I used to hear the phrase "bi now, gay later" in my teens and 20s. I can't speak objectively, but I am starting to think there is some truth it. I'm 32 and I have noticed from 25 to now, I had waning interests in women. I can't even get a proper date and it feels pathetic. Now when I am on scruff just shit posting, I am attracted men with little to no effort. I am filtering out people who want to fuck, I'm getting actual men who want to talk. It makes me wonder if I was even bi in the first place. I used to have raging erections for women, now 4 years on going, I can't even fuck them. I don't even find women repulsive, I literally am impotent and struggle to orgasm. Now with men, I have never had this issue. I might need to just get a boyfriend before I get older, because I can' be single forever. On the other hand, I don't want a life of just meaningless sex. Am I really meant to be a genetic dead end?
>>2683185Most gay men would just say they were bisexual in the past because it was slightly more socially acceptable. If you were ever intensely attracted to women, you're bi. What you're experiencing could be the bi-cycle, hormone-related, porn-induced, etc. If someone here wants to argue how the brain can completely switch off a part of your sexual orientation go ahead, but something so innate doesn't seem like it could truly fluctuate.
you're a faggot, harry
>>2683185Do what you like, no labels required. Labels are a construct of social media, for attention, they are totally unnecessary.
>>2683185I don't think it "fades". It's more a case of where the path of least resistance is. Say you, as a bi guy, as an equal interest in a man and a woman that you like. You take the woman out on a few dates, do some things like shopping or see a romcom movie and a few weeks into the relationship you have sex with her.You date the guy by maybe going out for a couple of beers, enjoy the football game together, go back to your place and have sex.The guy was less work and more compatible in interests... less resistance.Maybe the relationships work, maybe they don't and if they don't, what is the easier, more comfortable to get into?
>>2683193This is something I have struggled with over the years. I'm not a masculine man, wouldn't even matter if I hit the gym more. I'm still attracted to both women and men, it just feels like perhaps I have watched too much porn to compensate that I have no partner. One thing that sucks about the gay world, men can't commit to monogamy. While I never had a boyfriend, I'm always reading about how dysfunctional same sex relationships are and that has always bothered me. >>2683212When it comes to women, feels mostly sexual. I'm not really into fantasizing romance with them. Men I am more into the cuddling and intimacy after sex.
>>2683185Struggling with this as well, I've had a girlfriend for the past 2 years now but I feel like I'm kinda into guys as well and I'm worried if this will make our relationship difficult in the long term.
>>2683217Issue is I have been single most of my life. I have had girlfriends in high school, but those weren't real relationships. I was having these feelings before porn. Im not saying porn didn't contribute, but I had these thoughts before exposure of porn.>I kissed my step brother in the mouth when I was 6 years old, he was a few years younger than me. I did it spontaneously and he allowed it.>I dreamed of cocks years before going online and finding out what male on male sex was. Doesnt change the fact I was seeking this stuff out.
>>2683185Although I am absolutely attracted sexually to both men and women, I find myself feeling more gaysexual in my 40's. I think it's because of culture in the US that I'm actually able to be more instinctual masculine and dominant with a male partner than a woman. Like they aren't offended by it.
>>2683215>While I never had a boyfriend, I'm always reading about how dysfunctional same sex relationships are and that has always bothered me. I'd take what you're "always reading" with a grain of salt, especially if you're getting it from here on 4chan (which is full of /pol/ types spreading propaganda). Or any kind of online space populated by young, single gay guys, since that is by definition selecting only from guys who aren't in functional relationships, as gay dudes in happy stable relationships aren't gonna be posting about it much. The hookup culture on dating apps is particularly shallow and toxic, but is not a good representation of the broader gay dating/relationship scene.
>>2683215Honestly most straight couples are (knowingly or not) non monogamous. Many cheat. Many go to swing clubs. Many are slightly open or have green card rules. I do think gays are a bit more open about it all though. My brother is in a monogamous gay relationship. My bf and I have some rules, that we figured out together. We're mainly monogamous, but sometimes go on an adventure together. Just to experience some other dicks sometimes.
>>2683419>>2683507If I'm being honest and I know it sounds a little cringe, I really fantasize more than just suck dick, I actually love the idea of laying down and cuddling with another man. I've done it before with a grinder hookup. Wasn't patient when I refused anal cuz I was nervous so we just hung out at his house and I spent the night there and we just hugged the entire night
>>2683522That doesn't sound cringe to me. Intimacy and affection are more important for every human's mental health than mere sex, and can be a lot harder to come by.
My instinct when in public is always to check out women, and mostly ignore men. But I'll visit the local bath house and see all the guys walking around naked and it's game on. I've turned into a pretty good bottom, but still overall, women make me hornier.
>>2683549I've been to several bathhouses, including one the summer after I turned 18, but I never had the courage to do anything besides walk around naked in front of others
