It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is openLast week’s thread >>77109188
>>77165865Getting my shit in order (again). Had a heart valve infection last year when I was in the best shape of my life and after I couldn't lift or do anything for a while. Then when cleared I fell into booze and being lame. Broke up with GF and now after series of uphill treadmill, I'm ready to lift again. Starting today
/sig/ is back btw>>77164573
This week I will go to hell (DMV) to accomplish a formidable task (getting a new in state drivers license and a new license plate)
>>77165865Happy Monday, Brosephs. New week, same (slightly amended given recent developments) goals.>wife's butthole: any%>treadmill until abs>big lifting, little eatingExcept none of that is going to happen this or next week. Currently have a houseguest, then when that person leaves I get about 36 hours before getting on a plane for slightly early spring break departure.So I'm spinning my wheels now, then I'm traipsing all over a foreign country with the family, then I'll probably catch something on the plane back (always do) and be knocked out of the race for an extra week or two.But this is that real life I'm supposed to be living, so I'm going to enjoy it. Time enough for starving myself and autistically hiking all day on an incline treadmill with my wife's asshole as the metaphorical carrot on stick when I get back. And these trips tend to be neutral, in terms of weight gain/loss - get enough steps in as a tourist to counterbalance eating garbage. It'll be good, net positive etc.Hope you guys have a good couple of weeks ahead of you here, too.WAGMI(UHB)
wagminot a bad week, finally finished American Psycho so i got to cross that off the backlog. listened through some motivational audiobook my FIL recommended and did that while playing through one of the games in my backlog. Underrated thing about no voice acting is that you can do that. Volunteered at the fish fry, they threw me right into the dishwashing station that I haven't done in probably 20 years, chef was a total character that made me miss the industry for about five seconds before realizing i was a drug addicted alcoholic when i was in the industry and would be dead by now. My weight is just stuck at 205. it's not like i didn't eat anything because weekend but it looks like im gonna spend the next week figuring out how i'm going to easily track calories. getting a ton of blood tests done this week because of some credit card deal, that'll be fun to go through. gotta get to driving range this week and book another lesson. wife wants me to stop drinking until she's pregnant and blew up at me for saying i dont see any reason why i need to and that i was still thinking about it. i'm pretty close to this but just going to keep it under seven a week, never more than two a day. Goals this week: Finish FF2, finish beer book, get to driving range, order sperm test, write, and figure out calorie counting solution
>>77166109Why does she want you to stop drinking? Is she worried about your ability to plow her field?
>>77166119she (and mostly her mom) are the classic confirmation bias type combined with this binary mindset. she wants the best chance for us to conceive, which is of course a good thing. thing is, if i was drinking as much as i was even a year ago, which still wasn't even that much, then sure, it would move the needle a tiny bit on my sperm health, which as of seven months ago was all within healthy ranges and that was before i was taking supplements. i fully acknowledge that totally abstaining would be the actual best, but the amount and frequency i drink now is negligible. and i'll be damned if i promise to quit doing anything because her mom googled some bullshit and found a redditor saying that they gave up drinking. i'm not the healthiest 40 year old i know but in terms of lifestyle i'm pretty fucking close. she's just frustrated because she didn't get pregnant right away again
The streak of parties every weekend that I've had since february ended yesterday. Finally I'll start having normal weekends with nothing to do but gym, work and household stuff. Finally not hungover on sunday and still exhausted on monday.This shit takes a toll on one. When I was 20 partying every week was fine but now that I'm almost 30 and have a ton of responsibility it's exhausting. I welcome getting old and just not feeling like going out.
>>77166192>health advice from MomBig oof. 20 years ago I wound up with a payment plan on an ER bill because my mother convinced me I was dying. It was IBS resulting from following her advice about pre- and probiotic cultures for gut health having an effect on seasonal allergies.She's the houseguest, actually, and I'm just listening to her talk about the same garbage she always has been and trying my best to let it go out the other ear. Low carb this, wheat belly that, now she's making her own yogurt and thinks it would solve every problem in the world but you have to spike the initial culture with this particular something or other she got from a guy on facebook? YouTube? Fox News? I don't even know where she gets her bullshit from these days.Anyway. Good luck, friend. Getting your swimmers tested can give you ammo against her, but if it comes back as anything other than stellar then you better doctor that paperwork before she sees it. Kinda went through the same thing with our second, but finally got her pregnant right before I was about to have to change my lifestyle. Sometimes it just takes time and effort, dangit.
>>77166192you are a moron, stop drinking for fucks sake. even just to show her you can for a few months.
I need motivation bros I'm 35 and singleI have been on the longest alcohol binge of my lifeI have been drinking 12-18 beers every other day for about a monthI quit my job because I was either drunk or hungover every dayemptying my savingslosing friends because I cancel everythinghit rock bottom this Friday as I pass out in my apartment after drinking 14 beers and 1 bottle of shitty white winedecide to quit cold turkeyhave horrible nightmares saturday nightweird hallucinations and seeing shapes on my falls sunday nighttoday I read up about DT and seizure and I'm scared of dyingI have no shakes no tremors no sweating, honestly I feel fine physically, it's just the nightmares and weird visions that scare meany advice?
