>>40948267
just cumslutmax a little

>>40948267
I'm literally working on this as we speak.
Here's what's working.
>Talk therapy or journalling/video journalling until you have a fairly solid understanding of the narrative of your life
Self explanatory. Just try and get a deeper understanding of where all the pain comes from, try to be a reliable narrator of your own life as best you can (this can be difficult sometimes cause we always end up diminishing or inflating certain traumas or their impacts for various reasons throughout our lives)
>If there's trauma that feels genuinely too unsafe to approach after repeated attempts, then mark it down and pursue EMDR when you have one or a list of these
EMDR basically takes trauma stored in the lizard brain and moves it to the regular memory storage. This means you'll be able to access this trauma without as severe as a fight or flight reaponse and therefore work with it in further therapy
>DBT
Basically this is the key, you learn skills to recognise triggers, regulate your nervous system, communicate better. All sorts. This is the therapy recommended to treat people with CPTSD, BPD, NPD, all the personality disorders basically. You have to seriously commit to it. There's groups and 1 on 1s and self study. Depending on what your funds are, do it how you feel. The recommended practice is groups + 1 on 1s and self study all in combination.
>Adjusting core beliefs
Basically this is work that can be done alone or with a therapist but essentially you work out what your core beliefs are, where they came from, and you take on practices, that are tailored to your specific set of trauma, programming and coping strategies to alter these beliefs over time
>Practice
Basically you just have to work on this shit consistently for a long time once you've got it all in place. So much of trauma and the ways your mind responds to triggers is hardwired into your brain after years or decades of repetition. So you have to spend time rewiring it. Months to years of work.

>>40948735
Cont
But yeah good luck anon. Depending on where you are in the journey, what resources you have, how dedicated you are to addressing your issues. This is work that can take years.
But just know that even doing a little bit of it will help.
Once you get to the part where you're doing the body / nervous system works, things get a lot easier.
One tip, that I will leave you with that had helped me immensely, is to meet the feelings that you have with the care that you'd extend to a friend, a family member or a loved one in pain. Every time you tell yourself the feelings are stupid. That's like telling the wounded version of you in the past who needed someone to be there that your feelings don't matter. So check in, be gentle with yourself as if you were taking care of someone special, and if you do this practice, even on days you feel good. Then it will become habit. Its like a Chinese finger trap, the more you struggle and try and fight the pain, the more you're just tormenting that inner child who needed someone to be there. Over time you become the person who you needed, and also that makes all your relationships and friendships healthier too in turn so you can regulate interdependently (not codependently, two different things) aswell as by yourself.
I believe in you anon. I am doing well with this myself and I'm becoming someone I'm proud to be. I wish you the best.

idk

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couldn't leave if i tried

>>40948267
I know exactly how you feel honestly hard as shit
I don't know answer myself but I'm sure you're don't deserve to be abandoned
I know that doesn't help much but I just wanted to say it

>>40948267
The community is full of unfaithful mentally ill people.
It's not you it's them
You're judgment will save you later.

ghosting someone isnt inherently wrong move on

>>40952040
who said anything about ghosting

>>40948267
touch grass

>>40948267
It starts with you as generic as it sounds. any advice anyone gives is worthless when you think of anyone you meet as some asshat waiting to screw you over.