where and how did y'all meet your partners? any advice for others, especially when dating online?
>>40977659There isn't a lot of variety to online spaces anymore. It's going to be Twitter, Tiktok, or Steam/XBL/PSN.
>>40977705no trannies are on xbox live
>>40977705i've actually not considered steam. how do you go about even making actual friends there??? i have no idea where to start
>>40977659> spend five years curating a group of friends irl by dragging myself alone to weekly music meetups, practicing instruments, being outgoing.> have large friend group now> every time I get invited by them there are new ppl I don't know yet but we have loads of friends in common> be more extroverted, talk to all of them for hours on end, getting to know them in a casual setting> he was just one of these ppl one dayswallow the irl pill.
>>40977659that pokemon. literally me.
>>40977705> Twitter, Tiktok, or Steam/XBL/PSNholy fuck these are the worst places in the world to meet a potential partner. next thing you're gonna suggest chasergen I suppose
No one mentions discord? Discord and VRChat and you will be drowning in puppy girls lol
>>40978211good idea, it's just that i have the kind of autism that makes people unable to see me as human, instead viewing me as some kind of circus attraction or alien parasite. plus i do awful in large groups, and plan on moving far away from here anyway. would be a good idea for someone who werent me.
>>40978463Ahh you are looking for t4t partners not non-ldr 25+ bfs. Makes sense then yeah just stay on the Internet and play video games or watch anime I guess.
>>40978427true, i was absolutely drowning in puppygirls when i played vr chat. the only issue is that it's vr chat, and the culture there is so ungodly rancid.
>>40978482formally diagnosed?
>>40978498you were starting into tiny screens behind optical lenses mounted about an inch from each of your eyes on a strap going around your head. The only thing you were drowning in is tech conglomerate approved apathy and escapism from the real world.
>>40978505no, but people still treat me like an alien, i don't understand how other people feel unless i literally make a conspiracy board and take written notes, and i'm a very fast learner as long as it doesn't involve direct social interaction. and im also a trans woman so. if im not autistic then god has a fucking sense of humor i guess.
>>40978544i agree. i also had quite a few puppygirl friends i hung out with.
>>40978555then go make fucking notes who TF cares? just interact with ppl irl. Social stuff can be learned, practiced and improved. Real life connection is so important and will contribute majorly to you improving your self-worth issues (which you should definitely do as soon as possible).
>>40978610bro what do you think ive been doing for the last several fucking years lmao. im literally in college i just want to find people i actually relate to to hang out with
>>40978630If you actually tried you would find that you can basically relate to anyone you meet on a majority of subjects. Life sucks for everyone so find out what sucks in other ppls lives. Be curious, ask more questions and listen more than you talk.Also go to a queer bar if u wanna talk about gender or sexuality related life struggles.
>>40978729see, the fucked up thing is i DO!!! like, i'm not a bad conversationalist and am generally likeable to most people i meet. people just get the uncanney valley effect with me and i have genuinely no clue why except that i dont have the "spark" of whatever makes them normal. i mean after a certain point i have to accept that there are people who will understand me and not get like that, they're just not usually near me because theres less of us in public.
>>40978886why do you say alien and uncanny valley effect stuff? u seem pretty normal to me
>>40978936i know!!! i literally know how to be so fucking normal i literally know everything about being normal and people still fucking treat me like a different species or a fucking zoo animal!!! i dont know why?? im not ugly even! its probably just because im quiet??? i guess???? i dont know why and im sick of figuring out their fucking rules. hence looking for online friends.
>>40978729Hahahahahahahaha How The Fuck Is Being Lonely Real Hahahaha Nigga Just Go Outside Like Nigga Talk To People Haha
>>40978936are autistic? theres aspect to people that dont come across in text
I'm gonna have to go to bed now so this thread will be dead by the time I wake up, but seriously: Please consider that you may be more normal than you think you are. Ppl don't hear your thoughts or what goes on in your head and if you're good at conversations, make something of that skill. It's valuable, more valuable than being good at numbers stuff.Irl stuff means so much more than Internet stuff.
>>40978971I would like a description of those aspects because I cannot spot them from writing so that I may offer better advice to OP troggy>>40978956No stay inside, play team fortress 2, stay lonely and never interact with society again. You are so special and valid my little snowflake yes really blablabla>>40978955Keep trying, sounds like you're almost there.
>>40979018okay NTA but the aspects can include stilted speech, poor eye contact, or odd facial expressions. all of which im PRETTY SURE im not perfect at, especially with some of the neurological issues i got, but like i try as hard as i can.> keep tryingive been "almost there" for like. my whole life. and it has never gotten any more bearable the way i am seen. i stg i get fucking species dysphoria the way the general public treats me like an animal. I literally cannot improve anymore while also actually listening to people talk or focusing at all on the outside world besides "acting normal," which is exactly how you end up acting even weirder.
