute to the vape oil. Now I'm smoking a little pipe tobacco and that was great until it wasn't and now I feel like someone is standing on my chest after I smoke on the pipe. Wake up with it too. God fucking damnit nicotine is addictive. I used to drink like a fish and smoke bathtub crank and that shit is nothing compared to smoking as far as addictiveness. Fuck shit God damnit fuck

>>77173166
nta, but that's impressive. yours? i tried getting to aircraft model making but i sucked at the painting aspect lol.

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>>77173174
Yeah that was my latest project. Took me around a month do do. Here's the wings as well.

What aspect of painting was stumping you? Also was it handpainting?

>>77172602
You better go. I'm 28 and wish I could solo travel in Japan so much

>>77173177
Yeah, hand painting. I'd finish it and feel overwhelmed how well others paint theirs

>>77173099
>>77173118
I don't mean make her my wife, but she was actually interesting and lively. Could shitpost in real time with her (she lurks here). She seemed way into me at first and maybe I let her down. I don't know. I've fucked girls before but I was a neet a long time before starting my current normie life. I never could understand people, much less girls. Of course I get disgusted every time I think about the cuck shit but I've been trying my hardest not to be a stupid obstinate chud about things (i've been this way most of my life, now is the time to have a heart of gold)
>the office
It's a min wage job, I can quit anytime and just might if this keeps bothering me

>>77173191
I had that problem too for a while but I've got a good saying now: Strive for completion, not perfection.

Even the greats had to start somewhere. Good luck anon, whether you try again or not

>>77173214
>Strive for completion, not perfection.
That's a good one. I'll have to put it next to
>Perfect is the enemy of good.

>>77164573
The true self improvement general is fraud

>>77165027
But the fact that you replied to this thread tells me everything I need to know, mainly that you're gay

>>77169246
It is affecting you, cut it out for longer, but also clean up your body in its absence.

I just recently came off of a ~60 day T-break and it did not do the reset I was expecting. I was maybe 15% reset rather than 100%.

Basically weed and excessive masturbation and junk food and not going out all fuck up your body in the same way and in order to feel like a "weed virgin" again you have to completely unfuck your body.

>>77173446
working out**

>>77173173
Switch to zyns brother.
Stop smoking, you can wean off the addiction much easier once you can actually breathe

>>77173045
seems like you would like something more traditional as in dating and having a proper relationship?
i would put this person behind you and move forward, find someone that shares your values and do it right.
that would be my suggestion.

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>>77164573
How do I care about improving in life again ? I've ghosted people and given up constantly over the years. I have no evidence to believe I can achieve my passions or goals. I'm an addict, avoidant misanthropic and my negativity and lack of communication pushes everyone away. Tried therapy, psych wards, even ChatGPT.

>>77173502
I'm not sure I can into traditional relationships. I get burned out on people quite easily. Guess I just didn't expect this one experience to be so brutal. Thanks for the advice, fren.
I might just take this chance to get another job elsewhere

>>77173206
>now is the time to have a heart of gold
having a heart of gold would mean moving on from the whore. you don't need to be a bitter chud about it, just try to talk to other girls

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>>77164706
>Psych Major here

This pic has roots in science.

If you tell the voice in your head to shut up, it will. And if you tell it to shut up enough, it’ll stop altogether.

The only challenging part is catching the voice talking. A lot of people walk around with their schizo mom belittling them in their head that they no longer catch it.

Stay vigilant, and tell that mean voice to stop. You will feel better.

>>77164955
If you are jerking off to some pretty extreme porn, this absolutely will kill motivation and make you drained.

Nofap will help a lot.

>>77168894
>too nervous to be a salesman
Sound like the next thing you need to work on. And if you fix that…

Bro, salesman make a ton of money. You could sell one piece of medical equipment and be set for an entire year.

>>77171396
Thanks

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>>77169382
Oof, sounds like I gotta check out that book. Perfectionism is a demon I have been trying to slay for a long time.

Appreciate the suggestion, here is a pic of a cute white woman.

>>77171402
What cunts. Move out as soon as viable.

The correct course of action would have been to tell your parents "ok, whatever, seeya", enjoy the fuck out of your trip, and then discuss it when you get back. They now know they can manipulate you to the point where you'll cancel plans and put your own wishes on the back burner if they act out enough, and that's a poor precedent to set.

>>77173595
I suppose just focus on one small area of your life that you'd like to improve and work on that, before making incremental progress elsewhere?

How do you get more self-confidence without just being arrogant?

>>77174502
I don't think generalize self-confidence is something you can manipulate without drugs. You can gain domain specific confidence. Ex, you practice bowling, become proficient at bowling, gain confidence in your ability to bowl. And if you do that in enough areas then you are going to have some gains in your general confidence due to always being in situations where you are confident. If that makes sense.

