im 18 almost 19 i came out to my mom shes supportive but she wants me to wait until im out of collegewhat difference will it actually make?
hello anyone pls
>>41186692> What difference would 4 years makeGr8 b8 m8Opengate.Assuming you're MtF trans.If you're cisles, then tell her that college is the place for "experimentation" if that's calming to her.Men doesn't really write like that
college is stressful and isolating. depending on where you go you will find other people who will make it less bad. you will probably end up transitioning in college. find the other trans people there, no matter how cringe they are. its like a much easier chance to find anyone else than after you graduate
>>41186845im mtf
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>>41186692>what difference will it actually make?She thinks you'll change your mind.>supportive"Whatever you say sweetie :-)" isn't support.
>>41186692Start now, even if it's without telling her. Because a) the period of 18-22 has some of the worst end of male puberty masculinization (i had no facial hair at 18, neckbeard when i started at 22). And b) there is a chance she shifts the goalpost. Right now it's until your out of college, but then it'll be something else, or she just straight up changes her mind and says noTime waits for nobody. You are where I was 5 years ago. From one human being to another, do not make the mistakes I did and live with every single day. Please. Hoping the best for you <3
>>41187330^ThisAnd...>>41187411^ this.Got exactly the same treatment back in college. Just wait until...You know when you can't wait anymore.Started at 22. One of the last to be ever granted LGR in my country. College by day, work by night. Chosing between food, coffee and HRT.Not an easy life.Not a choice either.If you're in the states, Opengate. If not Voix Celeste.Hit up Estrannaise.Research those three words, they are sites.Good luck, sister, you'll need it.
>>41186692My parents did this who song and dance too. I went on HRT and they threw me out for being a tranny within a year.Its just them trying to eek out a little bit more time to keep their own world safe. Its denial.
>>41187411ok how can i start to try to convince her
>>41187330>>41187411>>41187485Welcome to the ride, sis.>>41187562You don't.Mine was convinced when I had my LGR papers.So prepare a plan to survive being disowned:- Work (independent finances)- Housing- HRT continuity (Opengate + Otokokono)College is secondary, look at the military for an emergency-break-glass measure when they reinstate military service for trans personnel.Do a degree to ascertain emloyability. This means STEM.Doing a trade in stead of a degree will get you a lower wage but a steadier employability. Doing knowledge work needs a harder stress tolerance (which will be strained due to being trans and conditional love from your parents), and continous improvement (learning new stuff and doing certs).If you have that (Independent finances, independent housing, HRT continuity) then you can try to convince her, use your feminine graces. When your parents disown you, you have already prepared. Since you're past 18, you're safe from troubled teen. If you're underage b&, you start operating clandestinely, since troubled teen is the worst thing that could happen to you. Seen a gitmo video? That gives you a rough idea.After your initial disownment if you want to reconcile, what your parents look for is the hallmarks of an independent life: stable employment and relationship history. If you can show that, you can reconcile.Find a therapist. ChatGPT is a good stopgap until you find a good human shrink, and ChatGPT can work together with your human shrink.- t. ransitioned in 2014.
>>41187686thanks
>>41186692"Wait until after college" = "i think you're gonna get over it, please don't do anything about the way you feel and instead keep stuffing it down. I really don't want to deal with having a tranny kid"It's all manipulation, my parents literally admitted to me that's why they kept moving the goalpost through my childhood, teen years, and even through my 20s. We had "talks" any time I brought it up and my stupid ass kept believing that they had my best interest in mind, until I finally realized they were just trying to keep me from fucking up their reality, because they thought me transitioning was going to make them lose me. I had no economic opportunity and couldn't get out of living with them for so long, until I hit 28 and FINALLY moved out. I'm 30 now, at the very start of my transition, and while thankfully I'm blessed with androgynous features, I wish I hadn't spent so long letting myself be miserable living as a man because I was being manipulated by my parents. I trusted them and they turned their backs on me when I was the most vulnerable and needed them most Don't let this happen to you Anon. Just do the shit you need to do.
>>41188376okok i get it
>>41188435good luck sis
>>41186692>shes supportive but she wants me to waitthese statements are incompatible
>>41189104are theyyy
>>41186692just start e worry about other stuff later a lot of masculinization can happen between 18 and 22
>>41189590of course. a supportive parent would encourage their kid to get a dysphoria diagnosis and start hrt. they only tell you to wait if they're hoping you'll change your mind.
>>41189606ok i will
>>41186692start hrt asap
>>41186692All the difference in the world. Compare high school grads to college grads. A very noticeable amount of masculinization takes place over those few years. Your mom is basically hoping you’ll wait till it’s too late then not go through with it.
