People try to counter that this is just reinventing gender essentialism for queer people but it's literally fucking true.If you're masc, tall, muscular or big, people generally expect you to be dominant or a top and your psyche is shaped by those expectations, either by fitting it or (in the minority) being contrarian and embracing the opposite.if you're feminine, lithe, or small, people generally expect you to be submissive and a bottom. with every comment and insinuation your psyche is worn down until you either give in and accept that role or once again become the small minority contrarian.The truth is, the majority of the time your sexual preferences were ultimately shaped by each joke, jab, or flirtation regarding your body up and into adulthood.
>>41276520yeah essentially, like i am skinny and weak and cant gain muscle and my penis is small so im basically forced to be a girl if i want to have any kind of satisfaction in life. if i was actually a real man i would never have started to want it because i wouldnt need to compensate for anything
>>41276545yeah cock size is also a big factor, completely forgot to even bring that part up and more to my point
yesterday I had a cis woman 4 inches shorter than me pin me down and bite me. She said she’s a bottom but idk man…
>>41276554i remember at puberty other boys bullying me and not understanding why, now i realise they had already singled me out as weak and effeminate. bad at sports, bad at talking to girls. alienated from other boys. despite wanting these things i sucked at them and i began to cope with this by rejecting the masculine persona, you cant fail at the masculinity rituals if you dont *really* want it. this set me on the path to being a gay tranny loser.
>>41276520same vibes
am I glad me and my cis gf are both tired of top/bottom discourseI mean we don't really have sex so it doesn't really matter but you know, as a matter of principle or some such
>>41276520Dominant females are the most looked for, daft cunt.
>>41276760And if they're posted about because they're sought after that means...?it means they're posted about and sought after because they're *vanishingly rare* compared to the opposite.if dominant women were the majority people wouldn't need to search and yearn online because they'd go out and find one.
>>41276520yes...except as a chadlet with a bigger than average penis...its a tad complicated.
>>41276520How do you explain all the big white 6' trannies that want to be submissive and treated like a little girl then? The people do not have the body type of a bottom.
>>41276810>Chad(let)>ticks boxes of masculine and muscular and big dick but not sizeyou still fit regardless of the complexity>>41276817outliers or transbians who still want someone who can size difference them.
>>41276520The meta is to be a bottom while you are young, small and cute and transition into a masculine/dominant as you get older. There is nothing cute about a old bottom even if they are still skinny and short
>>41276817they are trutrans, i am faketrans because i just want to be a girl because i failed at being a man
>>41276520>you shape yourself based on how others see youCooley called and he wants his “the looking glass self” back
>>41276520This is true but I suffered as a man who was tall but not 6 feet, slim but not super thin, and overall average masculinity, but i had a an ultra submissive giga bottom cock craving sexual orientation. I tried to fight it and put on a pathetic charade of being a straight male, but pretty much everyone saw through it. Regardless, when I transitioned it was not easy and I had to put in a lot of effort and get surgery to pass.
>>41276935If he wants it he can crawl out of the grave and come grab it from me. Just because the idea has been articulated before means nothing to whether it's true or relevant.
>>41276959>under 6 feet>slim>average (read: not leaning hard on the masculine side of the horse shoe in appearance)>woman>everyone saw through attempts at mascyou are literally.my OP
>>41276520i'm over 6ft tall and a massive sub and bottomi will never find a man massive enough to dwarf me as he envelops me in his armspure suffering
>>41276760>>41276776Define 'dominant woman'.>inb4 dresses in latex and i call her mommy owo
mef thread
im 5'6" what do i do
>>41276850>you still fit regardless of the complexitywomen beg to differ. they seem me as a worthy top...and quite right. its with men where it gets tricky...they like to mount my cute little ass.
