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>>77270058
red label jack as per. fuck me man im so burned out. got my final reinterview for police constable in exactly a month and i cannot be fucked revising. i failed the first final interview in november and it just feels like my head and body since then has just shut down into autopilot. any supps yous take that help focus/burnout?

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I can't live in a world where even 2/10s "girlfailures" have a roster of simps, ready for her to monkeybranch.

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>>77270075

You're doing this the dumb way. Direct entry to a police force is heavily gatekept, unless you are connected, DEI or a rock star, and I doubt you are any of those.
Join sone branch of the military, ideally as Military Police but anything in uniform works. Serve your first contract, then reapply to the cops as a veteran.
You could also join whatever fraternal order the local cops and politicos gather in, and volunteer with a political party.

The military, fraternal orders and political connections are DEI for white boys. I dont know how you guys dont know this.

>>77270104
then explain how 3 of my wigga friends have also become police officers. you dumb cunt.

>>77270107

I dunno, maybe you live in retardville where they take anyone, but, since they haven't taken YOU you obviously need to stack the odds in your favour. The connections game works.

>>77270088
Not a true 2/10 you are delusional. Seriously. Post your idea of A 2/10

Rum & coke please.

Might receive a life altering drug this week, or might not, depending on the mood and/or reading comprehension of the public health worker overviewing my medical history. The suspense is killing me, my life is on pause.

Cherish every day you're in good health anons.

>>77270134
Explain more

>>77270058
Ever since i turned 33 i lost my confidence with girls and despite having good game and talking to them, i never close in the end just in the fear of getting rejected and humiliated and this resulted from watching too much blackpill content and realising im an average height/face guy with not a lot to offer (only good hairline and good status). What the fuck should i do? Should i accept my incel status?

>>77270145
It has never been so over......

All I do is cry online about what a loser I am but never do anything to improve because I don’t see a point when I’ve wasted so many years. Yesterday was a beautiful Saturday and instead of sitting in my room I biked aimlessly around town for three hours, seeing all the people out with their loved ones enjoying their day and lives, while I was just the creepy loser biking around taking up road space. No matter what I do, I’m miserable.

>>77270145
Stop being so damn insecure and caring what others think
Just shoot your shot
Relationships are trash nowadays and shallow so why not get yours when you can?
Even if you get rejected a thousand times or you have to put in more work you still gotta speak up to get fed

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Yesterday I went out, it has been years since the last time, went to a bar with a friend that came to visit from the US.
I wasn't in the mood the get a girl since I'm a big NEET (even though I'm good looking) but there was something that happened that got me thinking about it since yesterday.
There was these two couples2 that passed by in this crowded street while I was smoking alone.
One of the girls, while holding her boyfriend's hand was eating me with her eyes from the moment she saw me to the moment they disappeared in the crowd.
What's even the point of this? I felt bad for her guy while being flattered but damn. It was so intense that I've been wondering about since yesterday.
Anyway it motivated me to go out a little bit more.

>>77270058
It's been bittersweet.
I had a friend's 30th party (great fun) and found out I'm going to be an Uncle. Very happy for them but it makes me realise just how little I have going for me in my life.

No 30th birthday party for me because I'm a dunce and didn't give enough notice. A month is needed to get people together now.
I want to be a dad, but no gf & no dates for 5+ years. Online dating results in ghosting or talking stages that go nowhere. Pickings are slim, most people have baggage. Low libido too so performance anxiety rears its head if things are going well.

I want to change. I need to change. But all I see is the massive mountain in front of me, and all I do is hesitate over taking the first step.

Any advice on what I should do to get the ball rolling?

Been on call the past weekend, didn't really get the chance to go home for proper sleep, let alone the gym. People just calling me out for the most retarded shit that anyone above 80 IQ would be able to figure out

I'll have a beer.

Decent weekend, doing some yard work and getting some sun, had a good run, kinda over a roastie who friendzoned me. Gains are looking decent and a milf was checking me out at the grocery store. Feeling pretty good rn

Do you think I can get fired for taking peptides at work?

>>77270058
Water please. Maybe a diet coke. Going ok. Definitely canceling out any progress I made on my cut in the week before with beers with the dudes, bakesale leftovers, and a yard party this afternoon. Social gains though, rite?

