I don't know how else to phrase this. Recently me and my girlfriend have been running into all kinds of relationship problems, some of which we're already working on and some of which have yet to get resolved. But the one I figured I'd bring up is the fact that I'm very sure that my GF is a closet lesbian. > Has virtually no interest in guys period and has stated it to my face > Has repeatedly discussed how certain (exclusively female) actors are extremely hot > Despite the fact that I do manual labor and have a fairly muscular build, I am almost never complemented on any of my masculine traits (I'm firmly in twunk territory) > Has gone out of her way to flirt with girls we both know IRL, including my best friends GF to the point of making her uncomfortable Despite this, she is adamant that she wants to stay in a relationship with me, a guy. Despite the fact that she constantly flirts with women, she has turned down every offer we have had to have a 3some or to add a 3rd semi-permanent individual to the relationship to ideally allow her to sexually interact with someone she's attracted to. Most of the time I feel like a robotic dildo, as sex is essentially nothing more than something we both do to get off and nothing more. There are other issues with our relationship of course but I already discussed that on the advice board.
I mean it's far more likely she's bisexual but whenever someone is in a relationship with someone and there's any hint of attraction to the other sex suddenly they're monosexual and in denial or something
>>40957689>Posting thumbnailsYou had one job.
>>40957689how would you feel if one day you woke up and all your muscles were gone and you had to ask for help lifting a milk carton? now imagine you were allowed to keep your muscles but you had to play nice and be in a pretend relationship with someone you didn't really like. and if they leave you lose it all again. in an abstract way that's how she's treating you as. just a convenient tool, she doesn't even like you even if she's trying her best to convince herself that she does.
>>40957724Why would she want to convince herself that she likes him? Why even bother dating a man in the first place?
>>40957710She is pan-sexual however she has never expressed any desire to engage in sexual activity with anyone besides women and myself. She wont date trans women because most of them do not have bottom surgery and wont date trans men because they're men. She has actively discussed her general distaste for PiV sex (despite the fact that we almost exclusively have PiV sex) and has stated that if we were to break up she would never date a man or someone who had a penis again. >>40957722I actually did have the full image but I accidentally put the thumbnail. My bad. >>40957724I am starting to come to this realization. Its very sad and I really do not know what to do, as I am pretty sure she wont admit it to herself.
>>40957776> and has stated that if we were to break up she would never date a man or someone who had a penis again. This is pretty much all you needed to say, the rest has plenty of more plausible explantions than lezzie
Drop her now, get sex elsewhere
>>40957776>I am starting to come to this realization. It’s very sad and I really do not know what to do, as I am pretty sure she wont admit it to herself.How do people even get sad? When someone displays inaffection to me I lose all affection to them immediately, it works the other way around too.
>>40957776>pansexualShe is meta attracted to you. She is a transbian.
>>40957807elaborate. >>40957825what? >>40957838Working on it. If this relationship cant get salvaged...
Always so sad to see a good man get played by a meta attracted AGP. I don’t get why girls like this waste everyone’s time trying to force themselves into relationships with men? Is it masochism?
>>40958036>>40958100She is a biological female with a vagina.
>>40957689>Aerith in the woman roleHow curious
>>40958195peak AGP tbhon
>>40957689I thought so too with my ex, but then like two years after breaking up she married a cis guy. In the end I think it's just hopeful thinking and projection, you long to be a lesbian, so you hope your girlfriend is a closeted lesbian who just hasn't figured it out yet. She isn’t, she chose you because you presented as a man, if she was looking for a woman at the time she wouldn't have chosen you, she wouldn't even have considered you, get a grip.
>>40959773>>40960381While I am bisexual I generally prefer women. I have no interest in transitioning and dont have AGP. I would honestly look far worse as a woman than as a guy desu. On top of the information I have already provided, she has almost exclusively dated women prior to dating me as well, as she has only had 1 male partner besides myself.
>>40960761Even then, what gives? Women tend to plan these things ahead of time, even if they claim to just "go with the flow". I doubt she was looking for a woman and you stumbled in her path and she thought "eh, good enough". Is it that you're afraid of her leaving you for a woman? Because it just seems to me like you're overthinking a good situation.
>>40960828>I doubt she was looking for a woman and you stumbled in her path and she thought "eh, good enough". Is it that you're afraid of her leaving you for a woman? Because it just seems to me like you're overthinking a good situation.Our relationship is miserable. I can barely stand to be around her and it feels like we're using each other for sex while not being physically interested in each other. Her personality has gotten noticeably worse since the start of our relationship although that may be for other reasons. Its clear by her behavior that some part of her does not want to be with me, however I am very sure that the only reason why she's still around is because of her chronic anxiety/fear of abandonment and her family pushing her to stay with me. Its not a good situation by a long shot. What makes it worse is that we're financially reliant on each other and have housemates, if we break up, we're all going to be homeless due to how insane rent prices are. I do not know what to do as I genuinely feel as if it would be healthier if we broke up, however there is no possible way for us to break up without significantly fucking over everyone involved. We would have to wait until the end of this lease, or ideally until we're all out of university. it took months of planning and hounding to get the deal we have.
