Are u cute

when they arrive pretend to be your girlfriend and make up some excuses for why he can't be there

>>40930135
Oh no how embarrassing! Anyway..

>>40930140
depends on the day, and i definitely wasn’t before transitioning. regardless they’d probably yelp upon seeing me.

>>40930154
actual suifuel though. i have recurring nightmares about this where im in my family home and dive behind the couch or throw a blank over my face so they can’t seek me.

seriously, do you have a career?
can you call them 2 hours before they arrive and tell them that there's an emergency at the firm and I've gotta get on a fight to vegas for a company conference in 30 minutes and if I don't go I'll lose my job and I don't know when I'll be back and I'm in the uber right now there's no time to discuss?
and then when your parents hurriedly arrive at your door the only person there is your girlfriend in a lot of makeup and a dress introducing herself?

Ffs is gonna be shocking op no matter what. Just tell them over the phone before they see you so they can adjust their expectations. Save urself having their initial expressions burned into ur retina

>>40930204
wow!
>>40930206
i mean i would probably do that if i planned on actually letting them see me at all but its too embarrassing desu. it’d be one thing if i were a twink or effeminate pretrans but i kinda wasn’t.

Tell them you were in a horrible accident and lost ur arm and when you went to the hospital they found aggressive cancer and had to start you on chemo immediately. When they see u you can just come clean. Itll seem less schoking compaatively

>>40930257
tell them that you had testicular cancer and if you didn't transition you would have died

>>40930257
not so bad idea

ghosting your parents that worry about you

>>40930284
my relationship with my parents is complicated. like they definitely care but they’ve kinda been mildly domineering and not super affectionate and regardless of how ungrateful it is being around them has always made me nervous.

>>40930135
>>40930206
I havent told my parents I'm getting FFS. my strategy is to change a lot of other things about my appearance, like getting new hair and wearing makeup so it's harder to notice specific features that have changed. if they say my face looks different I'm gonna say I just changed my skincare routine

>>40932077
i look totally different lol. i got a lot done. also i doubt that’ll work.

>>40930233
>>40932094
were you planning on having an estranged relationship forever? if so i guess it doesn't matter but i do think it would be best to just tell them. how do you expect they'll react? is it just that you're embarrassed or do you think they'll hate you or something?

>>40930135
just let them visit and don't tell them anything about it beforehand, it'll be sooo funny bro

>>40930135
so my parents did this to me too except they just showed up one day. it was right after i had srs and there was evidence everywhere..
they got really mad when they realized I don't have a penis anymore but eventually they gave up trying to get me to become a man again (so they had known I wanted to transition but they thought they had talked me out of it lol).

>>40932193
honestly at the time i wasn’t thinking about it. it was something i needed to do and i told myself id deal with everything else later.
id expect them to be really judgmental and weird about it. i could probably handle it emotionally if i had more confidence, but i have enough self hatred as is. i don’t want to have to justify myself to someone else and have their judgement on top of mine..

Who gives a fuck? What are you 12? Waaah my mom and dad might not approve! You have your own house ffs.

>>40930135
have sex with your parents

How old are you? When was the last time you saw them? Do they financially support you in any way? Do you have a stable career and living situation? Do you have a partner or any friends irl? What are their politics? Do you have siblings? Do you speak with anyone in your family?

>>40934979
i last saw them like a year ago, im 26 and things could be more secure but i support myself. they’re kinda conservative and not i'm not particularly close with anyone in my family. I kinda boymoded and waited until i didn’t depend on them anymore to get ffs.

>>40935180
Then just tell them. You have to do so eventually unless you want to nuke your family relationship, which doesn't like something worth doing.

>>40933231
Hot
>>40930135
I still live with my parents and got FFS without them knowing. I stayed at an airbnb for weeks and told them I only got a septoplasty and was going on a trip with friends. I was already feminine before and always tucked my hair into beanies at home, so now I just wear them over my eyebrows too. Also helps that I wore glasses before switched to contacts now. They just seem to accept I look better without glasses on. Their handsome boy

>>40933231
Wdym they gave up? Are they affirming now? Do you expect you to be with a man?

>>40936182
idk they just stopped pushing for me to detransition. i am with a man and they seemed to think that was good. idk what they'd have said if i was a lesbian.

>>40934405
i understand. i'm sorry it took me so long to get back to this i had to go out and run errands
anyhow it doesn't sound like there's much you can do about it anymore; their finding out is an inevitability, whether it happens now or some other time...you know best whether it would be better to tell them ahead of time or let them find out when they get there. but i vote for telling them ahead of time, just because they'll only be judgy on the phone and have time to process and deal with it long before they get to you...if they learn for the first time in person it might be a little more uncomfortable for everyone i think