If you are someone who is trying to get more confidence then by definition you don't need to be concerned with becoming arrogance because you are naturally on the self critical or low self esteem side. But if you always have a good friend who is not a suck up and will tell you that you are being a prick then I guess thats one good solution.

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Any recommendations for improving social life? And by improving I mean completely rebuilding from scratch. I only rotate between work, home, and sometimes gym

>>77174564
its fucking hard man. If you have any connections from the past, old friend or girls you used to talk to or anything like that then use them Going from zero to 1 is harder than going from 1 to 5 you know what I mean.

If you don't have that then try becoming a regular at a bar. Its pretty easy to make friends like this even if they are "drinking buddies" and not exactly the same as real friends. Or you can join any kind of club or group that interests you. I signed up to play dungeons and dragons at a gaming place and got put in a group. Kind of made friends that way but it was also kind of rough because most of the fags who will join a random d&d game are even bigger spergs than me.

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>>77174591
Yeah I've always been hesitant to do or join stuff like Dungeons and Dragons because my local scene is pretty limited and guaranteed to be filled with spergs, weirdos, and queers. I've been meaning to pick up more hobbies in general but haven't done so yet as I can't decide

>>77174564
You need to go to places you want to socialize at.
An easy start is at your work.
Turn sometimes into ofttimes.
From there, expand into your hobbies. What do you like?

>>77174594
i sat next to this chinese fucker with the worst breath ever. and the girl next to me was a qt until she said she was still in high school. And then I didnt even want to look at her. It was a pretty terrible experience for the first few weeks. The dungeon master guy was a clear redditor but more based than expected at the same time

Are squats supposed to feel so fucking hard? I have been doing stronglifts for ~3 months now and am up to 240lbs, and even one set feels utterly brutal and just makes me feel demoralized, but I somehow push through and finish the next 4 sets. But it just makes me think getting to 3plate and beyond is unthinkable.

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>>77174596
I want to get more into /out/, /o/, and a creative hobby such as writing or music but have no idea where to start or what to start with.

>>77174711
Brandon Sanderson has a college level writing course on YouTube for free. He leans into sci-fi and fantasy, but the advice is universal and he also includes the buisness side of things

>>77174378
>one small area of your life that you'd like to improve
Thing is I've grown to not care enough about my life to do that. But that is the only correct line of action at this point, so no use complaining.

>>77174720
Certainly a good start, I took some courses on professional writing in college and as a historian I have written a lot on non-fiction but never dabbled in fiction and creating. I'll check him out.

>>77173040

I did, Im an old fuck now.

The only thing you need to start backpacking is the willingness to stop overthinking everything and just go. Pick a destination, buy your ticket, get a bag throw in some clothes, and figure everything out as you go.

Young guys need to throw themselves into new situations in order to learn and grow. Just go for it.

>>77174711
>writing
Seems the easiest to get into, but idk how that's going to help you socialize unless you take a creative writing class or if there is some sort of workshop at a library or niche store.
>music
Can pick up something second hand and figure out what you like. I'm sure there are plenty of resources online, but to socialize, look for lessons, classes, jam sessions.
>auto
Probably the most expensive to jump into, especially on a whim. Are you trying to have like a project restoration car, cruise around town in an antique, race, or offroad? They're each going to have their own type of get together; wedge yourself into one.
>/out/
Probably your easiest one to dip your toes in. Depending on the activity, it may harder to get a social aspect of it, but I'm sure you can get creative.
Biking might be a nice crossover of for outdoor and auto. You can work on and upgrade your bike yourself and taking it out and about gets you outdoors and to other people. There is bikepacking where people go on treks and take their tents/sleeping bags packaged between their frames. Mountainbiking of all kinds has an easy community to jump into. Literally just hit the trail head and there will be tons of dudes to shoot the shit with. You can easily meet your with guys every weekend for a ride, and then food and drinks after. You can get into the triathlon community. There is cyclocross. And if you're a fag, you can road bike.

Good luck.

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Any drawfags on /sig/? I know fitlit is the power combo but I really want to get better at drawing because it's actually fun when you're in the zone, like doing cardio.

I just can't seem to get the habit formed. I'm slowly trying to detox and reset my dopamine so i'm not shoving constant simuli into my brain and feel too 'tired' to draw a fuckin picture a few times a week.

>my phone screen time is averaging 8 fucking hours a day because I play shitty youtube video essays as background noise to whatever i am doing

>>77175203
Drawing is pretty in line with /fitlit/, if you think of it as a way to bridge the gap between the mental and the physical. I'm trying to draw more as well. I think it's a matter of prioritizing it over other shit, at least for me. Like how you can't let yourself be "too tired" for gym. You just have to will yourself to at least sit in the parking lot (sit down and stare at your open sketchbook). That's usually the hardest part of building a gym routine, so I think it might be the same for other habits. I think I'll try to make drawing and writing the first things I do in the morning, just to try and get them done for the day before anything else.