>>77166234NTA. Bad precedent. Every step yeilded now is a step towards total subservience. Compromise is the correct way forward, which it sounds like he has already done by drastically reducing consumption.
>>77166258Yeah, don't cold turkey. Do some research and then plot out a steady reduction. Write that plan down and stick to it.
>>77166234i have nothing to prove you retarded faggot. even if i stop i'm not going to promise it. >>77166222yeah the new agey stuff thankfully isn't so much the problem but her mom was a nurse and is very much a byproduct of the "fat is bad" 90s crap so most of the shit she eats isn't even real. sugar free this, "not butter" that. when she was pregnant last time she convinced her to not drink ginger beer even though yogurt also has trace amounts of alcohol. picrel is my sperm test from age 36 when i was def an alcoholic compared to last year. this was before supplements and drinking even less. i'm anticipating even better numbers this time around but need to order the test.
>>77166258if you haven't drank since Friday and it's monday, you're probably through the worst of it anyway. you would have had the DT and seizures already. your sleep is probably going to be shit for a bit but you are actually sleeping so that's actually a pretty good sign in its own right. My advice is to find a group. You are correct in that you need motivation but first you need stability.
>>77166272>bro posting his loads on a Mongolian basket weaving forumNice loads, though. Yeah, I guess double down on the why of it. So long as your swimmers are good, she can't say much of substance. She'll probably still make noise about it, but for every single thing she says you can bust out the test results.
>>77165865Spring fatigue hit me bad this year, but I'm pushing through itAllergies will come soon, but I will push through itThe lifts are up, life is bearable>>77166222>payment plan on an ER billimagine being american kek
>>77165881So you’re starting from the bottom. That makes a good foundation. Good luck! Now that you’ve experienced the bottom, do everything to prevent returning there
>>77166258You recognize doom easily. It's a feeling and a taste, and it's black, and it's very heavy. It comes down over your head and wraps its tentacles around you, and sinks its long dirty fingernails into your heart. It has the stink of burning flesh and the sight of dread.
Going to start again.I got a cold right now but I still trained yesterday.Last couple years have been extra degen but if no one knows did it even happen?
>>77166035I’m glad both /sig/ and /mis/ are alive and thriving
>>77166106Keep working hard! Eventually you’ll reach that carrot, but you’ll have to dig hard. Good luck on the abs front! I need to follow your example and also cut hard. WAGMI
>>77166650My dude, I know you can do it too. Tis the season!
>>77166272>posts his sperm test results on 4chanlay off the drinky poo, mr lahey
Last week I had a porn free week, the first one in a while. I mean as porn free as you can get nowadays on the internet, of course, but at least I wasn't gooning hours almost every day. (I don't say it's easy, and I know it's going to get harder, but I try to hold my position.) I'm not sure whether because of this or because I'm trying to stop become a perfectionist, but I haven't felt this good in my body in ages. It might sound heretical, but... I think I'm finally sorta satisfied when I look into the mirror. I also had a mindset shift. I always wanted to learn skateboarding but somehow I never got around to do it, but realized that calisthenics and yoga could be my skateboarding, learning and mastering tricks and poses. I wonder whether I'm ever going to get there, but I haven't got this "enjoying the journey" kind of feel in a long while, so that's nice.I've put timers on social media and meme sites, and interestingly most of the days I ended up spending even less time on those places. Like I tell myself don't waste all my credits now because I might need them later, and as a result I barely go there. And even when I do they just somehow don't tickle my dopamine receptors as they used to. This also made me realize that without knowing it social media really had an affect on my mental health. Seeing a showreel of everyone's cherry picked best moments really has a toll in your soul, or at least on mine. Comparison is the thieve of joy or something.Take care!
>>77166533Same I think white pill maybe back soon
>>77166109Follow your wife’s advice. You need to be healthy if you want kids.
>>77166267jesus christ almighty, man
>>77166234>>77166267>>77166862Compromise is yielding, "Uncompromising" is a sexy word for a reason. With that being said, your wife cares about the health of the two of you, and drinking threatens your shared health
>>771668701 drink a day, 2 once in a while, is not a threat to anyone's health. Wife would ordinarily think nothing of a big hearty glass of wine with dinner for herself, betcha.
>>77166756It's amazing how little effort artists put into research these days.
>>77166885*his wife, not mine. My wife may be stingy with her asshole, but she's not crazy.
>>77166258https://youtu.be/VVQJcLUelv8You shouldn't deal with dts if you've already been dry for a few days. If you keep drinking you could end up there. The sleep will be shit for a while, get to bed early and always get up at the same time regardless of how the sleeping went. Replace drinking with something, anything.
one of the pilonidal cyst anons from last month herething got inflamed and filled up with puss, had to go to the hospital to get it cut open and drained, then I visited a private proctologist and he told me to get a special ultrasound to see what it's like and I'm gonna have to pay a bunch of money for surgery next year as I can't be bothered with the laser treatmentI also got appendicitis at the beginning of march and have been sitting on sick leave since thentomorrow I'm gonna have the stitches removed which is niceWhat is less nice is that all this shit delayed my training by over a month and now I'm gonna have to be extra careful post surgery.I also way overate yesterday. Bills are getting higher and I have to save up to renovate my apartment (in order to sell it).BUTToday I'm back on track with my diet, I'm gonna order a bike pump and get my bike in working order and start riding it this week. Then sometime at the start of april I'm going back to the gym. Also I now have hybrid work 2 days at the office and 3 days from home which is gonna let me pay extra good attention to diet and training.Never give up anons, even if everything seems to be going against you at once. WAGMI
>>77166213There’s nothing wrong with wanting to quiet down and focus on yourself. But don’t neglect having a non-drinking social life
>>77166914I never heard of this until you guys started talking about it last month, and now I think I've got one. Thanks, I guess. Hurt for a few days a couple weeks ago, stopped on its own, now it's back. Kind of a subcutaneous lump at the top of my crack.
