Lunch Editionprevious: >>40763605Goal of the thread: Treat yourself to something nice, be it a meal, a hot bath, or something else you'd enjoy doing.Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://sntry.cc/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://sntry.cc/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
Today I'll be busy but I already figured the thread won't make it tonight when I bumped it for goodnight and it took a minute to plummet to page 6.Don't worry peeps I will reply to everyone from last thread later. As for the kind anons that bump; don't be upset. It's been ridiculous recently. I am just sorry for the newcomers who aren't used to keeping up with archived threads and crossposts. If anybody needs onboarding, I can try to offer a guide.
>>40811055thank you for your hard work <3
thanks for all the hard work
>>40810935>Goal of the thread: Treat yourself to something nice, be it a meal, a hot bath, or something else you'd enjoy doing.managed to do this. had a nice veggie sandwich. eating something other than meat was really nice
day 1 no smokes, again.im tired and alone.
>>40810935Whelp, this week was both stressful and unproductive.I really gotta get my own place one day and get my actual life started.Need to start drawing again too.I can't keep drifting around place to place for another five years, I need to at least pretend I have a life worth organising.I gotta catch up on a few messages in the previous threads, but that shouldn't be as hard if I just pay a bit more attention.At least my travel Visa is settled for now, gotta organise I flight where I won't spend too much cash but at least things are cleared up now.I miss my family a ton but my country sucks.Hopefully I can get my sleep schedule under control as well, it's been very wack lately.>>40763822 #>rest well!I'll try to, thank you kindly.>>40770711 #I try to post them since I need some more positive imagery in my life ;3More updates on my life eventually, gotta get some sleep again.
>>40811938>gotta get my own place one day and get my actual life startedamenI'll use that to start thinking so I can start getting organized during what little time I have left today>later get place>first get car>before that figure out landlord legal question so I don't screw myself up badly>before that survive until the 8th>before that survive until the 29th>before that clean up stuff up to 25th so that means today>and if time and energy left, call friend whose birthday it is todayok time to write up the boring details in a separate file so I can give my executive dysfunctional ass the crutches it needs to be able to do
how do i find roommates as a boymoder? i don't have any friends i can move in with, and idk how to find strangers that are chill and not creepy or transphobic. i need to get out of my shitty red state.
>>40812234i've had some limited success with online communities but i think i've been extremely lucky in that regard. much less 'big discords where i find a few friends' and much more 'small discords where a handful of pals get together' type thing
I wish I was better at keeping a good sleeping schedule.I feel all kinds of wack these days.
>>40798972>Ive already said probably too muchGotcha. >Maybe a desperate plea to the vast empty that some angel will spare me.You might laugh but I have seen even that work, once.>You dont have to try to save me.My expectations are low. I won't go into this I can save you, I can promise you I won't break myself over the tragedy you are experiencing. If it makes you keep posting, think of this as palliative care. I won't guarantee anything but I think we can try and salvage SOMETHING. For your kids, at least. To build them a social safety net. Perhaps you too, as a corollary. Lemme address the two most crucial things first. One is a remark: if you believe you can't speak openly enough for someone to snatch you, I assume you are aware there is an unofficial discord where you can ping me privately. Two is, you talked about basically burning all bridges you had. Do you just mean people that turned out transphobic or did you push people away in specific ways?>>40800797Thank you, Anon! I have Monday off so I decided to commit to that as my next laundry day, feel free to hold me accountable <3>>40801166Take all the time you need, Anon.>>40804375>I'm kinda happy with the new season so far too, the animation is pretty solid.Oh absolutely, I also like how varied the styles are they are playing around with.>>40801300Absolutely! I also kinda hope we get to see some more of Brief with his hair up like in the the s1 finale, but honestly I'm already more than happy with what we got.>I made some cornflake brittle with sesame seeds, per your suggestion.Oh nice, did they add to it, in your opinion? Congrats on your cleaning spree by the way!>I’m planning on getting a physical egg timer next month and logging screentime in a notebook.Ah, to get more functionality out of your smartphone, a good call!
>>40811072>>40811088You two are too kind.. I love doing what I do for this board.>>40800260>if any autismo depression sig anons want to chat & try to help each other later on discord or here i might be up for it. i>think feeling like no one knows me and nothing i do matters is contributing a lot to making me feel stuckOh, have you given the unofficial server a shot? I haven't been there in ages but I know a good couple of peeps that used to go there that would surely love company.>>40803850>im just ao tired of all things goign agianst me and me>not being allowed to enjoy good things, having to look behind my bakc constantly>IM TIRED! of it all. I just wanna calm downThat sounds extremely rough, Anon. If you want we can try and think of things you can try to change about your life if you can concretely name things about it you wish to change.I am incredibly happy you posted. I want you to feel welcome here, this general exists for people like you, and I understand you are tired and upset. That's okay. Take your time, we are here for you.>>40811556Happy to hear, Anon! Do you feel like you lack veggie recipes you would enjoy? If so we can try make suggestions if you describe meals that fit your palate.
