>PicrelThis is fucking bullshit, some shitbag on jerry springer gets to be a submissive cis man and I get stuck with this stupid fucking pooner body? I can't believe I actually shed tears over this. Being submissive in my body is repulsive, I just look even more fembrained but in HIS body, a cis man's body... it looks nice. It actually looks nice. Once again I'm forced to mourn what should've been and it's over the most pointless bullshit. Fuck this guy and every other cissiod who takes their cisness forgranted
>>41459468Why are you acting jealous of some white trash face tatted guy on Jerry Springer? Stop worrying about what looks fembrained or malebrained and, if you like being submissive, roll with it.
>>41459485I like it but not in this body. All sexual enjoyment with others has been ruined by this body. Now even white trash looks acceptable to me goal wise. At least he doesn't have tits as big as his head
>>41459520Tbh it sounds like you have some really bad body oriented self-hatred. I know it sounds cheesy but have you ever tried positive affirmations? They can help a lot with some of those feelings.>At least he doesn't have tits as big as his headWhy is it bad to have big tits? Have you been treated badly because of them? What negative feelings about your chest are yours and which ones are a reaction to society's stereotypes?
>>41459547>have you ever tried positive affirmationsHere and there>Why is it bad to have big tits? Chest dysphoria >Have you been treated badly because of them?Not at all, I just have dysphoria >What negative feelings about your chest are yours and which ones are a reaction to society's stereotypes?All my negative feelings are my own
>>41459578>All my negative feelings are my ownAre you absolutely sure about that? I've met a lot of FTMs whose dysphoria is amplified by internalized misogyny and negative cultural ideas. I am not saying your dysphoria is like that, just that it might be healthy to consider it. Are you mostly into men or women?
>>41459603Yea, I'm surePretty even split far as sexuality goes, maybe slightly more into women
>>41459621I used to know a butch lesbian who felt dysphoric because of the pressure to be masculine to be attractive to women. I don't know you but you're clearly intelligent and you don't need to compare yourself to weirdos on Jerry Springer.
>>41459646I feel dysphoric because I have tits and a vagina. Truly without those I really wouldn't care if I'm masculine or not to other people. But without the male body I do not have the luxury of not caring because as it is most of the world already thinks FTMs are just confused women
>>41459671>But without the male body I do not have the luxury of not caring because as it is most of the world already thinks FTMs are just confused womenOkay but why do those people matter? They can fuck off. Other people's opinions shouldn't stop you from enjoying what you like sexually.>I feel dysphoric because I have tits and a vagina.Do you want to let that stop you from enjoying what you like? If you want to be submissive, be submissive. If you want to be dominant, be dominant. Try to push yourself outside your comfort zone. That's what I did and it helped me a lot.
>>41459718I appreciate the effort but I'm not interested in committing what for me would be humiliation rituals. It's both their opinions and my own stopping me, mostly my own desu but theirs don't help. Im just going to continue not having sex until I get top surgery at the bare minimum
>>41459468Pros of a (gay)ftm bf:>pretty and cute>Big ass and thighs >Emotional available >Good style >Perfect relationship>Lickable BodyCons:>...>......>Phallo or Pussy :/
>>41459770It kinda amuses me I'm missing several of these pros. It's so ridiculous that it's funny
>>41459759I'm too sexual to abstain, even when I feel self conscious about certain things. Why would it be a humiliation ritual to have sex before top surgery? If your partner respects you then they won't touch you where you don't want it and a lot of dysphoric ftms have sex while wearing a binder. It's 100% okay to be like "hey, don't touch my breasts."
>>41459817Too hyperaware I guess, the times I attempted I just felt like a clown so I'd rather masturbate
>>41459799What are you missing bro? -_-I forgot the height. Afabs tend to be smaller on average and a gay man sub 5'7 is 100x cuter
>>41459830Shut up and be my bf already ...
>>41459835Missing:>pretty and cute (I look like an obese woman)>Big ass and thighs (obese, doesn't count)>Emotional available (i have bpd and autism, not emotionally avaliable as a result)>Good style (i dress like shit)>Perfect relationship (see above issues)>Lickable Body (i mean technically its lickable, I'll give myself this one)
>>41459844I don't know you.
>>41459830Tbh you sound pretty young and you could have also been with the wrong partner. I'd be cautious about assuming that you have to live a life of loneliness before getting surgery.
>>41459878I will be 26 in 5 months
>41459863>pretty and cute (I look like an obese woman)>Big ass and thighs (obese, doesn't count)If I were you, I'd make my #1 goal losing weight and getting to an ideal size. Get some semaglutide / wegovy. Just take a year to focus on that and you'll feel shockingly better.
>>41459908Oh god, I hope so. I am losing weight, currently all my hope is banking on that fixing some issues
>>41459922It makes a huge difference for everything. Energy, mood, confidence. It's shocking. I have a relative who was over 300 lbs and is now down to 160. So anything is possible.