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Hello /sig/,

My country (Chile) has an 80% female overweight (not obesity) rate
For european countries, the highest non anglo country is at fifty something
Is there any point to self improoving if there's no trophy?
For the record I'm lean and pale skinned of european descent. The few skinny women tend to be of the elite, which is a tight knitted group you have to be born into, and obviously I wasnt born into it

Source: https://genderdata.worldbank.org/en/indicator/sh-sta-owad-zs

>>77175228
Get a foreign import wife and use IVF to have white kids

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>>77175203
>try to make drawing and writing the first things I do in the morning
this is a very good idea. pre-office swims as soon as I get up are the only things that seem to work for me as far as fitness routine. The parking lot trick after-work fails way more than it succeeds due to mental fatigue - which in turn makes my drawing suffer as it has to be after-work (no time for me to draw in the mornings)

I'm really banking on weening 4chan, porn and youtube to give me some energy, (possibly due to better sleep as a result of less mind clutter). MDD + Dysthymia fucking sucks ass. Makes me wonder if I should quit/change my meds (Wellbutrin XL - which affects dopamine)

The plan:
>WK 1 - Unlimited Youtube M-F - 4chan F-Sun (GOONING PERMITTED) - (WE ARE HERE)
>WK 2 - 3 Hours Youtube M-F - 3hr 4chan F-sun (GOONING PERMITTED)
>WK 3 - 1.5 Hours Youtube M-F - 3hr 4chan F-sun (GOONING PERMITTED ONE DAY)
>WK 4 - 1 Hour Youtube M-F - 1hr 4chan F-Sun (NEVER GOON)
>WK 5 - 1 hour youtube, PC ONLY - 1hr 4chan F-Sat (NEVER GOON)
>WK 6+ - Same as above, try to not replace with anime or TVsloppa - Follow spirit of the law, not letter of the law.

>>77175244
Wouldn't it be easier and simpler to just emigrate

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>>77175213
>>77175247
fuck wrong reply

>>77175045
For the creative hobbies its more or less about just making myself more well rounded. Regarding /o/ activities I've been meaning to get into racing or offroad. The local racing scene is full of fags though who do takeovers and only drive mustangs and chargers, and there isn't a whole lot of offroad around here. /out/ is probably my best bet but I struggle to find those groups, facebook and meetup have been fruitless

>>77173889
you can try and work through your feelings and the dynamic between you two because it seems (?) you don't mind hookup culture/casual relationships. it would help you down the road if you want to continue to do this kind of thing, you'll need to talk to the other person about being exclusive etc.

but from your initial story my impression is that you would like a proper monogamous relationship
if so a fresh start sounds great, start forward from there and find someone you really enjoy and want to spend time with and around outside of just sex

if casual hookups/fwb still feel like they work for you then make sure and communicate to the other person about it etc.
wish you luck with whatever you choose.

>>77174502
Maybe put the focus more on resilience than outright confidence. The goal isn't to always feel
>IM THE MOST APLHA FUCKER IN THE ROOM, BWAHAHAHA
but
>Everyone in this room is their own person with strengths, weaknesses and neuroses. I'm not perfect but I'm happy enough with where I am and the moves I'm making to improve. Future me is the person whose respect I'm trying to win. Current me is the competition. Past me is the only person I compare myself to.

>>77174564
There are literally adult social groups in most cities you can join to meet people. Often they'll be a "walk and talk" format in a park, or they meet for coffee in a certain place, or it's a singles mixer at an art studio, or whatever. Just turn up. It'll be mostly old, fat, ugly or autistic people.

But don't underestimate the value of just turning up, striking up conversations, getting a few socials or phone numbers, and seeing where it goes. I've got fast-track job offers from knowing the right people at a Tai Chi class. Meeting for drinks with an older woman at a self help and mindfulness class got my dick wet. I bought my first car from a guy I did martial arts with. Its a tangled web, but you have to put yourself out there.

>>77174836
You must care a *bit* as you're here talking about it.

Just as an experiment, start doing one positive thing daily. Something as simple as tidying your desk, or drinking a big glass of water. Once that has become a mind-numbingly engraved habit, add another one.

It's the principle of habit-stacking. I think there's some similar Japanese "do the thing you're putting off, for only 1 minute a day" principle which is more aimed at breaking mental blocks.

>>77175203
Im a lapsed drawing with terminal artists block. I should take my own damn advice and just dust off the pencils for a few minutes every day. Thanks for the reminder anon

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Dudes it's all pointless... lifting, working, self improving, going out with friends, getting women, everything. You will never make it and you will never live the life you thought you would live.
The younger generations are realizing early how fucked they are compared to the older gens.
Things weren't like this ten years ago, but they are now and they will only get worse.

