I am fully aware that autism fucks with your ability to process social cues and flow through interactions smoothly, and perhaps I am just being an asshole, but you would think after constant fucking negative reinforcement they would LEARN that something they are doing is wrong, messes with the flow of the conversation, or is just generally offputting to the people around them. The fact that the same issues appear in many if not most of the ones I have interacted with like makes it obvious it isnt their fault and its the condition but just fuck once you get used to it the novelty of "awww they are so happy" wears off and it becomes "oh this person is gonna start doing this shit arent they."I hate when something is briefly mentioned about their hyperfixation and they are overtaken by the urge to just ceaselessly talk about it. Not only do I and everyone else not give a shit and are doing everything we can to let them know that without being rude, they then get sad when they are shut down, so you just have to patiently wait there for them to be quiet. I hate that they feel the need to constantly reference it and shove it into everything, and I hate that if you show any mild interest in it they will take that as a sign that they can now dissect it in a way that is simultaneously unending and thorough and explains fucking nothing except some details they like. Please for the love of god get a creative outlet and write about it or something, fuck. The worst part is if you tell them not to do that they will freak out and take it like some personal attack, so you have to be subtle about that, but they are unable to pick up on that subtlety. I feel like such a douchebag because they arent intentionally being dense, they are just clueless, but it wears my patience thin.
>>41245844News flash, you didn't *learn* it either.>you would think after constant fucking negative reinforcement they would LEARN that something they are doing is wrong, messes with the flow of the conversation, or is just generally offputting to the people around them.These people exist, it's called masking and you probably didn't even clock them as autistic unless they told you.You can't fathom how difficult it is to keep mental tabs on all the various social cues, expressions, and mannerisms that neurotypicals interpret easily. It leads to a constant strain of energy and emotional and mental fatigue.>The worst part is if you tell them not to do that they will freak out and take it like some personal attack, so you have to be subtle about that, but they are unable to pick up on that subtlety. I feel like such a douchebag because they arent intentionally being dense, they are just clueless, but it wears my patience thin.You feel like a douchebag because you are being one. This entire anti-autistic screed literally just boils down to you hating people with a visible disability.
>>41245881holy TRVKE
>>41245844i'm autistic, and i'm not reading all of that. also, fuck you.
To not leave my final comment on a negative note, it's human to feel frustrated when being confronted with barriers to communication with other people. Autistic people are fundamentally wired in a way that is a permanent impediment to their ability to consistently conduct themselves in a way that is satisfactory to the expectations of a neurotypical world.I can assure you though that a lot of autistic people are just as frustrated with their struggle to navigate the social world. Since I was a child I have always known I lacked something fundamental to human communication, and I have shed countless tears asking why I have to live unable to read people consistently, or handle large social gatherings. The best thing you can do is to work to expand your own capacity for patience and grace in the face of annoyance. Perhaps they'll never meet your social expectations, but you can work on your ability to handle the irritation that comes with it.
>>41245881>>41245953this just boils down to >i don't need to change myself, you have to accomodate me or you're an assholewhich is an asshole mindset. you don't have a "visible disability", you're just a bit of a retard. it's not anyone's moral obligation to enjoy speaking with retards. if someone with no legs (an actual disability) were to ask me to help them out because there was a task that they needed to accomplish but they had difficulty doing so because they have no legs, i would definitely be an asshole if i told them "no" (and i wouldn't). but you're basically asking people to just put up with you being a sperg at them. they have no obligation to like you
>>41245974/ThreadThe overwhelming relief I feel knowing that I was never going to convince someone with this mindset in the first place.Thank you for just coming out and admitting to your bigotry.
>>41245983i mean this completely genuinely: return to reddit. this place is not made for people like you. go back to your funny cat videos and that one picture of sayori from ddlc wearing sunglasses and doing fingerguns. forget this website exists
>>41245844I could understand your point if this were about genuinely inappropriate behaviors that some neurodivergent people might show in certain situations — like making off-color jokes at the wrong time, or struggling to “read the room.” But targeting them for something as harmless as infodumping about their special interests (something so innocent) is just cruel. It honestly makes me wonder what kind of person you have to be to take issue with that.
>>41245974>you have to accommodate me or you’re an assholeNo one is saying this. Autistic people sometimes just want to talk about their special interests. Usually, they do that with people they trust or people they want to be friends with. If it’s annoying, just tell them. They're most likely already aware of the fact that theyre “retarded” anyways and they hate themselves for it. Mainly because of people like you who have to take a problem with everything.
