>>217661637
yes. 5 years going onto 6. I finally understand those psychos who murder someone they love out of passion.

>>217661637
no
i a havent interacted with people other than family for years

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>>217661637
>Do you suffer from this in your country?

>>217661637
Yeah, I've been obsessed with her since the first time I saw her walking with her dog in 2022. I could easily enter her home through the roof in the middle of the afternoon when she's alone, rape her and kill both of us after, but I don't want to do her any harm unless she asks me to.

I suffered from this. But I haven't been thinking about her much this year, I think. Anyway, if I just had something better to do with my time, I wouldn't be thinking of her that much.

>>217661678
>>217661727
Why are Brazilians such psychos?

>>217661637
i've never been romantically attracted to another person

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>>217661637
My oneitis is now a non-binary lesbian

Svffered it once thr first couple years of university and I was genuinely miserable. Never again.

>>217661825
moortugal genes. or taxoplasmosis. also we are sensitive passionate people

Kind of
I don’t think I have the capacity to be obsessed the way I used to be, but sometimes I think of my ex and get sad

>>217661910
You're a sensitive young man in a world filled with cruelty and scorn

I get you

>>217661847
Same, just horny but never in love.

>>217661637
no, but I'm currently dating a girl and i like her, we talk and hangout a lot and i realized i initiate most of it.
so i decided not to text her now it's been 2 days since we last talked.

>>217662285
I've had a girlfriend but still never been in love

>>217662388
Move on mate, I've been there and done that, you'll know if she's interested and she isn't.

>>217662388
Thats just the way it is being a man in 2025

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>>217661637
Yes

>>217661637
I am inlove with a young swedish girl who doesn't know i exist

I was like this as a teenager and in my early twenties. Spent five years obsessed with my ex from high school because she was cool and smart and dumped me because she got into Yale. I was convinced she was going to be a billionaire or successful politician or something.

Instead she got a meme degree, gained 70lbs, came out as a lesbian, moved to the West Coast to do grunt work for a SJW charity, and married a woman who runs a cat shelter.

It's not worth obsessing over women because you never know how things will turn out. I'll never get back all that time I spent moping.

No, I was shocked at how quickly I got over her

>>217661637
Just tulpa'd your ideal girlfriend and everything will be solved

>>217661637
I have in the past. I do not currently suffer such an affliction.

>>217661637
I did. Not anymore. I'm way too exhausted to care. And nobody cares about me and has never cared about me anyways.

>>217661727
>unless she asks me to
um

>>217661637
No, I don't really ever develop crushes at all, I never really have

I'm 29 now. Suffered from extreme oneitis between ages 18 to 24. Almost killed myself once from being so depressed knowing she will never love me. Now? I don't give a fuck anymore about my regrets. I'm emotionless steel. I look back and laugh. Time truly makes it better.

>>217661637
Is that is man? Baby

No. Do you?

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>>217664865
real woman

>>217664870
I do indeed

>>217662428
Why do you think so? Dont most of men get no chances at all. Should he be a chad just for dating her

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i got in a relationship with mine for a short while and then 3 weeks ago she suddenly stopped talking to me after it seemed like it was going well
no matter how much i think about her it doesnt bring her back

>>217661847
>>217662285
I would say that it's better to like someone than to love someone. When you hit that love stage you start putting up with bullshit that you normally wouldn't allow. So personally, I would much rather be with someone I like than love.

>>217664862
that really sucks, i'm your age and we have to get out of this brother

>>217664926
Noice

>>217661637
What is it called if I have 2 oneitises?

this never happened to me

>>217661637
No. I just get obsessed. Luckily she's in a different state and locked down most of her social media so I can't really entertain it much

Yeah ive been in love with this one foid for a year now
she kissed me once
nothing else has happened between us
I dont know how to fall out of love with her

>>217661637
no i might be some kind of psychopath

My oneitis is my girl best friend but she lives in korea

>>217667050
how do you kiss a girl and then not do anything else with her?