>>77176529
>habit-stacking
I'll admit I haven't been as consistent with healthy habits. I just need to find positive alternatives for 4chan degen activities I engage in and keep track. Thanks anon

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Can I get tips for quitting porn and fapping in general(expect ezpz because that didn't work sadly)? I feel like I have been getting more jaded because of it, I don't enjoy my hobbies as much as I usually did and I it is big waste of time when I could be doing other stuff. I have been trying to quit for few months but I am keep falling back into this shitty addiction.

>>77176871
porn is submitting to the jews

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>>77176879
This one don't really work on me because I only fap to hentai and I can't really see drawings made by artists something as jewish. I should have specified it in my earlier post.
Thanks for trying.

>>77176541
Gay mentality

Just give up if you want to so bad, don't bother trying to put us down

>>77176871
It's tough. Essentially I think it's a matter of fixing your entire life. It's a long pursuit, don't be discouraged if you screw up, just keep trying again. I would posit the reason it's so difficult for so many men is because the amount of dopamine generated by porn is going to be tough to replace in the real world. However, real sex releases other chemicals that cannot be obtained solo. So I believe it's a matter of gradually building yourself up in the real world while distancing yourself from the virtual world.

Some more tangible tips that have worked for me:
1. Have sex. See a hooker if you're ok with it. Be around women.
2. Be around others. Live with other people if possible, especially if those people are doing well and don't need porn.
3. Get a physical hobby. Lifting is great. Martial arts are great. Anything that can raise your self-esteem and put your mind at ease for a while.
4. Take care of the rest of your health, diet, mental health etc. Porn use feeds on negative emotion. ChatGPT has been useful to me as a kind of life coach/therapist.
5. Track your usage. See if you can detect patterns.

Hopefully that's of some value to you. I've struggled with this for 20 years and still slip up now and again. For me I tend to numb myself because it's easy to isolate and jerk off but difficult to navigate relationships and take responsibility, so that's my cross to bear. Good luck.

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>>77177331
Thanks for the tips! To be honest lately I have been trying to fix and improve myself. Started eating more healthy, meditating, reading books, stopping bad habits like putting yt video in background and scrolling arts on twitter/pixiv.

Also to address your tips, at least for my case:
>Have sex. See a hooker if you're ok with it. Be around women.
To be honest I am not interested in women or being in relationship in general. I find them too annoying and prefer being alone or with friends. Also maintaining a relationship sounds like a chore and it would take away my free time from hobbies.
>Be around others. Live with other people if possible, especially if those people are doing well and don't need porn.
I have been trying to do that more lately because I haven't contacted my friends in quite a while, they life in another town but it is hard to get them out because lazy fucks prefer to sit in their cozy homes and play those shit competitive vidya like Valorant, LoL or Overwatch all day.
>Get a physical hobby. Lifting is great. Martial arts are great. Anything that can raise your self-esteem and put your mind at ease for a while.
That's great tip and I have already been doing it. I have been feeling a lot better since I have started exercising 3/4 years ago and losing a lot of fat. Lately I have been doing recomp of my diet and started better muscle gains than I had before. Stretching is also great, makes me feel amazing.
> Take care of the rest of your health, diet, mental health etc. Porn use feeds on negative emotion. ChatGPT has been useful to me as a kind of life coach/therapist.
That's true, fapping because of boredom or anger/stress is the worst and reinforced this shitty addiction even more.
>Track your usage. See if you can detect patterns.
Also amazing tip, I have realized I have been fapping every 3/4 days and whenever I am mentally tired after uni so I need to be wary in those moments.

Thanks again and I hope you good luck in your journey!

>>77164573
>How have you improved yourself this week/month/year?

It’s actually going well this time, thank God.
>started year at 95kg, lost 7kg last year and regained due to alcoholism
>was drinking almost every day, heavy sessions were >20 beers. Blacking out frequently
>bloated out of all my clothes
>earning >100k/year but barely saving due to alcohol and drugs
Since then I’ve
>Gotten on Semaglutide
>lost 10kg
>stopped drinking and smoking
>closing in on 32 waist
>started Botox and comprehensive skincare routine with tret etc
>started reading again
>play guitar every day, doing scotty west
>started running with fiance and her sister I secretly want to fuck
>applied and currently interviewing for director level job

It’s too early to call but I feel like I just escaped from a death spiral. I look so much younger and feel so much better it’s honestly bringing me close to tears in a cafe

We’re all going to make it

>>77177496
>To be honest I am not interested in women or being in relationship in general. I find them too annoying
Working to view women as human just as yourself would be better for your overall health and mental being as well when you can. It's never healthy to view the entire opposite sex as alien etc.
Having male and female friends will help you develop your self of self in the world and help expand your emotional understanding of others and the world at large. You don't need to date, but it would be good if you were open to friendships and conversations. This is of course if you're generally mentally healthy. If you have some sort of unresolved trauma with the opposite sex that of course is it's own thing to be worked on.
Good luck with everything regardless, you've got this anon.