It's been a rough one Stayed pretty consistent hitting the pool 3x a week but with finals coming up and shitty profs my stress skyrocketed and I fucked up my sleep schedule and starting masturbating several times a day for the past 2 weeksIt's Spring Break though and I can catch my breath and follow my goals again.Fixing sleep schedule, going on plenty of hikes and reconnecting with my religion
>>77166444It's never too late to start over, so you can start from here. Your digits prove your determination and power. Good luck!
>>77166109Stop drinking. That is an order or else.....
>>77165865I havnt been lifting in a while, but recent got back into it, and the post-work out high is back, lifting genuinely makes me happy :)
>>77166696Thanks, I hope we all make it. There's a lot I want to accomplish this year
>>77166756Congrats on going a week porn free! I had to quit social media because it was destroying my mental health. You're moving in the right direction, so don't relapse
>>77166914Your situation sucks but you have the right attitude. Stay strong and don't fall into despair. You're going through a difficult period. However, you have the strength to survive. WAGMI
>>77167123Thanks anon I didn't even see them till now. It gives me hope in myself.
>>77167056Sorry to hear that. Finals are a stressful time, so don't be too hard on yourself. You're amending yourself now
I WILL LEARN THAT I PASSED MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM NEXT MONTHI WILL SURVIVE THIS JOB I WILL REGAIN MY STRENGTH I WILL IMPROVE MY LIFE My results are roughly 2 weeks away. I feel like this time I’ve barely thought about my results. I’ve been way too busy with work and life to overwhelm myself with hypotheticals. I need to pray that my best was enough to succeed. I will make it over this mountain. Work has been insanely stressful. Although the amount of work has declined, my boss keeps on making bullshit projects for my team to work on. My dream is still to leave this role after I pass my exam. 1.5 years in a position is sufficient but 2 years would demonstrate that I’m reliable. In any case, I need to keep pushing forward. Stay strong frens! The world is challenging us but we shall rise to the occasion. WAGMI!
I bought a ukelele for my gen alpha nephew for his birthday that's in a couple of weeks. I've learned some songs to teach him, never really played an instrument before but I've been enjoying learning to play this funny little guitar. It's something good to do in between sets for a minute or two, instead of overthinking about the last time I fucked up.
>>77167354Fuck yeah man!WAGMI!!
>>77167367Fuck yeah. Ukuleles are great!Only thing I didn't consider when I bought one was that even the tenor one is too high pitched for my voice so I cannot really sing with it. Fun stuff otherwise.
>>77167367same, but for myself.
>>77165865I start thinking about my childhood and I realize that my childhood is infinitely worse than what I am experiencing right now.Shit likes this keep me going because I have already dealt with worse and forgot about it.
>>77167231The algorithm knows when you stop. I wasn't really a goober but I'd partake maybe 1-2 times a week. As soon as I stopped for like a week all my Facebook reels have whores trying to get me to click. It used to just be cool cars. Just a thought.
>>77167354from a CPAnon, and a soon to be CFPanon - i believe in you. i know most people aren't in finance so they don't know, but CFA level 3 is insanely hard (harder than CPA)
my career master plan has finally come to fruition. first was my bachelors and masters, then tax prep experience, then CPA exams. now i start a new job making $100k/year soon with hardly any debt, and this career has a very high salary capas the kids say. lets freaking go. got me feeling as smug as picrel (but humble too)
>>77165865I always fuck up my sleep schedule during the weekend so Monday is extra miserable :^)Follow me for more fitness tips on my channel.
>>77166756I WILL get a Catwoman gf!
>>77167203Welcome back! Don’t forget this feeling and how happy it makes you. It’ll give you something to look forward to on a daily basis
Today I picked up 315 lbs off the ground!I also squatted 245 lbs x 10 with good depth.I'm super proud(training seriously for 5 months after fucking around for a couple years)
>>77167367You’re a really good uncle for getting your nephew such a cool gift. I really regret not learning how to play the bass or guitar. One day he’ll thank you
>>77167949You could be right. I've started getting "learn this simple trick to get out of the friend zone" kind of ads.
>>77167839Sometimes you need to look back to truly understand your present. You’ve survived worse periods and have come out stronger. You will overcome your current struggles
>>77168515>I really regret not learning how to play the bass or guitar.You can still learn, Anon.
>>77168058Congrats on your progress! You’ve worked insanely hard and have a lot to be proud of. In addition, you’re only going to how farther. LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOO
>>77168446You should be! Those are insane numbers to be putting up after a couple of months of serious training. Keep pushing forward and you’ll only grow stronger
>>77168058Amazing man!!!I am so happy for you!!