Not getting sex out of the wife, as usual. She had a hard review at work Friday, came home and cried about it and then she couldn't sleep, so it's cast a pallor on the whole weekend. But as I was sitting there listening to her relate the review, which was mostly interpersonal complaints HR had gathered during "say anything" style of individual feedback sessions, I was just thinking, yeah, all of this is completely true about her. Wife just does it to herself. I love her and all, and she does fine socially, but she really rubs about 50% of any group she works with all the way the wrong way. It's a pattern she's repeated everywhere she's worked.

Anyway. So another week of no sex, which is basically the only thing I need to be a happy person at this point.

I've got maybe 2 hours now before the next party. Should do yard work. Maybe do a little of that and then tear into the dashboard of my classic car. AC blend door vacuum actuator that I replaced last summer died already, so I can have cold air on my feet or my windshield, or both, but not on my face where I want it.

Blew. Life marches on, and I seem to only spin my wheels.

>>77270349
Oh, and I forgot the other thing I wanted to bitch about. Week 9 or so of not being able to do a pressing motion without tendon pain in my shoulder. It's getting better slowly, but at this rate I'm looking at September before I can do a single pushup again. Fml.

I think the greatest cause of my asociality is that there are practically no people whose company I genuinely enjoy. At best I'm somewhat bored, at worst I'm anxious about making a bad impression, coming off like an autist, or wondering whether the other party is trying to put me down or making fun of me. I can't remember the last time I took any pleasure from social interactions. And that's just the dudes.

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I ate a 1800 calorie pizza today

>>77270058
I did not drink any alcohol today. Longest I went without alcohol in a year

>>77270462
That is extremely depressing

>>77270462
days not over yet dont worry

>>77270462
You can quit alcohol. You have to want to, though.
Do you know why you drink?

>>77270058
Life is a mystery for me and where I am going. I think too much on philosophical topics that don't matter, stress about pointless complexities of life.

Then my pool just opened and I forgot all about it. Pool is love. Pool is life.

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Ever since i turned 33 i lost my confidence with girls and despite having good game and talking to them, i never close in the end just in the fear of getting rejected and humiliated and this resulted from watching too much blackpill content and realising im an average height/face guy with not a lot to offer (only good hairline and good status). What the fuck should i do? Should i accept my incel status?

>>77270145
>>77270505
Why did you post this twice?

>>77270512
missclick i was trying to post on another board lol

>>77270489
At first I thought it was because of the job (factory work) because that was how I started. I've actually been drinking for 10 years now but occasionally I would go a week or two without, only for ~last year I drank literally every single day.
But then I went on a sick leave a month ago and drank everyday regardless of not being at work since. So I figured I was just an alcoholic.
I was about to go to therapy for it, but then I imagined all those AA faggots going "Hi I'm Fred and I'm an alcoholic. Been sober for the last 3 years" and I think it's just pathetic and those people truly are enslaved because they believe that they are alcoholics despite not drinking anymore. So I just said fuck that, no therapy, I'm just gonna stop thinking that I "need" alcohol for some reason.
Today is day 1. I was pretty pissed first few hours in the morning and had urges but I just thought to myself that there is nothing to win from drinking and it's fine now. Hopefully I'll be able to keep that up.

>>77270522
You are ngmi

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>>77270573
Don't say that anon I really think I'm finally in the right place mentally to quit

>>77270522
>they believe that they are alcoholics despite not drinking anymore
They are. That's how addiction works

A shot of vodka, a shot of rum, a shot of tequila, and a single lime slice please.
I think my relationship of 8 years is over.

>>77270586
If you're not drinking, you're not an alcoholic.
>hey dude look at that alkie
>he drinks a lot huh
>nope

>>77270591
It literally changes how your brain works, drunkie

>>77270598
Okay but then things go back to normal after long enough abstinence. It's called neuroplasticity

>>77270598
Seems like a needlessly harsh putdown of someone who's improved their circumstances for no purpose except the sake of being mean and encouraging relapse. Seems like a weird thing to do honestly.

>>77270591
You are very retarded

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>>77270058
I haven't had a drink in 2026 yet.

>>77270752
Very based anon, drinking is the biggest meme going.

>>77270750
>ad hominem
>no substance
>fell for the "it's forever" meme
ngmi

Modern life sucks, idk who even likes this garbage.