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>>77177635
It isn't that I see them as alien, I just do not want to be in relationship with them because of reason I already stated. I have small group of friends(which is enough for me) and one of them is friend's gf which I don't mind/tolerate I guess. I don't think I have trauma of any kind, it is just more of that almost most of women in my life weren't good(expect my mom and grandma but they can be petty sometimes with annoys me very much) and all irl relationships around me(friends/family) just makes me think "why would I even want have a gf/wife?".
Thanks and vice versa. WE ARE GOING TO MAKE IT

a lb of cinnamon toast crunch a day

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>>77176884
porn is the fucking worst. i am also chronically /d/-brained. 3dpd porn is addictive but it's like hard liquor when I prefer beer - they don't sell vodka next to the vegetables in my state/grocery store and I much prefer beer

For me my addiction stems from self hatred and anxiety. post-nut hormones are really good at dulling the senses, letting me dissociate and just do what they tell me to do. be good. Study hard. Get a job. Get a car. Get a house. Turns out if you live an inauthentic life, your life never feels like yours.

The sad part is I gave myself this addiction deliberately and intentionally over 13 years ago. When I was 16 I failed every psyop from hollywood telling me i'm a pig for having a Y chromosome and took the "if you're happy and you know it that's a sin" arm of Catholicism a bit too seriously. It also doesn't help i did get waaaaaaay too handsy with a girl once - I still want to kms thinking about it.

So that's why i've been a chronic gooner for over a decade. Night long sessions. Bleeding. torn skin. Swollen and bruised flesh. all regular occurrences in my youth. I thought I was doing the right thing by making the lustful emotions I didn't understand go away. I'd actually have been better if I had some evangelicals yapping at me about making baby jesus cry for touching myself rather than the impression that the emotion itself was the problem.

Anyway, I hope I can find hope. I hope you can too, anon. I've been slowly moving the battle lines towards victory. I need to reclaim whatever primal passions I've beaten (heh) out of myself for all these years. Find myself a healthier non-gym outlet. Draw. Paint. Write. Fucking something. A reason to keep going. A reason to live life rather than just complete it. I just have to be careful. The line between art and smut often gets blurred. It makes it extra hard because I don't want cut out art, but I also don't want to go on a "reference" binge on /e/ and fall back into the cycle.

>>77177496
I'm the guy you were replying to.

>To be honest I am not interested in women or being in relationship in general. I find them too annoying and prefer being alone or with friends. Also maintaining a relationship sounds like a chore and it would take away my free time from hobbies.

Idk man you sound fairly young given that you're in uni so I'd encourage you to reconsider your thoughts about women while you're young because your 20s can disappear quick and having to do all of this in your 30s is uncomfortable. If you're jerking off you're clearly not asexual, and that energy has to go somewhere. I tried the "sexual sublimation" thing for a while and sure, it helped me in the gym and made me productive but I was like a coiled spring and to most people probably came across as a little strange. As I say, the energy has to go somewhere, and these things have a habit of coming out in a negative way when they aren't actualised. Anyway, good luck on your journey, it sounds like you're making some positive changes so, good for you. God bless.

>>77173173
Mate just buy the patches and taper down. Nicotine is cringe and gay.

>>77177835
That pic is me
And I must work on my report thank you for posting it.

I came here to say that,
it is funny that you posted.
Thank you

Bros I'm on a cut and basically living off of chicken, rice, multivitamins and water.

It sucks, can any anons who have cut and maintained their muscle give me some advice

Should i be leaving home daily?
Or is going to the gym 3 times a week enough

>>77178335
A short daily walk pays dividends

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>>77177835
My condolences, I hope you will manage to reclaim life for yourself and find a reason to live instead of existing till you meet the endpoint.
>Turns out if you live an inauthentic life, your life never feels like yours.
True, that's why I try to live the way I want instead of living how someone else wants me to live.
>It makes it extra hard because I don't want cut out art, but I also don't want to go on a "reference" binge on /e/ and fall back into the cycle.
How about trying detoxxing yourself? As in cut out art but like a month or two and then go back to it after time you give yourself for detox passed.
>>77177846
I am pretty young, indeed. Thing is I never really was interested in dating since I was young, it just never was appealing to me and once I started thinking about it deeply I came to realization that I just prefer spending my time alone or with friends and enjoy my freedom of doing anything I want without taking someone's else thoughts into consideration. Even if I was gay I still wouldn't want to live with someone.
Generally I don't talk much to people expect my friends. In highschool first time I talked to someone was in 3rd grade(out of 4)just because I needed some notes for math, in uni I do not talk to anyone expect one guy with I usually do assignments with and we only really talk about assignment related stuff and nothing else.
>As I say, the energy has to go somewhere, and these things have a habit of coming out in a negative way when they aren't actualised
Fair point, I will have that in mind.
Thanks and bless you too!

