Nobody (besides my parents) actually wants to spend time with me in my country. I'm always the one who has to ask. When I do, they usually agree and we have fun together (at least I do), but they never ask, so I can never be sure if they actually had fun or just agreed to not be mean.I often got the advice "YOU have to make the first step, you can't just expect others to approach you when you never approach anyone!". However, I AM the one who makes the first step, the other person isn't. So basically, this advice only applies to ME, because the others, in this case, DO in fact get approached without ever approaching anyone themselves. Does this happen in your country?
>>221356326Yeah >I often got the advice "YOU have to make the first stepI feel like when I've tried, even though we all have fun, the effort isn't reciprocated or the burden to actually do things is on me. It doesn't feel like a natural thing where we just spontaneously might do stuff, it has to be initiated somehow and then planned around them/their schedule.I think no matter what, wherever I am or whatever I'm doing, I'm happier coming home to being alone.
My parents only send money out of a feeling of responsibility, they don't even contact me anymore. They have all but given up on me, my future and grandchildren. To look at life optimistically, the failures that we do not propagate feed into the mist of time un-becoming like our dreams. In a sense that is a paradoxical way to view shame and discontentment in my country.
>>221356326totally
>>221356326If they go out with others often, they likely don’t care about you that much.If they don’t go out a lot, it might be that they are just even more socially inept than you, so don’t feel bad when inviting.Had they not enjoyed hanging out with you, they could have just made excuses.Antisocial weirdos always do that instead of simply being honest.
>>221356326you never talkwhen we tried to talk wih you on discord you barely replied and just let convos diewe actually wouldve met you irl and hanged outyour friends mustve thought that youre not interestedassuming your the bocchi/height anon
>>221356661>It doesn't feel like a natural thing where we just spontaneously might do stuff, it has to be initiated somehow and then planned around them/their schedule.I think that's pretty normal in adult life, unfortunately. I think he >>221356741 might be right, them agreeing instead of making excuses could mean they enjoy it and are thankful you invited them>>221356664Are you a neet? How old are you if I may ask? And are you copying my whole folder?>>221356749What? Our conversation ended normally and naturally, and I replied pretty extensivelly in my opinionSorry. I'm not at all used to texting anyone actively (or anyone in general) for longer periods of time, and I can't hold a conversation to infinity
>>221357743yeah thats what i meanyou cant seem to tell people want to talk to you and give an impression that youre not interested
>>221357743I'm 27 with semi-stable income but my parents feel so guilty for the upbringing that they're trying to make up for the damage with money. It really sucks because they're sacrificing what they have for no returns in desperate hope of redemption, even doe the course of my life was decided over 20 years ago.>And are you copying my whole folder?Copying someone's entire reaction folder sounds like stalker behaviour... I'm also 6'2 but that doesn't make life easier in my country, people being more likely to get out of my way in crowded places without verbal exchange is perhaps the biggest benefit
>>221358352That sounds very sad, sorry. Perhaps you could try making up with your parents? At least you're tall tho>Copying someone's entire reaction folder sounds like stalker behaviourY-yeah. That's a rare one, in fact I can't even recall ever posting that one>>221357989I think that could be true in some cases, but wrong in others. Specifically for the ones I'm talking about (my 2 "best" friends), cause I've been essentially begging for their attention at timesFor your information, I still check my alt account pretty much every day for new texts from you lol
>>221358785well its not me its herill add you too on that account tomorrow when im on my pc
>>221356326I let go of my last real friend I had in 2022. Since then I've only hung out with people I meet when I travel. I haven't travelled in a year since I lost my job.
>>221358830That would be awesome>>221359600Shouldn't getting a job be easy in India? Your economy is growing rapidly
tfw lonely but not even into video games or anime
>>221356326Okay just spend time with your parents then what's the big deal
>>221356326>Does this happen in your country?Funny you asked that. It does in fact, internationally speaking, happen in my country. Which is why I often wonder if the other person liked spending time with me or not. I'm also worried if I'm not a bother when I reach out first.