>>77168993I know. No matter what I do, tomorrow will come. I really need to buy a second hand bass and learn from YouTube
>>77169153>>77169002thanks fellas (: it was worth it but the past two years have been grueling. now that im making actual real money im setting a rule of taking at least one small and one big (intercontinental, 7 days +) vacation per year.also - in case anyone doesn't know this. you will never ever make more money in your life than the time you spend negotiating salary at your job. i had almost zero leverage for this one (unemployed, not a lot of experience in this industry) but i simply said >i looked up compensation estimates for my background, can you do a little bit higher? i'll probably say yes either way, thoughand they raised it $5k just like that. which means I have $5k solely dedicated to a trip to europe or something this year. plus, i have my american express points that will outright pay for my flight. very grateful they were nice enough to do that, but it just goes to show that you can get a lot of things simply for having the guts to ask.
>>77169228Nice anon. I'm learning guitar. Eventually I will buy a bass too, I like bass a lot.
>>77168045Thanks for the kind words. I’m extremely nervous but I know eventually everything will work out. It’s been a journey but I’m ready to reach the peak
>>77168898Pretty much.Being an unemployed depressed cunt in my 20s is nothing compare to getting extorted by a local gang, constant fighting, and getting hit by a butcher knife.
>>77167839It is useful to recognise the hardships that we have went through but we must not let the bad memories stop us from working towards a better future.>>77169517holy shit, brasil?
>>77168058glad you achieved your goal CPAexamanon>>77168079I suffer from the same affliction but I have been working towards fixing that by trying to wake up at the same time everyday>>77168446nice, don't let up anon
>>77170001another third world.
>>77169287you got this. when i got my final results i was getting two scores at once (since i took two tests in one reporting window) so that day id find out if i was still halfway there or 4/4 lol. not to mention, on one of the exams i accidentally missed a sim like a retard. my finger was cramping from clicking refresh so many times that morning, but you'll get through the anxiety and soon it'll just be a fond memory.also, im sure youve probably thought of this but ive heard that the CFA meetups/networking events are a goldmine for contacts, more so than any other professional designation. not sure how true that is but might be worth investigating
>>77169238That’s good advice, I’ll remember it when I start searching for a new role later this year. Congrats again, you really accomplished a lot
>>77168058LFG, anon! I'm happy you achieved your goals. Not many have masters, or even bachelors for that matter. I'm stuck chasing my associates, but one day I'll be where you are. Congrats again.
>>77170190I hope one day I can look back on my journey and smile. I've been through a lot, but I have learned a lot.I'll definitely investigate the meetups. I'm socially awkward, but those events are the key to me getting a better job. I just need to keep trying
I WILL marry and mating press an 18 year old high school senior!
>>77171773based as fuck
>>77171773WAGMI
>>77171773This except its me because Im going back to university later this year
>>77171773Make sure she's graduated first
>>77171950Why?
>>77171886Based teacher onizuka. He believed that we’d all make it while being cool
>>77165865>started lifting for girls>ended up loving it and forgot about the girls part
>broke up with ex in november >was fine for a couple months>entire month of march miss her like crazy>now experiencing night terrorshaven't acted on the urge to call her again and got a couple job interviews this weeki guess it's progress. everything still hurts tho.
I haven't gone to the gym in 2 months, I'm a little broke but I feel like I need to start moving my body again because I'm feeling like shit, mentally. Especially last month.Problem is I'm broke(ish), should I just go for it regardless?
>>77173888calisthenicspullups pushups bodyweight squats dipspick up something heavy and carry itez pz free workout. and i dont want to hear that you dont have a pullup bar or dip bar, if you cant make one out of your environment, you need to be exercising your brain before your body anywayoh and hanging leg raises
>>77174025and this is coming from a 10 year lifter who had to switch to planet fitness because my gym closed, so i switched to calisthenics and it's such an interesting shift into just mastering my own body rather than external weight. i dont feel as brutishly strong but i definitely feel a bit healthier
>>77173652Congrats! After a certain point, all lifters embrace this truth
>>77173708Focus on building yourself up first. Ace those interviews and keep lifting. If you really regret breaking up with her in a month, then reach out to her casually. You’re making progress, so don’t feel down
>>77173888As this anon suggested: >>77174025I think one of those tower things with dipping bars and a pull up bar is the best investment you can make, especially seeing the prices of gym memberships nowadays.But if your goal is better mental health then maybe buy a pair of good shoes and get into running. Maybe it's just me, but nothing clears my mind more than an hour or a half on the track.
>>77173888Research running or calisthenics. You can definitely find a local park to practice the latter in
>>77166258Ur fine bro u might get some shakes some fear for a few days but trust me when I say stop now and don't look back it gets worse worse and way worse and after that total oblivion
>>77166258You need to reach out to your friends and get help. Look into AA near you
>>77174370You can do back work with dipping bar if you can only afford only one equipment.