>>217667717
She told me she didnt want a relationship afterwards
what was i supposed to do

>>217661637
Sort of, but it wasnt entirely unrequited it was..I dont even know. Aimless and unproductive flirting? Being on a backburner?
The one that really pissed me off was a date I thought went well then nothing.

had one back in high school, obsessed over 2 years; find it laughable, now I am a man of steel and don't give a fuck about getting a gf/wife in present and upcoming future also there is not much trust among people. And if I had a ideal girl I wish she isn't too involved twitter/reddit/ig and politics stuff but it's hard to find someone like that

>>217661637
One thing I liked about the internet not existing was that people invented retarded words for things that we already have phrases for at a much slower rate

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I’m obsessed with a blonde blue eyed mormon girl I saw online.

I stalk her ig constantly. One time I drove to her hometown in Utah in the hopes I’d run into her in public but I never did

>>217661637
After being rejected my oneitis turned to noitis.

>>217667762
damn
women are weird

>>217668395
I think i could probably be fwb with her if i made a move and reciprocated
but i dont even know if thats a good idea, im already obsessed with her enough if i have sex with her its over for me

how would I have a oneitis if I haven't spoken to a woman who wasn't my mother in 5 years?

How can you be like this after your teenage years?

woohoo

>>217661637
She looks like her tits are massive. Nice

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>>217668979
they sure are

>>217668789
By intentionally avoiding the experiences that would taint your soul.

Yes, I'm in love with an American woman which makes YouTube videos. I try to not think of her because it makes my chest hurt.

>>217661637
Yeah, I did suffer from this mental illness for the past 3 years. Just cut all contact with the person that caused you this affliction, and you will slowly get better

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>>217661637
I did, a long time ago. I was in a state of complete despair, but I refused to give in to it out of disgust with myself. To feel normal again, I think you need to approach your situation empirically: take note of activities that even momentarily distract you from thinking about her, or that make the grief more tolerable, and engage in those activities frequently.

Some things that worked for me:
- Hanging out with friends
- Talking with close confidents about her
- Outlets of expression (Playing music, writing, drawing, etc.)
- Reading (Call me gay, idfc, but I read a lot of Nietzsche during this time, his writings are extremely life affirming and powerful, I felt a significant sense of accomplishment from overcoming my situation)
- Working

Obviously the things that worked for me might not work for you, so what works for you is likely highly personal It's really important to remember that you lived your life before you met her, so it's not impossible to return to that state.

Finally, and this is probably one of the hardest things to comprehend while in an infatuated state: You're not grieving the loss of a perfect, incomparable person who failed to reciprocate your feelings. But you ARE grieving the loss of a fantasy that obscured a flawed person’s imperfections. Even if something had worked out between you and this person, once you move beyond the honeymoon phase of a relationship, those imperfections would no longer be softened by rose-colored lenses, and you would begin to notice challenges you hadn’t seen before. In my case, I realized that this “perfect 10/10” I could talk to and snuggle with for hours was, in reality, a deeply flawed person who likely would have made my life hellish down the line. This becomes far more apparent the further into recovery you get.

Baffled that its taking some of you years to get over it, but hopefully this helps.

>>217670282
For me, I got over it by just playing vidya

>>217661637
I would let her breastfeed me.

>>217669101
I need more

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>>217670282
>you ARE grieving the loss of a fantasy
as soon as i found out my oneitis found a partner, my fantasies about having a life with this woman crumbled into dust
worst was losing our hypothetical daughter
i was grieving like picrel for days
ive never felt pain like that in my life before
emotional pain that also manifested itself physically
and i was really angry with myself for not asking her out
we were really into each other but im broke and unemployed and aware what that does to relationships so i didnt pursue

bump

>>217661637
i did
fortunately it passed
took like 8 years ugh

>>217673698
>took like 8 years ugh
You people itt are mentally ill

>>217661637
No, because I get all the girls who I have ever liked (zero)

>>217661637
>Oneitis
Anyone who uses retarded zoomer slang should be forced into slave labor in the nearest mine for 10 years.

ive been trying to get back with my ex for the past 2 years where there was some back and forth, until i found out she found someone else.
she was my first and only gf (yes shocking i know). we were together for only 3 months, but she ticked all the boxes (crudely speaking) and im usually a very picky person. i still haven't found anyone even close to her level, and i see no point in settling for less.