>>77270058
>>77270058
I got my lost package issue resolved. Whole thing is just dumb but long story short remaining civil and polite did not help me and getting adamant and aggressive got me the refund instantly. Did everything they asked of me went through all the holes they demanded I went through and they still didn’t want to help me until I started to get pissy about it. 2 weeks of headache resolved in 5 minutes by being a bit of a dick. I want to be more patient and kinder less reactive less angry and it seems whenever I try that everyone wants to test me on it

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Just a sparkling water, please - I'm off the booze after a stint in rehab.
My ex left me after moving in with me. Told me she loved someone else who is married with children. I was pretty devastated for like 6 months, still am desu - but it's now a kind of background noise that I can tune out if I'm focused on other things.
What are some good hobbies/activities to rebuild a sense of purpose and self-confidence? I'm thinking of learning to ski and getting back into painting. Also getting my motorcycle license after putting it off for years.

P.S. No activities to 'meet women'. This breakup really changed me and I have no interest in pursuing a relationship or even sex. It basically destroyed my faith in women and it feels like I'm traumatised or something. I just feel nothing for them anymore.

>>77270522
If AA works for someone, I have a hard time criticizing them. But yeah, the methodology stinks. Those people never get to a healthy place with it.

>>77270871
>learning to ski
Motherfucker it's almost June.

But yeah, fill that void with something interesting. I do everything diy, have a hobby car, mountain bike, etc.

>>77270407
Pretty relatable man, though I'm not asocial, just isolated. I'm pretty sure it's a sign of having the 'tism or being particularly intelligent.

>>77270522
I'm trying to get off porn. Addictions are tough to get through and out the other side, especially if they've been going on for a while.

>>77270903
My problem with alcohol for the last few weeks was that I convinced myself that I need to go to therapy to quit it and that I need to drink until I go (because in heavy cases you get severe withdrawals that will kill you. If you're quitting alcohol and you get the shakes, impaired vision or hallucinations, first thing you need to do is drink some alcohol and then go to hospital and say you need a detox). So I kept drinking every day while I was looking up detox clinics and getting my car fixed. What ultimately made me give up that idea and seriously tell myself "fuck that I'm just gonna stop" was two things:
- the way I understand the therapy is people end up having to be on their guard and stress about their "addiction" for the rest of their lives
- if I'm really that far gone that abstinence will kill me, I deserve that and prefer that to having to stress over it for next 30 years or however much I would get to live

So I just decided to reframe the problem. I realized I was being addicted because I was telling myself that I am. It was all in my head. Now, I don't yet know if I will get severe withdrawal because I'm literally at the end of day one, but if it happens, that's a physical addiction and that's something to be treated medically. But as far as psychological addiction goes, you can literally will yourself out of it and tell yourself that you're no longer addicted. The problem is, you can't be lying to yourself, because then it won't work - you really have to internalize that belief.

With porn you don't even have to worry about withdrawal (you'll just get boners which is good), so just start believing that you are free.

Alright alright alright. The yard party was pretty good, excellent social gains, but now I'm back home, pretty drunk and randy, and my wife is just sitting there in her sundress completely inaccessible because the kids are in the next room and she's already on to some other thing anyway. Booking a place for us to stay for her nephew's wedding, apparently. That'll be a nice little trip, but it'll also be another weekend where my time gets spent and I get nothing I want in return.

These days just keep going by. I guess I'll be old and then dead soon enough.

>>77270058
I didn't drink this weekend. The last few weekends I drank and only drank (no other calories) so I ended up still losing weight (good thing) but being an asshole to people (bad thing) so I'm taking a break.

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I made a post about post-surgicial retrograde ejaculation almost a year ago. It was nerve racking to have a bodily function disrupted and be functionally infertile. Now I'm happy to report that I have partial recovery. While I hope it continues to get better, I'm content knowing I can become a father the old fashioned way.

Pineapple juice please.

I just learned my former best friend is getting married. I ended up cutting him out of my life because we went down separate paths. Part of me wants to send him a message congratulating him on marriage but I also don't want to reconnect

>>77271075
don't do it. you don't really care and also why would he want to here from someone who cut him out like that

>>77270587
I'll have a glass of jack daniels please.