>>77176541
I rebuke this blackpill

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>>77177680
Ye, I just mean being open to friendships with the other half of civilization should the opportunity come up organically, that's all :) No one should ever feel forced to or that they have to have a romantic relationship. It's not for everyone totally.
Thank you as well, wish u the best!
>>77178335
like this >>77178338 anon says daily walks are ideal, do them if you can.

How do I stop being victim height?

>Not dao/tao and zen maxxing on this day and age
>still a Westernised cuck struggler
>suffer and force "improvement" instead of flowing by accepting your "real self" is your child & animal self, who is being crab bucketed by your refusal to let go
>bad thoughts and problems aren't taken as background noise and spice to keep you entertained
>letting shit get to you pfffft
>being worried about things that don't exist, like the past or the future
>your goals and callings are so lame you can waste time with at home schedules, logging feelings and cleaning rooms. You even must follow a ten year plan, instead of the "self-destruction" method and enjoying every second and working on your goals. Clean once a weak if at all lol
>could be your perfect self immediately, but you still choose to suffer because you were told that's the way to get the 50s Coke ad family life you were taught to chase
Shiggy Diggy that suffering builds character shit
Fix your self perception and mind instead of being a suit and tie loser that eventually gets a divorce for fucking some goblinx maid to regain your manhood, after 20 years of high blood pressure from living a life you hate.
"Just be happy" was right all along.

>>77164573
Sup, just dropping by to tell all the naysayers that proto sig posting saved my 20s and made me what you would call a "chad" through sheer wall breaking.

I find myself here again, because hubris is the fall of man and I've sat on my laurels for too long, My friends tell me I should be happy with what I have and do, but I want more.

Good luck out there. Improving one aspect is like adding one grain of sand to a massive castle, but you get better at improving and you'll move mountains.

>>77178953
Sounds like bullshit. Please enlighten us - where are you in life?

I went to the doctor a few months ago due to feeling bad, tired and not making progress in my lifts. Turns out my Ferritin level was incredibly low at 12 ng/ml. Now after a few months of taking Iron suppliments I feel like a fucking god again. Check up on yourself bros.

>>77179161
based glad you were able to get that taken care of anon

I am starting right now.

i need to cut to get leaner lel

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Deleted all my porn on my tablet
But didnt for my pc, i mostly fap in bed so its an improvement!

>get fit
>get healthy
>stay positive, kindof goofy
>girl interested
I'm so pumped but I don't know how to act. If I don't take it further, I will continue thinking of relationships and women as alien. This is my chance and I will take it.

Would you date somebody 1.5 hours away? Seems like that would be frustrating if things got serious.

>>77181131
Take it as an learning experience. Get to know someone and see if their goals, morals, ideals, way of living are complimentary to yours. Go with the goal of seeing if this person would be a good friend or potential partner for you.
>1.5 hours
That's nothing to me as I've done LDR before but it's up to you two. Whatever feels manageable or not. Good luck!

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>>77168875
Can you sit for 15 min alone, cross-legged without external stimulus of any kind?
Can you do 5 min? 2 min?

Try it.

I wonder often, how much of one's ADHD is an excuse and how much is a diagnosis. What part of it is prescriptive, and what descriptive, you get me?
I am not saying neurodivergence is a meme, I am just wondering how big of an issue it would be if you were for example transported 150 years back in time into a world where daily life was not designed to accommodate overstimulation 24/7. Perhaps it wouldn't be an issue then. There must be more to human growth, some greater potential than blanket statements of "he's autistic so he can't interact with others socially, he's got adhd so he can't focus, etc."

You need to train your willpower anon, you need to embrace the boring, adhd be damned.

Its a tip for myself also, since I too often forget that willpower can be trained, and you can even lose willpower gains if you're not careful (it happened to me)

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>>77164573
/SIG/bros anyone out here, who's dealt with wasting their 20's rotting away? Any former hikkis, wizards? I need tips on how to deal better with the all consuming dread you feel when faced against what's already been lost and is unrecoverable. The panic of being majorly out of time and constantly losing even more time is not motivating in the slightest, but its crushing me instead. Its following me every waking moment of my life nowadays, and I cannot face it ever. Not that I think facing it ever does anything good anyway. This is a monster I started growing when I was 13, it became too big to do something about it, but its also too big to ignore these days. Its also restless, the faster I make progress, the louder it screams that its never going to be enough, I need to somehow cut out its food supply first, and let him disappear on its own.

I think its obvious that the monster was born out the disparity between who I thought I should be and who I was, like most of my shame related problems But at this point after calculating I am ~9 months of hard work away from being the person I could at least accept being. Its a long way to go and not to succumb to drugs and alcohol my two lifetime friends. I also cannot let go of my shame, for some reason. All my life I've been controlled by shame, many opportunities forever wasted, due to shame. Life never lived, out of shame.