>>217661637
How long you've been obsessed with her ?

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>>217674745
this is the most painful
when you have the dream sitting on a silver platter but you let it go away for one reason or another
i feel you broski

>>217670805
iktf, realizing that you have to let go of every beautiful scenario of a hypothetical life with her hurts bad enough that it makes you feel gut wrenching pain, its insane. i think as far as physical symptoms as concerned, the total and complete loss of my appetite was the most worrying thing for me, i could go days without eating and would basically have to force feed myself.

>we were really into each other but im broke and unemployed and aware what that does to relationships so i didnt pursue
heh, same situation here basically, I think this is partly why things didnt work out between us, too, and i DID ask her out. that being said, i channeled my grief towards turning my life around, and now im happier than i ever have been in life.
in a way, all the misery i endured may have been one of the best things to have ever happened to me.

>>217675358
im a very religious person. i firmly believe God sent her to teach me a lesson (and He did). i was very inexperieced and emotionally driven in our relationship, which eventually lead to its downfall. i know my mistakes and it wont happen again. as painful as it was i have to be optimistic the future. we will all make it.

>>217661637
ok she's really pretty.
OF? or any link?

>>217676182
>the total and complete loss of my appetite
holy fuck same here dude
always lived a healthy lifestyle and never got ill so it was a huge surprise
i thought losing appetite means you dont get hungry
you do, you fucking do
but you cant eat past 2 or 3 bites
same as you i had to force myself to eat and it took a long while to get back to my normal eating portions

>you have to let go of every beautiful scenario of a hypothetical life
before this experience i was like this nigga over here >>217673850
you really have no idea until it happens to you

>turning my life around
im currently at this stage and this conversation with you is giving me much needed hope and encouragement
god bless you anon, truly

Yeah I've had a few oneitises. I actually managed to be in a relationship with mine for 7 years until she left me last year. Let me tell you, as soon as you actually obtain a oneitis you'll realise that they are just people with flaws and insecurities just like you.

>>217661637
Yes, if you feel strongly for someone it can be hard to just forget all that and transfer it all onto a new one starting from scratch.

I never fell in love with anyone. I wonder if my brain is fucked in some way.

>>217676182
if she came back to you and asked if you two could start again, would you?

>>217661637
I haven't since I was in high school.

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>>217661637
Used to, I had a chance with her but I was a turbopussyfaggot. She got engaged, and im over it now

I haven't felt real attraction to a woman in over a decade. That whole part of me just withered and died from neglect.

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>>217676264
audreysuit on tiktok
audreytennh on pinterest

>>217678993
>>217679240
thank you

>>217661637
Yes, a Croatian girl who looks like Gio Scotti but I found out she had a bf.

>>217661637
no, ever since turning 21

you're a manchild

Yes. Worse still, it's a man, despite the fact I have never been attracted to men before in my life

>>217661637
https://www.tiktok.com/@audreysuit/video/7419161065340079402
her bf is not that fit
why don't you just shag her?

>>217679807
she's not my oneitis
just a pretty girl I found

>>217679313
You met a Croat in America?

>>217679580
How did you just discovered that you're gay?

>>217661847
Same

>>217677422
>im currently at this stage and this conversation with you is giving me much needed hope and encouragement
>god bless you anon, truly
no problem dude, we’re all in this together
my final piece of advise: find MEANING in life that doesnt involve her or the pursuit of romance, you desperately need to find something that you can actively work towards that gives you something to look forward to, even in her absence.

another thing: going back to nietzsche, ive found the concept of eternal recurrence ( basically the idea that once you die youll have to live your life all over again forever) to be an extraordinarily powerful framework for guiding my actions. if im going to live this life over again, i dont want to spend it wallowing in despair, but even if i do, i see despair as a catalyst that sets me on the right path.