Been dealing with a lot lately. I've been struggling with porn addiction most of my life. I knew it was bad but it never really affected me since I wasnt sexually active. In addition though, ever since I had discovered masturbation as a kid I never adopted the normal way of doing it. I had learned to masturbate through my clothes with very specific pressure at the tip of my penis instead of stroking the shaft like a normal person would.
I lost my virginity to my gf a couple weeks ago, kind of. Both of us were virgins, and she suggested that we take a bath together. After we both got naked and got in the shower I realized I wasnt getting hard. Its not that I didnt find her attractive, but for some reason it just felt like a normal shower and I just wasnt really aroused seeing or touching her body. When we actually got to having sex and it was time for me to put it in, the most I could get was a semi, and I went soft as soon as I tried to put the condom on. I couldnt even keep an erection when she was sucking my dick, it was fucking embarrassing. Fortunately she was very patient and understanding with me. I thought maybe it was performance anxiety or that these things just happen sometimes, maybe its nothing to worry about. But the same thing happened the second time, I even took a honey pack and no difference. It might have been exacerbated because I was actively stressing about it. But I could tell even she was starting to get a little concerned, wondering if she is the issue, etc.
I was pretty depressed about it at first. I'm young, only 21, I'm very fit and workout religiously, eat healthy. I'm not supposed to be having ED at my age.
Anyway my gf moved away for summer, since then I've started nofap to try and fix myself and rewire my brain. Also started doing kegels. I'm on day 10 now. Anyone dealt with anything similar or have any advice? Determined not to let this fuck up my life.

>>77270058
A glass of champagne to me, bud.

Wife started singing classes a few months ago, and today she had her first public gig.
She ROCKED. She sang one from Lady Gaga and just nailed it. Later on at home she was so happy for fulfilling this childhood dream of hers that she jumped on me so that I would hold her off the ground for a while. I love her soft heart.
That will be it for today, thanks.

>>77271090
It's an anxiety thing, it's pretty normal for a first time to be weird. It's not like in the movies in real life. Take the pressure off yourself for it, it's not the end of the world. You're 21, you work out and eat well and sleep well, unless you have an actual underlying health issue you need looked in to, you're fine, just anxious.

>>77271083
Thanks for the glass of brutality, I needed to hear those words

been talking to this girl since march, shes so pretty, intelligent, /fit/ and has a very lovely way of conversation, she is into me but both us came from troubled relations, everything is goin slow and steady, pretty comfy ngl, a lot of young women have been talking and flirting with me which is nice i guess but i dont want to mess this one up,

>>77270058
I can't tell if my relationship is failing. I'm just not sure if I can handle her depression/insecurity anymore. I'm at a bit of a crossroads here because I'm gonna have to make a decision soon before I'm at an age where finding a new partner is basically impossible

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Spent last weekend camping at an abandoned village on a deserted island. Got like 1000 bricks for free on friday and spent saturday building a path in my back yard. Saw my first NASCAR race today, bretty cool. One of the cars blew up in the first 30 seconds I bought a shirt of it lol

>>77271092
kino

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I bought a digital piano, not just a keyboard, this weekend and am looking forward to finally returning to practice. Downside is it means I'll be spending more time indoors and not socializing, but outside is scary anyway.

Besides that, recovering from a cold and intense work week has left my running and lifting shattered. Recovery workouts were absolutely grueling and demoralizing.

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>>77271174
Congrats, Anon! You've got this!

>>77271206
Anon, it sounds like you're holding a lot in the relationship to keep it together and you're nearing the end of what you can take. It takes a good man to try to keep strong for his lady. What kinds of things does she do that causes this?
>>77271240
Lol fucking siiick mate.

>>77271409
I've had one before with zero musical training. it was neat to finally learn what scales were and comprehend music. I wish you well, Anon!

>>77271422
I played as a kid but never took it seriously. Tried to pick up violin pre-covid, but it's so fucking hard compared to piano.

>>77271424
What makes you think you'll be doing less socializing if you're doing music? Sure it takes hours, but does that actually take directly out of time spent in public?
I agree, outside does feel scary at times.

