>>41460452
Only when someone might see them

>>41460474
but isn't shaving your gock and galls and gutthole playing into patriarchal beauty standards though? The only reason women need to shave their gock and galls is because during WW1 when the men were at the front companies that produced razors started an advertising campaign that psyoped women into thinking unshaven galls was unfeminine

>>41460452
Yes it's called Hygiene.

I actually just wrote an essay about exactly this sort of thing.

Thinking about anorexia recovery rn. It upsets me so freaking much how often I get ignored in my opinions that I have on how I think being slightly overweight is a natural human state and is massively preferential to being thin. My ex constantly talks about trying to lose weight for asthetic reasons and it scares me so freaking much. Losing weight for asthetic reasons only leads to one place, that place being death. I cannot understand for the life of me why others voluntarily take up such. It hurts my soul to think about.

I dont get why no one ever listens to me when I bring up my opinions on this stuff. Im the ugly conclusion to where that road takes you. They hear me talk about it. About the heart palpitations, the hair falling out, the delerium, the sweating, the being in open acknowledgement that I was nearly dead.

They hear me speak of the vomiting, the agony of recovery. The nights spent unable to move because my organs were so destroyed by it that even something as simple as eating a medium sized meal was enough leave me completely unable to move without vomiting. Because it took so much fucking processing power out of me for something so simple.

Everyone seems to think that recovery from having nothing or these stupid fad diets is 'just eat more' and it is fucking horrifying. I hate it so. Every single time I hear anyone talking about wanting to lose weight it terrifies me. If its for health reasons? I can be brought to be okay with it but any time its asthetic I just feel terror in my bones.

Yet when I open up my fears and when I open my heart and my pain I am ignored as I so often am. When I speak on these things I speak on matters of life and death, when others do they speak on attention or no attention, and there is not a single thing I can do to bring them around to understanding my worldview.

It truly is the final insult of anorexia. That not only will it leave you borderline dead,

>>41460548
And wreck havoc on your body but rather that not a single person in this world will listen to your warning when you try to. They will happily blow right on past you with a completely one dimensional view of what it is to be healthy.

And when you try to say something not only will they blow right past you with gusto. They will insult you. They will call you stupid. They will say they wont end up like you.

They will call you lazy, say youve given up because you do not pursue the same quest in asthetics. I wish I could get others to see the paths they go down and the pain they cause but I cannot. And so these feelings are left to rattle around in my mind forever as I watch this happen to people. Endlessly recursing on themselves as the horror of watching the same events play out right in front of my eyes, unable to stop it.

>>41460548
Its the very astheticization of the body that hurts me so I guess it could be broken down to when brought down to brass tacks. Hence why I don't shave my legs, why I wear what I do. Someone less sensitive could write this all off as a rant by a sad ugly person, but I feel it to be a very surface level criticism. It is the idea that any one body type is superior to another. The idea that these things are not merely a matter of taste but rather that of objectivity.

That yes to have shaved legs, to wear skimpy clothes, to be thin, to be tall to be all these things. It is not only a preference but that it is an objectively superior state of being, and that anything that is not such must be pushed down and annihilated not only just told that no thats not what I like. Its the simple fact that people for some fucking reason are completely incapable of just saying 'no I dont really like that' and must instead be absolutey morally righteous in their pursuits ON TOP of everyone being required to fall in to those pursuits. There is nothing wrong with liking big breasts, shaved legs, light skin, a thin body. But rather it is the imposition of those things on to others that is the very problem.

And yet such is so imposed that even those who have achieved that oh so impossible ideal. When they come back with calls of warnings, those very impositions are brought back down upon them. They are told to simply be bitter because they are ugly in the current state they exist in merely because of the fact that they exist in that very state of the aftermath of pursuit. The state of burnout.

And so as such I have no choice but to sit back and watch people dive headlong into the ground despite me saying what I can to try to get them to stop. I do not refer any of this to an intentional pursuit of an asthetic in healthy ways. This is fine. But rather that in which comes at an intense cost to the body. Think anorexia, or juicing so much that your heart gives out at 30 because...

>>41460548
You were in strongman, or got leg lengthening surgery because you felt you were too short and now cant walk for a year.

I suppose the problem here is less about if something is done out of a need for health and more out of the idea of if something is done for superiority inferiority ideas? In all the given examples they are done because one wants a sociologically better idea of what a 'better' body looks like and drive themselves to the edge of death to do it, but this can be applied across all things.

Because if we are going purely off of a health based argument there is no point where it could end. 'One must not get piercings because it hurts a minor amount of flesh and could get infected'

If one does something due to outside pressure it is bad and inevitably turns self destructive. If they do it for purposes of self actualization there is nothing wrong with that. If they do it because they themselves would prefer to look a certian way? There is nothing wrong with that. But we live in a world so poisoned by opinions that it can be so difficult to tell what comes from the heart and what comes from the outside.

So in the end it should be left up to the individual to know what is best. After all no one person can say what comes from within and what does not, ESPECIALLY in regards to other people. And so as such as always. In matters of self an individual must always be trusted with their own body.

My mistake is my own. I should not be projecting my mistakes on to others. I should try my best to educate people on what eating disorders look like before they happen but in the end it is up to them to know themselves well enough and to gauge things.

>>41460548
It frustrates the hell out of me how like... in the moment? People called me stupid. They told me 'just eat more' they outright insulted me for talking about it, about how I was physically incapable of eating more because of how bad of shape I was in. It took me vomiting on a grocery store floor for my ex to understand it.

But when I present it all as a story? A thing that happened to me? People actually listen to it. 'Wow I cant believe that happened to you. You couldnt even eat because of how fucked up you were?' Coming from what are likely the exact same people who would have likely at the time given me the same old tired lines asking me why I didnt just eat more, as if it was some kind of sage wisdom.

And then when I try to bring that back around to people. About how they shouldnt let societal images of thinness get to them? They once again say that Im stupid. That Im exaggerating. That its impossible for it to happen to them.

Its why Im so thoroughly convinced that the vast majority of people who say they are empathetic are not. Its the spectacle that they watch and comment on but when I try to bring any real point of empathy into anything they just completely shut it down.

I wonder if people always were like this or if it is a product of living in the internet age where people are so attached to images of themselves that they have stuck in their own head that they are only capable of processing such through that image in their own head and as such they cannot perceive anything outside of the realm of spectacle because of the fact that it must be filtered out through a 3rd person lense to fit the narrative they have of themselves?

I did not live before the internet age so I cannot know for certian.

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>>41460452
i act in accordance with patriarchal beauty standards because trans women have to perform femininity at a higher standard in order to be perceived as women which can be a genuine matter of life or death.

or something like that. i do stuff like that bc hair makes me feel masculine and feeling masculine makes me wanna die