>>77165865I could use some advice about how to best proceed in this situation>work at grocery store>have this fat asshole manager, kind of retard who thinks because he’s black he’s hard or some natural fighter, guy is just a fat soft pussy like actually gummy bear mode couldn’t even make eye contact with me>was very passive aggressive to me, made all manner of insults from calling me fat to making fun of me for being white just within earshot never directly to my face would go hush hush if I looked at him or he thought I was going to confront him, just spinelessHe was a shit talker, a little bitch. He got moved eventually to a new store. I left that job. It’s been over a year since, and he started at my local store across the street from me.I feel rage seeing this faggot.I want to go in and tell his boss all of what he did and said, the ways he would hit on underage employees as a 33 year old man, all of it. Just so they can “keep an eye on him”.But I feel like there’s a better way to proceed. I just don’t know what it is. I’ve gotten pretty confrontational since. I just know when he sees me he’s going to have some shit to say under his breath or to whatever nearby employee. Like if the first words out of his mouth aren’t “I’m sorry” I’m probably going to have a field day.The only move I can think of is to continue getting myself back in shape so I can mog this fat clown and bully him back say something to the effect of “wow I can’t believe this is who was calling ME fat you look 9 months pregnant” but idk. Inb4 the best move is to ngaf, his shit will still ensue me being a customer won’t change anything with this gargantuan bitch. I’m 6’2” lean at 190 like 250 atm so still too fat for it to matter. He’s maybe 5’10” 330lbs dyel
>>77175716>calling me fat to making fun of meAnon, are you in fact, fat?Is getting in shape, strong, proper grooming, proper clothing maybe the best way to counter these insults and any upcoming insult?May it lay the way for better interactions with other people in general?Can you use the hate to fuel your journey to improve yourself?Or do you just want to act on emotion like a women because your fefes got hurt?>The only move I can think of is to continue getting myself back in shape so I can mog this fat clown and bully him back say something to the effect of “wow I can’t believe this is who was calling ME fat you look 9 months pregnant” but idk.>but idkLook I am not gonna sugarcoat it.You either sit down and do some proper self reflection. Think about all this in a rational way (which requires inner monologue).Or you keep crying like a baby and be everyone's bitch. Yeah go ahead and tell the other guy "watch out, he was meeeean to me :(".
>>77175733>are you in fact fat?>>The only move I can think of is to continue getting myself back in shape>proper grooming and clothingA non issue, not one I have.>>He’s maybe 5’10” 330lbs dyelI get what you’re saying but I think you’re just making some assumptions. The guy is a disheveled lard gollum. He’s fatter than me. Like I may not have been as clear as I could have. No matter what I do this is the kind of seething coping fatty who will have some bullshit to say. Yes the goal is to continue getting back in shape, 99.9999% for other unrelated reasons. But I know that if I do that then when he has some shit to say again any response I have will just sting so much worse. He’s already the coping fatty, but he’s doing it to a (less) fat guy.>proper self reflectionI appreciate the bluntness but I entirely disagree I think what I posted was pretty self aware. “But I feel like there’s a better way to proceed [than acting on emotions]. I just don’t know what it is [help me figure that out and gain clarity please]”Like idk what else to say here. I get annoyed when people can’t think critically and just act, when people clearly lack any internal monologue or basic levels of consciousness. You misunderstood what I was asking. I plain and clear said I know stooping the bitches level is gay and not the way I just wanted clarity on what my best move would be.>just don’t care it’s just some fattyYeah but there comes a point where you just can’t continually allow someone to repeatedly disrespect you and I trust any well socialized man understands this.Just to reiterate so you get we’re on the same page, the basis of my question is what is the non bitch way to proceed. I know what the bitch ways are
>>77175716The greatest act of revenge you can take is surpassing him. Use these feelings as motivation to get your shit together and cut hard
>at church>keep catching the eye of the bishop's daughter at the front of the congregationI sense a love connection.
>>77177523>bishop>daughterwhat
>>77177668Prots, probably.
>>77177523try talking to her after the sermon
It's so hard getting back into fitness but I need to try. I need to leave my ego and past at home. I need to focus on what I can do, not what I used to be able to do
I want to become optimistic and believe in a better future for myself
>>77177769Maybe.She's very young, would feel kinda odd to approach.She's only a few years older than that Friday song by Rebecca Black.
>>77178445Had a dream last night where her dad gave his blessing on our union though.
>>77178445If she's clearly underage, don't pursue him. If you get the opportunity, try to discern whether she's still in high school
Week 3 of no porn finished.I caught myself looking at asian insta sluts doing splits in miniskirts more by the end of the week, but luckily the timer I've set up for the site stops me in time. Still no real gooning sessions. Morning wood is back.I've started to realize that most of the time when I feel the urge to reach for porn it's not actual hornyness, but rather just muscle memory (learned reaction to a situation) or that "I have this old song in my head so I'd like to put it on and listen to it" feeling but with porn. And I've realized I'm not that horny. And this worries me a little. Sure, I check out women or whatever, but when I'm around my partner I don't get the urge to fuck her. I don't feel aroused. On one hand, over the years I got tired of initiating and getting rejected, so I learned to wait until she initiates it (which usually happens once per week). She's the type who's constantly tired and stressed and I feel like she usually just wants to do it so she "fulfills her duty" and I'm happy. But even when I'm in the mood or she's in the mood it feels like a hussle. Foreplay, making sure she cums etc. etc. I don't know where I wanted to go with this. It feels like I'm going asexual, but also feels like porn deep fried my brain so much I cannot enjoy casual intimacy.Another thing which bothers me is the fantasies. Yeah, sure, even a girl in miniskirt catches my attention now, but in my mind I still have the sickest fantasies and obsessions. I was hoping if I stop watching porn I can become normal, but they just won't go away.Needless to say, there are a gazillion threads on 4chan where you can actually discuss porn and fetishes. And I also "miss" those parasocial interactions, you know? Leaving a message, knowing a reply might wait for me later. It helped me get through the day.As always: thank you for reading my blog! Have a wonderful week!