>>217678530
no, because i can view her more objectively now and realize that although shes stunningly pretty, more so than about 99% of women ive met, she was very immature to the point that it caused her previous relationships to end catastrophically, if i were to have ended up in something more serious with her, it wouldve most likely resulted in something similar happening. i would often dismiss her character flaws when i was in love with her as cute little quirks, but i recognize now that that was incredibly foolish.

also, once the infatuated wore off, i began to feel attracted to women other than her once again, and have since hooked up with people whos company i equally enjoy who actually reciprocate my feelings. i like this far far more than any fictitious "what could have been", for a lack of better words. i still feel love for people, but its far more tempered and healthy now.

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>>217676182
>the total and complete loss of my appetite was the most worrying thing for me, i could go days without eating and would basically have to force feed myself.
How did you get back to normal? I have anhedonia ever since, and I literally can't get rid of it

>>217670282
>>217670805
>>217682562
limerace is a hell of a a drug

>>217682579
fight like fucking hell to get your life back on track, what youre going through is basically like an addiction

its a very bumpy road, youll likely oscillate between feeling brief moments of respite and relief before spiraling back into grief over her not loving you back, but i promise that this is only a part of the healing process, and if you do everything in your power to continue living your life without her, youll learn to enjoy life again

like i said in my original post, take note things that make you feel better, and also things that trigger your grief. you need to approach this empirically to find what works best for you

>>217682479
It only happened about a week ago. I don't want to go into details about it because it's really embarrasing

>>217661637
Once, when I was 19. Christ that was dumb.

>>217670282
>Baffled that its taking some of you years to get over it
you sound like a normalfag so take into consideration that people itt are stunted incels

>>217661637
no, never
it all passes within 6 months at most

>>217682130
Yeah

I dated my oneitis and it ruined my life.

>>217682947
>youll learn to enjoy life again
I hope so, because it's been months and nothing helps. I've tried talking to other girls, going to the gym, improving my appearance, improving my skills, working on my future career. But the impulsive thoughts remain, and what's worse, sometimes she appears in my dreams, and it ruins my whole day

>>217683263
you sucked a strangers dick and fell in love?

>>217686591
No, the realify is even more embarrasing.

>>217688550
you took a strangers dick up your arsehole and fell in love?

>>217688988
No, I saw a beautiful guy on the internet and felt like I swallowed a ton of lead

>>217689249
better than swallowing cum I guess

>>217689249
How is that embarrassing? You were most likely always interested in men so seeing that guy didn't magically turn you gay

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>>217685542
A good way to snap out of it is to acknowledge that you were doing nothing more than jestermaxxing for her own entertainment.

>>217690834
It's embarrasing that I fell in love with a dude I saw on the internet like a little schoolgirl. I am an grown man

>>217690834
>>217692694
*a grown man
Also, I have never before shown any desire towards men. I have only ever gotten erect to women so to fall in love with a guy was a huge shock to me.

>>217666659
Mormon oneitis.

>>217676238
I know where you are coming from. Live be like that sometimes. You just know they send you people so can understand reality or yourself.

How did I cry reading this thread
Fuck

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never had one

>>217661637
Nope. Never been in love as far as I can tell.

>>217661637
No, I genuinely never had a crush on anybody. Its hard for me to relate to any of that stuff.

>>217661637
I've met the woman I wanted in this life.
After that experience, everything is different, your way of relating is different, your goals are shifted, you genuinely don't care about other people.

It's a horrible thing when you're incel (much everything else in our lives), but it's something I wish everyone could experience.

>>217692694
Who was it?

>>217698357
>but it's something I wish everyone could experience.
No, it is only a great experience if you both feel the same thing. If she just wants you to be friends, it can seriously fuck up your life. Especially, when trying to find another girl, because your standards will be pushed to such a high level that almost no girl will match them

As a teenager yes. I stopped interacting with women or going outside for my peace of mind.

>>217661637
No, I'm aromantic-asexual.
Curiously, I have been the oneitis of several women in my life. Kind of sad to think about.

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>>217699575
>I have been the oneitis of several women in my life
how do you know this?