>>77271422
> What kinds of things does she do that causes this
It's mostly a large increase in the quantity and severity of arguments we have. Things that used to feel like petty squabbles that aren't a huge deal can now devolve into shouting matches. Something I've never had a problem with before (as in, my first time EVER yelling at any gf happened within the last year, and I've got a total of 7 years dating under my belt - 5 years with my current). I fully acknowledge the part that I've played in this too. I know if I keep a cooler head things might not devolve so severely, but I struggle with that a lot more than I used to. I find myself asking questions like "would I be dealing with this if I were dating someone else" which I know is a horrible head space to be in if I want to make this thing work out. What's especially fucked though is I think she's actually been improving lately while I'm still spiraling. Her depression/insecurities were exasperated due to horrible working conditions, so we made the decision for her to get out and find a new field, even if that meant going back to school. Ever since the big change, she's been improving (still not all the way there yet to be clear, but at least it's noticeably better than it was months ago). But I'm not improving. I can't tell if this whole ordeal has just permanently soured my perspective on this relationship or what. Or maybe I'm just scared of a repeat of the past year or so when the next big stress event makes its way into our lives. Anyways I'm not really sure how I feel and am still just trying to process everything. </Rant>

What does it mean when attractive women finally start noticing you and flirting with you but it took until you're 26 and you don't feel the same level of excitement you would've if it was during highschool? I feel a strange sense of bitter resentment towards Lady luck for making me wait so long but I guess I shouldn't complain since some guys never get women chasing after them

I thought me losing almost 40 pounds would have made her want sex more often, but it really just made her more insecure.

I had been saving up for a vacation, but it got canceled, and since my birthday was coming up, I decided to celebrate it and, stupidly, spent most of the money. I was drunk and just started splurging. Now I've been told that the trip is going ahead after all in just one week. I can probably still afford it, but only just, and right now I'd rather not go at all. I already regretted wasting all that money before the trip was back on the schedule.

>>77271699
I know this feel. Make her insecure enough to lose weight too

>>77271715
Her weight is perfectly normal, though. Always has been.

>>77271486
When I hit severe depression, my gf had to find a shrink because I couldn't function as a drug for her anxiety and insecurities anymore. Isn't there some kind of support she's unable to provide since her depression?

>>77271699
I was already fit when I got together with my last girlfriend. She was in okay shape but very insecure and certainly needed better fitness and she asked me to help her, so I did. Then she wasn't insecure anymore and dumped me, because she thought she could do better.

>>77271206
I feel this anon.
I've spent the last two years feeling like everything's just falling apart, and she just so angry and negative all time, and I don't know if it's my fault. I moved out 4 hours away for a job opportunity and I've been wondering the whole time if I should just break up because this would be the best opportunity to do so now that we're living apart. This is my first time on /fit/ in like two years. I almost feel like I've lost a prat of myself. Shit sucks.

>>77271725
That's not a worry of mine. I just really could go for sex more or less every day, sometimes even twice a day. We have great synergy in every other field, and it's hardly like we have a dead bedroom, so I guess we should consider ourselves fortunate as we are, but...I could really go for quite a bit more sexually before I would feel completely sated.

>>77271723
"Normal" is overweight so what do you mean by normal?

>>77271699
do you talk to her about this?
i've been having this issue on and off for a few years but ever since starting to get visibly fit and having a few more conversations about it, my wife began riding me like her life depended on it and talking about how she needs to lose weight. she's not out of shape but isn't athletic and was generally happy with her weight but i think the combination of me getting visibly fit (i was skinny low fat my whole life, now lean bulking and in otter mode), starting to get mires on the street that she notices and me starting conversations about the lack of intimacy activated something in her mind - she's watching what she eats now, is about to hit the gym with me and showing way more intimate attention to me.
talking about this honestly will help you either figure her out and show you what you need to do to not make her insecure. at this point it's a matter of saving the relationship or knowing that it will eventually end, which is soul poison in itself for as long as it lasts

>>77271763
How would you broach the topic, though? I could hardly imagine a more pussy-drying type of conversation than one about not having as much sex as you'd like. You can't just ask for more sex. And her insecurity is more of a side issue than the root cause of our libido mismatch, which to a degree was always there, it's just that getting in better shape made mine shoot to far higher levels than where it had been since the pandemic years.

>>77271772
in my case the dead bedroom was a symptom of a general lack of affection and intimacy. we would rarely kiss or touch each other and i was constantly in a cycle where i tried showing more overall affection, physically and verbally, buying her lingerie etc to motivate her to do the same, only to then shut down resentfully to see how long it would take her to notice that we're not even touching each other anymore. i basically told her exactly that and that it's making me doubt whether she even loves me at all. i made it clear that it's completely unnatural for a married attractive couple in their mid 30s to be physically dead to each other. i asked her outright how she thinks she demonstrates love and affection to me and didn't emphasize sex specifically, to which she didn't really have an answer and so i guess it triggered some contemplation in her head for the next several days. for the record though, we're high school sweethearts and been together for a decade and a half, have multiple children so there's not a lot of doubt in either of our heads re commitment and the need to save this, so that helped i guess.