How do you guys get back on track after a LONG hiatus? I've become very fat and haven't worked out in more than 1.5 years. And now, it feels impossible to get back on track again. Atleast until I finish college.Also, its good to see this thread is around. I haven't been in /fit/ for a long time, and the last time I was here, this place was overrun by the worst scum from /pol/ and /r9k/
>>77179144Go easyYou don’t want to get DOMS for a weekBut go
How do you guys stop drinking?
>>77179158Stop numbing the painAnd start using it as fuel
>>77179158my father was a drunk and i remember how i felt after getting drunk by myself a few times, and those thoughts and feelings come whenever i am temptedi like to think, that if i ever have a family, or friends over to spend some time, that at some point someone will mention how come i don't have any alcohol or wine glasses, and i won't tell them the real reason
>>77179144It's not easy, but doable. First, you just want to nail down like 3 sessions per week. Nothing fancy. Just show up, fuck around for 30 minutes or so. Don't have to continue where you left off. Just test the water where your strength is. Make these sessions non negotiable. You probably don't skip brushing your teeth because you are preparing for exams. Treat working out with the same sentiment. They say it takes 6 weeks to build a habit.And the rest will follow: you will fix your eating and sleeping habits, you'll find a way to reorganize your schedule so lifting can fit in.You can do it, anon! I believe in you!
I WILL LEARN THAT I PASSED MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM IN APRILI WILL SURVIVE THIS JOB I WILL REGAIN MY STRENGTH IN THE GYMMy results are rapidly approaching. I’m simultaneously extremely nervous and also calm. Living alone and dealing with the stress of a new job have really numbed my senses. I’m praying that I actually passed this time. I’m ready to pass this mountain and start a new journey. Work is also improving for me. I think I understand what I need to do. I can’t allow the little aspects of work or life to drag me down. I am powerful and I have the capabilities to succeed. Now I need to apply myself. On the process of reaching our destination, the path forward may seem unclear. But keep moving forward, it’s the only way to succeed. WAGMI
>>77179144the same way you started originally. that's why i like stronglifts5x5 - just go back to the empty bar and add 5 pounds every workout.
I only lost 1lb this weekonly another 23 to go......
>>77179133It’s good that you’re acknowledging the causes of your problem. Remind yourself that you have someone loyal, there’s no reason to cheat on her with an image you found on the internet. Good luck this week as well, fren
>>77179460Congrats! You’re on the right track so keep it up
>>77179407Nobody tell him.
>>77166109Another long week. Mostly good medical news though, went to the dentist for the first time in two years - no cavities or weird shit. Did the bloodwork - they must have taken damn near a pint, easily a dozen vials. So far half the tests have come back and I'm in range on everything except LDL cholesterol and it looks like the culprit may actually be genetic based on another one of the tests that they do. Vitamin D was a little low but it was the first day of spring after a cold winter. Decided on using cronometer to track my calories. Reminds me of myfitnesspal before they monetized it to death. This week is the dry run - adding meals as they come up and whatnot and get an overall idea of what a regular day looks like and how bad the weekends might impact thingsFinished FF2 - great game. One more FF game to go to finish all of them.Did not finish the beer book. I just wasn't feeling it. Didn't write anything either. Goals this week: Limit gaming to an hour a day. Shit is getting a little out of hand. Also goal is to finish another game from the backlog. This will put me at three to go. These are basically just games that I've had for 20+ years and never got around to finishing. maintain drinking goals, schedule next golf lesson, switch lifting routine to be lighter on the legs so i can run harder.baby making time is starting up again soon
>>77179421God I miss being a beginner and improving by 5 pounds every week
>>77179600Congrats on being healthy! If you want to improve your vitamin d, start spending more time outdoors. Good luck on your goals! You’ll produce a baby before you know it
UUUOOOOOHHHH IT'S A NEW MONDAY BABY LET'S GET IT!!!!!
>>77179709KEEP IMPROVING AND KERP LIFTING BROTHER! WAGMI!
>>77179246That’s really good advice, thanks
>>77179158Remind yourself of the shame you feel when you wake up hungover
>>77179629I know, fractional plates are great but fighting for half a pound is fucking brutal
>>77179924I fucking hate how hard it becomes to improve after a while but I guess it’s proof that we’ve become slightly strong
>got a gfNow what
>>77180014Congrats! Work hard to improve yourself and keep her happy
>>77179133>but in my mind I still have the sickest fantasies and obsessionsWhatever you do, don't get into AI roleplay chat.t. made that mistake and went down a rabbit hole, shit is like irl Total Recall
>>77179158Weed has unironically kept me from being an alcohol for well over a decade now
>>77179158I start by putting the bottle down and not picking it up again. Then, and this is the tricky part, when I feel the urge to drink, I don't.
