>>40956960
youre awful if you are genuinely going to dump him over this. talk through this with him and find the root of what youre actually unhappy about in your relationship with him. dont do some stupid shit and tell him “you aren’t malebrained enough!!!!” actually try

>>40956960
What does he do that you don't like?

>>40956992

Low libido, doesn't like manly things, stuff like that

>>40956960
Yep absolutely you should

>>40957011
Well yeah it sounds like you want to be in a relationship with a masculine man and he's not masculine enough for you. Don't listen to the retarded minors who recommend that you dump him without asking any questions though.
How long have you been together? Is he good to you? What are your favorite things about him?

>>40956960
Honestly yeah, coming from a pooner here just dump him. In the longrun, You'd be doing him a favor

>>40956960
Yes

>>40956960
Do you actually like him as a person?

>>40956960
when you dump him tell him why, he'll spiral and either go full effortmaxxing and get more fembrained or freak out and detransition and be a normal fembrained woman. win-win either way

>>40959039

Yes, very much

>>40958460

He is very good to me, we've been together for 5 months by now, and my favorite things about him are that he's curious, he's also forgiving with me, and yet very strict and autistic as shit on the question of authenticity ( We don't lie to eachother, we're truthful to eachother and i love it )

But i guess what i love the most about him, is that he loves me a lot and that's something i very much require from my partner

>>40959156
Then don't be a moron and ruin something genuinely good

>>40959170

Yeah but what if it's going to break years later because of this

I genuinely feel like it could be a problem, i don't want to push him into manly stuff and shit if he doesn't want to

But i don't wanna get into his woman shit either you know

>>40959223
You're allowed to have separate interests from your partner as long as you can also enjoy spending time together. Something that's gonna kill any relationship is comparing your partner to an ideal theoretical romantic option.

>>40959252

The whole reason i want a partner, and a male partner on top of it all, is so that i can share stuff like that with him

If i can't really share anything that will genuinely make him interested, how could i even love him ?

At this rate it's just an emotional support friend with benefits

>>40959273
Genuinely asking, do you have any friends?

>>40959284

A few, but not much

Why do you ask ?

>>40959304
Because the "whole reason" you want a partner is something one can easily do with friends. The point of having a romantic partner is generally the emotional support aspect, making a joint life together, and the sexual aspect of course. You should also be friends, but based on what you said earlier you like him as a person and enjoy being with him, so that seems covered. Plus, you seem like you've found someone you can genuinely trust, which is rare.

>>40959340

Emotional support -> You can easily do it with the right friends

Sex -> Same shit

Why would i want to make a joint life with someone that does not share anything with me ?

I mean, he's a good person, he's great, but i feel like i would need someone to share my autistic interests otherwise i'll just lose interest over time

I'm already disappointed on a daily basis each and everytime i try to talk him into something, only to feel him completely uninterested, it just crushes me

>>40959371
Okay, if you're sad and disappointed on a daily basis, then maybe it isn't right. If you do end up breaking it off, though, don't make it a gendered thing. You just don't share the same interests, which is something that's important to you in a relationship.

>>40959399

Well, it really is a gendered thing

If only nigga was pushed into this at an early age, he most definetely would have quite a few things we would both like together

Like, i know guys who aren't into my shit, but they'd at least have one thing in common with me, or at least care about my stuff you know, manly stuff

But what he's into is really like the most bland white women shit possible, i mean, it's up to a point where he doesn't even want to show me his favorite movies because i'd make comments on it

Deadass, i'd be very honest with you, it's hard to see him as a man when he :

- Doesn't like cars
- Doesn't like sports
- Doesn't like sex ( Low libido )
- Doesn't have any tools at home
- Can't even give a shit about computers and shit

Like, that's just a girl, like a girl that feels like a dude sure, but that's what 17 years being a female does to a mf, i'm sorry

>>40959477
You should definitely break up with him, actually. I think the level of contempt you have for him and his interests can't be recovered from.