>>40814200>I also kinda hope we get to see some more of Brief with his hair up like in the the s1 finaleI wouldn’t mind that either. They’ve got a lot to come back to and play around with, but I’m satisfied with the balance they’re striking between developing the story and the characters and using the show as a platform for stylistic experimentation. >Oh nice, did they add to it, in your opinion?Yeah, the difference was subtle, but definitely an improvement. I think I’ll keep adding other granola bar type ingredients like other kinds of seeds, nuts, or dried cranberries. Yesterday I did my regular vacuuming. This morning I made strawberry sandos. I also made a list of graphic novels from my book hoard that I think would be the quickest reads, just so I can finish reading as many books as fast as possible. I went to the store and got a couple more small notebooks for reminders, and a composition book for journaling, and I printed out a few things from my notes app on my phone for future reference. Oh, and I’m planning on using the Pomodoro Technique with screentime and reading, which is 25 minutes on task, a 5 minute break to stretch and move around, and repeating that process 3 more times.
Enough for tonight.>>40811667I'm rooting for you, Junko. I am sorry you>>40811938Sounds like there's some work ahead, but I have faith that you can do it. The travel visa is great news already! I'm looking forward to your replies, sorry about the threads being so short lived recently, it's like a weather condition.>I miss my family a ton but my country sucks.I never asked before but are you comfy giving a vague idea which country it is? Like, LatAm, eastern europe..>>40812234Dumb question, but do you have a particular city in mind already? If you could go there, scout lgbt friendly meetup places and network a little it would be a lot easier. I noticed student cities tend to have a thriving and easily accessible scene usually.>>40814184>I wish I was better at keeping a good sleeping schedule.Would you say the issue is tiredness, habits?>>40815328>I think I’ll keep adding other granola bar type ingredients like other kinds of seeds, nuts, or dried cranberries.Sounds like a great idea! Speaking of dried fruit, I noticed that prunes are actually surprisingly good in sweets if you soak them well. Had a custard cake with them that was amazing.>PomodoroI remember Pomodoro having been a very popular subject in /sig circles many years ago (before I made this general on lgbt), I never looked into it though. I'm excited to hear about your experiences with it!> they’re striking between developing the story and the characters and using the show as a platform for stylistic experimentation.Agreed, it's crazy to see how sky high the production quality is these days. We've been eating really good the past few years in general in terms of anime, but it's crazy to see something like PSG with modern techniques and budgets.
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first day came and went, was miserable, but so far i survived. managed to clean and be productive as a bonus.i think my antipsychotic medication was suppressing me.
>>40814383>Happy to hear, Anon! Do you feel like you lack veggie recipes you would enjoy? If so we can try make suggestions if you describe meals that fit your palate.mostly just laziness but thank you. have you been alright?
>>40813176no one in my small handful of pals has space though, and i've asked>>40815684i live in texas so i'm desperate enough that i'll take basically any blue state at this point. i don't have a car so scouting is difficult.i've tried looking at online roommate finders, but those require marking gender in my profile, and since i'm andro boymoder idk which box to tick.
day 2 no smokes.by experience days two and three are the worst ones. i'll be scratching the walls and screaming for cigs.
Thank you OP /siganon ( :P i never can track users) for the thread where I shamelessly liveblog and dump my self inflicted worries.Military still dragging their heels on paperwork I was supposed to get 2 weeks ago and it's fucking with my head. I've chased them over it but I have no direct point of contact with the person who's meant to send me it.It's silly because of course they don't care it's the military ffs but damn I did everything right and they still dont seem to have the will to make things run smoothly. Like I'm preparing to quit my ~decent paying~ job for this and they're offering no certainty for even the short term.I'm coping by blaming them anyway, I sure can't force them to actually send me the paperwork and if it all falls through ig I'll look at going back to uni for a MSc or something.Did two 72 hour weeks back to back which ig isn't a lot compared to some but that messed with me as well, especially night shifts.N.B - need to order new bloodwork because uhh 5 months hrt, should probably have done that by now.>>40812234I think it's a case of just vetting people but if you don't really know anyone ik some people have success with facebook etc.
i really want some cigs
>>40822018Junko, no
>>40811968>amen>I'll use that to start thinking so I can start getting organized during what little time I have left todayI'm glad to hear you being a little proactive during down time.>ok time to write up the boring details in a separate file so I can give my executive dysfunctional ass the crutches it needs to be able to doThat's a solid idea honestly, maybe I should consider this too.Planning my day is getting harder and harder.
>>40815684>Sounds like there's some work ahead, but I have faith that you can do itThank you, Anon :)>The travel visa is great news already! Yeah, next step is my plane ticket home.Currently working in getting a license here and still looking for work, not much luck In afraid though.I gotta get my life in order, I can't be doing whatever this is for another five years.>I'm looking forward to your replies, sorry about the threads being so short lived recently, it's like a weather conditionIt's all good, I understand.>I never asked before but are you comfy giving a vague idea which country it is Like, LatAm, eastern europe..It's a place in the southern areas of the African continent.The economic and overall quality of life there is pretty unstable, I'm afriad it's not looking up anytime soon either.One of the main reasons for my abroad situation, not that my current luck's been very inspiring.
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>>40824979p8 bwomple
updates tomorrow I think, rest day today.
>>40810935cranked up the oven and made a mess of salmon, roast potatoes and roast carrots for the first time in months. i really hope i keep it up because the fast food habit is just fucking egregious i can feel it slowly killing me>>40811667nice, im about to be on 3 weeks no smokes. every single day without em is a victory, you got this bud.
>>40827304All good, we'll tend to the flame here while we can.>>40827745>fast food habit is just fucking egregious i can feel it slowly killing meI know exactly what you mean, I feel super crummy right now.