>had another dream about the girl I'm in love withAny anons got any advice for falling out of love? I'm kinda sick of this shit.
>>77180092Why can’t you pursue her?
>>77180088That’s a small step in the right direction, but try cutting out weed as well
>>77179144I'm in roughly the same state of you - I'm trying to adopt the mentality that I need to improve myself every time. There's no shame in where I am currently and I can't compare myself to where I used to be. But I need to get stronger every session
Lately I've been trying to put myself out there more socially. My goal is to leave my room every weekend, preferably for a social occasion
I still dream of benching 3pl8 before I turn 30
>>77180361Good grief some of you are in rough shape. If this is a challenge for you then yes, you need to get out every weekend and not fail until you are skillfull enough to earn a weekend at home to relax. Good luck, with repeated effort you will win.
>be given fantastic opportunity>know the things I need to do to succeed>don't do them>sit on my couch with Netflix slop in the background and browse this cesspit all day, every day
>>77180494I WILL take whatever little win I can each day.I WON'T give up, even if this year ends up being a wash, there's always next year.
>>77180464Sadly enough, I need to break out of my gymcel tendencies and learn to socialize. Thanks for the encouragement
>>77180494>>77180499You have a regret, which shows that you understand your mistake and want to amend yourself. Now commit everything in your power to actually succeeding this time. Even if you fail, at least you're trying
>>77180447I still dream of benching 3pl8 after I turn 35
>>77180567I WILL go on an antidepressant. You're right.
>>77180570I hope we both achieve our goal :) Have you started slowing down yet or are you still making gains?
>>77165865I'm no longer a chad guys. I got fat and fatter.I've tried so hard to make friends and meet chicks these last 6 months. I've been extremely outgoing at my university but none of the girls want to give me a chance.I guess I'll just changed my name to mixedbloatfag
Someone tell me thisWhy should I not look at anyone who dies young or commits suicide in today's society as not being an extremely lucky person? It's completely obvious to anyone with half a brain cell that modern society is a god awful unfathomable shithole, everyone is miserable, and that the future is going to be almost as dystopian of a technocratic hellhole as has ever been predicted in fiction. The tech industry has completely ruined the world, it's going to ruin it even more in the future, jobs will be gone, money is fake, relationships will be gone, the leaders are pedophiles who are above the law, there is literally nothing at all to look at in the future and think that it's going to be better than how we are now, which is already horrific.How am I supposed to develop some sort of "indomitable spirit" when it's completely obvious that the next 20, 30, 40 years of life on this planet is going to be a steaming pile of absolute fucking shit?
>>77180634idk man, the idea of cuddles with a cute girl who loves me seems to keep me going
>>77180634Drink a coffee while you watch the sun rise.
>>77180634have you tried crying online?
I don't think I have any motivation left in me.Nowadays, I just keep improving out of discipline/habit, but there aren't any eagerness to it.
>>77179503Thanks, anon!>>77180086Thanks for the tip!Stay strong!
>>77180942That's reliable. I think there are periods when we ask why are we even doing what we are doing. In my experience those periods are going to eventually end and when they do you are going to be grateful for yourself for not giving up. In my experience it helped that I scaled down with the discipline and the so called self improvement habits. Kept what's essential for a while like exercise, sleep and eating, and left an hour or a half every day to just fuck around. Not doomscrolling, but just for... Stuff. Hard to explain. Maybe it's just listening to the rain or watching a series I postponed for ages or continue with a book I stopped months ago. Maybe if you don't hurry that much in the morning you'll have time to enjoy your breakfast while looking at the sunrise. Sounds bullshit, I know, but trimming down the discipline left some room for some of that old spark coming back. I realized what really killed my flame was my perfectionist habit of making every second count. But that left me no place to just be and not perform like a circus monkey. Maybe your situation is different, who knows.I hope you get better.Good luck!
>>77180612That makes sense, people are shallow. So get back in the saddle and hit the gym. You’ll have more success if you’re decent looking. Good luck!
Yesterday was a bad day since I relapsed heavily on porn, but today has been a good day, I went to the gym, had little work, is sunny, I feel well.I keep working to overcome my porn addiction and find myself a girlfriend to love and who loves me. Merry Holy Week anons, WAGMI
>>77181332>Merry Holy Week anonsTo you, too!And don't get hung up on relapses. It's like any progress: nothing is linear and neither is this. Keep up the good fight! Good luck with finding a gf!
>>77181216thank, anon.
>>77180634It’s stupid and illogical but we have to believe that structures will collapse and we can rebuild. It’s the only way we can live
>>77180942There’s nothing wrong with having to depend on discipline even when your motivation has run out. Search for the original reason you started improving. Do you need to alter any of your goals to better serve how you live? Maybe you even need to set new goals. In any case, you’re going fine. Hang in there!
>>77180193I am but I don't get the sense that she really likes me back.
>>77181332Mistakes will happen. What’s important is that you move forward with a little more confidence. Merry Holy Week fren, WAGMI
>mid 30s, no money no house no hope of ever getting a house>gotta work out in whatever free space I got in my tiny room for as little money as possible >got a 20kg dumbbell set and did dumbbell only (and I mean only, no space for a bench) exercises for a year and a half, almost two years>it's painful, exhausting, time consuming, and I still look like a dyelI understand my conditions and routine are far from optimal and I cannot expect a miracle, but I still gotta wonder if it's worth making all this effort for almost no results.
