advice plox my trans gf got arrested because of our fight after breaking up today. >hopelessly in love with her through bpd issues >im avoidant shes anxious we struggle but are generally v happy >end up having small problems ab lying/hiding shit, do some spite back n forth >boils forever she says she stopped so I stop>find out she didnt stop>go microcheat for microcheat with her just discord chats idk how far hers went probably worse >the discord convo where a girl sent me a nude video gets found >breaks up with me>take accountability, apologize for any hurt, try to talk through it. >cpl hrs later I bring up all the things she didnt think I knew, >"if we just dropped the spite lying back and forths we'd be so happy">refuses to acknowledge any of it, calls my mom at 2 am to ask for help and my mom says no>triggers tf out of her now full blown bpd nightmare >creates a fake narrative that im fucking my own mom lmao >breaks into my moms place at 6 am cus she knows im asleep in guest bedroom >wakes me up crying, slaps my cock cus I had morning wood>threatens my mom calls her a whore, full bpd episode>obviously never fucked my own mom>get her outside she stays for a cpl hours taunting us >try to get her to leave, says she will call cops in 20 minutes if i dont talk to her >say ur fucking melting down leave we can talk on the phone > 20 mins pass she calls cops >they show up, she tries to convince them im guilty of incest >I show the cops one video of the last meltdown and they go "possible 33" >my gf gets arrested for burglary and domestic batteryI wanna drop the charges. I want my gf to not be consumed by bpd anxiety meltdowns. were so happy when it wasn't consuming the whole relationship, its so controlling and exhausting. but I understand and ive also fueled it in a few ways. (she has done alot too im over it, just want mutual transparency now and crash out when she doesnt give it) what do i dooo i was just a horny chaser who fell in love
don't be a cheating whore?
>>41045912ur insane nigga dont u enjoy the silence tf man get away from that bitch its out if your hands
>>41045920fuck off when she did it I dropped it and moved on so perfectly then found out she was still hiding shit so I said ME TOO HOE and got my lick back. was purely to signal she cant be the only one who does this shit. i want neither one of us to hide anything but she keeps doing shit then catches a fucking felony when I do it back tf??>>41045971damn u right she crazy i love that bitch tho. i gotta stay away i guess, pretty sure when she gets out she gon try to ruin my life anyways so i gotta stay no contact.
>>41046041>fuck off when she did it I dropped it and moved on so perfectly then found out she was still hiding shit so I said ME TOO HOE and got my lick back. was purely to signal she cant be the only one who does this shit. i want neither one of us to hide anything but she keeps doing shit then catches a fucking felony when I do it back tf??i think i know why you attract insane women now
>>41046054lmao why? what else do i do when being a healthy partner in response to hiding weird shit doesnt work. I mean leave yea but I didnt wanna just break up.. i should def drop the charges right? she threatened to kill herself before so im worried, bitch tried to jump out of a moving car on the hwy had to hold her in while driving i dont wanna make her life harder she a good person just struggles thinking ab sending her a band when she gets out too cus she got fired i think
>>41046041>>41046141well I guess it's another day to be thankful I'm not a transbian. you bitches are both fucking insane and evil so congratulations on your successful transition
>>41046156ion even know what transbian is bro im just a bi guy who loves fems.You're right though we're both fucked up so its prolly best to leave each other alone an work on ourselves. cus we nuked something beautiful through her manipulating and me crashing out back :/
>>41046169you type like a foid and your shit's all retarded
>>41046141yes drop the charges
>>41046182damn fuck you too >>41046184It was an actually insane reaction to the same thing she did to me but yeah I kinda have to drop them I feel horrible tried to bail her out but its no bond.
>>41046201I agree you have to drop them trans and gay people should not be in jail bro. she needs mental help not jail. you too I guess
>>41045912KEEEEKMore threads like these please, less diaper threads
>>41046201She'll never learn if you drop the charges. She'll fuck another guys life up. Imagine in her position she gets bailed out and yet you no comtact her. She'd go insane. The justice system has ways to mentally treat her in ways that no guy can.
>>41045912>calls my mom at 2 am to ask for help and my mom says no
>>41046239my batshit life is your oc one time I broke up with her for manipulating an entire arc of hiding a secret twitter (found out it was just to jerk off cus i pulled the metadata, insane thing to lie ab) and this bitch found where i was walked up punched my window and when i drove off bro.. she ran across 4 lanes of traffic runs in front of my car an I had to swerve to not hit her. then she usain bolt sprints back to my shit and throws herself into the side of my door still got the dent god damn i love that bitch
>>41046253dude i guess, i feel this way too thats why i pressed charges she was so unhinged. fuck idk why we can't grow and change together through less INSANE ways but I did crazy shit too. i usually dont even gaf about regular crazy shit I grabbed her wheel one time and swerved into an embankment cus she was tryna speed up and trap me in her car while i was tryna leave then she jumped on top of me and bit my hand so we went back to her house and had sex how can I give this up
god i need a bitch like this...
holy shit op you two are made for each other i dont think you two will ever escape each other no matter how much you try>>41046291>>41046335also NEED
>>41045912>slaps my cock cus I had morning woodkek
>>41046335>I grabbed her wheel one time and swerved into an embankment cus she was tryna speed up and trap me in her car while i was tryna leaveDude im telling you, you need to keep those charges pressed so she learns and changes her life for the good. I work in correction facilities in a red state, which is bad, but even then we have more resources and dedication to change people's lives for the good. She'll come out a Trad waifu. If your in a blue state you'll have even more resources for her in corrections. That being said you also need help. Im guessing you are underage by how you type. Please start reading books to be more mindful.
