my trans gf is oral only but she is prone to try anal. whenever we try, though, she says i'm hurting her and i stop immediately (even though my dick is kinda small i can feel like she's extra tight). she has a dildo but she only uses it for throat reflexes.i don't know where to go from here. maybe I should buy a vibrating butt plug to see if she can get used to something even smaller first? what do y'all think
come on guys i'm desperate here
>>41499016rape her ass
>>41499016Yes train her first
>>41499140why would i do that? she doesn't deserve that
>>41499016put small things in therethen bigger thingsthen bigger thingsshe needs to be loosened a bit before sex even after all that (fingers)
>>41499172she doesn't even let me finger her anymore. she's like "o-oh no you're gonna try and fuck me later aren't you?"and i don't wanna hurt her in any way.maybe with a butt plug she's gonna feel more comfortable? idk
>>41499172is it possible that she has a stomach problem and is too embarrassed to tell me?
come on guys i need help
>>41499441Find a new gf, or love her in other ways
>>41499182tell her you're not putting your dick in her if she doesn't want to? just start with 1 finger and use more later on
>>41499441If she physically can't do it buy her a small buttplug for training or smthn. I don't know, I am just kind of shocked you can't get your gf to do something sexually for you. Have you told her you really really want to do it? that almost always works for my bf.
>>41499500she tries so hard to please me with her mouth, but it's a whole different story anally speaking. i'm afraid there's something wrong with her. maybe she has a stomach stuff?
>>41499182sounds like she doesn't even care. Isn's she a transbian? they only need to frot to keep their sexual desire satisfied
>>41499582nah she likes men. she loves giving BJs and she's prone to try anal, but something about actually doing it scares her. maybe she doesn't know how to do an enema? i don't know how to help her.
>>41499164why do you hate her or something?
>>41499672i love her and that means i won't force her to do what she is scared of doing
>>41499516you mean like IBS and she is worried it's not clean? How long have you dated her? I still think you need to make it more clear that you want, no you need, to fuck her. Hold her down and dry hump her butt a little bit, you need to get the instincts working, you know? I feel like I would come out with what the problem is too my bf at that point no matter what.
>>41499666I'm also super scared of sex and it's mostly because I am terrified of not having cleaned myself properly, I only just lost my virginity recently to my trans gf and it did take me months before I just let her penetrate me but she has a very very small penis which helped with my fears but it still took me a while, It also hurt a bit the first time but she just stopped moving while still being inside for a few minutes to let me get used to it and after that It just felt somewhat nice, have you tried that?If this doesn't work then being tight isn't the issue, she's probably just scared of shitting on you and you just have to talk to her about it and tell her it's fine if it happens
>>41499777hey, think that's the problem. you sound just like her. what can I do to help her lose this fear (and not shit on me)?
>>41499699weak aura imo
>>41499753we're dating for 7 years. i'm her first and she's my first too, we're gonna stick together forever but i'd really like to fuck her in the ass like i fuck her mouth. but she panics everytime we try it
>>41499817Yeah I feel like I'm reading a background character's internal monologue
>>41499808Well, for me it just happened kind of naturally, she was getting horny and as I got into it she just started taking condoms and stuff and I didn't complain, I don't really know why I let her do it, probably fear of making her feel bad and ruining the mood but she was asking me every step of the way if I was ok with it which made me feel a lot better about it and it just happened, I hope you're using lube? Because that's extremely extremely important, I had never trained my butt before and as I said it was still a tiny bit painful for a bit so always use as much lube as you canFor not getting shit on honestly I don't know it really depends on your dick's size and how long you plan on having sex for, my gf's dick is like 10cm or so and I had just taken a shower that day (obviously cleaned my butt but nothing crazy) and our sex lasted for only a few minutes, assuming yours is bigger and you wanna go for longer she will have to learn how to use an enema, you can buy her one and be there to learn how it works with her but then it's just trust, if she really doesn't want to after that it might be trauma or just aversion to anal sex that can't really be changed
>>41499182idk talk to her not me>>41499190probably not but idk
>>41499831well I'm just saying you need to apply a bit of pressure after 7 years. If you do that during foreplay she's going to think, "okay my partner wants to fuck me so bad he is literally starting to lose control of himself. I better either let him do it or blurt out a good reason why he shouldn't force it in me right now". Obviously you aren't actually going to do that part, but she doesn't know that subconsciously.
>>41499979thanks, kind anonette. i'll try that!
i don't even clean myself before anal or prepare but my bf i really good at iti think he uses his fingers to stretch me out first. i don't have any butt plugs or anal dildos
>>41501206but do you shite on him?
>>41502783not really? i have a good diet i guess but i don't do anything special.i have a pussy though so maybe it's different?
>>41499016read thishttps://github.com/regdude/anal
>>41499831>date a tranny 7 years>no anal
>>41499016Based VN pic op
>>41503663thanks, i took it myself like 8 years ago. hanako was such a sweet girl
>>41503693I'm personally a fan of Rin's since it's so well written, and interests align, but Hanako is the top tier choice desu.
>>41503693>>41503706Also, look into the sisterhood project, whole new VN made off of a really good Hanako fanfic