>>219801535
if you don't live in a warzone, why wouldn't you live in the place where your friends and family
you are not going to "find" yourself, happiness is just an illusion that devolves into a hedonistic treadmill

the amount of people who want to migrate so they can eat good tasting food, or engage in some soulless consumerist activity is bizarre to me

japan is the best place in this comparison, but I would never want to live there

>>219801535
AC is a thing anon
Cold or hot you just push a button

>>219802303
i moved here to find a wife because i find women to raise children with because one i find the women in my home country to be disgusting and two i dont think its a safe place to raise children but i sort of lost my identity in coming here as i went from being the 'cool guy who knows japanese' to 'guy who can barely speak japanese and who we have to give special attention to otherwise he doesnt fit in' which has affected my confidence and made it hard for me to get along with women
i wouldnt move to korea because i dont know korean
ive never been to singapore but with the right job offer i would consider it i guess. dont know mcuh about singaporean culture etc

>>219802459
the older i get, the more i feel the community is the most important thing in life

as a foreigner, the community will have a hard time relating to you, even if you know their language

regarding a wife, women are not all the same in personality
and even if you like how japanese women look, appearance is the most worthless thing in a marriage

>>219802770
i agree mostly
i went home for about half a year recently and i was dreading it but the time i spent with my friends and family was some of the best times in my life in retrospect
it me it's about having your people, but i dont mean that in a broad sense as much as like, having your inner circle
im not very picky about the looks of my wife but i find the normalization of drug use/party culture/tattoos etc in my home country to be far too disgusting to even be interested in women there
not that no one sleeps around here but its not normalized outside of maybe some urbanite circles in tokyo and almost no one has tattoos or has even tried drugs and most people think its insane that anyone would even do that
i think its just a matter of time until i can get my feet under me and have a secure life with some good people around me

>>219802951

My sense of the japanese people is that they have accomplished so much, because they have established an enduring systemic commune. Because it is so systemic, it is also insular to outsiders
>i think its just a matter of time until i can get my feet under me and have a secure life with some good people around me

so it's hard for me to see what steps a person would need to take, to accomplish this
but good luck anon

>>219803202
i think as a migrant you have to pass the ‘does this guy get it?’ micro tests people do no matter if its highly insular japan or some place like america with many immigrants, so as i keep living here ill keep absorbing things such that I understand cultural norms to a point i can pass such tests
and of course there are people who wont like me no matter what because of who i am, but thats true in my home country too; i just know better how to read and navigate that because im from there
Ill let u know how i am in 3 yrs

>>219802384
It's not just a matter of ac... ac and floor heating are essential here.

You live in a place with a good climate, so you don't know the rigors of the climate here.

>>219802459
Are you an American?

>>219801535
All 3 are shitholes

>>219801535
Japan

>>219805030
I saw your flag...