If I could wish for something, or if I could be at least able to see a clear path towards something, above all I wish it would be towards being free of shame. I want to be cringe and free. Don't care about being fit, don't care about sweaty teenage cunt on my face. I just want to stop feeling like I am less, stop feeling inadequate everywhere I exist. Alone, in a sense that you never belonged anywhere. I made immense progress on this journey these last few years and this year especially, and fitness helps greatly but still, its not enough, never will be.

>>77181182
40yo whose mom was pressured to put me on ritalin and other jewshit as a "hyperactive" five year old. i'm convinced that its just been an all out assault on our attention span. adding smartphones into the mix and now with remote work its just pivoting constantly to the next notification. i tried to start getting back into reading and picking it back up is a damn near herculean task.

>>77177635
>Working to view women as human just as yourself would be better for your overall health and mental being
Truth. Amusingly both the feminists and simps are on the same page here: women are wonderful. No they're not; they're people. As far as a relationship with a woman: treat them like people. There are lots of people you might not care to be friends with and probably few that you do want to be friends with. Its ok to be discriminating in potential romantic attachments.

>>77175305
Nah I actually liked her a lot outside of sex too,I'm just a stupid coomer who wants to talk and fuck with all the QTs I see (but I don't want those QTs to do the same with other guys)
It's ridiculous when you think about it but I feel like I need to catch up on all the wasted years, plus now is the time to enjoy girls my age or slightly younger. In five years I will be 33

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>>77174610
>until she said she was still in high school
NGMI

>>77164573
I needed to see this thread

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>>77181184
>wizards? I need tips on how to deal better with the all consuming dread you feel when faced against what's already been lost and is unrecoverable.
Struggling with this as well. I'd say just start. The time is gone and no one will come save you. Appreciate where you are while being ambitious enough to better yourself. Also don't kys.

>>77181184
I’m in this position but 34 now. Since turning 30 it’s been suicidal thoughts every single day pretty much all day. Everything you’ve described especially with the shame is exactly the same as my life. I know I’m going to kill myself and never accomplish anything anyway.

>>77182481
>never accomplish anything anyway.
you could go paragliding in isreal

Just quit my tech job as the money was just ok and it was making me miserable. Now I have to figure out something new to do but all I ever did before was like bullshit labor jobs. Gonna take at least a month to brain recover and get back in shape, hopefully by then I'll have some ideas for the next move.

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>>77180796
ankobab......

>>77168894

Nigga just sell B2B SAAS. Every SAAS salesman is an alcoholic moron and pulls $150k minimum. All your clients are fucking stupid too if that concerns you. If you have 15 braincells to rub together and you can tolerate a white collar environment, it'll work for you; if not go sell new Infiniti SUVs or whatever to boomers. "Luxury" car sales is nearly as high margin.

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Realizing my struggles with discipline are linked to the way my parents raised me: I was left in my room with a computer and unlimited internet access from 9 to 18. I had total freedom over my free time, homework, sleep time, I could even choose when I went to school or not lol (ended up missing 1/3rd of days one school year). Today, it's a struggle to be disciplined and do annoying things. If I don't feel like working out, or doing that presentation, I just don't do it; I don't care. Needless to say this is causing problems in all areas of life. AI has made it worse because it's doing most of the annoying-but-necessary stuff in my place. I know you guys will tell me to "just do it faggot" but it's like I got a mental block of pure apathy when it's time to do things. I'll just stop caring and end up doing what I want short term. The other day I was working out and just stopped after 2 sets because I could tell it was one of these bad days where you're weaker and I couldn't be bothered to have a shit workout so I just went and played League of Legends until 4am instead. Please help me bros, is there hope for people like me?

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>>77182399
We all need to reminder that we’ll make it somehow

Tell me, what are the official /SIG/ media? I want manga that will inspire me

>>77183907
mango?
Hajime no Ippo comes to mind

>>77182983
Discipline and willpower is like a muscle
Keep training it with effort and it gets stronger
momentary failures don't need to be taken as some huge personal failures, but when you feel like giving up at least give yourself a real chance to keep going, like just take a pause on a mental level and think if you want to keep being strong or do you want to give in to being weak right now
don't just completely quit when you take a step back, maybe go easier but don't mentally just "quit"
Believing in your own capabilities to a slightly delusional degree will actually, measurably, replicated-in-studiesly, enable you to do harder things than you could if you're only "being realistic". You in fact, CAN do it, even if you can't.
Don't trust your negative or apathethic thoughts when you're tired, drill this one into your skull and remember it. Building simple routines is what you should be falling back on, stuff you just do without thinking even when you feel a bit shit.
When you're feeling relatively well, figure out what would you really like to work toward in life if you could and make someting toward that goal at least a small part of your daily/weekly routine. Start with babysteps, revert back to babysteps rather than quit if it starts feeling overwhelming.
Also as someone who played unhealthy amounts of vidya: it's all empty. You will gain nothing from the vidya, it's all just sedating yourself with empty comfort. Calling it "social" is bullshit as well, you should see people irl just because of feromones and physical touch if nothing else. You could at the very least restrict your gaming to a set amount of time in the early evenings, but I would seriously recommend quitting altogether, it's literally the ultimate surrogate activity (look the term up).
You CAN do it anon.

