I've started seeing a really interesting man recently and I can tell it's going to get serious, this is my pros and cons list. Is he going to be terrible for me? I like him but I'm beginning to suspect this will end up with me getting hurt emotionallyPROS:>Straight as an arrow, he's tried to hook up with one trans girl before but she was pre-op and it disgusted him>Very very handsome, everyone i've shown him too has been stunned>Behaviorally mirrors my father>Taller than me>Great kisser, extremely experienced in bed>Incredibly intellectual, is always telling me about writers and philosophers; has thousands of filled pages of journalsCONS:>Borderline psychotic, have a growing suspicion he's a flat earther>Former chud, kind of racist, thinks HIV came about because gays have too much anal sex; self-described Fascist but I think in the Nietzschean sense(?) >Constantly doing the guy thing where he tries to mansplain to me what my own thoughts should be; honestly just mansplains in general>Arrogant, kind of narcissistic, machiavellian tendency to innately consider how he can manipulate the people around him and their perception of him>Misogynistic, makes sexist comments and assumes he knows more than me about the subject in which i have my Bachelors>Will not actually have sex with me, says it's a moral thing, but I have a sneaking suspicion it's because he needs to overcome the fact that I'm trans; buried his head in his hands and called himself a faggot the first time he kissed me.
>>41030257>Straight as an arrow, he's tried to hook up with one trans girl before but she was pre-op and it disgusted himAnswered your own question. Once hes had his proper trans experience he’ll most likely trade you out for a breeder for kids.
>>41030257You can fix him nona
If he doesn't dump you, he's going to kill you out of gay panic
>>41030288i know this, but is it still worth it?>>41030294this is fake, nobody can "fix" anybody i think>>41030300I've considered this, but I don't have a dick. He said that he's like done kinda violent stuff in the past but he's usually quite gentle with me. i DEFINITELY do not think he's going to dump me, seems quite obsessed. mostly my concern lies in being some kind of 500 days of summer love interest character in his head. he seems to view relationships in a very narrative driven way which makes me slightly uncomfortableIt feels like he's always trying to convince me that I believe various things about the situation we're in, or that it's very significant to me in some way. he has a mentally constructed view of me as virginal and naive, when really he's like my 15th boyfriend. I've been doing this since i was 11, none of it is new to me. But he wants this to be like scary and tender and new for me
>>41030390Bruh he's clearly fucking maladjusted, if you want to keep fucking him cause he's hot do so but your schizo posting only makes sense to yourself
>>41030390Idk what you're looking for really but there is no chance this ends well
>>41030505.. did you even read the post? we have not had sex. i'm just writing in my diary man nobody is making you read it.>>41030519>idk what you're looking for reallyi guess just confirmation that i'm making the right choice by not pursuing it. idk i felt crazy, my cisfoid friends seem to think he's wonderful
>>41030257this simply can’t end well. it should be a confidence boost that you even got this far with him but don’t push your luck
>>41030538 Cis women love narcissist they can relate too. I wouldn't at this point there are too many red flags and you have far more to lose
>>41030390It depends?If you’re cool with it being a fling then more power to you. But if you’re imagining a full life with this dude Id probably advise against. Just keep yourself safe, as other nonas have said. He’s probably liable to have some sort of violent reaction towards being intimate with you when you do sleep together.
>>41030562>>41030582thanks>>41030587i'm cool with it being a fling but i think he's invested. Honestly a little worried he'll just say "no" if i try to break up with him
>>41030609Can’t say for certain because I don’t know him, but if he is as maladjusted as you say. There’s a chance possessiveness and obsession may occur and you’d physically be trapped. Worse case, you break up with him and he lashes out violently because “I can’t let this trans person tell anyone else I’ve been with them”Too many variables to say for certain but I think this is a situation you need to stop and really think through.
>>41030650yeah you're 100% right i think. he's talked about having anger related to rejection. should i like do it over the phone? Thank you so much this is like waking me up, he literally told me he borderline SA'd some girl
>>41030670Over the phone would most likely be safer. It’s better to have the distance instead of being isolated with them. Also having the support of friends/family(if you do) around you in case there is any wayward appearances post.And yeah. Yikes. I had an ex go to a rave without me only to be told she “accidentally” sa’d another girl. I’d never felt more disappointed. Tbh I wouldn’t have been gutted at the comment they made after the first kiss. You deserve so much better and I promise you there’s someone out there that’ll be worth your time and effort.
>>41030731I would’ve been gutted***
>>41030731This is a good idea. god i hate living like this. would shoot 15 year old me in the back of the head if i could time travel
>Pros>he's hot and he's my type and we have some chemistry>Cons>more red flags than the entire USSRGirl, what the fuck are you doing with your life?
>>41030934honestly no idea. i'm 22
>>41030257>guys should i date the type of man who strangles hookers?yeah you should
>>41031175yeah yeah, i'm gonna dump him
>>41030257the guy you're describing sounds like someone with a high probability of having untreated schizophrenia or bipolar desu. lots of those go chud because the black and white thinking associated with it feels appealing and calming to them and can be used to reaffirm whatever fears or distorted views they may have. that element of being able to say "I'm not paranoid/manic, everyone else is uninformed and I just know better" can be like pure crack cocaine for someone who is stressed out of their mind, afraid of being defective, and feels alone in feeling and believing what they do.>t. person who have been close to people like this
Sent the text. Interestingly exhilarating, never really felt like this.
>>41030257just be alone forever
FREEEEEDOM
>>41032044You’ll be okay, that’s just nerves. Don’t focus on a reply, make yourself comfortable and focus on something else for a while You’ll be okay nona
>>41032117he already got back, honestly took it well. i framed it like our political views were just not compatible so it didn't feel like a personal attack. now it's introspection time.
>>41030257>"buried his head in his hands and called himself a faggot the first time he kissed me."The answer seems obvious based on this alone
>>41032258i know, i dont know. i'm stupid when it comes to men, if they're handsome and nice i become very blind. it's a flaw.
>>41030257just quit while you're ahead
>>41032276this is why we have a stereotype for ghosting by the way
>>41032273>"i'm stupid when it comes to men, if they're... nice i become very blind"Seems like hes thinking the same thing about youAlso ">Incredibly intellectual, is always telling me about writers and philosophers; has thousands of filled pages of journals" sounds nise in theory ,but it really depends on whats in there
>>41030257Sounds like you already know what you need to do. Get the fuck out of there Nona. Those cons overpower those pros any day of the week. You might wanna let your female friends know about his problems so they stay away too. And if they don't stay away then whatever happens is out of your control and is not your fault.
>>41032289>Seems like hes thinking the same thing about youmaybe, although really my problem was that it seems like he isn't. felt like i was on a pedestal>sounds nise in theory ,but it really depends on whats in thereexxxxactly, tales of exes, cryptofascist esoterica. no thank you.