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Surely life was supposed to be more than you just wagie for 40 years and then die.

Took an L. I am the guy that just yesterday bragged about he quit alcohol addiction by just willing it. I just had a little bit of alcohol. I was pissed and uneasy and I had a little cleaning up to do in my room but I just couldn't get around doing it because I could only think about having a drink. The moment I drank some, I started cleaning up.
>>77270573
I hate to admit it, but you were right. I do need to go into therapy.

>>77271948
You shouldn't feel ashamed or anything bro, people need help to beat addiciton. Better men than you or me have needed help to get on the right path. I'm 2 years sober next month, it is the best decision i ever made. I feel like a functional person again who isn't controlled by some meme drink. Get the help you need or you'll wake up one day at 80 an old drunk man who wasted his life.

>>77271699
I have a friend who has a wife and he visits gym regularly and his wife didn't want to at first. He told me he said to her:
"You won't sit there on your pussy all day while I work out. Come on".
He wasn't being a dick, he was just decisive. Do that. Just act like there is no possible scenario she doesn't go with you. Don't be a dick, just be the leader.

>>77271953
Thanks fren it means a lot. I was raised by a strictly abstinent father, who was raised by my alcoholic grandfather. I was taught that only absolute scum of the earth ever gets addicted and all you have to do is "just don't do it" and if you're already in it, "just stop". It's hard to deal with that because my dad is a great guy and I'm ashamed to be such a failure and have him look at me with disappointment

>>77271964
Being an alcoholic is a bigger disappointment surely than getting help to stop

>>77271724
In terms of support she can provide for me, I think she does great **assuming** she's in a good mood. If she's in a bad mood she will do anything and everything in her power to pretend I'm non-existent instead of addressing whatever is bothering her. But since she's been feeling less depressed lately, she doesn't do that as often right now. I relate a lot to >>77271726 in terms of how I feel. I feel like a part of me has been lost. I've never been this negative of a person until somewhere between 1-2 years ago. When things are good, they are great. When things are bad, I feel like I'm being dragged through hell. And I don't want to have to go through that again. I'm just at a loss because if I can either reduce the severity of the bad times OR reduce the quantity of the bad times then I think this is worth fighting for. But it begs the question of will it ever get as bad as it had been? Thanks for providing me some space to think. This in itself helped provide me some perspective

>>77270581
>looks down on others for their coping mechanisms
>dains to hide behind pictures of a retarded frog on the internet
kill yourself, I am dead serious

I have never taken an active role in literally anything in my life. Social relationships, fitness, career development, anything necessary to reach any milestones or achievements in life. I don’t understand how it’s possible for someone to just waste their life like this, what is wrong with someone’s brain to cause this

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>Lower back is finally unsnapped after 1,5 years
>Workouts are on track
>Jogging goes well
>People have started complimenting my progress
>Savings and investments are going well
>Work isn't a total shitshow
>Started dating a nice grill
For once in my life it seems like everything is going smoothly, and the feeling is completely foreign to me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WZJh2VJMwkQ

But I do hope every single one of you is either doing well, or will do well soon.

>>77270897
An indoor ski dome thing has a summer offer for a batch of lessons, so I thought I'd get some basics down before taking on real slopes.
>hobby car
I would love to do this. I have a bit of spare money, but not much space as I live in a major city. I'm thinking of getting a hobby motorcycle, though. I just need to commit to stuff that isn't a relationship - that's another problem I want to address: being okay with doing things for myself/not feeling guilty about it.

>>77271781
But our bedroom is hardly dead, it's just...not as well-used as I'd like it to be. If I had my way we'd have sex almost every day, sometimes twice a day on the weekends. Which would obviously be a ludicrously high amount of sex for people in committed long term relationships, but it is what my body wants. So it's not like I'm going to pretend that this is entirely on her, however I can't help but wish that she'd meet me halfway.

We're getting married later this year and almost certainly having children the next, we're not getting any younger and I want to enjoy this ephemeral phase in our relationship while we still can more or less unburdened by other responsibilities. I try to initiate more or less every day but it feels pretty bad to be shot down half the time. Some couples we know are rather more like roommates than couples in a relationship with each other, so I guess we should be thankful that we have regular sex at all, but still...