>>77171990
>>77172026
This is day 60, I think. A few months ago, I would've said this was impossible lmao. Now trying to cut down on 4chan (which is easy because it's dead now) and X

>>77183921
Thanks for taking the time to explain all this anon. I don't know if this will change my mindset whenever the apathy hits but it's certainly food for thought. I hadn't heard of surrogate activities until now but I had this exact thought about games before, they just simulate me working and accomplishing things and even though I'm fully aware of it I often let myself get lost in it for some quick feelgood. You make me want to read Kaczynski now.

life is pain bros

>>77184577
What‘s wrong, Anon? Better not be some gay shit.

>>77184631
i fell in love with my female cousin

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>>77184632
>mfw he still has feelings and isn‘t entirely consumed by indifference.
Yagmi

>>77174594
>and guaranteed to be filled with spergs, weirdos, and queers
If you're posting on this website you're at least one of those yourself, get off your high horse nigga

>>77184632
Legal where im from

>>77183907
Otokojuku ! Men's Private High School is nice. An 80s parody of Hokuto no Ken that doesn't take itself too seriously, nice to wind down if you want to turn off your brain without resorting to netflixslop

>>77183921
>lso as someone who played unhealthy amounts of vidya: it's all empty. You will gain nothing from the vidya, it's all just sedating yourself with empty comfort.
This is a tough pill to swallow
I'm working in a new city with just a laptopt and a backpack with neither the time nor the hardware to game. I often reminisce of the hours wasted in RDR2 and CS and know this will never happen again by lack of time and greater purpose

>>77181131
1.5 hours isn't bad. You can meet halfway. If you feel strongly enough, you can see her on the weekend

>>77180796
You need to delete both to improve your life

>>77184288
Why isn't masturbation without porn as a means to quitting porn use encouraged? Porn is obviously the harmful part. Two months in and I just had a fantastic wank

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>>77183921
>you should see people irl just because of feromones and physical touch if nothing else
Nobody wants to be around ugly people

>>77177598
>>started Botox and comprehensive skincare routine with tret etc
Botox is just not worth the cost imo. Tretinoin + sunscreen will get you 80% of the skincare benefit for cheap.

I think this falls undsr this thread. During my meditation session today the darkness under my eyelids turned indigo out of nowhere. Have any of you bros experienced this? Is it normal? What does it mean? After it I honestly feel calmer and more "in tune"

>>77186504
Might be a nimitta suggesting you are in or near access concentration before the first jhana. Or it could be nothing.
I recommend talking to a monk.

I wrote a long essay about this subject but this website ate it.
Few resources here:
https://youtu.be/YVK9IegZcD8
https://newbuddhist.com/uploads/editor/tb/4nq5prnqw6y5.pdf
https://youtu.be/bkoipV9uQGk
https://youtu.be/qsUfhMK8PII

>>77186504
Another useful video
https://youtu.be/XsC__Zp80Xc

>>77186564
>>77186577
Appreciate the food for thought. Sadly, I don't really have access to a monk. I'll just stick with whatever I've been doing up until now and make the practice more ingrained into my daily routine

>>77178316
which part do you need help with
also
>who have cut and maintained their muscle
if you cut properly you won't lose any muscle

>>77186461
>>77186685
>Tretinoin
don't forget to moisturize and put on sunscreen afterwards

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>>77179564
This is the best time to begin. Good luck!

>>77182983
>Realizing my struggles with discipline are linked to the way my parents raised me
it's cope. My parents signed me up for all kinds of things and I'm still ended up like you. I did judo, football, tennis, basketball, etc. They had parental control on the computer to 1h a day,and so on. Of course they couldn't control as much when high school age.
All this to say, the stories you tell yourself have an impact on your behavior, so stop telling yourself you can't be happy because of some thing that happened decades ago. Not that it's an easy task

>>77187158
Damn it all, I wanted to mention something to the effect of the best time to plant trees to that anon yesterday but I felt uncomfortable about quoting a post from four days ago. There is a cruel irony watching you gain joy by encouraging anon regardless. I failed to plant my tree yesterday.
Fuck it, I'm doing it now!
>>77179564
The best time to plant a tree was 50 years ago. The second best time is today.
Learned that from Mists of Pandaria.

>>77187623
Good luck! Now matter how slowly you go, you need to start moving