>>41276520>people make assumptions about you based on your looks and sometimes you happen to grow into what people assume you areeveryone knows this
>>41276520The thing is, if you DO play outside these boundaries, the whole "playing against expectations" thing can work to your favor tremendously. I'm a twink/twunk top and even if I could press a button and turn into a gigachad, I wouldn't. I'm working on getting a little bit stronger but the "cute top" niche has been fucking great for me>my looks/physique autofilter out the craziest or nastiest bottoms, I appeal exclusively to the really cute ones who want a sweeter dynamic, which suits me well and has scored me an amazing bf>but I actually am quite dominant in my sexual tastes and temperament, and I think it seems to hit twice as good because they're not quite expecting it from me>I've heard a lot of tops complain that bottoms are always expecting them to be ridiculously unrealistically dominant, but if I just do playful soft-dom stuff they're fucking delighted>the way I get treated sexually is pretty much a perfect balance where he does look up to me as his "rock" and respects my manhood and follows my lead, but I still get "cute privilege" and he lavishes me in affectionI feel like this is pretty much the ideal scenario. Luck is definitely a factor in terms of finding a great partner and great previous hookups. And also some of it isn't luck because I'm awesome on an individual level and I deserve to be treated as such. But the "twink top" thing has definitely been a factor in all of this. You just gotta know how to own your niche and work it
>>41276520this is only true when u get into a relationship and your body types of clearly different like picrel then it becomes more unspoken who is the top/bottom
>>41277283personally don't feel this changes my answer at all.still bottoming for men and perceive yourself as more masculine compared to the women you're fucking. it's not complicated you're just bi.>>41277414I wouldn't say it's *only* true then. More like, the harder you lean on either side of that spectrum, the stronger the police towards my established rule.
just another npc rule that will be broken with sufficient deviance from the norm and fags who think it's impossible because muh heckin biology are just a new kind of npc
>>41276520thats one of the hard to swallow pills for trannies. Imagine being 6'4 submissive troon. that's hell.
5'6 chaser here and I can affirm it feels like being on the receiving end of a sick cosmic joke. It's brutal and I'm mostly just resigned to it and keep to myself
>>41276520WMAM is so hot idc what the rest of the post says all the blood left my brain for my dick
>>41276520thank god im short and sub bottom. finding a guy who's taller than is really easy.
>>41277797Incredibly rough luck on that one. could cope by muscle maxxing or alternatively just psyop yourself into accepting a different dynamic
>>41276776You were talking in OP about peoples expectations, lying faggot.
>>41277068Hi 6'4 top here. I'd love if we had more tall bottoms. They're all super short usually and it sucks
>>41277996asl?
>>41277847I have actually had hook ups with trans...but I know my situation is pretty dire. I kind of get that there's limits to who I can talk to and outcomes available to me. I'm old now, but I do wonder if I could go back I'd do things differently
>>Your Body Type Decides Your Sex Role 90% of the TimeExtremely nuke
as above so below
>>41276520why the fuck is no one asking for the sauce? i need full picrel
>>41277884what the actual fuck are you on aboutneither my op or my reply conflict with each other.online is a bubble, you have pornbrain if you think the global majority of hetero men actually are exclusively sub for dominant women.outside of the minority it's a fun and hot occasional fantasy to think about at absolute most
>>41276520https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Does-Penis-Size-Influence-Sexual-Behaviour-of-Men-Bjeki%C4%87-%C5%A0ipeti%C4%87-Gruji%C4%8Di%C4%87/4791060157c927cb0452a724ec4ed8f98d67fc45
>>41276520Your gametes determine your sex role.If you produce eggs you are expected to be submissive and a bottom.If you produce sperm you are expected to be a dominant top.The truth is, your sexual preferences were ultimately shaped by your reproductive capacity. Sexual intercourse was designed to create babies via impregnation.
>>41278396That actually 2 boys on the picture you retarded bot
i'm 6'6" and desperately want to be rapefucked by an even taller basketball player type dude. but i'm a top otherwise
>>41278549lolol bbc mind controlwhy do trannys like nigger dick so much
>>41278701>why do trannys like nigger dick so muchthe color doesn't matter, but when you've spent years riding big dildo's at some point you're only going to be satisfied with top-tier huge cock