>>77271781
Cheat nigga don't let Jesus steal ur pussy blud

>>77272507
i get you. in this case yeah, maybe try and get as many in as possible before you have kids because after kids she'll be out of action for up to a year and then you're both gonna be so sleep deprived that it's gonna tank her sex drive even harder. maybe you need to talk to her about what could make more sex be interesting to her so your needs are at least partially met too. for some women it's a malfunctioning hormones issue too, so maybe worth looking into that as well.
>Some couples we know are rather more like roommates than couples in a relationship with each other
that's what i'm deathly afraid of and currently successfully fighting off.
>>77272534
thanks for the suggestion but i wouldn't never betray the trust of someone who gave me children like this. i'd rather get divorced as amicably as possible first but that's not currently required.

Wife blew up at me for how annoying it is to be around me when I'm extremely depressed so that didn't really make me less depressed.

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>finally get a gf
>she really asks for me to drive somewhere quiet so we can have sex
>she jumps down on me really hard
>made her cum and all
>the moment she touches my dick though i cum without even being half erect
>fortunately she tries to keep the mood up
>asks for a 2nd time and cum even earlier
i wasn't even half hard because i was so nervous. gonna take a viagra before the next one so i can actually get and stay hard. it was fucking emberrassing. at least no longer khv

bad: I'm about to eat 5k calories
good: I got an extra nugget

>>77272910
Where did you find her

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>the bad
relapsed, went back to playing league and it tanked my productivity this week, even in days when I didn't play it.
it's soulless chinkslop but shit is like fent to me, there's genuinely nothing that gives me as much raw dopamine as it.
at least from the set of activities the current circumstances allow me to experience
>the neutral-bad
"just put yourself out there" maxxed and failed to capitalize on this month's (extra small) batch of matches. they matched with me so one would expect them to show some interest and put in the bare minimum amount of effort required to not instantly bury things, but there's just nothing, no "spark" I guess.
I understand that the expectation is for me to carry the interactions at first and I think I did a pretty good job with the conversations despite them giving me very little to work with, but it didn't lead to anything. none of them texted by themselves after the first 1-3 exchanges, which were initiated by me
>the good
fitness stuff is going pretty well, met 2 great gym buddies and got invited to a party

>>77272897
I'm sorry for you. Mine thinks I have it easier than her at helping the other. I think that on the contrary to me, she can't listen to some problems without those also becoming hers. She's getting better but not there yet.

I've been hating my job and life for a while now also fucked up at work yesterday and it all just hit me at once. Been in one of the worst depressive states I've had in years since yesterday. Got to the point where I had a rope around my neck and was going to hang myself but pussied out at the last second because I got a random text from my mom sharing some facebook link. Just laid in bed all day after that. Just feel like my life is at a dead end and it can't get any better.

>>77272150
>I've never been this negative of a person until somewhere between 1-2 years ago
If it was near her job transition and she wasn't well, seems like your wellness relies a bit on her. If so, you have to do your part in your own emotional processing.

>>77273097
Seek help, it won't sort it out by itself.

Big deal job interview this Friday. Presentation is prepped and I’m just doing mock interviews and questions to prepare.

Gf is going though extreme anxiety loops and might actually be the end of us soon. Praying it doesn’t interfere with my job interview

Ran my first paltry 5k with siblings last night and feeling proud. Taking a few days rest to focus on job interview and lifts

Going for a long walk with female barista friend to see fireworks. Will also give me a chance to just relax and plan my next running route.

I wake up hating my life but I force myself through it because I feel better as the day goes on

>>77273103
I've tried therapy multiple times over the years, tried meds, called the suicide hotline, reached out to friends, I'm not sure what else I can try

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Going to do OMAD once I'm in summer break to hopefully lose some loose skin and go from 14%bf to 10%bf
Absolutely obsessed with getting a defined six pack despite always wearing hoodies, never going to the beach, no job, no plans of getting a gf and overall being a shut-in weeb
All for the lulz

>>77270058
I CAN'T BREED

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I was having a great day until I remembered my girlfriend is 5'0" and my children will be doomed from the moment of their conception.