>>77181533If you don’t think there’s a possibility, you need to move on. There are better and more exciting options out there. In terms of falling out of love, remind yourself that it would never work out. She doesn’t like you and isn’t as interesting as you imagine
>>77181715Programing? Sleep? Nutrition? Progressive overload? Which one(s) are you fucking up.
>>77181715Everything matters in the end. You still have your whole life in front of you
>>77181715>mid 30s, no money no house no hope of ever getting a houseso basically like the rest of us? not even trying to cheer you on here. what kind of expectations do you have? its also better to rent and invest your money into the market even if you could straight up buy the property. home ownership also means responsibilities and work.
>>77181715Dude, just get a pullup/dip station, kettlebell dumbell attachment, and a weighted dip/pullup belt chain from Amazon, picrel. You can make a simple minimalist home gym. Pretty cheap stuff and you can find even cheaper used stuff probably or you can just do outside calisthenics at parks, recommend getting gymnastic rings and some warmup bands in that case as well. If you do weighted calisthenics routine and eat 1-2 grams of protein per pound of bodyweight and you will be set. Your upper body will jacked for sure. Pullups, chinups, and dips are great. Lower body harder to put on size but doesn't really matter, lean athletic strong legs better. Just do air squats, jump squats, pistols, nordics, cossacks, burpees, jump rope, and sprints. Trust the process and your effort will pay off wagmi
I hope by this time next week, I’m celebrating and happy :)
>>77180086Same. I can't kick it. I delete the app after I'm done every time and then I just download it again. It's very very very addicting. It sucks.
>>77181715You have a girlfriend/wife, family or friends?
>>77180634Pick every man who is disgruntled, every woman who is furious, every individual who is isolated, and every person who is disappointed with what the system and want it torn apart. You pick'em up and tell them: you are absolutely right. You are already halfway to do this, since you took your time to write this mini-essay on the angst of the people. You seem to have the talent to relate to pain, and that is precious and useful.This is what the enemy fears the most. They do not want people to relate to the pain of others, especially to the pain of those who have much more in common with them than the enemies have.We need discontent to fester, we need pain to become intolerable, we need to turn off the heater on this pan of frogs to +5000 Fahrenheit so we jump with claws in hand to gnaw at the cook.There is no easy solution but the spread of horror, of desperation and of the need for immediate action.In this complicated times, we need simple solutions. The two solutions are the destruction of the existing system, or the destruction of all those who cannot live in it (increasingly, every single person). Canada has given up already, and they'll tell you to kill yourself if you are struggling with rent. Modern countries import foreigners, they do not care that their youth is giving up on life. The system has given up on us already. So either we die through our own means, or we just rally every loser like us into the greatest Hail Mary civilization has ever experienced, the last manifest of the faustian spirit: the ultimate revolution that destroys Enlightenment civilization.In short, your retirement plan is now winning the next civil war.
I ran a 5:12 kilometer this morning breaking in my new shoesI wanted to see the fastest pace I could hold for six minutes but I ran out of go-juice and had to start walking about 50 meters away from 1km.all in all not a bad morning.
>>77181984Nta but that’s all really good advice
>>77180637good
>>77182952Congrats! You’re insanely fast. Bet you’ll go over faster once you break in your sneakers
I'm about to lock in
>>77185471You better. It's the only way you can start working on your dreams
Why do I procrastinate more when I have my family, parents around, compared to when I'm all by myself?
>>77186185Because they make you focus on other areas besides your goals. You need to learn to balance others and your own dreams
>>77181216Every 4chan cope boils down to the same tired fantasy: something *good* is always just over the horizon. Alien disclosure is coming to earth, Hitler 2.0 rising from the ashes, Jesus descending to smite their enemies, Trump and the globohomo awakening in two weeks, mass genocide solving all their problems, or the magical day when everyone suddenly agrees with their garbage takes.It’s all hopium for losers who can’t deal with the present. Instead of doing anything meaningful, they sit in their digital basements praying for a future that never comes. Every post is just another round of "just wait, you’ll see," while the rest of the world keeps living, laughing, and leaving them behind.The truth? Nothing’s coming. No savior, no reckoning, no mass awakening, no shift in opinions. It’s just endless cope for people too powerless to face reality. The only thing in their future is more disappointment and deep down, they know it.
Today's lifts>Deadlift 3x6 @ 3.5pl8>Leg press 5x10>Dragon raises 2x25>Leg curls 3x15I finally wrapped my tiny brain around the 'pull the slack out of the bar' cue and at long last my diddly might be coming unstuck, those were very smooth repsAlso no hands'd the leg press at 6pl8 which I'm kinda proud of
>>77186498Congrats on your lifts, especially the leg press! Got any tips on maximizing leg press gains?
>all the depresso posting itt>on MY spirit thread!??!12niggas, pleasejust >>77178953
>>77187111Checked. I’ll learn to accept my myself and just be happy in the present
Finally crossed the halfway point - 18kg lost since Jan 5th
>>77188003Congrats!