I'm insecure and I need constant reassurance and to be told that you love me and that I'm worth it to feel good. This is due to trauma and because I wasn't love as a child and I don't feel lovable.Do men like giving affection and reasurance to their boyfriends? I tried dating women but they said I require too much emotional labor and dumped me.Do men think the same?
>>41467157People who throw around gay ass therapyspeak terms are emotionally volatile and love to commit to the performance of being an emotionally intelligent partner without actually knowing how to actually have those kinds of conversations irl. If you can find someone in current year that isn’t on that kind of faggotry it might help, but they’re hard to come by and also the way you’re looking at your own problems thru a lens of pop psychiatry probably isn’t putting you in the right space to meet anyone that doesn’t do that
>>41467157Emotions are gay.
>>41467312people are so fucking disappointing
>>41467389I don't want to feel emotions anymore. If gay conversion therapy could remove all these bad emotions I feel all day, I'd do it without hesitation
>>41467522I self-taught myself philosophy. Now I'm too confused to feel sad.
>>41467157You need to find the right kind of person. Some people really really enjoy nurturing others. Other people can't stand it.
>>41467312I don’t see pop psychiatry in OP’s post. Pop psychiatry is shit like “narc eyes” and “boundaries” (AKA, being completely unable to sacrifice anything for people you love). Not acknowledging that awful shit happened to you as a kid, the people who can’t admit that worry me the most personally.
>>41470123I don’t expect this sentiment to be shared on the Blanchshit Freudian AGP basket weaving forum but it doesn’t need to explicitly reference some retardedly inappropriate interpretation of the term gaslighting to still have all the functionality useless underpinnings of contemporary psychiatric “care” in that all your problems are predicated on some ambiguously monolithic collection of traumas and you just need to keep unpacking and unpacking and unpacking and unpacking them cuz maybe the next unpleasant experience you throw a black and white moralistic filter on will finally turn you into the perfectly complacent brainless zombie with no negative emotions ever. They don’t want you to get better, they want you to keep feeling sorry for yourself
>>41470123>>41470459Tldr this line of thinking is why Sock in Portland can’t get asked to do the dishes without triggering a trauma response
>>41470459Geez fucking louis, dude. I think you’re looking way too deep into OP’s post. All OP said was that they’re insecure cause they had a shit childhood, that’s as common as common can be. Chill out, sounds like you have some shit you need to “unpack”
>>41470569>that’s as common as common can beMy point exactly. Everyone on this bitch of an earth had a shit childhood, dwelling on it instead of learning the tools you need to deal with it only keeps you miserable forever. Grab life by the nuts instead of waiting for someone to recite the millionth platitude about how mommy and daddy must have been soooo mean to you