>>77273098
Fully agree. A lot of this is me coming to terms with the fact that I'm clearly a bit of an empath. My emotional state is, at least partially, dictated by those around me. I don't like that, and want to change it, but if it's just a fundamental truth of who I am then does that not mean I should avoid people who are prone to depression/anxiety.

>>77273117
Sounds like it’s over you anon

Yeah, probably

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>>77271486
Maybe it's a poor framework that doesn't match your situation, but I think when I lose my shit(i.e. shouting matches) it's because the day's little fuck ups, cuts and stresses tallied up, built the pressure and the lid blows off.
Even typing this shit out is a 'release valve' of sorts and you may find yourself feeling better after you've finished the </Rant>. What kinds of things do you think would help YOU improve, though? Whatever you choose, whether we talk again, I'm rooting for you. WAGMI.

>>77273118
Cool plan, Anon. Is it for the lulz, or to prove to yourself that you can? Further, I'm a skinnyfat, and I figure you to be knowledgeable: how does one resist the temptation of food and manage to tank OMAD? Is it something you just have to get used to?

>>77273117
That sounds awful anon! Thank goodness you changed your mind. For whatever it's worth from a stranger on a Tibetan basket weaving forum, I'm glad you're here. What do you think it's so Joever? What do you do for work that you hate so much?

>>77273111
Sounds like you've got a lot going on. First of all, Congratulations, I hope you pull off the interview. What about the morning makes you hate life, and why do you think it gets better as the day goes on?

>>77270058
The nails are biting. I'm 30 and have 10k saved. No transferable skills. I literally don't even know what any of those retirement things mean. I'm in that desperate manic state again. Almost went to the bar for real, lol. Don't let it let in, don't let it set in, don't

>>77273489
Do you have grounding exercises you can do? Maybe go to bed, Anon, the sleep helps you keep control. Dim the lights. Long deep breaths. You got this.

>>77273488
>That sounds awful anon! Thank goodness you changed your mind. For whatever it's worth from a stranger on a Tibetan basket weaving forum, I'm glad you're here. What do you think it's so Joever? What do you do for work that you hate so much?
Appreciate it. I'm a first responder and just the whole culture around it is just making me hate the job. The city doesn't give a shit about us by not funding us for new materials or allowing us to properly maintain what we have but constantly piles on responsibilities and expectations. Almost everyone here seems to have issues as well. Most people have a drinking problem, drug problem or just sleep around. The stable ones have a healthy relationship with their wife and/or kids and just work for them. Not to mention it's just like middle school with everyone doing nothing but gossiping about each other while we pull each other down like crabs in a bucket. I just don't know what else I can do or where else I can go which is why I feel trapped.

>>77273502
I was at my 24 hour gym and tried to do squats. It's hard to lock in. I went home. I'm trying to lay down. Thanks for asking.

>>77273511
First responder! A proper modern hero, if you ask me. Sounds like most of your coworkers are really struggling with how hard the job is too, hence the drinking/drugs/etc. It takes a lot of strength to face that kind of duty, and I'm hearing that the burden can be overwhelming. Is there really no alternative for the skillset of a first responder?

>>77273525
WAGMI, Anon.

>>77273511
>Not to mention it's just like middle school with everyone doing nothing but gossiping about each other while we pull each other down like crabs in a bucket
must work with mostly women

>>77273531
Not really. Outside of just going to another place. But I think very few people are actually handle the stress well. We had three suicides last year.
>>77273534
A bunch of middle aged men are acting like this.

>>77273541
Then are you even remotely surprised that you are struggling as well? Seems it comes with the territory. What do the healthy people do to handle it?
Also, medical first responder or something else, like fire?

>>77273542
I had no idea how bad it was before I joined. The healthy people have a good marriage or relationship with their kids so they have them to go home to. It's fire/emt

>>77273439
Don't mistake empathy and compassion with emotional contagion. If you get emotionally contaminated, you're not being compassionate.

>>77273488
>how does one resist the temptation of food and manage to tank OMAD? Is it something you just have to get used to?
Well, I've never really done OMAD before, but when I lost most of my weight, I was eating a really small breakfast and chicken stock with a single chicken leg for dinner. (900kcal in total cuz I was dumb).
What kept me going was seeing the really noticeable progress every week and pretending I was Rikishii Toru trying to slim down for my boxing match against Yabuki Joe and embracing the hollowness and starving pain with pride.
So, autism.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=026oD-L3Nrk