How does someone in his late 20s makes friends in your country?>flag>i dont know
Get a hobby. Find a job. Go outside. Stalk people. idk
>>221650983>Get a hobbyLike what?>Find a jobIm trying but no one hires me>Go outsideWhere?>Stalk peopleI used to do this sometimes
The older you get, the more it seems to be that all your friends are just buddies that you do a specific thing with. Like very loose associations, like if you run into each other it's like hey cool man how's it going or maybe you have a drinking buddy, but then outside that you don't really care what they're doing with their life and don't talk to each other for six months at a time. Sometimes you get this great idea that hey let's all get together and do a trip somewhere or something, everyone's really on board but then eventually everyone's like oh man I can't make it after all, I have some thing that I need to be at that specific time in two months, and then you never do that trip. Especially when people start settling down and having families. At that point all your irl friends are just that guy that you play badminton with or the guys you see at parties or whatever you're doing, but you never hang out with them outside those specific activities
>>221651108I stopped talking with my friends after school and then I never had friends again.
>>221651105>Find a job>Im trying but no one hires meSame here, how I am supposed to enjoy my 20's with at least some savings?
>>221651108This is my life and I'm only 22 wtf
>>221651152 how I am supposed to enjoy my 20's when I don't have at least some savings?**
>>221651152I have some saving from when I had a job, but I still dont enjoy life
>>221651151I recently witnessed a funny event, we still have a group chat with people from school. Some type of anniversary was coming up like it's been x years since we started this thing, let's all get together again like old times, in that good old bar that we used to go to. Then a bunch of people are like hell yeah. Until one by one people start dropping out with that reason "oh nevermind I need to do something else on that day", including the guy who came up with the whole idea (he called it off the night before lol). In the end a couple people still went there but yeah it was pretty funny to watch, like we've gotten old huh
>>221650964friends are a waste of time, what are you, a kid? you need business partners
my coworker friend killed himself some time ago, it still feels unreal how the world moves on like nothing ever happened, his clothes still hang in the locker room where he left them a year ago, nobody is coming to pick them up, higher ups either don't care or don't want to task anyone with throwing them away, so they just hang there waiting for a man who'll never come, they'll probably hang there until the building gets demolished, I've had terrible anxiety ever since this happened, it has awakened something in me which I had buried long ago.be grateful bros, appreciate the little things, be kind.
>>221651447he wouldnt give a shit if you died, did they give you a raise at least
>>221651487this mentality will only lead you further down the road of misery, but go ahead and reject it and find out for yourself
>>221651487Can you stop being negative man
>>221651447Carpe diem. I am sorry for your loss maybe if you knew anybody of his family you could call them to pick them up. At least you wouldn't beat yourself about it every time you see them
>>221651550people die every day, you can dwell on pointless stuff like that and cope with your false feeling of wholesomeness while others surpass you and you are left behind
>>221651593your "friends" will trample on you the first chance its convenient for them, if you had the brain you would have figured out you nobody but yourself gives a shit about you, you cant keep friends and people around not because you dont have enough hobbies or whatever but because you are too unimportant to be used or swindled by anyone
>>221651447Why did he kill himself?
>>221651674you're not wrong, there's no right or wrong, you can be the king, I can be the pawn, we're going back to the same old box once the game has ended, I just think a humble existence leads to more joy and less pain in the end
>>221652189I'm not sure, I think it was a bunch of personal problems, I know that he gambled but not to what extent, he had fewer vices than most so it sort of came out of nowhere
>>221651447why don't you do it?
>>221652318we're all going to die sooner or later, but I'm not in unbearable pain right now and my body still somewhat works so I'll stick around and appreciate the few good things in life that brings me joy, the dread, like all other things comes and goes
>>221652394sorry I meant why don't you clean up his locker
>>221650964go to those language learning events such as santiago speaksi've gone there three times, it's fun and a good excuse to get drunk
>>221652484my bad, I don't know really, various reasons I suppose, in a way it's a memory, part of me still feels like he'll just come back one day, another part doesn't want to deal with it out of fear, it's like a gravestone at this point, I'm leaving this job soon, I think I will just let the clothes remain where they are, I don't know his family, I don't know how they've dealt with all of this, it's just dirty work clothes after all, I assume they have other more personal belongings.macedonia-anon does have a point in that I should move on, even though I don't quite agree with his reason as for why, I've pondered these clothes enough, life is for the living, all we can do is to remember the dead and be grateful.
>>221652506But I already know 2 languages
I'll be your friend
I am successful, attractive and sociable, and I'm making quite a few "friends" irl, but they ghost pretty quickly and have so many excuses not to go out.
>>221653611Then you're none of those things
>>221653643I'm objectively those things. Maybe the only doubt is my social ability if people don't want to hang out. But more likely it's just that no one wants to have friends anymore.
>>221653668No, nigga. If people don't want to hang out with you you're none of those things
>>221653698I own my own house and live alone at 29 and make 340k CAD salary. People including women approach me to compliment my appearance regularly. Some approached me asking for my number/Instagram/etc.. In fact, most people I added as friends approached me first. They just never follow up and meet later.
>>221650964I DON'T KNOW
anyone here plays siege, CS2 or any other tranny FPS?
>>221653643If he lives in Vancouver it's normal human behavior I just gave up here and waiting to emigrate. Most Canadians are fucking cunts.
>>221652719NTA, but thanks for sharing. I also disagree with the macedonian. My reasoning is that you just have to hear and read some of the stories about soldiers and people in war, they usually develop such strong camaraderie, even to the point of risking their own lives just to save wounded soldiers that they might not even know. My point is, we develop strong bonds with people around us and even something as simple as a "hey anon, whats up" might be enough to stick in your memory and remember a person that you dont know. I sure can tell you that I remember people that I didnt really know but I remember them because they treated me well, were kind to me or at least I noticed they were a good person to me or someone else.Humans are strange man
>>221653959indeed, and those are some of the fondest memories to me, small acts of kindness, I remember speaking to some Libyan stranger out on deck on a ferry once, it was just for a few hours, watching the sea roll by as we spoke about the state of the world, the past, the future, his life, my life, I guess we both knew we would never see each other again and decided to just open up, a single-serving friend, after that encounter that's sort of what I aspire to be
>>221654267you seem like a kind person anon, I will unironically remember your reflection since it made me think about life and death which is something I already do quite often
>>221654324thank you anon, may lilies of peace border the path you walk on
>>221651331Yeah it's real srs bsns hours on /int/ right now kek
>>221654444thanks anon, god bless. Also checkked
I dont know
>>221651849based
>>221650964you have to join some organization that lets you meet people repeatedly and allows you to work with them to achieve a goal. Ex. volunteer firefighting, language classes where you converse with each other to get better, gymnastics group where you spot each other, etc. Many different ways to achieve this. Random bar meets will not work unless youre really passionate about getting drunk i guess
>>221651108Holy fucking soulless. I'm 32 and still see my friends about twice a week, even those who are parents.
>>221651447>tutorialoid acks himself
