I grew up in a very religious household (6 siblings, church weekly, raised thinking you go to hell if you have premarital sex, etc.,). I could have married in early 20s, as many of the church guys do, but I didn't feel ready. I am now dating a girl outside of the religious movement I grew up in, and she is perfectly fine with waiting until marriage, but she is not a virgin, and I sometimes feel like a complete retard to think I am waiting until marriage for a non-virgin. I don't want to break the relationship because I really do like her, but I would be marrying a girl who has a higher body count than me, with her being my only life sexual partner, which is ridiculous the more I think about it, how she experienced other guys and I only got her. How do you reconcile these thoughts with my own personal conviction and moral standards?
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>>220321263Just have sex? Lol
Adventist?
>>220321263Cope by thinking that, when you finally have sex with her, you’ll be better than all the guys who have come before you
>>220321263she doesnt mind waiting because she knows youre not after her for her pussy onlyi dont know how to help you man but this dynamic will build resentment in the futuredepends on her bodycount i guess, how high are you willing to accept?i too am worried about getting in this situation when/if i finally find a gfthe easiest solution i can think of is to find a virgin reallyt. khv
>>220321374>i dont know how to help you manLiterally they just need to have sex and see how things feel after.
>>220321263>datingBruh. Just get married. I heard it's easy in the West. Here, I had to get the signature of the MP of my contituency to verify I am single, do a HIV bloodtest, enrol and pass a compulsory pre-marital course to get a "permit to marry cert", submit multiple forms to the State Religious Dept, wait 1-3 months for approval AND THEN REPEAT THE ENTIRE PROCESS FOR MY WIFE TO BE. You oth can just show up at the Townhall and be done with it. Go do it. Be a Man for once.
>I would be marrying a girl who has a higher body count than me, with her being my only life sexual partner, which is ridiculous the more I think about itIt's not lol. It's fine. If that's what you want. If you dont care about waiting anymore and all that religious stuff then just have sex now and work on that before you commit to marriage. You're focusing on the wrong shit.
>>220321324It's a conservative sect within the charismatic movement, more similar to pentecostal. The girls in the church wear head coverings and most marry in early 20s and have 5 - 8 kids
>>220321374I mean, we are waiting on my terms. I could have already have had sex with her if I wanted, but I feel morally convicted to wait until marriage. >>220321450I don't know with absolute certainty whether I want to marry her. That's where I am right now - making the big decision of whether I see myself with her for life.
>>220321502Then what's the issue genuinely?You have moral standards that you won't cross and you've chosen a mate. What are you afraid of?
>>220321530I don't know if I explained well enough in the OP, but the thought of waiting until marriage for someone else who didn't do the same for me bothers me. I saved myself for her, so that I can fully commit to her, giving that level of closeness, intimacy, and connection to my one and only partner, while she didn't do the same. It's like I've been defrauded in some ways. I get that many, if not most, people don't view it like this, but that's just how I feel.
>>220321695I might sound like some cuck but those views are your own. You should embrace them as your own, ie you didn't sleep around for you only and your own religious purity or whatever rather than for your partner. Those are YOUR moral guidelines and you found someone who didn't live them previously who will respect your boundaries now. So you either embrace that and accept that you've lived the life you've lived for your soul or you see that the other person's past is incompatible with what you've lived and chosen and let them go. At the end of the day it isn't really on them, the decision is based on your vibes and bbeliefs.
You are total cuck