>>40961075She isn’t using you just for sex then, in fact she might not even be using just you, I'd wrap it up if I were you if you don't already.
>>40961213I am forced by the nature of the situation to make it work. if anything we're mutually using each other for our individual (arguably collective among the friend group) gain. If it has to be like this though, I would at least like things to be better between us.
>>40958036>>40959773Hard agree, literal textbook example of agp.>>40958195Checks out, agps will stop at nothing to satisfy their fetish.
>>40961241If it's literally inescapable then why are you bitching to us? You can both be miserable pussies for the rest of your lives if you want, but don't come on here expecting us to say that you're brave and valid. Obviously you two should break up, even if just for a little bit, if the situation is choking you both out to the point of mutual resentment. Your job isn't to wipe her ass.
>>40957689if shes constantly being a cunt, fuck her.say goodbye bitch
>>40961322You're delusional, but I should have expected this from this board. There is no trans shit involved here. >>40961343I was asking for advice on how to handle the situation. I am not good at this shit and quite litterally stumbled into this relationship. >>40961362we shall see.
>>40961362>if shes constantly being a cunt, fuck herHe keeps doing that but it doesn't work, I think that’s his whole point
>>40961376You are legitimately retarded. Are you like 17?
>>40961404No, I am just extremely socially awkward despite being someone who arguably should not be. I also have no clue what exactly you're referencing.
>>40957776>She wont date trans women because most of them do not have bottom surgeryI think you and her misunderstand just how backwards that is, and how fucked up bottom surgery is.
>>40961436>just how backwards that is, and how fucked up bottom surgery is.She likes women and vaginas, I dont know what else to say. While she is a trans ally, she does not find non-op trans women attractive at all, even if they otherwise pass.
>>40961393*stares motherfuckerly*
Break up with her. You will get over it, she will get over it, and you will both be glad it ended. Stay in touch, maybe you can stay friends if you both start being honest.
>>40961455>While she is a trans ally, she does not find non-op trans women attractive at all, even if they otherwise pass.that is complete bullshit.either made up by you or her
>>40961466let me repeat this again. shedoesnotlikedickwe have sex for reasons that I cannot explain, I dont even know why she bothers to stay with me. she has a kink specifically for eating out vaginas. you cannot eat out a vagina when there is a dick where the vagina should be.
>>40957689i've been chilling with a girl i think is a lesbian also or is done with guys. but she comes out every night now and stays with me on the streets and she mentioned tonight she wants to take me to a festival, just me and her. so i think i miiiiight have a future girlfriend.she's really nice too and chill. she crochet's alot and bakes food and brings me food every night. she's 4 years younger than me and pretty hot.and yeah she chills with me now.but its still early. so idk yet.tonight was pretty chill, nothing bad happened and i only hung out with a handful of people tonight. i thought tonight would be wild cause saturday..but it was the quietest night of the week far.
>>40961465this is what I plan on doing unless things do a 180 real fucking quickly. My friend has asked me however to make sure that before I do anything we can get our finances in order to ensure that we dont end up homeless first.
>>40961411I think you're a bit slow, inexperieced, and have some puer aeternus and autistic traits. Probably young enough that it doesn't really matter anyway, just try to jump ship on this girl first chance you get, cut her off, and work on yourself.
>>40961510>let me repeat this again.I think you and her misunderstand just how backwards that is, and how fucked up bottom surgery is.alsothat is complete bullshit.either made up by you or her
>>40961597I really dont care. its a completely legitimate grievance. She is more likely to date a trans man than a non-op trans women, and again, she has stated that she's generally not attracted to men or dicks. Its not made up by either of us, its her stated preference. She has a kink for giving head to people with vaginas, so her partner has to have a vagina for her to fulfill that kink.
>>40961613and mtf post op-tranny's don't have a vagina.get it now?
>>40961573>I think you're a bit slow, inexperieced, and have some puer aeternus and autistic traits.Despite identifying as bi since I was 16 I grew up in a very very religious environment where even having an interest in the opposite sex (let alone the same sex) was enough for parents and individuals in the community to be concerned. For reference I am in my early 20s and I was not even able to start thinking about properly dating until I was 20. I have virtually no experience with sex or relationships, not because I didnt have people interested in me but because if I tried to actually have a relationship my parents would prevent me from ever seeing or talking to that individual again. This was also considered normal in the community I grew up in. The soonest I can break up with her is when we renew our lease, which will be the greater part of a year away. Ironically she is the only one of the people I am rooming with who had a normal childhood with sane parents, my other room mates and myself essentially had to do what needed to be done to get away from our parents. >>40961635I get you, and I dont care. I have understood you the entire time. again, i dont care, and neither does she.
>>40961666Well you got your experience now, make better choices next time. Because to be honest to go from virgin to commiting to a lease with the first girl that gives you attention is retarded, to wrap up other people in that mess too, but they had their share of the responsability as well I guess.