>>41045971>>41045912Op ur Da Problem . . .
>>41048285don't listen to this v-coding freak OP. but it's her own fault for calling the cops in the first place. what a fucking dumbass
>>41049657truee you fucking idiot i should just let her break into a home, threaten to beat my elderly mother, refuse to leave and make demands under threats of violence property destruction because she's trans lol shut the fuck up ill post the texts dude stop acting like im v-coding a bitch for her own actions and HER calling the cops....
>>41049611yikes maybe I am dude I was trying to de-escalate the entire time not one word of spite to fuel her?? when she broke up with me I very amicably parted ways didnt raise a voice or argue.. I told her id always be there if she needed anything which is why after my mom refused to help her I literally still ended up getting out of bed at 2 am paid for and brought her a tank of gas and she still ended up doing everything after I helped her :/
>>41051171oh jesus, here's the common core read"comp". i was agreeing with your OP, that you should drop the charges, and saying you shouldn't listen to that lecherous fuck who probably isn't even a CO. yeah, obviously she was a fucking dumbass to call the cops in the first place (classic abusive bpd foid behavior). i mean, if charges are the only thing that will stop her from acting like this, i think you should pursue charges. but if there's any other way to resolve this, try that first, if you love her. regardless of where you live, they might throw her in a men's jail/prison
>>41045920You do not own your partner, getting violent with them because they flirted or slept with someone else is never acceptable. It will only lead to misery, alienation and, as in OP's partner's case, arrest
>>41051445oh god im genuinely sorry I'm the fucking idiot not you kek. im leaving in 30 minutes to finalize dropping charges, been to so many courts and police places today. convinced my boomer mom to drop hers too which was so hard. I really love this girl. Even if we never speak again I dont want to make her life harder. stayed up so late. cried worrying about her being in a mens jail. im actually a wreck from this so she must be so much more hurt. i cant even think of her experiencing transphobia in there from this. much less prison if convicted. fuck i cant even think about this anymore.
>>41051608it sounds like you are genuinely acting out of empathy. it's admirable, most people would just say "fuck that bitch." just, don't put yourself or your mom in danger, either. incarceration is a last resort for anyone but some people just seem dead set on that outcome. if she keeps doing shit like this and calling the cops on herself you might just have to let the consequences play out. don't sacrifice yourself for her in trying to help her. she sounds like the kind of person who thrives on the good intentions of the self-sacrificing
>>41051547dude i found out afterwards she was signed into every account i own and been cyberstalking me for months. waits till im asleep to go thru my phone regularly then signs into all my accounts 2-5 times a week on her chromebook at work (that she said she hasnt used in a year.) she kept tabs on me constantly. if i even noticed another woman in public non sexually she'd get upset and like disconnect for the whole date. i was willing to work through and accept so much for love :/
need a boy to ruin like this
>>41051668i mean thank you dude but i know im fucked up too. trying to make as much right as I can as a final thank you for the time we spent together. I appreciate you though anon honestly
>>41051763ay bitch the second i sniffed out this kinda intention i'd give it a healthy shot then made sure to handle it with the same energy.. it just burned bridges an declined our mental/physical health for a year and 3 months. but pop off fr it was honestly one of the most fun arcs of my life lmao would do it again
>>41051689That's fucking brutal man, I'm so sorry. I've dated my share of shitbags, and it's taken me a long time to learn that love that doesn't make you happy isn't worthwhile. People who are willing to do things like this to a partner need to do a lot of healing before they'll be capable of love in any real sense. Love requires trust if it's going to work.
>>41051877eek i know thanks for saying that. at some point i realized it but couldn't give up i wanted it to work. we compromised for each other and that inspired me. she was also noble & empathetic to my trauma and issues. but yes, we were too much for each other:(
>>41051780lol i'm a tranny myself but i've wasted enough time watching police body cams to know there's a certain kind of woman who will record herself breaking her boyfriend's nose unprovoked, call the cops, then show them that video as evidence of his abuse toward her. she sounds like one of these. a deranged lack of self-awareness for a trans woman. i don't commit crimes ever. i don't even torrent anymore
>>41052023>i don't commit crimes ever. i don't even torrent anymoreIf they made taking estrogen a crime would you stop taking it?
>>41052013It takes a lot of willpower to pull yourself away from someone you love who's hurting you, even more so if you're afraid of what they'll do when you try. It's a good thing you've managed to get out, but it sucks that it had to happen like this.
>>41052342ahhhhhh yeah, I know that you're right thank you. fuck im big sad bros she got out and blocked me on our music tiktoks and snap so looks like she's impacted by this enough to respect the no contact order. rip
>>41052023i mean she got it in her a lil, rarely breakdowns like this tbf but there was a moment like last month where she is MELTING DOWN says im gonna kill myself, goes to the kitchen i hear the knife drawer open I start recording and she barely stops to compose herself. thats the video i showed the cops to prove her state of mind and that the things she was telling them were fake. this same meltdown she was like>come at me i know you wanna fight me i was just like confused and said>uhhhh no thank you bae fr THIS BITCH GOES >i can hurt you to make you hurt me and i was just thinking whoa hot but calm down hoe