>>40959507

Like i said, it's really hard to give a shit about the women stuff, and i don't want to break his heart alright

But i feel exactly the same when i realize he doesn't care about my manly stuff

The only difference is that he's able not to give a shit about it, personally, i can't, i need someone that roughly can share a few things with me, so i don't feel alone

I know i sound like an asshole and shit, but genuinely i don't know how ANYONE can feel good with a partner that " does his own thing on his side "

I just don't know how to break up with him, he's madly in love with me, and i suppose the " you deserve better " won't work well with him

>>40959546
Have you told him how you feel about you not sharing interests, and how important it is to you?

>>40959477
Man is when fast car and ball

>>40959552

Not really, because i'm afraid i'll slip and just break his heart

He's precious for me, and i don't want to see his watery eyes whenever he'll get to understand that there's a possibility i'm trying to break up with him

I can already see him searching excuses, trying to tell me he'll do better, that he wasn't aware and that's his fault and all

Really it's not as easy to bring up that kind of stuff, he's the sensitive kind, you know

But he knows that i'm not into his shit at all, for sure, and he knows that i want to push him into my stuff and that's somewhat important to me, i just think he doesn't understand that watching Fast and Furious half asleep with me isn't helping at all, it just does the exact opposite effect

>>40959565
That was my take too this guy is too stupid and sheltered to be anybody's boyfriend. The guy he's with was probably going to leave him eventually because his discontent is so obvious, but if he breaks it off sooner even better. There are so many homos in the world like his boyfriend the guy will move on to someone else

>>40959586
If you're considering breaking up with him anyways, you absolutely should have a real conversation about this first. Also, have you considered trying to cultivate a new interest together?

>>40959601

Honestly i'm not considering to break up with him, it's mostly bait for the thread

But i really do think it might be a problem on the future, i'm already typing this shit with a heavy chest right now

I just don't know how to talk to him about it, I definitely would need some help as the answers on this thread shows : Everyone thinks i'm an entitled sexist piece of shit and that I don't care about him

I'm bad with words anyway, I don't talk a lot about these kinds of issues because the very thought of seeing him sad or hurt just makes me want to puke

I did try to find out new shit we could discover together, but again, it's the whole fembrained shit again, I want to learn to code, to solder, to start a project car and all

He wants to fly to India, he wants to learn Spanish, he wants to learn how to draw

We're unable to really find something deep to sink our teeth in together, really, it's really 2 different worlds on that matter

>>40959649
You admitted you don't actually want to lose him you just made this thread hoping strangers would dogpile him and attack everything you hate about him for you so can have validation and catharsis. Part of you wants to punish him for liking different things. You don't think he's a real man, the relationship is already over. You're going to self sabotage or he's going to get tired of all this and it will end and he'll move onto someone he loves more and you'll just be a bad memory

For fucks sake you just said learning Spanish is fembrained it's obvious you're delusional levels of redpilled

>>40959712

No, I made the bait so the thread wouldn't get forgotten into oblivion, i never hoped strangers would shit on him

I don't want to punish him, I'm just looking for solutions

But yeah learning languages is kinda fembrained though

>>40959740
You are the one shitting on him

>>40959767

By saying he's not male enough ?

>>40959565
LMFAO, though as much as I agree with you the guy not being into neither cars/sports or computers is definitely something, like, the only cis males like that that I can think of are ultra flamme faggots, other than that men are either sportsy or nerds, with the occasional artist/performer
>>40956960 is he *really* into art? Like teather, music, cinema, paintings/sculptures or whatever? if not I feel bad for you lmao

>>40959781

Not really, just surface-level stuff, he has a Pinterest account and sens me boomeresque quotes from time to time, if that can give you an idea

Which was an entry point for me, i asked him if he was okay building a Tamiya with me, to which i told him we're go off tracks and customize it with out own design and paint, make something unique

He said okay, but other than day yeah je doesn't seem to care about it, he's probably doing it just for me, which is kind of a bummer

>>40956960
Yes.